WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR SEPTEMBER 2015
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Hi Ladies,
Way behind on posting but have been reading right along...Carol I am glad you went to the meeting causing you anxiety...showing up,is usually half the battle..it sounds like things are going better? And I'm with you...I am double divorced I refer to myself as DOUBLE DEE tee hee. Glad for many reasons to be done w both don't think anything could make think of a third time tho at times I feel wistful..
Pip, have fun your awesome!
DJ thanks for the encouragement about my job. I am learning the codes and love the team attitude of my work place the whole attitude there is indeed "Wholesome" in so many ways. Ohh, I guess there is ONE guy I'm seeing ....his name is BEN
BEN GAY
sorry!
Heather thank you for the reminder that I need to pull my head out of the sand and make a solo plan IN WRITING for any eventuality. SOON.
for those with dog babies..we just had a little "dog party" and my living room is destroyed with comforters and pillows, old toys "new to us" toys from Sallies (Salvation Army). And long shank boiled bones from the butchers and two types of treats. I am currently covered w dog hair and fairly happy. One of the toys is a monkey that sings BORN TO BE WILD it's hilarious. Oh and a tip from the Angel Memorial Animal Hospital Surgeon where we got whinnys patella sewn back in place to the tune of four thousand ( thank god they had financial Aid) AND that my Cantankerous EX is such a sucker for her that he coughed up half bless his little little heart. Anyway, the sedative to keep her from being active was a little over sedating her so he suggested over the counter Benadryl or children's strength. I wrap them up in half a slice of squishy processed cheese and say WHO WANTS CHEESY PILLS? And they both turn into dog windmills!
So many other thoughts I've had about posting while reading yours but I have CRS really bad.
Got a little discouraged bc since the first amazing week I lost eight pounds I have been very good on my plan but lost only another pound in three weeks. Then reading about the loose pants NSV earlier I realized that had happened to me at work on Tuesday I wore jeans that were fairly snug a month ago and all day at work I had to keep pulling them up to the point where I worried that surely they were going to send me home for a belt! I also want to admit that I went off plan the last couple days..not so much today but yesterday I ate about twice my allotted calories Cuz I was having a big pout. Not going to get on the scale for a few days..but am ready to get back on track. Gotta go shower off all this fur..I think I'll vacuum first even tho it's late..and pick out some not so droopy pants for work tomorrow.
Love to All
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My heart goes out to those ladies with thoughtless, unsupportive husbands. I too have been there, twice. Am now married for the third time. Took me a long, long time but so worth the wait. Jack is so supportive and does so much for me. We laugh together all day. We've been together 8 1/2 years and will be married six years the 5th of October. Guess three was a charm for me.
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Pip: You'll probably have a good groan at my airstream name suggestion--Ariel. Aria is another possibility, depending on whether you prefer Disney heroines or opera. :bigsmile: Wishing you luck and good health in your bike ride. I hope you are able to finish AND that you won't choose finishing over the needs of your poor shoulder.
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Sandra from Ottawa and all newbies: Welcome to a great group of supportive women. :flowerforyou:
Terri in Milwaukee: Good wishes for your sister and also for you. :flowerforyou:
Linda in IA: I think you are wise to focus on you first. I've been doing that by taking care of myself and having fun every day. It isn't a slap at DH, a rebellion, or anything other than realizing that I have to be good to myself in order to be healthy, and to be a good partner in life. :flowerforyou:
Kim: I'm glad to see that you're still working on having fun. I hope it is as positive for you as it has become for me. Today's fun was taking the dog for a brisk walk on the treadmill at the hotel. He was a good sport. :laugh:
Cory17: I think you are on the right track. I have been taking yoga for several years now and it has helped me reclaim my strength and flexibility. MFP and yoga combined have worked a miracle in my life. I hope you find similar positive results. What yoga has done for me is physical. It has improved my muscles and health. It also helps with clear thinking, in my opinion. MFP has taught me how to manage my weight and to focus my attention on being healthy and choosing healthy activities. This group of women has become a miracle in my life. :flowerforyou:
Becca: You are a wise and admirable woman. I love this, "Some of you have mentioned how their husbands are one way in society and a totally different personality at home with you. My husband was always so business-like and the face of a Navy man. It shouldn't have taken an illness to get him to open up and let me see the emotional side of the man, but it did. Or maybe it was having him realize that other men in the world found me so desirable. So he fought for me a little. He almost lost me, and I almost lost him. So now he walks with me down the street, not paces ahead of me on his own. He opens the door for me, and makes me feel special. As I have realized that I am worth it, he has realized that he needs to be attentive. So ladies demand it, if only out of simple respect for you. You are worth it!" :flowerforyou:
Regarding powers of attorney, trusts and wills: We are behind the eight ball. I think that in our situation and state our best option is to have a trust and a will. The trust would be for investments and large ticket items such as our home. The wills would be for personal items. I have flirted with this whole business, but haven't done what needs to be done.
I was the babysitter today and now I'm pooped. The kids were good for me and I spent time tidying DD's kitchen while they napped. Evidently they don't nap often. DSIL stopped in during his workday to check on me because he was afraid they'd run me ragged. He found them asleep. (He earned
in my book of good intentions & nice things done for me.) DD was surprised that they both slept away quite a portion of the afternoon. Now I'm ready to conk out. Tomorrow DD will be at home and I won't be the only adult in charge. :bigsmile:
DH spent a lot of energy getting things done today. He didn't actually babysit, but he did wear himself out. I hope tomorrow is better for him.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
September Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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I am Tammy and I am 55. I just became a member. I am disabled in a power chair and now wearing a heart monitor. I bombed out on my calorie intake today because of my homemade fetuccini alfredo. I am going to college and majoring in culinary arts and I love it. I found some really awesome wheelchair exercises on you tube so I'll be able to get some exercise in each week. I do need some help and some support especially from my age group of women. Have a good night. Tammy0
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morning friends~
Pip~best wishes on your ride....will be thinking of you...
thinking of the 14 yrs ago and the horrible 9/11 attacks.. thinking of the families ,the first responders..
we had some rain finally and a nice breeze so the humidity down..0 -
Checking in early this morning. I caught up on reading last night but was too tired to even mark my spot in a Pip-like way. Thinking of each and every one of you, especially those with sick and/or difficult husbands. Welcome, Tammy!
Some of you may remember the whole long-term sub thing that didn't work out, because she had the baby early. Well, the prep for that, application, background check, etc, ended up making me eligible to be a substitute teacher in the school. Well, one of the math teachers asked me to sub for her today, and I am going to do it, the kids are going to be wild, because tonight is the big (and I mean big) football game with the school across the river, which just happens to be the school where I taught for 33 years. I said I would never sub, that I was worth way more than it pays, but hey! I get bored just staying home EVERY day, and it will be money I didn't have if I didn't do it, KWIM? Wish me well!0 -
Good morning everyone!
I'm going to take a day off from writing my memoir in order to complete the legal stuff for the rental. DH said he would hold my hand.
I was able to ask for help, which I am pleased about as I often keep that kind of worry to myself as I feel embarrassed about being so silly. DH thinks I am being silly about it, but he is often silly about things I find incredibly easy, so we make a good partnership in that respect. We respect each other's silliness. :laugh:
I consider myself blessed with my 2nd husband. I never thought I would find at such a late stage a real partner in life and he says the same. My 1st husband was not awful, in fact not bad at all, but we didn't know how to nurture the relationship and got to the point where we dragged each other down. We had loads of therapy and finally decided to split at a couples' weekend. We parted as friends. It wasn't easy and I grieved for the marriage for 4 years. Felt I had done the wrong thing. At that point I could only see loneliness ahead of me. Very black. We split while the kids were in the middle of their exam courses and my ex did his best to make sure they suffered as little as possible by living just around the corner and keeping the home together. We then sold the house and I kept my youngest with me in a small flat while the elder went to uni. All in all a "good" divorce.
My ex remarried and has two children 13 and 11. He has been quite ill in the last year, but is ok now. I still feel warmly towards him. He will be at DGD's party on Sunday with his family. Last year he came just with his daughter and we spent the whole time chatting! DH wasn't there, nor was his wife! :laugh:
Like DJ , my husband isn't perfect and I can have my "fed up" moments, but he is a good, honorable and well meaning man who loves me very much, respects me and wants the best for me. That is the basis of a marriage. The minimum. I do the same for him. I wasn't able to do the same for my first husband and I regret that. I was married at 20. I was a mess.
Oh well, TMI I suppose, but it makes me sad to see the marital situations some of you are in. No one should be putting up with that.
Lots of love to all. Heather UK0 -
Linda - The 360° panorama pic is in a link at bottom of third post on p 22. It's not much to write home about today because it's raining and you can't see the glorious mountains on the other side of the fjord (between 280° and 340° on the scale at the top). On second thought, why send you to p 22? I may as well just re-post it. So here it is.
Sylvia - You live somewhere out west in the US, right? No wonder all your husband saw was darkness. The West Coast is the part of the world I have the worst trouble coordinating time with. I have a night owl of a sister in Seattle and whenever I'm awake, she's asleep and vice versa. We usually end up Skyping bleary-eyed at some totally ungodly hour, like when I've just gotten up on Saturday morning and she's just come home from a Friday night concert. Try the 360° webcam before breakfast your time. That should put you in full daylight our time. But look soon. This is the time of year when we lose about 2 hours of daylight per week!
This place "isn't on b]DJ's[/b bucket list" and it isn't Betty's "fantasy sanctuary" and I'm totally cool with that. The High Arctic is definitely an acquired taste, like peanut butter. But it can surprise you. Many of the people who come here contract a mysterious and essentially incurable malady we call the Arctic Bacillus. They move up, intending to stay for a few months, and then find they can't leave. For example, my choir director came up for a 6-month position as church musician, and now he's been here for seven years. Married and started a family.
Concerning the colors on the houses, no, I don't know that there's any special sigificance to them. Towns in northern Norway tend to be colorful, possibly to cheer people up during the long, dark winter. Color doesn't help this far north, though, because for much of the winter it's too dark to see color. (Someone asked me once what color house I lived in and I didn't know because I hadn't actually seen the house for a long time.)
The color scheme in Longyearbyen is official and was designed by an artist. It looks incredibly colorful against the white snow in the bright April sunshine. All the colors in the official palette come from our natural surroundings, but it's only at this time of the year - in the fall - when you can see them in nature. The yellows and oranges come from the fading tundra grasses, and the reds mimic a fine-grained native sandstone.
Beth – Thanks for a lovely story about giving back to the world. :flowerforyou: It put a big smile on my face.
Miriam - How great that your new daughter (can I call her that?) wants to sing in the choir! As a life-long chorister I know how much pleasure and cameraderie singing in a choir offers.
Cheri (((((Big hugs))))) May you find the strength to cope with whatever is eating you and makes you want to eat your emotions.
DJ and Heather– I also got myself a great husband. We moved in together at 20 and got married 37 years ago.
The fact that it works just fine was pure luck, because back then we weren't anywhere near as smart as we are now. We didn't even know who we were yet.
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Pip - best wishes on the ride, and I'm pretty sure the Airstream's name is Amy. Or Aimee, if you want to get fancy.
To all with the husbands from heck... it took me 27 years, nearly 28, to finally go. And I understand putting a date on the end of it for how long you'll put up with it, and I understand staying. But I am here to say--when I looked at him and thought, "I would rather die alone than live with you," it was time to go. I spent the next five months preparing the ground for me to leave. I did not touch him or reach out to him in that five months and he never even noticed, which was part of the reason I finally was able to detach. As long as you can look at that man and think, "I still love you, and I WANT to spend time with you, and the rest of my life with you," you should stay, and you should fight, because you're fighting for yourself and your future.
I told my brother the Christmas that I was 47 that I was going to give it until I was 50, and if my husband hadn't changed, I would leave. He asked me "Why? What do you think will change in 3 years that hasn't changed in the last 27?" It was the spur I needed. So if you're still there, maybe it's time to ask yourself "Why?" And if the answer isn't satisfactory, then maybe it's time to go. If the reasons you're staying are for YOU, then stay.
I will step down off my soapbox now. Leaving was the best thing I ever did. Scary, but amazing. And I found the love of my life at the end of that rainbow. We've been married six years now, together for seven in November, and I've never been happier. Not saying that's everybody's happy ending... maybe yours is loving yourself, finally. I'm doing that part, too, as well as being slap-happy.
About my relationship, anyway,
Because at work, the soap opera continued. Spent all day yesterday trying not to fire four people, and was successful, after MANY discussions with corporate human resources, over 400 miles away on the other side of Texas.
One of my servers decided to drink in the bar Wednesday night while she was off duty. After three double vodkas, she walked out without paying her tab. The bartenders pushed the lead server, who had the manager card, into voiding the ticket, instead of just paying the tab and sorting it out the next day, which is policy--the bartenders are responsible for paying walkouts, as it keeps them attentive to all the tables and denizens of the bar. It happens almost never. And Texas Alcohol and Beverage Commission demands that alcohol sales at a bar are paid that day, so they are sure to get their taxes. Basically, they risked their TABC certifications, our liquor license, and if TABC runs an audit, we may still be up for major fines. *sigh*
I had the walkout server's termination papers written out, but negotiations with HR ended up with me writing all four of them up. So four different meetings, same upshot: do it again and you will be terminated. Walkout on a tab is theft, and there is zero tolerance from the owners or from me. But because the bartenders buggered the situation right into the ground with that voided ticket, EVERYbody got in trouble, and because I didn't fire them, I couldn't fire her. The walkout server paid for the tab, which we put back in through the system, and will no longer be drinking at the bar. And unfortunately, she was in line for the next crew chief position, as was the lead server who used the manager card to void the ticket. Now they will both remain servers for the foreseeable future.
Here's the kicker--because it WAS an employee who walked out, I could have actually got their money back to them, and would have - even if I had to pull it out of the server's final paycheck. With a stranger walkout, I couldn't have done much, honestly.
Anyway, in order to regain my equilibrium, I am running today. Should have just gone ahead and run yesterday. Would have helped me stay on a more even keel.
These are my monkeys and this is my circus. For 35 more days. No more.
Thank the good Lord.
Lisa in weird, wacky West Texas0 -
COMMITMENT = SUCCESS
Just finished page 26 - yay! I can't remember who said after hearing about the problems with husbands she was glad she was single! I was going to say that the other day too. I've been divorced since 1980. Haven't even dated. After 2 marriages and a long term relationship I decided that I was making bad decisions about men and was going to take time to work on myself. So that's what I did. Went back to college to become a paralegal and transfer to 4 year college. Raised my kids. Did pretty much what I wanted for a few years after I finally got the last one out of the house. I'm not sure that I have it in me to compromise anymore which is what I think it takes to have any serious long term loving relationship.
Off to bed for me - another great day with helpful, showered grandson! I know it won't last forever but I am going to bask in the joy while it's here! Gloria/WA (suppose to be 86 here today)
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Well, I just won tickets to see Three Dog Night from one of the local Oldies Stations. Now I have to get a bunch of work done, because another co-worker asked me to win him tickets to Garth Brooks from the new Country Station, and that happens at 7:15am today. Fingers crossed that today is "Super Lucky Winner Day". I will read and post shortly.
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Morning gals,
Well I am proud to say I did not eat my emotions last night. I did have my standard evening snack of a Fiber One 90 cals. Brownie and that is it. I almost finished my afghan which kept my hands busy.
Husband came up from his man cave downstairs and we did have words. I immediately went to bed but on the way up I reminded him that we don't do "carry over" which is to say in the morning all is put aside. This is a take away from one of our best therapists. One of the many reasons we opted for separate bedrooms was so in these situations we could decompress in our own ways over night. I had a good cry and was finished with it. Thankfully he followed through with this rule.
I want to let you all know how much this board means to me beyond the MFP aspect. Your support is so appreciated.
My husband has Aspergers. He was diagnosed late in life and with this diagnosis came a whoosh of relief to both of us as to what was "wrong" with our relationship. He is steadfast in his beliefs and thusly a lot of life is black and white. He comes off as being terribly selfish and self absorbed. Because of this I feel neglected a lot and that is what reared its ugly head. We love each other dearly (34 years) and therefore will remain partners for life navigating the "alone-together" highway of our lives.
I could write volumes but I live it so don't want to rehash here.
We are headed to Chicago for a short visit to our kids. Our daughter is struggling (ADD, Autism, OCD, SID) and she just needs to see us and know that her life is not as overwhelming as she may think. She desperately wants to leave Chicago and move closer to us so she can lean on our support from a closer place. So we will come up with some sort of plan for her. Will also get a glimpse of our very busy CPA son hopefully.
Have a great Friday my friends,
Cheri in Beautiful NE Ohio this morning0 -
Terri, Three Dog Night was the only rock band I ever saw in concert as a kid! What a hoot!
I, too, read about the difficult husbands and am filled with memories about my difficult former husband. Terri, I had to leave the hospital 27 hours after having a C-section against doctor's orders, because our babysitter reneged the day I had my baby and my former husband wouldn't take that day off from work! So I went home with my newborn to take care of my two year old after being sliced open! I stayed in the relationship for 15 years, trying everything I could to make it better, but when I got to the point I was not only thinking about suicide, but thinking about taking my three sons out with me so they would not be left with their abusive dad, I realized I had to get out. I escaped with my three sons, across the entire continent, with just a car and a tiny trailer. Slept on the floor on lounge chair pads in a tiny apartment the first year. And we were never happier. It was such a relief to not be subject to constant criticism. That was in '93 and after several failed dating attempts I realized I was a poor judge of men, and too willing to tolerate bad behavior, and so I stopped dating about ten years ago. Two of my three boys refuse to have anything to do with their dad. The youngest doesn't remember how bad it was, so he has a relationship with him, although he has acknowledged that his dad is an a**. Turns out he does OK as a grandfather, but my son never leaves his boys alone with him.
I meet with the lawyer today in preparation for court to terminate parental rights for my girls on the 18th. Then we file for adoption and it should go quickly.0 -
Miriam love the choir picture. I think it is wonderful your daughter wants to be in it.
Pip have a great ride. MNMargaret 0 -
Good morning everyone.
Hugs to all .... (((((hugs)))))
Read through the posts, husbands....ummm .... not enough space here for comments and don't really have the time to b****ch...about it and don't feel like it today either. One thing I will say.... I cannot stand the word "whatever" .... but I do have a lot of fun shopping through several stores looking for "whatever" so one of these days when I ask him what he wants he may actually say, instead of saying "whatever" . I have come home and said I couldn't find "whatever", so what I have bought will have to do!! lol...
My weekend starts today.... getting ready to make salsa... going to card making class this afternoon. DGS will come visit tomorrow, I hope I can keep him entertained and make salsa at the same time...
Off to have breakfast. I have had a headache for three days now - so obviously there has been some sugar in something I have been eating... better label reading required here.
Have a good day everyone
Lillian in West Central Saskatchewan0 -
Done my legal forms, though I was stumped on some of the questions and have already forwarded dome of the certificates they asked for. :ohwell: so I might get them back again. I still have to have the transfer deed signed in front of an independent witness, so I will go next door go our nice new neighbours this evening and ask them. Must put my face on! :laugh: Then I can stick it in the post.
Didn't need DH's help after all.
Next thing, once we have exchanged, is to get a house clearance company to take all the contents away. That will cost.
I bought it fully furnished in 2007 so it all needs to go. Nothing much worth saving. 
Just one last thought on marriages - you don't have to hate or even dislike your husband to know that your life together has run its course. You can still love them and support them in their future life, but not continue in that most precious of relationships - a marriage. They are not alternatives. We should never stop loving. :flowerforyou:
Heather UK
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Morning Ladies,
Joyce, what insight and understanding about what a preacher goes through. Thanks for sharing. It sounds like Charlie is making improvements so that’s a good thing. Just be sure to take care of yourself and remember we are with you. (((((Hugs)))))
Mindy, glad you are getting friendly with Ben. I may need to give him a shout out real soon and see if he can do something for me. tee hee hee Your doggie party sounds like a blast. Ya gotta love processed cheese for giving dogs their pills. Definitely don’t let the lack of losing weight slow you down. It seems that during the time I lose the least is when I shrink the most. Go figure? Just keep up the good work. We can do this!!!!
Katla, I like your name suggestions for Pip’s Airstream. I hope you enjoy your time with DD and family.
Tammy, welcome. You will find this a great place for support and information. I guess you did bomb out if you made homemade fettuccini alfredo. I love it but no longer consider it something I will eat because of the high calorie content. Good for you on finding the chair exercises. Come often and join right in.
Allison, I’ve been thinking of the day as well. It is hard to believe that it’s been 14 years. The sad thing is, I think the threat of terrorist is greater today than ever.
DrKatie, wishing you well for subbing today. I think that is one of the hardest jobs there is. I subbed a few times at the school where I knew most of the kids and they knew me. It wasn’t so bad, but I can’t even imagine going to a school where you don’t really know any of the students or staff. Definitely underpaid for the job, but like you said, it’s money you wouldn’t have had.
Heather, so glad you asked DH for help on your dreaded project. It will make it go easier just to have a little hand holding. I’m happy for you and others that found a good man after your first marriage. Sometimes it is just a matter of a good fit, I think. Similar likes, values and mutual respect really help make a marriage work when added to the love.
Penny, what a true statement about not being as smart when we got married as we are now. I’d like to think I did good due to my superior intellect, but the truth is I think it’s always a lot about luck. I’m just glad some of us were the lucky ones that got a keeper.
Lisa, thanks the that next installment in As West Texas Turns. You just never know what will come next? You really sound ready for this to be over. Are you comfortable leaving even if you don’t feel you have finished what you set out to do? I’m sure there are mixed emotions.
Gloria, glad you had another good day with DGS. Yes, enjoy it while it lasts. You are right about compromise in a marriage that works and about being able to enjoy being alone and on your own. Let’s face it, there is no “perfect” and any life can be as good as we make it.
Terri, you are so good at winning all the radio station things. I’d love to see Three Dog Night and Garth Brooks. You can win me some tickets if you also win me the airline tickets to get there. LOL
Cheri, Woo Hoo for you on not eating your emotions!!! I’m glad things were started fresh this morning. Sending good thoughts for DD and her situation. (((Hugs)))
Lillian, I hope you have a good weekend “whatever” you decide to do. Lol I find it difficult to shop for whatever if I am on a tight schedule. You take care.
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
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Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Oh, Mary, I intended to ask... I've been strength training for about 10 days now. (I hasten to add light weights and not every day - I'm well aware of the danger of injury if I overdo it.) I've felt just fine the same day as my workout, but the day after I'm simply ravenous! I can't seem to get enough food!
Is that anything you recognize? If so, do you have an explanation for it? And will it calm down eventually? I'm too weak-willed to have to fight hunger pangs.0 -
morning peeps -
packing what i'm gonna ride in on day one then on day 2... kirby made me spaghetti for tonight, he's getting a pizza from over there. i will still be posting here and there and on fb too when i can. think of me at 7am pst, that's when the time starts to ride on day one (PACIFIC STANDARD TIME).
LATER PEEPS. thanks for the name suggestions, so far amy sounds cute.... keep em coming.0 -
Pip - that looks purdy! X. Have a great time!
Heather UK0 -
Just a few short words this morning. It's official, I'm sick. Doctor has been called, only sinus, it not comfortable and not sleeping.
Joyce, indiana0 -
Happy Friday ! ! !
Cheri – Hugs for not eating your emotions. What crochet project(s) are you working on? Please post a picture of the finished product.
Becca – You go gurl ! I have taught my DH and DS to open doors for ALL people, but to walk faster and stand holding the door even longer for ladies. They both still need reminders, but are MUCH better than just a few years ago. It has been at least a year since I stood outside a closed door that they did not hold open for me. DH needed quite a bit of prompting at first, but almost losing me (us) was an eye opener for him, too. Because of his traumatic brain injury, we sometimes have to start back at the beginning to remind him. My tiara’s make it all tangible.
Pip – May the wind be at your back and the sunshine on your face. Have Fun ! ! !
DJ – I do stay home sometimes, especially for the local events. It depends on how important of an event it is (qualifier vs finals), how far away, how long we will be gone, etc. Sometimes DH works, so it is only me taking DS to events. Since DH doesn’t take me anywhere if it is not for a tournament, I deserve to “get away”, so I go along and try to find a massage or museum or fitness center or something. But since DS is my “final child”, I also don’t want to miss out on a new landmark. What if he throws his first 300 game, and I stayed home for no good reason? I would feel terrible. I usually stay home during baseball practices. A few years ago, when DH was in the midst of his mid-life crisis, I stayed attached to him by the hip, because I needed to re-validate his commitment to me. But, as that part of our lives gets farther into the past, I break away and take care of me a little more every month. Re-learning trust is harder than I expected, but I’m getting there, 1 day at a time. // I’m so happy that you found the right man the first time. The best thing about my DH is the same – he knows how to make me laugh. And he tolerates my cr@p plenty, too. I’m also glad yours talks too much, I envy that ! ! !
Mindy – Hugs for your plateau. Jump right back on the wagon, and let’s get going. Nice NSV !
Time for lunch. Hugs for Everyone ! ! !
Terri in Milwaukee (wearing a Bears shirt and scarf)0 -
Oh, Mary, I intended to ask... I've been strength training for about 10 days now. (I hasten to add light weights and not every day - I'm well aware of the danger of injury if I overdo it.) I've felt just fine the same day as my workout, but the day after I'm simply ravenous! I can't seem to get enough food!
Is that anything you recognize? If so, do you have an explanation for it? And will it calm down eventually? I'm too weak-willed to have to fight hunger pangs.
I have found this same thing happening with me. I try an eat more protein to compensate. Is this normal with lifting?
Cheri NE Ohio0 -
Happy Friday! I am to be off the weekend, but our night lady has her son in ICU so I may end up working tomorrow so the person scheduled can work the night shift. So should know later today.
Cheri--Hugs!
Sylvia--Glad DS is home. Hope all went well with the DGC and their supper with the other grandparents.
pip--Will be waiting to hear about your ride and your trip in the new airstream.
Tammy--Welcome. You have come to the right place for support and friendship. Come often this works.
katiebug--Hope today goes well at the school. I hope you use the money for something special for yourself.
Just found out I will be working the long shift 6-5:30 tomorrow and be trainning the new lady all day. Could be interesting, but do not have to work with the boss so that is a plus.
Terri--You are one determend person when it comes to winning tickets.
Joyce--Please take care of you. Last thing you need is to be sick. Worried about you and saying this in love.
Going to be short today, not sure when I will be able to check in tomorrow as will be trainning. Have a good day ladies and remember One day at a time.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND-NE0 -
OConnell5483 wrote: »fanncy0626 wrote: »I was so excited to meet with Margaret and Gayle that time flew by! We were having such a good time!
Margaret, Mary and Gayle
Have a great day everyone!
Mary from Minnesota
I am so glad to see this picture! I am from Minneapolis originally and my family lives there. My two favorite aunts live in NE Minneapolis...their names are "Gayle" and "Mary Margaret". Just thought it was kind of ironic!
Too funny!!! Love ne it's the new in place for Minneapolis!! When you come to visit let us know. Gayle Minneapolis
I certainly will!
Tracie in WI0 -
DJ from Myrtle Beach said: "Oconnell, welcome. Please tell us about yourself to help us get to know you. If you just start with the last page you will figure out who we all are. This is a great place for support and information. Please sign each post with the name you want to be called and a location is good too, be it general or specific."
Thank you for the welcome, DJ! Just a note about who I am, since you asked.
My name is Tracie. I'm 55 years old. I live in Green Bay, Wisconsin. I'm married, a second marriage for both him and I. All together, we have 6 kids (3 each) from our previous marriages. Between all 6 kids, we have 17 grands and 1 great-grand! Yes, holidays are quite hectic but fun, fun, fun!
In 2011, I was diagnosed with Stage III breast cancer. I had a bilateral mastectomy, 5 months of chemotherapy and 6 weeks of daily radiation. This is actually the first year that I have not had to be hospitalized or have a surgery related to that diagnosis and it's been so wonderful! My journey on here is because I want to take back my life. I haven't felt good since I went through treatment. I gained 40 lbs from chemotherapy and all the steroids they give you. My brain is in a state of fog all the time (chemo brain they call it, and yes, it is a real thing). I just have no energy and need my weekends to just rest so I feel good enough to make it through work the next week. So, to make a long story short, I am trying to take back my life. I want to feel good again. I want to be able to remember things again and have a clearer brain. I want to get rid of the hot flashes and weight gain that being thrown into full menopause from chemo has so nicely given me. I want to do everything in my power to start exercising and eating clean healthy food and know that I have done everything I can to try to keep the cancer from returning.
I enjoy fishing, being by water, being outdoors in the woods or outside anywhere really...I am a huge Green Bay Packers fan. I am trying to teach myself to quilt which is quite the adventure if you could see how bad of a seamstress I am!! LOL! (it's pretty bad). I'm klutzy so get teased a lot for that. I love to read. I love to do nice things for others and love to feel like I've helped someone.
I guess I told you more than a paragraph's worth! I hope I didn't bore you all. More than you needed to know, right?!
I'm really looking forward to getting to know you all better. I can already tell what a great group of ladies this is.
Have a great weekend.
Tracie in WI0
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