"Too heavy" he said to me

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  • fieryaries
    fieryaries Posts: 3 Member
    That sucks. To each his own right? Some people are shallow. Nothing we can do about that. Glad for you he was upfront before you invested too much (feeling). TRUST me, you will find a guy who will appreciate you for you. You will find a guy who sticks it out through thick and thin (no pun intended and I am being a little funny because I'm a big girl too :) ).
  • pinkgumdrop123
    pinkgumdrop123 Posts: 262 Member
    dragthewaters91 wrote: »
    Sounds like you dodged a bullet there!

    If you want to lose weight it should be for you, not for some d-bag.

    +1
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,323 Member
    tcarmen85 wrote: »
    After 4 months of constantly seeing each other (no sex involved).... He decided I was too heavy to have a relationship with me... Big shock since he saw what I looked like before he met me. Sooo confused?!?! We had so much in common and alway had a blast when we were together.

    shallow hal.

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Lol yes
    urloved33 wrote: »
    tcarmen85 wrote: »
    After 4 months of constantly seeing each other (no sex involved).... He decided I was too heavy to have a relationship with me... Big shock since he saw what I looked like before he met me. Sooo confused?!?! We had so much in common and alway had a blast when we were together.

    shallow hal.

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Yess tks
    pinkgumdrop123 wrote: »
    dragthewaters91 wrote: »
    Sounds like you dodged a bullet there!

    If you want to lose weight it should be for you, not for some d-bag.

    +1

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    LOL! I love humor! Thank you
    fieryaries wrote: »
    That sucks. To each his own right? Some people are shallow. Nothing we can do about that. Glad for you he was upfront before you invested too much (feeling). TRUST me, you will find a guy who will appreciate you for you. You will find a guy who sticks it out through thick and thin (no pun intended and I am being a little funny because I'm a big girl too :) ).

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Lol! Well is actually a huge booty lol thank you!
    cazting53 wrote: »
    What arrogance! Tell him you were doing him a favour hanging out with such a small minded man. And now you're on the look out for a much bigger person who isn't afraid of a little booty !

  • 6502programmer
    6502programmer Posts: 515 Member
    Not all guys are like that, though you're lucky to find out before you became even more emotionally invested in him.. My wife has been a bigger gal ever since I met her, but she has put on fifty pounds more since having our son and being diagnosed with PCOS and hypothyroidism. I don't love her in spite of her weight--I her regardless of it. I am so proud of her that she's down 25 pounds since 7/1, and do everything I can to support her in her weight loss!
  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Thank you so much for sharing and giving me hope
  • Betsey206
    Betsey206 Posts: 34 Member
    His loss ... you have many friends here who will luv you found who you are . ... a beautiful person inside and out.
  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Woe ypu must be a real Men! Thank you
    6502programmer wrote: »
    Not all guys are like that, though you're lucky to find out before you became even more emotionally invested in him.. My wife has been a bigger gal ever since I met her, but she has put on fifty pounds more since having our son and being diagnosed with PCOS and hypothyroidism. I don't love her in spite of her weight--I her regardless of it. I am so proud of her that she's down 25 pounds since 7/1, and do everything I can to support her in her weight loss!

  • allaboutthefood
    allaboutthefood Posts: 781 Member
    He sounds like an *kitten* and you are better off without him. You have to do this for you, NO ONE ELSE! only you. I wish you all the best in your journey.
  • sealightdolphin
    sealightdolphin Posts: 43 Member
    I know that must have hurt, I think it is better to find out sooner, than later, how a person's character is.
  • xkitxkatxkaix
    xkitxkatxkaix Posts: 368 Member
    Girl you are gorgeous! Forget him. <3
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member
    I had that happen once. It was at the beginning of my weight loss and I'd already lost 17 lbs. He knew what I looked like and wasn't a small man himself. Let's see, the way he put it was "I'm attracted to a certain body type...more petite." I laughed and told him that even at my lowest weight, I wouldn't be "petite" and I was perfectly fine with that. I wasn't mad at him, I told him that I felt sorry for him because he might not ever know true love because he couldn't look past the exterior. He's been married twice since he went out with me.
  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Oh wow! Thank you for sharing
    wolfsbayne wrote: »
    I had that happen once. It was at the beginning of my weight loss and I'd already lost 17 lbs. He knew what I looked like and wasn't a small man himself. Let's see, the way he put it was "I'm attracted to a certain body type...more petite." I laughed and told him that even at my lowest weight, I wouldn't be "petite" and I was perfectly fine with that. I wasn't mad at him, I told him that I felt sorry for him because he might not ever know true love because he couldn't look past the exterior. He's been married twice since he went out with me.

  • sistermargret
    sistermargret Posts: 49 Member
    You are better off without him even though it hurts. Good to find out now instead of 9 months pregnant. There are worse things than being alone. I've seen them.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    too bad you didn't take the low-brow well and go hey that's ok your penis was too thin for me
  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Yah! LOL! Tks Oh wow! Thank you for sharing
    wolfsbayne wrote: »
    I had that happen once. It was at the beginning of my weight loss and I'd already lost 17 lbs. He knew what I looked like and wasn't a small man himself. Let's see, the way he put it was "I'm attracted to a certain body type...more petite." I laughed and told him that even at my lowest weight, I wouldn't be "petite" and I was perfectly fine with that. I wasn't mad at him, I told him that I felt sorry for him because he might not ever know true love because he couldn't look past the exterior. He's been married twice since he went out with me.
    ldrosophila wrote: »
    too bad you didn't take the low-brow well and go hey that's ok your penis was too thin for me

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Yes you're correct Thank you!
    sistermargret wrote: »
    You are better off without him even though it hurts. Good to find out now instead of 9 months pregnant. There are worse things than being alone. I've seen them.

  • writerapril
    writerapril Posts: 9 Member
    You are so much better without him!
  • MarietjieHoward
    MarietjieHoward Posts: 214 Member
    He is an idiot to say something like that to you, you are beautiful, and DON'T LET ANYONE tell you any different.

  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    He's not worth your time then anyway.
  • ohmscheeks
    ohmscheeks Posts: 840 Member
    Something is odd here.... It doesn't take 4 months to see how 'heavy' someone is. There must be more to the story.
  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Yes! Is driving me crazy not knowing! Tks
    ohmscheeks wrote: »
    Something is odd here.... It doesn't take 4 months to see how 'heavy' someone is. There must be more to the story.

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Your right. tks
    thorsmom01 wrote: »
    He's not worth your time then anyway.

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Yes indeed..tks
    icantnot wrote: »
    That's hurtful. There are a lot of tools out there.

  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Thank you for your kind words!
    MarietjieHoward wrote: »
    He is an idiot to say something like that to you, you are beautiful, and DON'T LET ANYONE tell you any different.

  • tomnev1
    tomnev1 Posts: 184 Member
    tcarmen85 wrote: »
    After 4 months of constantly seeing each other (no sex involved).... He decided I was too heavy to have a relationship with me... Big shock since he saw what I looked like before he met me. Sooo confused?!?! We had so much in common and alway had a blast when we were together.

    In Cork (second largest city in Ireland), they have a great name for a guy like that.
    He's a LANGER!

    Onwards and upwards, don't let guys like this define you.
  • tcarmen85
    tcarmen85 Posts: 85 Member
    Thank you
    writerapril wrote: »
    You are so much better without him!

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