You aren't always going to get support
ninerbuff
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For those who feel that family, spouse, friends, co workers, etc., don't support you, they more than likely aren't interested in your own quest to improve your health, fitness, or weightloss. Sorry, but sometimes that's just how it is. They don't care about it, nor want to participate. It's NOT their endeavor to take on.
So you just really have to be diligent and keep yourself accountable because in the end, it's still about you. You will care the most about you.
Have a good weekend.
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So you just really have to be diligent and keep yourself accountable because in the end, it's still about you. You will care the most about you.
Have a good weekend.
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So true!0
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Well said.
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None of them really care. I try not to talk to my hubby about weight loss/exercise at all, and God forbid i bring up the 3 words he hates most of all.... My Fitness Pal
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Yup. I never get the "I need motivation, please" requests at all.
None of us are children any more. We don't need mom and dad to give us a little push to step out and do something for ourselves.
Adults take responsibility and take action. If they can't find the motivation themselves for taking that action, they're not ready to play the game.15 -
I never talk about my weight struggles with anybody. I was never one to respond to rah-rah, you can do it, cheerleading stuff. It actually makes me uncomfortable.
Motivation waxes and wanes. It's determination that gets us through.
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Love this.0
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Obvious...and true!0
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This is true. If you need other people to validate your choices, even the ones that you KNOW are good ones, then it's going to be very hard going.1
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The only people really interested in your weight is your health/life insurance company. Believe it or not they want you to be healthy and well WHILE still paying the premiums and not collecting any benefits for A LONG LONG time.
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »Obvious...and true!
True, but not obvious, judging by the number of threads on this topic.2 -
So true...my man child aka son is all "shut up about lifting and calories and *kitten*"
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Very true.0
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Like with anything0
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Actually I find that refreshing. Support from family and friends can be stifling, can make you feel like you're doing it for them, not you, and can make you feel self conscious. Just do it for you, and maybe they'll notice or comment, maybe they won't, but it's up to them to live their own lives and up to you to do what's right for yours.3
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Oh Christine dont make me sad. I imagine you walking roun your house trying to get your steps in. We do care.
Tbh I havent needed anyone except myself, its a great journey and im impressed with the way i have gone about it. I care about me and thats more than enough. I do care about the people on my friends list and want them all to succeed though.1 -
True to an extent.... My SO and I are in this together... We support each other and at times call each other out on bad choices. I seriously do not believe either of us could do this alone.5
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »Obvious...and true!
True, but not obvious, judging by the number of threads on this topic.
Hmmm...maybe we could say obvious to people who are not in denial.0 -
Oh Christine dont make me sad. I imagine you walking roun your house trying to get your steps in. We do care.
Tbh I havent needed anyone except myself, its a great journey and im impressed with the way i have gone about it. I care about me and thats more than enough. I do care about the people on my friends list and want them all to succeed though.
Tigger I know y'all care, I'm talking about the "normal" or maybe "abnormal" people in our lives
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Agreed. What is going to happen if/when they quit? Are they going to blame it on those they are counting on for support or take personal responsibility for it?
That being said, the topic of sabotage is one that I really don't understand. Just because someone offers you a cookie doesn't mean they are out to get you.2 -
Lrdoflamancha wrote: »True to an extent.... My SO and I are in this together... We support each other and at times call each other out on bad choices. I seriously do not believe either of us could do this alone.
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The only people really interested in your weight is your health/life insurance company. Believe it or not they want you to be healthy and well WHILE still paying the premiums and not collecting any benefits for A LONG LONG time.
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So true! My insurance company solicited me for a 16 week weight loss program complete with wireless scale and fitbit. All free!1 -
I've seen this offered many times.The only people really interested in your weight is your health/life insurance company. Believe it or not they want you to be healthy and well WHILE still paying the premiums and not collecting any benefits for A LONG LONG time.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
So true! My insurance company solicited me for a 16 week weight loss program complete with wireless scale and fitbit. All free!
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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I actually would be quite uncomfortable talking about it with most people I know, so I'm glad that they probably wouldn't be very invested in it. Although my boyfriend did say the other day, "I'm proud of you for going to the gym by yourself even when I can't come with you." It was nice to be acknowledged for that even though I'm trying to keep a lot of this on the down-low so I can go at my own pace.8
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mamapeach910 wrote: »Yup. I never get the "I need motivation, please" requests at all.
None of us are children any more. We don't need mom and dad to give us a little push to step out and do something for ourselves.
Adults take responsibility and take action. If they can't find the motivation themselves for taking that action, they're not ready to play the game.
Well if it's really a game a lot of those are played in teams...
Just because you may not have people who are interested doesn't mean you shouldn't seek out like minded people if that's your cup of tea. IMO that's a marker of an adult - to realize what they need and go out and get it
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My boyfriend is my best cheerleader. I don't need that to suceed but I still LOVE getting the pat on the back.4
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Positive feedback and acknowledgement is always good.My boyfriend is my best cheerleader. I don't need that to suceed but I still LOVE getting the pat on the back.
It's good you have a supporter, but many don't and can't understand why. Hopefully they see this thread and use it as their own push to get success for themselves.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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herrspoons wrote: »Said it before, will say it again: No one else cares, and most people who need motivation and support from other people will not do well.
Yep. And this holds true for almost everything in life.
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Motivation has to come from within. Otherwise, it's just pressure from other people.2
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atypicalsmith wrote: »Motivation has to come from within. Otherwise, it's just pressure from other people.
So true. When I wasn't in the right mindset, well meaning "advice" from my husband was not well recieved, I took it as an insult to my weight. Now I ready to lose the weight I am more receptive to seeing it as encouragement.
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