Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
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    LH85DC wrote: »
    My poor pup has been so sick for a week now, just kinda tired and lethargic, plus a little sick to his stomach. Still eating (for the most part), but nothing seems to agree with him. Trying to get him in to see the vet in the next day or two - hopefully it's nothing serious and he just ate something bad! He might be almost seven years old, but he's still my baby

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    Edited to add that my cats (Tadpole is the big brown and white guy, Purranha the little grey one) are totally taking advantage of him being sick... stealing food out of his bowl, swatting at him even though he isn't doing anything. They better watch out when he starts feeling better!
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    Is there like a sick fur baby curse on this thread!!! I hope he feels better soon!!
    Cats can just be jerks sometimes eh!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
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    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    kzzr wrote: »
    I just ate KFC :/

    I now want a KFC. I do love a bit of fried chicken...

    I tried Popeye's for the first time this weekend. Not a fan.

    ooh never heard of it, but I'll stay away I think.
  • kellienw335
    kellienw335 Posts: 1,745 Member
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    misskarne wrote: »
    I re-discovered my favourite instant hot chocolate the other day - it comes in single-serve sachets, 47cal a sachet, and if I add my taste of milk (which is very little), the whole drink comes in under 100cal.

    I've found a new kind of heaven. Especially as it's now very, very, very, extremely, definitely winter here.

    Now I'm curious. Where are you?
  • xLoveLikeWinterx
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    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    kzzr wrote: »
    I just ate KFC :/

    I now want a KFC. I do love a bit of fried chicken...

    I tried Popeye's for the first time this weekend. Not a fan.

    ooh never heard of it, but I'll stay away I think.

    You're not missing anything. We have Church's Chicken, Popeye's, KFC all around me... they all stink. Not worth the calories.
  • raelynnsmama52512
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    AlciaMode wrote: »
    I've seriously been considering letting MFP go again. My willpower is nearly gone and I've gone back to my old habits. I've got a 91 day streak but it's pretty much due to this thread...sigh.

    I've also had my nephew over today for a trip to the zoo and play date with my daughter, I have to say it was a rather interesting day. He begged hubby, me, BIL, and SIL to let him stay overnight too. Long story short, they are both currently lying on the couch in the living room watching frozen, (probably asleep by now) and it's so freaking adorable! :smile:

    Try logging in what you eat for breakfast in the morning. Just to see if it makes you want to out more care back into yourself. I fall off the wagon often. Currently redoing my battle with being under 179 instead of over. After like two weeks of logging again I think I have finally gotten over the mark for good.

    I'll have to try that. I already know tomorrow will be an "over" day, BIL is cooking ribs tomorrow for dinner and basically the whole family is coming over to eat. I think breakfast and dinner may be on the lighter side to hopefully offset some of it...

    Don't leave! Start logging again!

    I think I'm going to hang around a little longer :wink:
    I've really got to reexamine my eating habits as I ate entirely too much food yesterday and have been doing such lately. I lost nearly 8 lbs a while back and then gained it back.... :/
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
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    OMG I cannot believe I am caught up.....well folks, I learned my lesson from not logging in to read here every day!

    I had such a long week, busy with work, and the rodent, and PT, plus I had two long meetings (that were stressful). Yesterday I woke up to go to work to find out that my best friend's (that passed away two years ago) niece lost her eight month old baby (he suffocated on a blanket in his sleep). I am not close to her, but I felt so terrible that happened. No mother should bury their baby. Then this morning I get a message that her SIL (my friends, not the niece) is going in for emergency surgery to fix a hole in her colon that was causing her to be sick with toxins for some time. Last update I got she had been in the OR for almost 8 hours and they were calling in another surgeon. I have been friends with her for a long time, and have been worried all day. Again, I feel terrible for the family, two things in a row like that.....

    I am heading to bed now, I literally spent the whole weekend off and on when I had time catching up on this thread! This week should be a little more normal. I must go spend some time having rodent snuggles before I go to sleep.

    It rained here all day today, and tomorrow looks like it too, I hope Tuesday is sunny so I have some time to sit outside and soak up some rays. I do not use sunscreen if I am only out for an hour or less, I need to tan as it is good for my psoriasis, but I do not get insane about it, and do wear it if I am out all day or swimming (which I do a lot in good weather).

    June 1st is here, which means I can start the countdown to the new season of Orange Is The New Black. :)

    Night folks......I will just say, I love this thread, and missed it greatly this week.

    Welcome back! I'm looking forward to Orange also!

    How severe is your psoriasis? My husband has it too and has infusions of...I'm blanking on the name...every six weeks.

    Isn't Orange awesome!! What a cliff hanger last year, I cannot wait to see what happens!!

    My psoriasis is under -fair- control. I have large patches on both my elbows, and large patches on the sides of my elbows, and smaller patches on my hands and a few other very small patches elsewhere. I have it on my face too, but because the skin is different there, as long as I use my cream daily (which I always do), it is not even noticeable.

    When I was a teenager, the patches on my arms were so white and plaquey and would often crack and bleed. Many years ago I started taking Omega 3 supplements for my heart and my skin is so much nicer now. Over the winter it can get very flaky and white, a bit bumpy right on my elbow where it bends, but manageable. Over the course of the summer as I get tanned it will nearly disappear. This year was worse than most because last summer was very cool and rainy, so I did not get much of a tan, and then with the long winter it wore off faster than usual.

    I used to have it on both my knees too, but about 15 years ago I was playing baseball and slide into a base wearing shorts....my SO spent all night digging rocks etc out of my left knee. Now there is a scar there that covered my entire knee so the psoriasis did not grow back, and oddly enough, left my right knee as well.....so strange.....also, the patches on my arms are nearly exactly the same on both, but the little ones on my hands and elsewhere are all different......

    I confess that I do not want to go to work today.....I would much rather stay online here and post all day, lol. I am scared to get behind again!!
  • JPW1990
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    I just walked by the local high school on my lunch break. Confession: so glad I'm years beyond high school. Question: did high school aged girls always look like hookers? The amazingly short shorts with crop tops/sport bras! Holy *kitten*-child, Batman!

    are you serious ? calling young girls *kitten* and hookers?sexualizing them ...how nice

    they can wear whatever they want just like any other girl or women

    geezus

    Was it the "absolutely" the "no" or the "judgment" that tripped you up?

    Amen. And I agree about clothes, heck some things that 10yo girls wear make me shake my head sometimes.

    Me too. And I seriously question their parents judgement.

    Sometimes I wonder if their parents know how they're dressing. I've heard of kids wearing one outfit leaving home and changing at school.

    I would do that in high school. Change in the back of the bus. But I don't remember it being that extreme. I had a catsuit that I would wear under ripped jeans (oh, the 90's!). My mom hated that catsuit. LOL

    As well she should have. Really, a catsuit?! I think we all need to see pictures.

    I don't think I have any. It was long-sleeved and flowered and zipped up the back. The cloth would show through the rips in the jeans. I thought I was pretty awesome in that. Wish I had the body I had then.

    ETA: I feel like I should add this from Wikipedia: A catsuit is a close-fitting one-piece garment that covers the torso and the legs, and frequently the arms.[1] They are usually made from stretchable material, such as lycra, chiffon, spandex.

    How did you use the restroom while wearing this thing?! This is why women go to restroom in pairs. :smiley:

    Well, you didn't wait until the last minute, that's for sure!

    I'm all about the jumpsuits right now and to pee, you have to undress to the waist and kind of sling it over one arm...let's just say I won't be wearing them to any festivals this year with any kind of port-o-potties because they are exceedingly difficult to keep off the floor.

    Also, on the clothing note, I grew up in that part of the 90s where crop tops AND low-rise jeans were in style at the same time, so I'm just relieved that at least the trend now seems to be high-rise bottoms with the crop tops so you only see the upper half of the stomach. Way cuter.

    I remember how bad I wanted a pair of low rise Levi's when their "belly button" commercials came out. Remember those?

    Definitely! I also had a pair of super-low-rise jeans that had a LACE UP fly instead of a zipper or buttons...klassy klassy klassy. Looking back I cannot believe my mother let me out of the house in them as I think you could see my hipbones above the waistband. I definitely wore those to school though...

    I had a pair of pants like that too. LOVED them. Christina Aguilera wore pants in a couple videos that laced up on the hips, and I wanted a pair so bad!

    ETA: Although the fashion may be different, I suppose teenage girls are the same lol.

    Right? I see them around and I'm mostly just relieved that there aren't visible g-strings like when I was their age. The leggings and crop tops are not nearly as offensive or revealing, thankfully. And I love that lots of very loose, flowy tops and dresses are trendy now. Way better than those painted-on ultra low-rise jeans and tube tops I loved...not to mention the platforms and huge wedge heels. I had a pair of six-inch wedge sandals that laced up my calves too about fifteen years ago...eesh. Ooh, and the huge chunky highlights on the flatironed hair.

    I'm not even 30 yet so it's a little early for pearl-clutching but I seriously think teenagers today don't look nearly as, uh, trashy as my high school classmates did.

    Oh ya, I forgot about that... I wasn't one to have my underwear hanging out, but there were lots of girls out like that. I guess I can no longer talk about "kids these days" when it comes to fashion choices :blush:
    ShibaEars wrote: »

    Oh ya, I forgot about that... I wasn't one to have my underwear hanging out, but there were lots of girls out like that. I guess I can no longer talk about "kids these days" when it comes to fashion choices :blush:

    I remember girls used to pull their thong up on purpose so it was showing and the Head Teacher called a girls assembly in school to stop it from happening.

    Ps. When I'm on this board I find myself constantly questioning if I should Americanize words cos a lot of you are from there. I've thought this about Mum/Mom, sunbeds/tanning beds, Head teacher/Principal, bum/butt, *kitten*/*kitten* and I'm sure there's more... B)

    Jumper always got me. How does that equal sweater? LOL

    I have a friend who got very irritated when I told him that every time he mentioned his "jumper," I was picturing him wearing one of these:
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    Nice.

    I have to admit I had some of those jeans with the fold down button fly. I believe they were even acid wash with ankle zippers. I also, I'm sad to admit, had a pair of low rise skintight jeans that had no pockets but did have a huge attached faux belt. I wore these AFTER I had my daughter and I thought I looked hot. I looked ridiculous.

    I'm glad I dress more classic and age appropriate now.

    I'm 44 and my daughter is 16. We are just about exactly the same size (she's a bit more slender and a bit taller but same clothing and shoe size. We have different coloring and face shapes but people instantly know she's my daughter.) We very often look at each other in the morning and realize that we're matchy matchy. For example a blue knit v neck top, jeans, boots and hair in a ponytail. It makes me laugh and makes her stomp off to change. She's fairly conservative and classic in her dress and dresses up often. My work is often in a lab so jeans are often fine. I tell her that either I have good taste or she has horrible taste in clothes. She wears a summer dress that I bought 22 years ago and looks lovely in it. She took and kept some jeans, riding boots, pumps, and a few dresses. So my question: What is age appropriate and what is ageless?

    I am a smaller size right now than I have been since before I had children (they are now 31.29 and 27 years old) I am discovering all kinds of new options in clothing and wonder at times if what I am putting on is age appropriate. Just today I was showing my daughter - the 27 year old some things I bought to wear on vacation next week and she said "Oh wow mom, we can share clothes now - well - after I have this baby anyway" and we both cracked up.

    I think age appropriate is a term that can be over limiting. Certainly if your daughter is approving then it is fine. I think all ages can look good in similar clothes. I think all ages can look good in short or long hair. Perhaps quality and fit and cut are more important than an exact style.

    Congrats on your good work. I'm sure you are looking great!

    I struggle with the "age appropriate" thing all the time, especially as I am now over 50. And, unfortunately, the mainstream styles marketed toward my age group aren't "my" personal style, nor do they fit/suit my body type since I am tall and small-busted... junior clothes seem to be tailored for longer/leaner bodies these days.

    There was a thread here a while back about whether or not middle-aged women could wear shorter-length skirts, and the responses were overwhelmingly positive. It kinda changed my mindset about being "appropriate". Not that I wear skirts or dresses a whole lot, since they don't work too well with knee-high compression stockings :( nor would I ever wear something shorter for work, but I'm now more willing to indulge the SO's fashion requests occasionally, lol.

    May I ask why you wear these and if it helps? Also, are they comfortable? I got a pair over a year ago, I have never worn them, even after going through the trouble of getting fitted etc......

    I have a condition called lymphedema where fluid collects in one of my legs and doesn't return into normal circulation. There is no treatment, only "management", and daily wear of compression stockings is essential.

    I hated them at first but gradually came to accept that they do help. They're quite comfortable (more so than a swollen leg certainly) and I find they make both my legs, even the unaffected one, feel less fatigued at the end of the day.

    They definitely help. I have it in both my legs, but one more severe than the other. The worst part is not wearing sandals in summer, but at least they're making them look more like normal tights than support hose these days.
  • nonoelmo
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    I confess, I played a *kitten* gig on Saturday. Overall it was a success but damn did I have several brain farts. They want us for New Year's and everyone had a good time. Let's look at the positives.

    Well done. Congrats
  • orangesmartie
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    OMG I cannot believe I am caught up.....well folks, I learned my lesson from not logging in to read here every day!

    I had such a long week, busy with work, and the rodent, and PT, plus I had two long meetings (that were stressful). Yesterday I woke up to go to work to find out that my best friend's (that passed away two years ago) niece lost her eight month old baby (he suffocated on a blanket in his sleep). I am not close to her, but I felt so terrible that happened. No mother should bury their baby. Then this morning I get a message that her SIL (my friends, not the niece) is going in for emergency surgery to fix a hole in her colon that was causing her to be sick with toxins for some time. Last update I got she had been in the OR for almost 8 hours and they were calling in another surgeon. I have been friends with her for a long time, and have been worried all day. Again, I feel terrible for the family, two things in a row like that.....

    I am heading to bed now, I literally spent the whole weekend off and on when I had time catching up on this thread! This week should be a little more normal. I must go spend some time having rodent snuggles before I go to sleep.

    It rained here all day today, and tomorrow looks like it too, I hope Tuesday is sunny so I have some time to sit outside and soak up some rays. I do not use sunscreen if I am only out for an hour or less, I need to tan as it is good for my psoriasis, but I do not get insane about it, and do wear it if I am out all day or swimming (which I do a lot in good weather).

    June 1st is here, which means I can start the countdown to the new season of Orange Is The New Black. :)

    Night folks......I will just say, I love this thread, and missed it greatly this week.

    Welcome back! I'm looking forward to Orange also!

    How severe is your psoriasis? My husband has it too and has infusions of...I'm blanking on the name...every six weeks.

    I'm another one counting down to OITNB! We only discovered it last summer and binge watched the first 2 series and i'm really looking forward the 3rd

  • kellienw335
    kellienw335 Posts: 1,745 Member
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    LH85DC wrote: »
    My poor pup has been so sick for a week now, just kinda tired and lethargic, plus a little sick to his stomach. Still eating (for the most part), but nothing seems to agree with him. Trying to get him in to see the vet in the next day or two - hopefully it's nothing serious and he just ate something bad! He might be almost seven years old, but he's still my baby

    Edited to add that my cats (Tadpole is the big brown and white guy, Purranha the little grey one) are totally taking advantage of him being sick... stealing food out of his bowl, swatting at him even though he isn't doing anything. They better watch out when he starts feeling better!

    He's beautiful! Does he have one blue eye and one brown eye? Hope the vet can help him feel better soon!
  • kellienw335
    kellienw335 Posts: 1,745 Member
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    Finally caught up! My confession is I've been drinking too much...every single day for quite awhile. I am making a commitment to not drink Monday through Thursday this week. Please think good thoughts for me!

    ETA: A little embarrassed to admit this quasi publicly, but hoping admitting it on here will make me face reality. Since I know there are several of you that have admitted to stopping for good.
  • LH85DC
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    LH85DC wrote: »
    My poor pup has been so sick for a week now, just kinda tired and lethargic, plus a little sick to his stomach. Still eating (for the most part), but nothing seems to agree with him. Trying to get him in to see the vet in the next day or two - hopefully it's nothing serious and he just ate something bad! He might be almost seven years old, but he's still my baby

    Edited to add that my cats (Tadpole is the big brown and white guy, Purranha the little grey one) are totally taking advantage of him being sick... stealing food out of his bowl, swatting at him even though he isn't doing anything. They better watch out when he starts feeling better!

    He's beautiful! Does he have one blue eye and one brown eye? Hope the vet can help him feel better soon!

    Aww, thank you! Yes, he has one brown eye and one blue eye. And to make things even more interesting, he has a blue spot at the bottom of his brown eye! They are very distinctive!
  • m1xm0d3
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    Lois_1989 wrote: »
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    kzzr wrote: »
    I just ate KFC :/

    I now want a KFC. I do love a bit of fried chicken...

    I tried Popeye's for the first time this weekend. Not a fan.

    ooh never heard of it, but I'll stay away I think.

    You're not missing anything. We have Church's Chicken, Popeye's, KFC all around me... they all stink. Not worth the calories.

    Whaaaat? Popeye's & Churches are the bomb! Well the ones around here, anyways. Popeye's spicy tenders & mashed potatoes w/gravy. Soooo so good.
  • CannedSquid
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    Confession: I tell people that I don't eat meat for "health reasons", but it's really ethics. I get so tired of people imposing their own guilt onto me because they eat dead animals. (And hey, if you like animal protein, I'm not going to stop you. To each their own at the end of the day!)
  • CountessKitteh
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    My desk is covered with papers relating to a project. I am not currently working on this project. They just make me look busy.
  • xLoveLikeWinterx
    xLoveLikeWinterx Posts: 408 Member
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    Finally caught up! My confession is I've been drinking too much...every single day for quite awhile. I am making a commitment to not drink Monday through Thursday this week. Please think good thoughts for me!

    ETA: A little embarrassed to admit this quasi publicly, but hoping admitting it on here will make me face reality. Since I know there are several of you that have admitted to stopping for good.

    There's no shame in that. It's a good goal to have- I decided to quit drinking cold turkey because every time I do, I'm always hung over. I got to a point where the calories/slight buzz wasn't worth the next day.

    My husband is used to drinking at least 3 days a week, if not more, and he can put them away. It was causing issues so he decided to quit and he's doing really well with it. It's hard to quit!
  • MissKalhan
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    I bought the mancreature McD's for dinner yesterday, I didn't buy myself any but proceeded to munch out the rest of the night on random health food in my apartment. At least it was healthy right?! Lol
  • kecmw25
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    LH85DC wrote: »
    My poor pup has been so sick for a week now, just kinda tired and lethargic, plus a little sick to his stomach. Still eating (for the most part), but nothing seems to agree with him. Trying to get him in to see the vet in the next day or two - hopefully it's nothing serious and he just ate something bad! He might be almost seven years old, but he's still my baby

    ofp2176wp2r6.jpg

    Edited to add that my cats (Tadpole is the big brown and white guy, Purranha the little grey one) are totally taking advantage of him being sick... stealing food out of his bowl, swatting at him even though he isn't doing anything. They better watch out when he starts feeling better!
    votg4ib1phvb.jpg

    What a gorgeous dog! Hope he feels better soon
  • tulips_and_tea
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    Tubbs216 wrote: »
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    Edit: This is to Susie:
    Oh, I'm so sorry you're feeling bad. There's no rhyme or reason to depression, so try not feel like you're wrong to feel the way you do. I think guilt is a very common issue.

    I'm very worried about your talk of dying though. Do you have a doctor who's helping you? Is your husband around?

    Not to worry, I've never been suicidal. :) I just want to... Stop existing, if that makes sense. It's almost midnight here and my husband is asleep, but he's around to wake up if I need him. :)

    Nope, I don't have a doctor. I mentioned it like five million posts back, but I'm terrified of doctors. I tried to get help once and I just couldn't make it through the sessions. I broke down after my second one and never went back. I also never spoke to the doctor directly (my husband had to speak for me), because I have selective mutism and couldn't speak. It was a pretty useless attempt, to be honest. :-/
    Ok, glad to hear things aren't critical.

    Can you research a doctor who might be more approachable? There are so many medications and therapies available that might be able to make life a lot more bearable for you. Is your husband sympathetic? Maybe he could make an initial appointment to discuss your issues with the doctor first, so s/he would have a basic understanding before you went along. Is a female doctor an option? I recall that you suffer from agoraphobia - are home visits possible there?

    Unfortunately, therapy options in Saudi Arabia are extremely limited, and the hospital my husband's insurance covers has very limited amounts of doctors. Only one psychiatrist was experienced with my particular condition (Functional Neurological Disorder accompanied by anxiety disorder, clinical depression, and selective mutism), and none of the available therapists seemed to have experience in CBT. I made an appointment with one female therapist, but chickened out and canceled at the last minute, though, so I can't say for sure.

    My husband is very sympathetic and knows exactly what I'm going through because he has some similar issues. He's medicated though, and I'm not. He's my best (and only) cheerleader, actually. :) And on a bright note, he told me a couple of days ago that my anxiety has improved in leaps and bounds over the past month or so, and I attributed a lot my success to the support in this thread. :)

    Home visits don't really exist here, and I'm not sure that they'd be easier or more comfortable for me. :( And the psychiatrist that I did manage to see kind of gave up on letting me talk and wouldn't even wait for me to try to speak after the first session--He just tried throwing medication at me without even letting me speak. I was very disheartened after that. :(
    The lady therapist sounds like a good option. Can you make another appointment?
    It's great that your husband is supportive, and that he sees some improvement. I hope you continue to make baby steps towards feeling better.

    I don't know if I'm quite ready to face that yet. :( Hopefully in the (near? far? Not too sure) future, I will. But for now, I'm trying to be content with my little baby steps, as long as they're headed in the right direction. Once I get far enough that I think I can face talking to someone (other than my husband), I might be ready to try again.

    I hope I'm not going to be judged for being a complete and utter chicken? Because I already know that I am one... ;)

    NONE OF US ARE JUDGING YOU! Sorry to yell, but I'm really glad you've opened up to everyone here and that you have been making progress - that's great! Sorry about your bad day. We all get those to some extent. Don't beat yourself up. You need to nurture and care for yourself. We all care about you here!

    I'm really behind on this thread and have tons of posts I want to comment on, so I hopefully I'm able to do so throughout the day (if my office phone would ever stop ringing!).
  • tulips_and_tea
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    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    @Susieq_1994 I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

    I have to confess that not one vegetable or fruit has passed my lips today. Good thing I take vitamins.

    Thank you. :) I hope so as well! And I confess that my entire week has been pretty much like that as well... And I *don't* take vitamins! Am I going to die? ;)

    No, I don't think you're going to die, however (and I'm NOT trying to "diagnose" anyone) sometimes if we are lacking in vitamins it can really affect our moods, such as Vitamin D, B12, B6, etc. I know you don't like to go to doctors, but maybe taking a few vitamins or even a multi-vitamin may help?