WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR SEPTEMBER 2015

Mary, Margaret, Gayle - what a lovely picture of such lovely ladies. I would have loved having lunch with you all. Maybe someday. Thanks for sharing.

Janetr OKC

I'm still having a really rough time of it. I have a 7 am meeting with my biggest cause of stress right now, so I covet your prayers and good vibes that I conduct myself with grace and dignity. I am so hurt by and so angry with this person that I will need all of the help I can get.

I had a short phone call from my (mental) therapist this morning and she has advised me, to the best of my ability, to put aside all of my worries and concerns about my children, work, the person I'm meeting tomorrow, and anything else causing me stress that I have no control over, because I need to focus exclusively on my own psychological and physiological health while everyone else takes care of themselves. That is, of course, much easier said than done! She has also recommended some changes to my medications to see if that will make coping a little easier.

To help myself, I contacted my surgeon and requested a change in my pain medication since Percoset is not a good choice for me. I picked up the script right after PT and had it filled after work. I set up an appointment with my GP to discuss the changes in my psychotropic drugs--that's on Monday. I called a former coworker who happens to be a pastor in a neighboring town and will probably have a conversation with him on Friday. I need someone further removed from the situation -- both mentally and geographically. I truly am trying to take care of myself!

I'm not going to try to respond individually, but please know that you each rest in my heart.

Carol in NC

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Good Evening Ladies,

Penny, not sure your home was on my bucket list, but does look like an interesting place to visit. Love the web site.

Oconnell, welcome. Please tell us about yourself to help us get to know you. If you just start with the last page you will figure out who we all are. This is a great place for support and information. Please sign each post with the name you want to be called and a location is good too, be it general or specific.

Mia, sorry for your boo boo but glad it’s not too bad. Have a wonderful time on your trip!!!! Hope the bad pirates don’t get ya, mattie!

Sylvia, sending healing thoughts for your DS. Geee, it just never ends for you does it? ((((Hugs))))

QuilterLisa, welcome. We won’t discriminate because you are soooo young. Lol all are welcome here. Tell us about you and a name that you want to be called. Come often for great support.

Heather, I do think you should stay at the expensive hotel one day, but when you can be there and take it all in. This just wasn’t the trip to do it.

Yvonne, glad you are better. When you are feeling rotten, who cares what the weight is? Okay, we do. Lol

Vicki, sure hope your knee gets better real soon.

Susan, the general thought is that how many calories you burn exercising can be added to your intake for the day or some say you can eat back half. I don’t eat back any of my exercise calories so I don’t log it until I have finished my food log for the day. When you put in exercise it adds the calories back to your food calories left.

Mary, thanks for posting the picture. You girls look like you are having fun. How many drinks do I need to add to my food diary? LOL

Barbie, glad you are healing. Sorry to hear about your bone density results but good that it’s not osteoporosis. Yeah for the weight lifting being good for your bones.

Ut Oh, Ladies, it looks like the guys found our secret hiding place. Cover your eyes, everybody!

Carol NC, thanks for taking the time to share what’s going on with you. For sure you have my thoughts and prayers for things to get better and for you to get to a good place. Glad you are working to make it happen. (((((((Hugs)))))))

to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

Another lazy day with lots of tennis watching. Gosh there have been some great matches and I’m sure more to come. Stayed up late last night watching so going to bed now.

I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.

Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

My husband is now in his rehab place. I left him with a very heavy heart since he looked so lost. He was so active today and then just looked lost. I would like to say it is because therapy worked him hard today but from what I hear it will even be harder. But the admission procedure was just me. He didnt involve himself in it at all. I tried to get him but he mentally removed himself. So now I have to completely change my routine that I have had the last 2 weeks. it is so weird being in this house all alone. With all the emotional battles he and I go through at times I thought I would like it butt I don't. They have told him he can go out as often as he wants and I know what he will think about that. But he is still to unstable for me to take him out for every evening meal. I would hope I can use it as an incentive for him to accomplish a certain goal in therapy. but I also know his stubborness of not eating at all, he just went through that for many days with very little eating.

Vicki, you need to get that knee looked at. You heard it pop all those times and it needs attention.

Penny I thought i saw in a recent show that the very colorful houses along the coast line have a paticular meaning. Do they have a meaning or just pretty?

OOPS, forgot that I had my fasting blood sugar scheduled after my brownie. My blood sugar was 104. I know a lot of you would love to have one that low but i try to keep it at 100 or below and last one was 101. Oh well, it is what it is.

Good night girls, going to sleep in tonight, well maybe.

Joyce, feeling lonely in Indiana

(((hugs))) to all

I've had to skim and skip again in order to catch up, but I think I'm finally caught up again after my busy long weekend. Somewhere I missed Penny's picture. Can someone tell me what page it is on so I can go back and look?

Mary/Margaret/Gayle - Looked like you were all having fun together. I do get up to Minneapolis periodically, so maybe one of these days I can join in on the fun.

Joyce - I wish I was in Indiana so that I could be there to provide support. I'm so sorry that you are going through this and feel so alone. Know that we are all there with you in our hearts.

Becca - I have to tell you that I was home alone the other day and so after I showered, I just walked around the house naked for awhile. Thought that, as my nudist friend, you would be proud. Maybe one of these days I'll get up the nerve for nude sunbathing.

Sorry that I can't write more but it's late and I have a 7AM meeting at work tomorrow. And I'm not an insomniac like so many others here. I do best when I get 7-8 hours of sleep at night. Love you all and thank you for being my support mechanism. I think I would have given up by now if it weren't for all of you.

Linda/IA

Mary: The sleep goal I set is a minimum number of hours. I try for at least 7.5 per night, but can deal with 7 if it isn't every day. I found a form online that was made for the purpose of recording bed time and wake time and used it for several months until I was sure I was doing better. I recorded the time when I laid down each night and the time when I woke up in the morning, and figured out how many hours it was each night, and a weekly average. I followed this practice for a couple of months before I eased off on the recording. :yawn: I also made DH sleep in the guest room for more than a month because his snoring was so disruptive. :noway:

Penny: Your 360 degree panorama is wonderful. Thank you for sharing your community. DH was amazed, too. My gym is about 3 or 4 miles away and I drive there. There is a gym a block away, but they're a Crossfit Gym, and not suitable for anyone who isn't already very fit. One of our sailing friends (who is a youngster of forty-something) was hurt so badly she was incapacitated for months because of their gung-ho practices and her lack of self preservation.

Lisa: What worries me is that all this staffing drama might keep you chained there for longer than you'd like. I hope things get straightened out, no pun intended. :laugh: I am of the opinion that straight v gay is really not a choice for most people. It is wired into their biology. Faithful v unfaithful is definitely a choice and the individual is responsible for that. :ohwell:

Margaret: Your diet sounds interesting. I hope you'll give us reports from time to time on how you're doing with it. So far it seems that you are doing very well.

Heather: Your DDIL is in a tough spot. I hope things improve quickly and she can get back to her family and work. :flowerforyou:

Terri in Milwaukee: Sorry about your dad's injury. I hope he is better soon. :flowerforyou:

Janetr: I don't like the new owners of MFP. The "premium" services they offer don't appeal to me, except for freedom from advertising, and I'm not willing to pay for that yet. :ohwell:

Sylvia: I hope the treatments your son is getting in the hospital will help him to feel better and get back home promptly. The DGKs are so lucky to have you as their grandma.

Rita: It sounds as though you're making progress with pain, but not as much with sleep. I hope you'll get the sleep issue under control. In my own experience, sleep has a huge impact on thinking, mood, and energy.

Kim: I'm so sorry your beloved canine walking partner has a serious strain. I can see you'll miss waking with him, but I can't see how you'll keep him inactive. Did the vet give you meds, or a cage, or teach you canine hypnotism??? :huh: We had a Springer mix long ago who was the best dog. I'm glad you've got a good yoga class. Most of my fellow students are 50+, but one of them brought two neighbor kids with her several times. The girl was 4th or 5th grade, and her brother a year or two older. They're back in school now. You younger folks come to the evening classes after work.

Joyce: Thinking of you. (((hugs)))


I'm in CO to help DD with babysitting. I'll be at it for 10 hours tomorrow but DD has three days off starting Friday. My darling little grandson remembered me and came to me with a big smile. That felt wonderful. I'd love to make connections with our CO girls. I'll be in touch when I have a better idea of my grandma duties.


Katla temporarily in Boulder County, CO

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

September Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.

COMMITMENT = SUCCESS

I am having problems with the website. When I click on the bookmarks icon I just get an empty rectangle even though it shows there are X# of new posts. The past few days I ended up search for the Women age 50+. Today the same thing but I clicked on something else that opened a list of all of the replies from all of us. I also can not bold or do italics The only thing that does is put at opposite ends of what I want to bold and at opposite ends of where I want italics. So if it's a little more difficult to read my posts because its all in the same font you now know why

RITA - When I was reading your post where you quickly went through replying to a whole bunch of people in one big paragraph I was reading fast and picturing one of those people on commercials who talk so fast they can't breathe in between paragraphs! Great job of getting so much info into a short amount of space. It did make me chuckle!

JOYCE - More hugs and prayers

CAROL - More hugs and prayers

MIRIAM - Thank you for your kind words and understanding.

LISA - OMG I thought my life was a soap opera but that story was priceless! Can't wait for Chapter 2

TERRI - Hugs to your Dad. The story about his friend going back to the movies and eating the snacks reminded me of Seinfeld. I could so see George (Jason Alexander) doing that very thing.

PIP - What dedication you have to your goals to ride with that shoulder. Hugs to you

BECCA - You are how I see myself in my mind but just don't know how to let myself go anymore unless I have one too many glasses of wine (which is way too seldom ) so I shall live my life vicariously through your stories.

The boys started school today and the grandson I have been having so much trouble with was his sweet self today - total transformation . While I was putting his younger brother to bed he unloaded the dishwasher of his own volition. Now in order to understand how big a deal this is you have to know that while unloading the top of the dishwasher is his responsibility instead of just doing it he normally yells, argues, etc. for well over half an hour before finally doing it. Then he took a shower tonight - his idea! I think I already LOVE his new teacher! Younger GS came home all smiles - likes his new teacher, ready to do his homework, etc. So all in all a wonderful stress free day. On top of that the sun was shining!


I have read to page 22 but did not take notes. I know there were things I wanted to say to many more of you but since I can't even walk from one room to another without forgetting what I was going there for I will have to leave you all with generalities.

To those who reached goals, had wonderful NSVs, had large or small losses, had breakthroughs in relationships or any other wonderful happening in your life - congratulations!

To those who are hurting hugs and healing prayers

To those of you who give of yourselves to help, support, motivate others I send you love

I have not met my goal of getting to bed by midnight yet but am at least getting to bed earlier so guess I will just go to bed a little earlier every night until I hit the midnight mark.

Good night my wonderful friends . . .

Gloria/WA

Katla - you nailed it on all your observations, in my opinion.

Katla49 wrote: »

Lisa: What worries me is that all this staffing drama might keep you chained there for longer than you'd like. I hope things get straightened out, no pun intended. :laugh: I am of the opinion that straight v gay is really not a choice for most people. It is wired into their biology. Faithful v unfaithful is definitely a choice and the individual is responsible for that. :ohwell:

As did everyone who said it is indeed a soap opera. That said... I pulled her to the side yesterday, told her I didn't care what was happening outside the doors to the restaurant, none of it was to come through those doors. And, because I'm a trust, but verify, kind of kitty, also instituted triple sign-offs on all cash procedures. Which I will monitor closely. Plus have another employee from outside the restaurant counting the safe twice a week.

The other piece was I told her to step up or step out. She has to prove she can do the crew chief job before I will recommend her for assistant manager or manager, and so far, she's done a lot of standing with arms folded watching. She stepped up yesterday, and if she maintains that for the next week, will push her to "acting" assistant manager. And continue to observe.

I may be power mad.

My end date is in sight - October 16. Five more weeks. I can do anything for five weeks except hold my breath...

Lisa in West Texas