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Flowers are a waste. Especially if you guys think of them as foreplay. I'd rather have my guy just grab me and start kissing up against a wall and.....0
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Hmm. I didn't read all the responses here, but I'd say that at this stage in the game if my guy brought me flowers I'd have to wonder what he did wrong. Also, if he brought me roses I'd tease him about being a big ol' cliche. When we first started dating he'd bring me wine and dark chocolate. It is nice to get little surprises, but I prefer something more thoughtful. Not something that society dictates a man should do for me, but something that I would actually appreciate. Like tickets to see my favorite band or to a Bulls game. Or a funny popcorn bowl because I'm a popcorn junkie. But to demand it or expect it and act like a spoiled rotten princess sets the women's rights back about 40 years.
Case in point: my bf just walked in with a couple of bags. I said jokingly, "What did you bring me?" He said, "Live crabs. I'm going to make us something delicious." I'll take that over flowers any day.0 -
Case in point: my bf just walked in with a couple of bags. I said jokingly, "What did you bring me?" He said, "Live crabs. I'm going to make us something delicious." I'll take that over flowers any day.
Good man!...and AMEN!!
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This obviously doesn't work for a young struggling couple, but my grandfather bought my grandmother a dozen roses, and knowing that she hated to see them die, he replaced them every week for over a year, while she wasn't there, so she didn't have to see it. I think he stopped when he had a stroke.
As so many have pointed out, each woman is different. If you choose a woman and study her, learn her quirks and desires, and spend your energy making her happy, she SHOULD return the favor.
I am sorry that so many of you men struggle. Frankly, when I read about a woman not responding to her man, I want to hunt her down and smack her.0 -
The nicest things my husband has ever done for me have generally been free and not for any occasion.
He used to leave songs that I loved ready to play on the cassette deck in my car. So when I got into it to go to work I would turn on the stereo and a favourite song would start.
Once he bought me home a hanging basket full of strawberry plants, that were being thrown away at the plant nursery where he worked. He had nutured them until they were starting to fruit and then bought it home for me one day when he knew I was having a bad day.
These thoughtful gestures meant more than any flowers or expensive gifts because it meant he had thought of me during his busy working day and wanted to make me smile!
That is why I married him and have been with him for over 20yrs!0 -
OR you could send/bring her flowers, cook her dinner, appreciate her and do everything right and she'll just decide that a long distance relationship is just too difficult and already be sleeping with someone else...
Eh... I'm a cynic. Love is for suckers.0 -
rOR you could send/bring her flowers, cook her dinner, appreciate her and do everything right and she'll just decide that a long distance relationship is just too difficult and already be sleeping with someone else...
Eh... I'm a cynic. Love is for suckers.
Wow what a B****! She clearly wasn't worthy of having a decent guy!!!0 -
I don't know if I was a 'decent' guy, but if I was, she pretty much ruined me for anyone else...0
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i put gas in my wife's car!!
what now?!?!:smokin:
LOL :laugh: I'm in love! Marry me! :flowerforyou: :blushing:0 -
LOL 2 words brother..... call - girl!!Flowers can lead to other things :devil:
Unless you're my wife. Then they don't lead to ****0 -
My husband doesn't believe in spending money on things like gifts and flowers.
But - in our old house we were getting ready to repaint our laundry room and one day I came home from work and he had painted "I love you Trina" on one wall with the future color. I purposefully didn't paint that room for another 6 mos so I could see his message when I had a bad day.
I really wish he would bring me flowers sometimes, but I know I have to give that up. He did buy me a rose bush for our 4th anniversary.0 -
I would rather he bring me beer, sit down.. shut the $uck up, just listen to me talk about how fabulous I am & keep bringing me cold ones. AND... THIS IS WHY I AM SINGLE!
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I would rather he bring me beer, sit down.. shut the $uck up, just listen to me talk about how fabulous I am & keep bringing me a cold ones. AND... THIS IS WHY I AM SINGLE!
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What if my lady doesn't like getting flowers?
That's funny because the other day, and by the other day I mean 3 months ago, my 4 year-old told my husband (we aren't together now but were then) that he should get me flowers. His reply, "Your mother doesn't like flowers." I think the last time I saw flowers was for our 1 year-anniversary. When I had our kids he never gave me flowers or balloons or anything. Now he's not even with me.0 -
I would rather he bring me beer, sit down.. shut the $uck up, just listen to me talk about how fabulous I am & keep bringing me a cold ones. AND... THIS IS WHY I AM SINGLE!
O M G that's funny! You are my dream woman! If I knew that it was my job to shut up and listen, I could totally do that. Fabulous is positive. No whining right? I'm down.0 -
What if my lady doesn't like getting flowers?
That's funny because the other day, and by the other day I mean 3 months ago, my 4 year-old told my husband (we aren't together now but were then) that he should get me flowers. His reply, "Your mother doesn't like flowers." I think the last time I saw flowers was for our 1 year-anniversary. When I had our kids he never gave me flowers or balloons or anything. Now he's not even with me.
So do you just not like them? Or was he just not thoughtful?
I honestly have no problem buying them. But when I go through the trouble and expense (when you have delived etc.) and my response is "thank you, but why do this i don't care for flowers", well I just don't buy anymore lol0 -
Honestly, here's my take on flowers. And by the way, now that I'm single, I have bought them for the house a couple of times, when I have a party or company or an occasion for them.
Flowers are beautiful. A natural product of the earth (from God if you believe as I do). How could you not like them? I could never understand that. It's like not liking snow covered mountain tops or a beautiful sunset etc...
A gift of flowers. Perfect. A Gift. Of beautiful Flowers. A match made in heaven.
Now the problem comes in when you buy a gift of flowers and you don't have the money, the means, to pay for them. Spouses know and understand your finances (or should) and may not agree with your use of said funds.
So guys... figure out a way to pay for them too. I go Costco, less than $20, I have a vase for them, one time purchase, and I give something up to make up the twenty bucks so it didn't have to come out of shared funds or worse yet funds dedicated to necessities.
You do that, she can't say no, she appreciates the gift, and demonstrates her love and devotion to you. If she doesn't appreciate and demonstrate, you have a problem. You might want to figure that out before divorce court happens.0 -
My husband doesn't believe in spending money on things like gifts and flowers.
But - in our old house we were getting ready to repaint our laundry room and one day I came home from work and he had painted "I love you Trina" on one wall with the future color. I purposefully didn't paint that room for another 6 mos so I could see his message when I had a bad day.
I really wish he would bring me flowers sometimes, but I know I have to give that up. He did buy me a rose bush for our 4th anniversary.
This was my ex and I painting our son's room a couple years ago:
And this is the kind of things I used to get in return:
Unfortunately she has some pretty serious chemical imbalances...causing even more serious emotional issues, and since she absolutely refuses to do anything about it...things couldn't work out. Nothing much to be done about it.
In a normal situation though, those things are ALL that matter to me. Gifts are...well, gifts. It's the stupid little expressions of affection and caring that matter. For some women I guess that might be flowers...and if so that's what I'd give (I did sometimes pick up a single rose while I was at the store for whatever reason...but she appreciated reeses cups FAR more =p).
I don't know, it's those things (well, among other 'things' lol) I miss most about being in a relationship. Giving them and receiving them is a pretty incredible thing.
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Dislike this! Try not too be too cynicalOR you could send/bring her flowers, cook her dinner, appreciate her and do everything right and she'll just decide that a long distance relationship is just too difficult and already be sleeping with someone else...
Eh... I'm a cynic. Love is for suckers.
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Flowers are nice and I definitely wouldn't turn them down, but I think what's best is the unexpectedness. My hope is that when I'm in a relationship we'll BOTH do nice, unexpected things for each other such as cooking dinner, flowers, a note on the mirror, running an errand so they won't have to, doing a chore they hate (such as washing the car or vacuuming the furniture). I know it's a bit over said sometimes, but to me it truly is the little things that let's someone know you're thinking of them. 0
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I don't do flowers. Sorry, but I don't. They aren't a typical occurence for me, and I don't want to buy something that's going to die in a week. Is that how I want to symbolize our relationship? with something that died in a weeks (or less) time? I've bought flowers for our anniversary, but there's a special meening behind them... I buy a dozen roses, and for every year we've been married, I replace one of the roses with a white one... Haven't decided what I'm going to do once I hit 12! lol
I also don't do Valentine's Day. The history behind it is morbid and I refuse to celebrate something that has been so over-commercialized that it's not even about the love you and your S.O. share anymore...
What I used to do was cook for my girlfriend (when we were dating, before marriage). I'd invite her over and have dinner ready, or I'd take her out and put something easy in the oven to pull out in an hour (like meat loaf). I've had a buddy that worked for a catering company set up a dinner in my place after she had moved in; we went out to a movie and when we were done we came home to a candle-lit apartment and a romantic dinner for two at our crappy little folding table...
I used to leave surprise gifts in her car.
I'd take her car, when we went to school together, to the mechanic and get the oil changed, or I'd take it home and rotate the tires or replace the brakes for her. These things I did for a girlfriend who didn't have a dad.
One of my oddities is that I've never been a kisser. When I was little I refused to kiss my mom, grandma, aunts, etc. I kiss my wife, don't get me wrong, but it's normally just the 'hello' 'nice to see you' 'good night' or 'good morning' kisses. One of the things that really gets her going is when she's doing the dishes (or anything really) and out of the blue I just stop her and make out with her... Then I'll stop in the middle of it and say 'I know I may not say it enough, but I do love you,' and walk away. It takes all of about .2 seconds for her to quit whatever she's doing and attack me and drag me to the bedroom...
I really don't go out of my way to do something spectacular to show her I love her. I know what I've got and we are very good at keeping the communication lines open. We don't have many of the 'big' problems that couples have because we are able to work through them. This gives us more time to sit on the couch and watch movies holding hands or 'cuddling'....
One of the things I tell my younger guy friends is that every woman is a sucker for chic flicks. If you're looking to have a friend, take her to an action or comedy movie. But, if you really want to romance her and, ultimately, get somewhere, have a movies night in the house and rent a chic-flick and just sit there and cuddle with her. Don't put a move on her or try to do stuff during the movie, just put your arm around her and let her lean on you. If it's not a tear-jerker but one of the ones where the woman gets her prince charming, who is your girl gonna look to to be her 'prince charming' that night? Don't ruin it, though, by being a dog and getting what you want and jetting, because I guarantee you all her friends will hear about your tactic and then you've blown it...0 -
I don't do flowers. Sorry, but I don't. They aren't a typical occurence for me, and I don't want to buy something that's going to die in a week. Is that how I want to symbolize our relationship? with something that died in a weeks (or less) time? I've bought flowers for our anniversary, but there's a special meening behind them... I buy a dozen roses, and for every year we've been married, I replace one of the roses with a white one... Haven't decided what I'm going to do once I hit 12! lol
I also don't do Valentine's Day. The history behind it is morbid and I refuse to celebrate something that has been so over-commercialized that it's not even about the love you and your S.O. share anymore...
What I used to do was cook for my girlfriend (when we were dating, before marriage). I'd invite her over and have dinner ready, or I'd take her out and put something easy in the oven to pull out in an hour (like meat loaf). I've had a buddy that worked for a catering company set up a dinner in my place after she had moved in; we went out to a movie and when we were done we came home to a candle-lit apartment and a romantic dinner for two at our crappy little folding table...
I used to leave surprise gifts in her car.
I'd take her car, when we went to school together, to the mechanic and get the oil changed, or I'd take it home and rotate the tires or replace the brakes for her. These things I did for a girlfriend who didn't have a dad.
One of my oddities is that I've never been a kisser. When I was little I refused to kiss my mom, grandma, aunts, etc. I kiss my wife, don't get me wrong, but it's normally just the 'hello' 'nice to see you' 'good night' or 'good morning' kisses. One of the things that really gets her going is when she's doing the dishes (or anything really) and out of the blue I just stop her and make out with her... Then I'll stop in the middle of it and say 'I know I may not say it enough, but I do love you,' and walk away. It takes all of about .2 seconds for her to quit whatever she's doing and attack me and drag me to the bedroom...
I really don't go out of my way to do something spectacular to show her I love her. I know what I've got and we are very good at keeping the communication lines open. We don't have many of the 'big' problems that couples have because we are able to work through them. This gives us more time to sit on the couch and watch movies holding hands or 'cuddling'....
One of the things I tell my younger guy friends is that every woman is a sucker for chic flicks. If you're looking to have a friend, take her to an action or comedy movie. But, if you really want to romance her and, ultimately, get somewhere, have a movies night in the house and rent a chic-flick and just sit there and cuddle with her. Don't put a move on her or try to do stuff during the movie, just put your arm around her and let her lean on you. If it's not a tear-jerker but one of the ones where the woman gets her prince charming, who is your girl gonna look to to be her 'prince charming' that night? Don't ruin it, though, by being a dog and getting what you want and jetting, because I guarantee you all her friends will hear about your tactic and then you've blown it...
You said it brother.
These are the things that are important...every...single...one of them.
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HA HA HA!! You are SOOO funny!!! The last time I bought flowers for my wife, she chewed me out for spending the money! 
I have women pretty much figured out. I call it Ted's Law in Dealing with the Opposite Sex.
1. You (The male) can NOT win.
2. You (The male) do have to play.
3. The rules WILL change to suit the game.
4. The reasons for this are still somewhat unclear, the most promising theory on causation of the order of relationship status is that the female has a microchip with mood altering programming embedded in her at some point in life. Conventional thought is that it coincides with adolescence, but this has not been definitively proven.
5. When a precious metal; most commonly in conjunction with a precious stone, is applied to the 4th digit of the left hand, the microchip is then activated. Mood is from this point altered, often irrevocably.
6. The female is free to behave in any manner she wishes, and exercises total control of access to the nuclear storehouse.
6a, All men are considered Third World Countries and women alone have coveted "Nuclear Technology"
Any variances or questions regarding the application of this law will be referred to rule #1.
That's pretty much where my science has taken me....
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Flowers are nice, yes.
But I'm thankful that my husband and I *always* say I love you to each other when we part or go to bed. Even if I'm talking to him on the phone and pulling up into the driveway and he's standing outside the house so I can see him, I'll say "I love you" before I hang up the freakin' phone. Silly, yes, ... but it feels wrong if I don't.0 -
Dear all men,
You can be right, or you can be happy. Pick one.
Sincerely,
The women.0 -
Flowers are really fun to get. Extra points if he remembers my favorite flowers are daisies.0
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I don't particularly like getting flowers.. I definitely do appreciate them here and there, but they just die after a couple of days! Plus they're so expensive!
My husband will surprise me sometimes by cleaning the house while I'm at work, or making dinner, or giving me a back rub. And I occasionally get him a new video game or movie while I'm out.. he loves it! 0 -
Flowers are nice, yes.
But I'm thankful that my husband and I *always* say I love you to each other when we part or go to bed. Even if I'm talking to him on the phone and pulling up into the driveway and he's standing outside the house so I can see him, I'll say "I love you" before I hang up the freakin' phone. Silly, yes, ... but it feels wrong if I don't.
My husband & I do this too! I can't leave him without saying I love you.. it doesn't even matter if we're mad at each other or anything.. we always say I love you!0 -
Then bring us a bouquet of tools sometime!0
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Then bring us a bouquet of tools sometime!
haha! that's awesome.
I went to Home Depot with my husband the other day. I said "Wow - this must be how you feel when you're in Hobby Lobby with me."0
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