Disturbing trend on MFP….
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karintalley wrote: »I just find it strange..
are people really this helpless???
No, they're not helpless, they're learning. We all know that people come here with varying beliefs about nutrition, food, and weight loss.
So new users join the site, they learn about calorie deficits and weighing food, and start losing weight. Everything is going great, they're seeing losses on the scales, and they're happy. They've probably got some niche meals that they eat regularly because they know the calories and macros for those meals, and have gotten comfortable with their routine.
Then the inevitable night out/party/event arrives, and they're not sure what to do. They don't want to slow their progress, but they want to have fun. So they come here asking the usual questions - what do I order? How do I figure out portion sizes by eyeballing? Should I exercise more that day? What about other foods, should I not eat other meals just in case? We've all seen questions like that, and some of us may have even asked them ourselves.
Then the night comes, they have a good time, get on the scale, and find out that everything's ok. That one night didn't derail their progress, and it's what they do the majority of the time that matters.
Everyone on this site has had to figure something out during this process; some people are still figuring things out as they go. That's not a character flaw, it's part of being human, and the entire point of these forums is for people to interact, support, and learn from one another. There's no shame in asking questions of others to help you reach your goals, and if someone finds another user's question to be a bother…they don't have to respond.
Thank you
I went to a pizza place one day with my son...they didn't have nutrition information...I panicked...turned around and left and went where I knew that they had the info. By the time I got home I had made up my mind that wouldn't happen again...wasn't going to live my life that way.
I think that some forget that they have to live...one day the weight will be gone and they have to know how to eat at that point in all kinds of situations. If they don't...they have a greater chance of gaining the weight back.
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »You forgot the part where you shove finger foods in front of your toddler so he doesn't take a margarita bath and then shuffle your four-year-old to the bathroom and miss the waiter taking your order....
what are these children you speak of..???0 -
TheOwlhouseDesigns wrote: »I just find it strange..
are people really this helpless???
No, they're not helpless, they're learning. We all know that people come here with varying beliefs about nutrition, food, and weight loss.
So new users join the site, they learn about calorie deficits and weighing food, and start losing weight. Everything is going great, they're seeing losses on the scales, and they're happy. They've probably got some niche meals that they eat regularly because they know the calories and macros for those meals, and have gotten comfortable with their routine.
Then the inevitable night out/party/event arrives, and they're not sure what to do. They don't want to slow their progress, but they want to have fun. So they come here asking the usual questions - what do I order? How do I figure out portion sizes by eyeballing? Should I exercise more that day? What about other foods, should I not eat other meals just in case? We've all seen questions like that, and some of us may have even asked them ourselves.
Then the night comes, they have a good time, get on the scale, and find out that everything's ok. That one night didn't derail their progress, and it's what they do the majority of the time that matters.
Everyone on this site has had to figure something out during this process; some people are still figuring things out as they go. That's not a character flaw, it's part of being human, and the entire point of these forums is for people to interact, support, and learn from one another. There's no shame in asking questions of others to help you reach your goals, and if someone finds another user's question to be a bother…they don't have to respond.
Well my thoughts and feelings are a bit different about the whole issue of "what must i eat, and help i am going out"
Its like people lose there total self thinking and figuring something out.
What did they do before MFP... go to a support group? Phone 911 to inform what they must eat?
And sure you can ask questions and learn...but the last postings were even from people who lost 40 pound of weight. so pretty much know how it works.
So yeah to me it is really silly to come up with these kinda questions.
Noooooooooooo!
911 already gets enough ridiculous calls, let's not add another reason for people to call.0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »I go straight to "blow out" at Buffalo Wild Wings. One look at the menu and I'm like "Gotta have cheese curds! Oh look mojitos. I love their mojitos, I'll have one of those. Boneless wings with sauce on the side and all the blue cheese you will give me plz! I need another mojito." DH got to BWW before me last night and ordered a veggie app and barred me from ordering a fried app saying the boneless wings was enough fried food for one meal. :grumble:
yea, when football season rolls aroundI am a buffalo wing and beer nazi …coincidently, that is right when bulking season starts..hmmmmm
Sadly my decade long bulk cycle came to an end.
Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »You forgot the part where you shove finger foods in front of your toddler so he doesn't take a margarita bath and then shuffle your four-year-old to the bathroom and miss the waiter taking your order....
This trip down memory lane makes me so glad my girls are old enough to walk themselves to the bathroom. Also a solid reason as to why I was not sad DH didn't want a 3rd spawnling.
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tincanonastring wrote: »It's so weird how they use the wrong word everywhere else!
Get it right, it's a hero.
My only thing with restaurants would be the sauces, if I even cared anymore. That's where the unknowns pop up for me. I've since learned that if I'm going to eat out, make it enjoyable. Besides, let's be real, even the way I used to drink (I can't handle as much Guinness as I used to), are you really likely to go that much overboard to derail weeks or months worth of work? Honestly, how many calories can one consume in one day without feeling sick?
At least, that's how I look at it.0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »I go straight to "blow out" at Buffalo Wild Wings. One look at the menu and I'm like "Gotta have cheese curds! Oh look mojitos. I love their mojitos, I'll have one of those. Boneless wings with sauce on the side and all the blue cheese you will give me plz! I need another mojito." DH got to BWW before me last night and ordered a veggie app and barred me from ordering a fried app saying the boneless wings was enough fried food for one meal. :grumble:
Throw him back!0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »
This trip down memory lane makes me so glad my girls are old enough to walk themselves to the bathroom. Also a solid reason as to why I was not sad DH didn't want a 3rd spawnling.
I look forward to the day my kid does this. At this rate, she'll be in pull-ups until she's 10... She inherited mine and DH's stubbornness, which is horrible when it comes to potty training
Edited for quote fail, I hope.
Maybe now?0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »karintalley wrote: »I actually dissected a kebab today to figure out the calorie content. lol
I took apart a damn tuna hoagie the other day to weigh the individual components. The extra helping of shame put me over my calorie goal for the day.
Did that to a Walmart All American sub - once. Now I have the recipe and just weigh what I got. Boy was the database off by about 300 calories.0 -
FML, I forgot how to forum, apparently...0
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Tomorrow Im having Chicago Style pizza. I guess I can have once slice and that's my calorie allowance for that day.0
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »You forgot the part where you shove finger foods in front of your toddler so he doesn't take a margarita bath and then shuffle your four-year-old to the bathroom and miss the waiter taking your order....
what are these children you speak of..???
[Insert Maury.jpg here]0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »karintalley wrote: »I actually dissected a kebab today to figure out the calorie content. lol
I took apart a damn tuna hoagie the other day to weigh the individual components. The extra helping of shame put me over my calorie goal for the day.
Did that to a Walmart All American sub - once. Now I have the recipe and just weigh what I got. Boy was the database off by about 300 calories.
This is an excellent idea. I should double check my Subway sandwich next time.0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »It's so weird how they use the wrong word everywhere else!
Get it right, it's a hero.
To quote Dennis Leary from rescue me:.
"Where are these terms coming from? I'll tell you what a hero is.
A hero is Ted Williams, John F.
Kennedy, those are heroes.
This is meat in bread.
This is a sandwich, is what it is."
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raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »FML, I forgot how to forum, apparently...
Lol noob
And i fixed it for you.
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karintalley wrote: »I actually dissected a kebab today to figure out the calorie content. lol
...between restaurant meal 'post-mortems', kebab dissection, and a recent thread's mention of a donut exorcism, I think we've got nearly all bases covered, at this point, when it comes to the what-food-based-'operations'-should-we-perhaps-perform-under-cover-of-night-or-otherwise-agree-to-speak-of-only-in-hushed-tones-and-with-eyes-averted (for fear of 'wth-infused' 'reprisal') conversational sweepstakes...
(...oh, the ways in which 'what constitutes a natural conversation' in MFP-Land (along with its content therein) -- and which tends to not otherwise occur 'in everyday conversation' elsewhere on the planet -- doth provide entertainment (intermixed as it often is, with lessonry, food for thought, inspirational fare, and hitherto undisclosed 'methods' involving strategy, practicality, and betcha-didn't-see-that-one-comin' forms of interesting surprise -based whatnot... )) 0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I go straight to "blow out" at Buffalo Wild Wings. One look at the menu and I'm like "Gotta have cheese curds! Oh look mojitos. I love their mojitos, I'll have one of those. Boneless wings with sauce on the side and all the blue cheese you will give me plz! I need another mojito." DH got to BWW before me last night and ordered a veggie app and barred me from ordering a fried app saying the boneless wings was enough fried food for one meal. :grumble:
yea, when football season rolls aroundI am a buffalo wing and beer nazi …coincidently, that is right when bulking season starts..hmmmmm
Sadly my decade long bulk cycle came to an end.Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »You forgot the part where you shove finger foods in front of your toddler so he doesn't take a margarita bath and then shuffle your four-year-old to the bathroom and miss the waiter taking your order....
This trip down memory lane makes me so glad my girls are old enough to walk themselves to the bathroom. Also a solid reason as to why I was not sad DH didn't want a 3rd spawnling.
I don't want to wish their lives away, but darn if this doesn't sound exciting. Also when I don't have to spend a billion years cutting their meat up into less deadly pieces while my food gets cold.
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tincanonastring wrote: »karintalley wrote: »I actually dissected a kebab today to figure out the calorie content. lol
I took apart a damn tuna hoagie the other day to weigh the individual components. The extra helping of shame put me over my calorie goal for the day.
Did that to a Walmart All American sub - once. Now I have the recipe and just weigh what I got. Boy was the database off by about 300 calories.
This is an excellent idea. I should double check my Subway sandwich next time.
Yeah, the schwarma I like is a good 200 calories more than most related entries in the database, by my reckoning.
It takes a lot of time and effort to learn how to eyeball this stuff, though. Especially for people new to counting.0 -
Liftng4Lis wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I go straight to "blow out" at Buffalo Wild Wings. One look at the menu and I'm like "Gotta have cheese curds! Oh look mojitos. I love their mojitos, I'll have one of those. Boneless wings with sauce on the side and all the blue cheese you will give me plz! I need another mojito." DH got to BWW before me last night and ordered a veggie app and barred me from ordering a fried app saying the boneless wings was enough fried food for one meal. :grumble:
Throw him back!
Dude, I was so over yesterday anyhow that *not* having the cheese curds was likely wise. I didn't have any mojitos either, just root beer. I live on the edge I tell you.raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »
This trip down memory lane makes me so glad my girls are old enough to walk themselves to the bathroom. Also a solid reason as to why I was not sad DH didn't want a 3rd spawnling.
I look forward to the day my kid does this. At this rate, she'll be in pull-ups until she's 10... She inherited mine and DH's stubbornness, which is horrible when it comes to potty training
Edited for quote fail, I hope.
Maybe now?
My youngest was (and still is) so stubborn she was born 8 days "past dates". She does what she wants. It's aggravating as hell, but at least I know she'll be adept at holding her own as an adult. :laugh:Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I go straight to "blow out" at Buffalo Wild Wings. One look at the menu and I'm like "Gotta have cheese curds! Oh look mojitos. I love their mojitos, I'll have one of those. Boneless wings with sauce on the side and all the blue cheese you will give me plz! I need another mojito." DH got to BWW before me last night and ordered a veggie app and barred me from ordering a fried app saying the boneless wings was enough fried food for one meal. :grumble:
yea, when football season rolls aroundI am a buffalo wing and beer nazi …coincidently, that is right when bulking season starts..hmmmmm
Sadly my decade long bulk cycle came to an end.Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »You forgot the part where you shove finger foods in front of your toddler so he doesn't take a margarita bath and then shuffle your four-year-old to the bathroom and miss the waiter taking your order....
This trip down memory lane makes me so glad my girls are old enough to walk themselves to the bathroom. Also a solid reason as to why I was not sad DH didn't want a 3rd spawnling.
I don't want to wish their lives away, but darn if this doesn't sound exciting. Also when I don't have to spend a billion years cutting their meat up into less deadly pieces while my food gets cold.
My youngest gags on all hunks of meat that isn't chicken, so I still cut other meats up really small. Suffice to say we don't have things like beef stew or steak often because I just prefer to avoid that drama at dinner time. *eye roll*0 -
If possible I always look at the menu ahead of time. I have had a real problem in the past with impulse control -- and if I wait until after a drink to decide, I'm a gonner. So 1) I don't drink more than one drink 2) I don't have a cocktail ever -- only beer or wine with my food and 3) I check out the menu ahead of time whenever I can. This really has helped me a lot!0
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What MFP does desperately need is a SUGAR stickie :huh:0
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You had me at tequila and margaritas0
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »I go straight to "blow out" at Buffalo Wild Wings. One look at the menu and I'm like "Gotta have cheese curds! Oh look mojitos. I love their mojitos, I'll have one of those. Boneless wings with sauce on the side and all the blue cheese you will give me plz! I need another mojito." DH got to BWW before me last night and ordered a veggie app and barred me from ordering a fried app saying the boneless wings was enough fried food for one meal. :grumble:
yea, when football season rolls aroundI am a buffalo wing and beer nazi …coincidently, that is right when bulking season starts..hmmmmm
Sadly my decade long bulk cycle came to an end.Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »You forgot the part where you shove finger foods in front of your toddler so he doesn't take a margarita bath and then shuffle your four-year-old to the bathroom and miss the waiter taking your order....
This trip down memory lane makes me so glad my girls are old enough to walk themselves to the bathroom. Also a solid reason as to why I was not sad DH didn't want a 3rd spawnling.
I don't want to wish their lives away, but darn if this doesn't sound exciting. Also when I don't have to spend a billion years cutting their meat up into less deadly pieces while my food gets cold.
You just wait until they're walking across the stage getting their high school diploma. Then you'll wish you could cut up their meat again. 0 -
christinev297 wrote: »What MFP does desperately need is a SUGAR stickie :huh:
@christinev297
your sugar stickie(s) ma'am
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see there's more brown than white .. cos brown is da healthy version cos it be more natural
ya get me?0 -
I must admit I used to panic when I started back in January. Now I just check out what I believe will be lower calorie and not finish the plate. Most places luckily have nutritional information though.
I went to Wetherspoons with my folks yesterday for curry club. Instead of my usual chicken tikka, I had the sweet potato and chick pea curry. Gave my dad half my naan bread, only ate half the rice and left a poppadom and I was still stuffed.0 -
I will admit, if I'm ordering a pizza for example I'd rather get one from somewhere that I can track nutritional information, however last night I was having a Curry, I mainly have tandoori chicken and chicken pakora's so I know the batter adds up abit. I order, I enjoy, I expect weight gain due to the high salt and then I crack back on the next day. Gotta live your life 0
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christinev297 wrote: »What MFP does desperately need is a SUGAR stickie :huh:
@christinev297
your sugar stickie(s) ma'am
Ah hah touche' :laugh:
But seriously, I give kudos to those folks who reply to those sugar threads day in, day out, week after week, month after month
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tincanonastring wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »karintalley wrote: »I actually dissected a kebab today to figure out the calorie content. lol
I took apart a damn tuna hoagie the other day to weigh the individual components. The extra helping of shame put me over my calorie goal for the day.
Sorry for the off topic but are you from near Philly? There arent many people that i know who call it a hoagie.
I'm 10 minutes from Center City (on the Jersey side of the Delaware) and can hear the stadium fireworks from my front yard. You nearby?
Was it from Wawa?
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