WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2015

Katla - Ouch on the saddle sores! ! ! ! ! ! :flowerforyou: Isn't it annoying when these crazy things pop up when we're trying to get fit! ! ! ! ! I'm with you on the fizzy water. I LOVE it! I sometimes have it with Angostora Bitters and then it tastes like a "drink"! I don't get this American thing with sweetners and creamers in their coffee. It is a very long time since I met anyone who sweetened their coffee or tea over here. We just have milk in it, mostly semi skimmed. When I was a child everyone had sugar in their tea.

Mia - good going on the 5 minute tidying. The other thing I follow is from the Happiness Project. "If it takes less than a minute do it now". That applies to putting things away, taking stuff upstairs, washing stuff up etc.

Janetr - hake is a fish. Very popular in Spain. I buy the frozen boneless fillets from a "man with a van". 1kg at a time. Nice thawed and baked for about 12 mins in foil. The sorrel I grow in the garden, but it is really a hedge row weed. :laugh: It is vitually indestructible! The young leaves melt in a saucepan and I just season them and stir in a blob of half fat creme fraiche. It has a sour, lemony taste that I love. My meals are often shuzzed up protein with lots of veg or some kind of stew (curry etc) I adore my food. I can eat up to 1800 calories with my exercise regime so I have quite a lot of leeway. What I don't eat is junk food, empty carbohydrates or sweet things. My weakness is cheese and a glass of alcohol. :embarassed: Today I am 11 calories over as it was a yoga day, therefore only 236 cals. :sad:

Love to all. Congrats to all you losers!

Heather UK

Ladies, thank you for the warm welcome. I love how all in this group seem to be such great friends, despite coming from all over the world. That's truly wonderful! And the support, encouragement, care and concern shown for each other is genuine, which drew me in in the first place.

Been trying to read back through posts this afternoon while having an unusual quiet moment here at work and wanted to wish Lori a Happy Belated Birthday and Renny a Happy Birthday! I hope your special days were fun-filled, glorious days! To everyone, I apologize if I miss something important or someone's special moment. Sometimes, I have just enough time to quickly read a couple pages of posts before I have to get back offline and take of duties around here.

And here's why my life is a crazy, chaotic, overloaded but happy 'mess': I went from being a SAHM to a full-time nanny. I raised my 6 lovely blessings and am now helping to raise the 4 sweetest but, at times, ornery daughters of a federal attorney and her computer programmer husband. The girls are 5, 3, and 1 1/2 year old twins. Mom and dad are climbing the corporate ladders of their jobs, so to speak, while I hold down the fort here at home (I am not a live-in nanny but have my own place about 10 minutes away). But I have to give them props because they are amazing parents who devote themselves fully to their daughters when they are home. I love and adore this family and they refer to me as the 3rd parent and family, although we are not related. I honestly feel like I am coming home to my 2nd home when I come to work in the mornings because they treated like a treasured family member. God has surely blessed me with these truly humble and loving people and I am so grateful for my job. It's fun to be experiencing "parenthood" a second time around with the benefits of being able to go home at the end of the day. lol

Anyway, just thought I would share that so you would know why my schedule is so busy and, at times, scattered. It definitely keeps me hopping! Gotta run! Time to pick the 5 year old up from summer preschool! Wishing you all a fabulous day!

Dana, Central Indiana

miriamwithcats wrote: »

Janet and Pip, so sorry you both went through all of that. It is so awful that someone who claimed to love us does those things. And abuse is a progression. It starts off with little digs, becomes more constant criticism, and then the physical starts with pushing and shoving. Usually. So by that time we are so totally brainwashed in to thinking it is our fault, and we can change ourselves to make things better. I don't know about you, but I gave up everything that made me me. It was so wonderful to get away. For the first year, my boys and I slept on the floor of a tiny apartment I found, in Iowa since he was in Idaho, and we had never been so happy! But I had to move almost all the way across the country to keep him from continued harassment. I am so glad that both of you have found love again.

Thanks Miriam, unfortunately abusive situations are almost common-place anymore. Its so sad. I actually was pretty much the bread winner in both of the first marriages. All the homes I've ever owned (4) were in my name only. So although I struggled to make ends meet at first, it was not really different than most people live today. It, however, did do an emotional number on me. Thinking I was too fat, ugly, whatever for anyone to love me. The whole nine yards. I went from being happy go lucky, life of the party to much more quiet and unsure of myself. My one sister has told me many times since I've been married to Jack to thank him for her as she thinks this is the happiest she has seen me in my adult life. I guess it comes from being content and knowing I'm loved no matter what. I think that is when I finally realized I wanted to lose weight for ME, not some one else, not some man, some husband. I am determined to keep the weight off that I lost.

Terri - Wow

Terri - what a great story and very well told! Have you ever thought of being a script writer? ! ! :flowerforyou:

Margaret - abuse comes in so many different forms. We need clear boundaries to know what is acceptable behaviour or not. Well done for drawing the line with your brother. :flowerforyou:

Confession time - I had a piece of cheese after I closed my diary. :embarassed: I went back on and logged it. My DH says he is going to buy a cheese safe. :laugh:

Love you loads. Heather UK

Allison... Happy Birthday! I wish your lab reports had contained better news. I'll be praying for you. As for your husband's response ... I concur with the others.

Terri ... Absolutely love the idea of going through the store with a tiara! Way to go!

Margaret ... I don't think you meant to be humorous with your post on finding inner peace/place ... But I laughed out loud when you mentioned it wasn't appropriate when driving ... I would think not!

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Going to be a HOT one today. I do not like the heat. I just got back from the funeral. They had areal nice service. I am alittle upset with her two children as my friend walked in by herself and out by herself. She was really upset and they just walked behind her. Thanks for listening. Our work at the firework stand went well and I am glad we are done as it is going to be alot hotter the rest of the week.
weigh in this morning was good, down .9. I will take it.

Grits--Sending HUGS!!

Nancy--Good for you.

Jane--Good news about your mom.

Allison--Happy Birthday, My doctor told me not to read the internet about my lab results, that when I came in we would go over them. So please don't panic yet. DH seem his mouth works faster then his brain. Makes me wounder if he has any idea how he sounds. HUGS

Katla--Hugs to your friend who lost her husband. Things can change in the blink of an eye.

Time to get something done before I go home. I am really tired tonight so think it will be an early evening. But then everytime I think that when I leave work I get a second wind. Enjoy the rest of the day and remember we are not in this alone.
Blessings, Vicki GI NE

Janetr - I get that. I caught my husband during the conversation leading up to the trist, and it is almost a daily internal battle for me, even though I KNOW I was under no circumstances to blame for any of his behavior. I also know that since it was a Facebook chat, "she" was probably catfishing him, but that doesn't make it less hurtful. Current DH knows the history of ex-H (we lived in a small town in Southeast Minnesota, so almost everyone knew almost everything, and "I'm not easy to forget"). Hugs and Hugs for everyone regardless of struggles. We are in this together, and it just doesn't matter how we got here - "I got your back" ! ! !

Beth - I have also been known to wear a tiara to baseball games, basketball tournaments, bowling alley; wherever I need to go. I have also stopped in front of a closed door that they both walked through and didn't bother to hold open. I just stand there . . . waiting . . . regardless of the weather.

Heather - Not a writer. Just love to tell stories, and the funnier the better. "He11 knows no fury like a woman scorned", and I can have fury with the best of them, just in a sickeningly sweet manner, that no one sees coming. When ex found out what I did, I said "you know the golden rule? Well my golden rule is 'she who has the gold makes the rules', so we will now do this MY way". If I could be onstage every day, I would. And I would wear my tiara with pride, too, right on stage.

Now, my clinic has been closed for almost 15 minutes, and I still need to do the day-end. DH called and asked me to stop at Papa John's for pizza, I said no and hung up. I will text him soon that I am staying late here to work-out, then I will make a big yummy salad when I get home. He does not try to sabotage me; he just doesn't get it. It's okay, this is my battle, and if he doesn't like it, he can do his own thing.

Later Lovelies ! ! !

Terri in Milwaukee

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Terri ... You rock! I think my guys are in for a surprise!

Terri, you made me teary. It DOES help to know others understand. I have 5 older sisters all been married from 47 to over 52 years. Then there is me. Always has made me feel lesser some how. Best of all is knowing you " got our backs". Big hug

Hi everyone! We got the estimate for the damage to the van, and it's a little less than $8,000. Not even close to totaled. It's amazing how much it costs to do that stuff. They have decided that the wheel is damaged, bent in slightly at the top, so it's not driveable. They have to replace the quarter panel and the whole door and part of the axle/wheel thingy, and do some repair the floor of the passenger compartment (it's bent) and the track that the door rides on. Of course, they can't get started on it till we get the ok from the other lady's insurance. We have not heard from them yet. We got the police report this morning and they said it was the other drivers fault but they didn't issue a citation. No idea why. She was speeding and ran a red light, according to the report.

All these stories about abusive husbands hit close to home for me. There were guns, fists, and everything else he could find to hurt me, but the worst part were the words. Unlike Pip, I did believe when he told me I was worthless, but of course, I went into the marriage believing that anyway. I'm so glad those days are over.

I've been having sharp pains in my tummy most of the day. If I'm sitting still it's not bad, but when I stand up it starts. I'm having flashbacks to my colon blockages and am hoping it's not that again. Of course, it's probably not, but I do worry.

Time to go walk the dogs. Talk to you later.

Sylvia

all you ladies said it was hard to eat just one slice of pizza like I did...really easy when you cut it up all frozen and stick the pieces into zip-lock baggies. I just cooked the one piece in the oven in the HUGE pizza pan...it looked really lonely in da middle though.... Low-fat thin pizzas are sucky with the cheese, or is it even cheese. It doesn't melt really good, and NORMALLY I put on extra cheese, etc...but then what is the point of eating a low fat pizza? :-)

Today I did fairly good with the swimming... question though: I have a friend on here that swam 45 mins swimming freestyle, fast, vigorously, and she burned 1,000 something calories. When I put in the time of 45 mins I get 830 something. How does that happen?

Husband and I went to a food bank today, and I got a nice 5 seed bread, and some salmon patties. I have never cooked salmon patties so it should be interesting. The Oregon State Department of Fish and Wildlife donated the salmon so that is cool right? One burger is only 150 calories, 4g fat, 92mg sodium, and 29 protein. Is that a great protein or what? I also rec'd a bag of Smartfood white cheddar popcorn, which I have already inhaled. That was my dinner....aaaack... The whole bloomin bag was 380 calories!!!! Drinking water all afternoon because I scarfed it down at 2pm. If I had snacky foods in the house all the time, I wouldn't freak like this. I haven't had a candybar in about a year, so any chocolate in the house, (like the mega-chocolate chips) I have to mentally have a chat with my "evil self" all the time. Like snacks are my enemy and I have to constantly keep track of their existence so I can stay clear. Crazy me.

Made myself feel better by lying in the sun for 45 minutes. And no I was not a nudist. I had my bra and panties on...hahahahaha! They were my best pair, so they LOOKED swim suitish. Thank goodness for the lattice work on the balcony right? I suppose if one were to stand and stare they could see me, but that would put them smack in the middle of the road. Plus I am on the second story, so they would have to be staring outta their sunroofs when they were driving. See I plan all senarios out. Except when bees come by, then I scream like a banshie and dash inside. As a child I remember going outside and screaming every couple of minutes during the summer, then I would dash back in the house. What a mental headcase eh? I have gotten better. I don't unload a whole can of frabreaze onto a spider like I used to (last year). I know, I know, they make bug spray, but it smells awful. You can kill things with "the scent of linen"...hahahaha!

Hoping tomorrow will be a good weigh-in at TOPS.
Your crazy one from Oregon.... Becca

@Becca - The amount of calories burned for any exercise is based on your personal BMI, so as you lose weight, the number of calories burned for the same type/time of exercise will decrease. It does not take as much exertion to move a lighter object.