what should i do about this

wolverine66 wrote: »

prettigirl01 wrote: »

clperrault89 wrote: »

I feel where you are coming from. My children try to push their limits ALL THE TIME, it is what kids do. My son and oldest daughter (4 and 3 years old) are mouthy and slams doors. I am fast to correct that. Last thing I need is bratty teenagers haha. When kids feel comfortable around someone they do seem to try and test their limits. It doesn't make it right but it happens. As long as you are correcting her and letting her know she can't talk to you bf's mom like that or any authority figure that way I don't see the problem there. My OPINION: Have you ever tried sitting down and talking to your bf's mother and just apologizing for your things your daughter has maybe said that maybe she has been holding on to (try not to be confrontational and remember no one wants to think they are in the wrong). At the end of the conversation bring in your daughter to apologize herself and let her know that respect is a two way street (say it in front of the bf's mom as a subtle hint). Hopefully things will get better from there if not, I understand you will have to do whats best for your daughter. I really hope this helps!

thank you for suggestions and I tried this yesterday but she blew me off and said shes not worried about it. she does not want to hear anything I or my daughter has to say which is why I feel the way I feel about her. I respect her because she is my bf's mother but im not sure how much more I can take

is this something she told you, or something you infer? Because I know when someone apologizes to me, I might say something like "it's okay. I'm not worried about it." And in no way to i mean "i don't want to hear anything you say." I mean "it's okay."

also you say you respect her, because of the way you treat her to her face, but then you tell your daughter that she's just a mean lady. that doesn't show you respect her, but that you placate her.

i don't know. I'm not saying she's right, or you're right. I think there is more to this than is in this thread. it's possible the woman has just worn out her welcome and a little space may give everyone a fresh perspective.

what are the chances your bf will ask her to move?

royaldrea wrote: »

Wow, if some little rude child called me a devil, the LEAST of what I would have said would have been "I don't care what she says". Which I think is perfectly reasonable to be honest. I don't see that as being mean and nasty at all.

I don't like rude children (I don't know what "mouthy" means but it sounds like a mother's love phrase) and honestly, I find it difficult to be around them. If I wanted to visit my son and grandson and happened to be in a situation where I was around my son's girlfriends kids who were being disrespectful to me, and I wasn't able to tell them off because of the situation, I would be veryyyyyy unhappy.

She probably will leave but this is likely to cause a rift between her and her son which is unfortunate.

Also, your daughter is probably picking up on things you're saying. "Devil" sounds like a phrase borrowed from you. I'd advise you to watch what you say around her from now on.