"Too heavy" he said to me
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Well said! Thank for your commentMissTattoo wrote: »He could have been honest 4 flipping months ago! Everyone has a preference, but why string along someone for 4 months when you weren't attracted to them in the first place? It doesn't take 4 months to realize this. You are better off and friend request sent!
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Tksslideaway1 wrote: »At least he was honest with you and saved you finding out he was not compatible in the long run. He obviously has his views/opinions on what he's looking for in a partner and expressed them to you. Sorry it did not work out and I'm sure you will find somebody more compatible.
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Sounds like a real a-hole. In case you lose a bunch of weight and he starts paying attention to you again, start thinking of clever quips now. You'll want to be ready with creative ways to tell him where he can shove it.0
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Eh, sounds like an excuse. "Too heavy" is the sort of excuse an insensitive person would say on the first date. It's not something you come up with 4 months in. He has lost interest for some other reason and decided "too heavy" was a "good excuse". I would wager it's not your weight or anything else to do with you. Dodged a bullet there!0
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This was the tex I received from him "I really do enjoy hanging out with you and you are lots of fun. There's a lot of characteristics about you that I do like. However I'm afraid of myself. I've never dated anyone heavier than me. I'm not sure how I would handle that in the long run. That may not be fair to you. that may not be fair to you. And perhaps I'm the one with the problem.
please elaborate the exact words he told you , like "yeah you're actually too heave so no thank you? "
Hey, I dated a guy who was the opposite... he told me that he wasn't used to being the fat one in the relationship. The man I'm head over heels in love with now was well worth the wait.
Clearly your ex IS right - it's his problem.0 -
At least he was honest with you, and didn't just disappear.0
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I don't think what he said was that mean. It seems like he really liked hanging out with you but you weren't just his type physically? He maybe thought he could overcome the physical thing but after 4 months realized he couldn't? We all have our preferences.
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TksHeartisalonelyhunter wrote: »I don't think what he said was that mean. It seems like he really liked hanging out with you but you weren't just his type physically? He maybe thought he could overcome the physical thing but after 4 months realized he couldn't? We all have our preferences.
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TksLeWahnderful wrote: »At least he was honest with you, and didn't just disappear.
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Lol funny and Thank youMireyGal76 wrote: »This was the tex I received from him "I really do enjoy hanging out with you and you are lots of fun. There's a lot of characteristics about you that I do like. However I'm afraid of myself. I've never dated anyone heavier than me. I'm not sure how I would handle that in the long run. That may not be fair to you. that may not be fair to you. And perhaps I'm the one with the problem. please elaborate the exact words he told you , like "yeah you're actually too heave so no thank you? "
Hey, I dated a guy who was the opposite... he told me that he wasn't used to being the fat one in the relationship. The man I'm head over heels in love with now was well worth the wait.
Clearly your ex IS right - it's his problem.
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Yes I agree thank you so muchEh, sounds like an excuse. "Too heavy" is the sort of excuse an insensitive person would say on the first date. It's not something you come up with 4 months in. He has lost interest for some other reason and decided "too heavy" was a "good excuse". I would wager it's not your weight or anything else to do with you. Dodged a bullet there!
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After 4 months of constantly seeing each other (no sex involved).... He decided I was too heavy to have a relationship with me... Big shock since he saw what I looked like before he met me. Sooo confused?!?! We had so much in common and alway had a blast when we were together.
Four months no sex? Mmmm interesting
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Lol! I never dated a man that didn't want to sleep with me i'm pretty sure it was because I have a huge bootyAfter 4 months of constantly seeing each other (no sex involved).... He decided I was too heavy to have a relationship with me... Big shock since he saw what I looked like before he met me. Sooo confused?!?! We had so much in common and alway had a blast when we were together.
Four months no sex? Mmmm interesting
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Lol yeah I may keep him as a friend for motivationPaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Sounds like a real a-hole. In case you lose a bunch of weight and he starts paying attention to you again, start thinking of clever quips now. You'll want to be ready with creative ways to tell him where he can shove it.
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What a POS! Weight has nothing to do with it. It's about getting to know someone and seeing if there's an attraction or connection. He is obviously a superficial misogynist and I would of told him thanks for a waste of 4 months. He could of told you this day one. I would of told him he's too skinny! You weren't attracted to him anyway and to kiss your butt! He did you a favor and definitely not boyfriend material.0
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LOL He has a big belly (not skinny) Thank you so much for your words quote="gailbruno;33921291"]What a POS! Weight has nothing to do with it. It's about getting to know someone and seeing if there's an attraction or connection. He is obviously a superficial misogynist and I would of told him thanks for a waste of 4 months. He could of told you this day one. I would of told him he's too skinny! You weren't attracted to him anyway and to kiss your butt! He did you a favor and definitely not boyfriend material. [/quote]
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I think he's a chicken *kitten* and is having second thoughts or someone else is in his scope. STAY ON TRACK. Lose weight and when he comes around, tell him you don't do shallow men. I was about 200+ lbs when I met my BF (now husband). I ballooned up to 237 over the years we were together and NOT ONCE did he ever cheat on me, or tell me I needed to lose weight. EVER! 8 yrs after we were together, we married and I was still heavy. In 2012, I had enough of being fat and me and me alone decided to lose it. Over 2 yrs, I lost 75 lbs! YOU GOT THIS! I'm still married, he's accepted me as I am. THAT is the type of guy you want. Focus on you and I guarantee, the right man will come a long. HE'S NOT IT!0
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He pursued me all the way to the end, we even got tested for std's per his request he treated me like a girlfriend he would get 'excite"when i hugged him or kissed him on the cheek but no sex so very confusing! quote="newmeadow;33921253"]I love sex, he was the one not puttin out LOL! Thanks .
I guess I don't quite understand it then. He was able to agree to go out with you in the first place and also, apparently, was able to get it up for a "heavy" woman. And he was getting it up for four months with you. Plus he's fat too. Very mysterious.
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