To the people who have a "terms and conditions" in their 'about me' for people adding them..

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  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    This is just starting to sound like a lot of people complaining that the cool kids won't let them come to the party.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Where's my bingo card.
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    gsbaf08 wrote: »
    Oh gosh, so true. I always roll my eyes whenever I see a long list of t&c!
    I don't mind the "Please add a friendly message" ones, but I've definitely seen some crazy ones that require you to darn near go through an application process just to be friends with them. Sorry, I'm not sending you my resume just so I can see how well you count calories.

    I've also seen some that basically say "I won't accept any friend requests" in this long, drawn-out explanation as to why you're not special enough to be added. A simple "I'm not accepting friends right now. :) " would say it a lot better and not make you look pretentious.

    It's kind of weird how seriously people take their friends on this website. It's also weird how offended some people get over some joke threads!

    That said, I accept pretty much anyone and only delete if they go inactive for months at a time. We're (mostly) all here for the same reason and I think giving and receiving a ton of support on the journey is wonderful. :smiley:

    Ahh glad I'm not the only one!
  • Gabrielm80
    Gabrielm80 Posts: 1,458 Member
    Did a blank friends request the other day and got a message asking why I sent them one and what my fitness goals were, and why our friendship might be a good match. I had to figure out why I did. Ended up They had posted a motivation topic asking for more friends. I almost wanted to reply because you asked me too. Instead I kept the post pleasant. I could get offended but frankly I'm a man online she doesn't know me. I could be a crazy creepy guy. I hope my daughters when they go online are somewhat suspicious of men online. I can't blame someone for doing any less than I expect of my daughters.
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    OdesAngel wrote: »
    livbridgex wrote: »
    OdesAngel wrote: »
    livbridgex wrote: »
    livbridgex wrote: »
    Just had to get it off my chest yano, it's cool not everyone wants to be friends on here or want a simple 'hello' message so you're not a troll/creeper but I've seen people's 'about me' that are FILLED with terms and conditions on being friends like wat

    I feel like there just aren't enough hugs in your life.

    You'll find friends; apparently non-selective ones...
    haha maybe there aren't!! Yeah I will, I'm pretty new I just don't get the terms and conditions thing, I've got some people on here who are nice and don't expect me to jump through hoops for a friend request :)I thought it was all about supporting one another and being friendly not a popularity contest!

    I thought it was a website to keep track of your food and exercise.

    Obviously..

    Then why are u mad, bruh?

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  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    I guess what bugged me was I'd get a request from someone and have no idea how they found me... then I add them and they literally never say anything to me (or put anything on mfp, period) not even if I write on their wall and say hi. This has happened more often than not. So I had the message thing in my profile for awhile. But it's not that serious for me and I still add people here and there.
  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    edited May 2015
    if I don't know who the hell you are, it's creepy to get a request from a complete stranger without knowing
    where they found me. Also I like to know why I sparked someone's interest, because if they expect me to
    sexy-talk with them, send nudes, or be their nanny/cheerleader, I know better than to accept.
    Yes, this, all of it.
    I'd like to have some idea of why a person is interested in being more in contact.
    Are we living in the same general area? Are we close in goals? Did something I write help you?

    When I first joined, I got a couple creepy messages from some guy (I think it was a guy) who was very interested in
    how tall I was, went on & on about "oh, lady, you are so very tall". (I'm only 5'10", fer goshsakes!) I blocked him.
  • theanxiousfox
    theanxiousfox Posts: 2 Member
    That's a real thing people do? Ha oh jeez, if you don't want to be friends with people just don't accept them and move on. Typing "rules" in your profile like that sounds so exhausting. I can't imagine putting so much mental energy into a thing like a friends list. And if creepos try to add/message you, ignore and move on.
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    MKEgal wrote: »
    if I don't know who the hell you are, it's creepy to get a request from a complete stranger without
    knowing where they found me. Also I like to know why I sparked someone's interest, because if they expect me to
    sexy-talk with them, send nudes, or be their nanny/cheerleader, I know better than to accept.
    Yes, this, all of it.
    I'd like to have some idea of why a person is interested in being more in contact.
    Are we living in the same general area? Are we close in goals? Did something I write help you?

    When I first joined, I got a couple creepy messages from some guy (I think it was a guy) who was very interested in
    how tall I was, went on & on about "oh, lady, you are so very tall". (I'm only 5'10", fer goshsakes!) I blocked him.


    Eww not about creepers!!
    yeah genuine questions are fine, I'm talking about the people who advertise having an application process on their page just so you can add them! It's not just asking for a simple 'hi' which is fine, it's like a tonne of stuff you have to do!! I read one that had 10 'conditions' and at the end it was really mean like "if I DO accept you and you waste my time/don't write in your food diary daily, then you've wasted a potential spot for someone else." I was like whhuuut this guy famous or some *kitten*??
  • Gabrielm80
    Gabrielm80 Posts: 1,458 Member
    MKEgal wrote: »
    if I don't know who the hell you are, it's creepy to get a request from a complete stranger without knowing
    where they found me. Also I like to know why I sparked someone's interest, because if they expect me to
    sexy-talk with them, send nudes, or be their nanny/cheerleader, I know better than to accept.
    Yes, this, all of it.
    I'd like to have some idea of why a person is interested in being more in contact.
    Are we living in the same general area? Are we close in goals? Did something I write help you?

    When I first joined, I got a couple creepy messages from some guy (I think it was a guy) who was very interested in
    how tall I was, went on & on about "oh, lady, you are so very tall". (I'm only 5'10", fer goshsakes!) I blocked him.

    The how tall are you guy is legendary. Your not the first person I heard about him. The other day I even made a meme for him
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  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    OdesAngel wrote: »
    Where's my bingo card.
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  • PrizePopple
    PrizePopple Posts: 3,133 Member
    OdesAngel wrote: »
    Where's my bingo card.

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  • Gabrielm80
    Gabrielm80 Posts: 1,458 Member
    Who is that guy? He must hang out on chitchat.
  • PrizePopple
    PrizePopple Posts: 3,133 Member
    It's not unlike people who put that they're going vegan in all caps in their profile as some grand announcement, huh?
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    It's not unlike people who put that they're going vegan in all caps in their profile as some grand announcement, huh?
    I would just put 'vegan' but I'm still transitioning so I didn't just wanna say I was a vegan and someone call me out on it when they read my diary, hence the caps. I'll change it, I didn't mean it to come across in that way :)
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    Gabrielm80 wrote: »
    MKEgal wrote: »
    if I don't know who the hell you are, it's creepy to get a request from a complete stranger without knowing
    where they found me. Also I like to know why I sparked someone's interest, because if they expect me to
    sexy-talk with them, send nudes, or be their nanny/cheerleader, I know better than to accept.
    Yes, this, all of it.
    I'd like to have some idea of why a person is interested in being more in contact.
    Are we living in the same general area? Are we close in goals? Did something I write help you?

    When I first joined, I got a couple creepy messages from some guy (I think it was a guy) who was very interested in
    how tall I was, went on & on about "oh, lady, you are so very tall". (I'm only 5'10", fer goshsakes!) I blocked him.

    The how tall are you guy is legendary. Your not the first person I heard about him. The other day I even made a meme for him
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    HAHA omg what as if
  • RichardParisFR
    RichardParisFR Posts: 1 Member
    Rules to accept friends... That's a weird concept. If I create rules for that I am not sure I'll be approved myself!
  • angelxbaby714
    angelxbaby714 Posts: 937 Member
    I didn't even know u can do that in your about me section. Hmmmm I'm going to make people write "why we should be friends" & then tell me the bills of rights b4 I accept them (; (; jk. Lmao
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    I didn't even know u can do that in your about me section. Hmmmm I'm going to make people write "why we should be friends" & then tell me the bills of rights b4 I accept them (; (; jk. Lmao

    Hahahah
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    Haahahahhaha yes
  • Gabrielm80
    Gabrielm80 Posts: 1,458 Member
    I didn't even know u can do that in your about me section. Hmmmm I'm going to make people write "why we should be friends" & then tell me the bills of rights b4 I accept them (; (; jk. Lmao
    Before anyone friend invites me please video tape yourself as if we were having a dance off and send me a link. If I deem you the victor you than must take a practice Harvard SAT test and a Vogue quiz titled does he even love you. Please provide an original short essay on the fall of modern industrial revolution(I have read all the online essays please no plagiarism I will know and you will be failed right out of my FL). If you do become my friend there will be home work Mondays Wednesday and Friday and I am not your mom I won't stand over you till you do it but it will be impossible to pass the end of month exams if you are too lazy to finish the assignments. Are you taking notes yet. If the answer is not yet please don't even apply. Oh and no judgmental people or drama queens please.
  • livbridgex
    livbridgex Posts: 43 Member
    edited May 2015
    Gabrielm80 wrote: »
    I didn't even know u can do that in your about me section. Hmmmm I'm going to make people write "why we should be friends" & then tell me the bills of rights b4 I accept them (; (; jk. Lmao
    Before anyone friend invites me please video tape yourself as if we were having a dance off and send me a link. If I deem you the victor you than must take a practice Harvard SAT test and a Vogue quiz titled does he even love you. Please provide an original short essay on the fall of modern industrial revolution(I have read all the online essays please no plagiarism I will know and you will be failed right out of my FL). If you do become my friend there will be home work Mondays Wednesday and Friday and I am not your mom I won't stand over you till you do it but it will be impossible to pass the end of month exams if you are too lazy to finish the assignments. Are you taking notes yet. If the answer is not yet please don't even apply. Oh and no judgmental people or drama queens please.

    Hahahahaaha!! love it
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  • mathandcats
    mathandcats Posts: 786 Member
    livbridgex wrote: »
    livbridgex wrote: »
    Just had to get it off my chest yano, it's cool not everyone wants to be friends on here or want a simple 'hello' message so you're not a troll/creeper but I've seen people's 'about me' that are FILLED with terms and conditions on being friends like wat

    I feel like there just aren't enough hugs in your life.

    You'll find friends; apparently non-selective ones...
    haha maybe there aren't!! Yeah I will, I'm pretty new I just don't get the terms and conditions thing, I've got some people on here who are nice and don't expect me to jump through hoops for a friend request :) I thought it was all about supporting one another and being friendly not a popularity contest!

    I have a "terms and conditions" on my profile (although nothing like the exaggerated examples you gave) precisely because I don't want a ton of friends. I want to interact with my friends list, and actually see what they are up to. If I have too many, I can't do that.
  • jlima845
    jlima845 Posts: 388 Member
    Do I have an outdated app or something?? I don't see an about me section. All I can do is type my city and add a pic. And I don't see anyone's "about me" either
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
    Eh. People normally have prerequisites for just about anything in life. Some may baffle you, but the reality is, they aren't you nor may have your perspective. So you look and if you don't like, don't add. No biggie.

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  • PewterSky
    PewterSky Posts: 9,224 Member
    jlima845 wrote: »
    Do I have an outdated app or something?? I don't see an about me section. All I can do is type my city and add a pic. And I don't see anyone's "about me" either
    Yeah that's not visible on the app but when you access mfp from a web browser you can see the about me.
  • MissMary75044
    MissMary75044 Posts: 517 Member
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  • fearlessleader104
    fearlessleader104 Posts: 723 Member
    No one wants to be my friend :'(
  • jlima845
    jlima845 Posts: 388 Member
    PewterSky wrote: »
    jlima845 wrote: »
    Do I have an outdated app or something?? I don't see an about me section. All I can do is type my city and add a pic. And I don't see anyone's "about me" either
    Yeah that's not visible on the app but when you access mfp from a web browser you can see the about me.

    Thank you. I did not know this haha
  • PewterSky
    PewterSky Posts: 9,224 Member
    jlima845 wrote: »
    PewterSky wrote: »
    jlima845 wrote: »
    Do I have an outdated app or something?? I don't see an about me section. All I can do is type my city and add a pic. And I don't see anyone's "about me" either
    Yeah that's not visible on the app but when you access mfp from a web browser you can see the about me.

    Thank you. I did not know this haha

    I wouldn't have known either had I not started using mfp before the app. You should see it sometime, there's plenty of things that are missing from the app.

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