Men, what should a woman eat(or not) on the first date?
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Sheseeksstrength wrote: »Hi-
I'm going on my first date with a new guy and I don't know what to order. I don't know exactly where we are going, but I'm asking not necessarily in regards to calories but more in regards to what I "should eat." Like what looks better- a salad or a burger?
Thanks!
You're over thinking this. Natural for a first date I guess.
What really matters is having fun, being relaxed, being open to conversation and so on not what you are eating. I do find copious amounts of Prosecco does help in this regard however...0 -
Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
do you announce these rules prior to the date?? or is just on a hand out?
LOL. I'd definitely want that handout in advance so I could cancel the date, then take myself out for smoked salmon and scrambled eggs.
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Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »chivalryder wrote: »OP is not a woman I want to date. Ever.
Why on earth should this be important?
I am sure you date women who are insecure in other areas.
Obviously I could find myself dating someone like the OP. A woman wouldn't be open about that to a man on or before the first date. That goes both ways as well.0 -
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arditarose wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »Capt_Apollo wrote: »you're planning on eating on a first date?? don't you want him to like you??
Huh?
He's joking.
AM I??? AM I???
**plot twist... i am.**0 -
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Here's the answer to your question:
Anything you want.
If he has a problem with that, then he's a douche canoe and you shouldn't be worried about date #2 because you're better off without crap like that dragging you down.0 -
"Dating is just acting like you're somebody you're not until the person likes you enough so you can show 'em who you really are." Zach Braff0
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chivalryder wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chivalryder wrote: »OP is not a woman I want to date. Ever.
Why on earth should this be important?
I am sure you date women who are insecure in other areas.
Obviously I could find myself dating someone like the OP. A woman wouldn't be open about that to a man on or before the first date. That goes both ways as well.
It takes a special person to admit something like that for someone they are going on a date with.
I guess I will see if I can pick up on that for my date.
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Definitely this ^^. LolSheseeksstrength wrote: »Hi-
I'm going on my first date with a new guy and I don't know what to order. I don't know exactly where we are going, but I'm asking not necessarily in regards to calories but more in regards to what I "should eat." Like what looks better- a salad or a burger?
Thanks!
You're over thinking this. Natural for a first date I guess.
What really matters is having fun, being relaxed, being open to conversation and so on not what you are eating. I do find copious amounts of Prosecco does help in this regard however...
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See, I might get the salad vs. the burger because I like to cut restaurant burgers in half, taking one part for leftovers. On a date, depending on what we were doing after, I might not like to have the takeout box to worry about... But I wouldn't be bothered to take leftover salad with me... I'd just eat the best bits and move on.
Regardless, I'd make sure I ordered something I really liked, because I don't eat out very often, so I'd want to thoroughly enjoy the experience. And I'd keep it at the midrange pricepoint or lower... because I'm thrifty.
Do be sure to stop in the ladies room after you eat to wash your paws and check your teeth before continuing on for the evening, though. ( :0 -
So on the first date the person needs to pretend to be something he's not but afterwards he can just be himself? CoolWhitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
I assumed this is part of her screening criteria - if she goes on a first date with someone with no table manners, she may not want to have a second date. Ditto if someone gets drunk and sloppy on the first date.
When I was dating, I looked at how men treated the wait staff. I didn't have a second date with someone who, while a gentleman with me, was a dick to the staff.
Men obviously evaluate women on dates as well, hence the OP's wondering about whether her choice of food is important.
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HeySwoleSister wrote: »To eat on a date: Food
To not eat on a date: Stuff that isn't food. Stuff that is food but that you feel self-conscious eating, for whatever reason.
Oh, and if someone had a bunch of rules for what I could eat (like telling me not to order fish because THEY didn't like it?) no second date. Because, seriously. No way.
Sure, this is a screen for control freaks.
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Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
This being MFP, you're going to catch hell for that list
but really, most of it is fine. The wine is a bit of a whatever - I'll take a proper Old Fashioned or Manhattan over a glass of wine, every time - but that's a just a personal preference thing.
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I agree with everyone else you should eat what u want now what u think he wants if u know u are going to a nice place then spend a few days before hand being really strict and then eat what u want on the night!0
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asflatasapancake wrote: »Only the approved dating food. Lettuce and water.
I thought it was the most expensive thing on the menu.0 -
Chicken enchiladas washed down with a few lime margaritas. No shame. We're still together almost 2 years later.0
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I don't ever remember putting this much thought into dating. Except for what to wear. Maybe.0
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Eat whatever looks appealing on the menu. Though for first dates, I generally stay away from anything that's too messy. Good luck!!0
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Oh dear.
This post makes me sad.
I thought women had come so much further.....
It's like this was a Dear Abby post from 1955...0 -
No - really : How old are you? Are you, like, 12?
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Sheseeksstrength wrote: »Hi-
I'm going on my first date with a new guy and I don't know what to order. I don't know exactly where we are going, but I'm asking not necessarily in regards to calories but more in regards to what I "should eat." Like what looks better- a salad or a burger?
Thanks!
Get the number three and supersize it.0 -
Guys don't care. At all. Not even a little bit.
Just get something that won't stick in your teeth.0 -
Bring a banana with you in your purse.
There's lots you can do with a banana...0 -
ncboiler89 wrote: »Sheseeksstrength wrote: »Hi-
I'm going on my first date with a new guy and I don't know what to order. I don't know exactly where we are going, but I'm asking not necessarily in regards to calories but more in regards to what I "should eat." Like what looks better- a salad or a burger?
Thanks!
Get the number three and supersize it.
Bhahaaa. Love this!
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mamapeach910 wrote: »I don't ever remember putting this much thought into dating. Except for what to wear. Maybe.
I never dated in the usual sense. I always end up thinking "Hunh, do people really think/do that?" when I read this kind of stuff.0 -
lemonlionheart wrote: »There are two sides to this I see.
One is if you eat something different just to impress the guy are you not lying or misleading them from the get go? Say you normally eat pasta and you decide to eat a burger just because your on a date, doesn't that seem misleading or shows a lack of confidence.
The other side I see is you don't want to spill food on you, them or the immediate area so I would maybe avoid things with sauces or soups or too much liquid. Also something that you use cutlery to eat if possible.
I always spill stuff. No matter how careful. Like a stray tiny peice of food will fall on me. And it won't just leave a small mark. This peice would be covered in sauce or oil and bounce and roll all the way down my front leaving a trail.
Lol, that happens to me except everything just lands on my boobs
Me too I always drop something on me...ugh
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My first date with my girlfriend of nearly three years was downing a bunch of homemade chicken wings until we were both about to pop washed down with a bottle of tequila where margaritas turned into shots.
If someone is really THAT hung up on what you eat, they suck. Don't waste your time on them.0
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