WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR SEPTEMBER 2015
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Happy Friday. Well I am wearing my huskers shirt and jeans at work and love it. Enjoyed our evening out with friend for supper. I did really well and brought half home and going to have for lunch today. Working with the boss today, so could be an interesting day. I am working on thinking positive.
Woke up to rain this morning and cooler weather. I do enjoy having the windows open.
pip--Hope you are feeling better today. Glad the surgery is over and now the hard part begins. Thanks for sharing the pictures, looks interesting.
mtowne--I understand why you lost it. You have been bending over backwards to help these people and you are getting no respect. You have to stand up for yourself and when you say you are going to do something you need to follow thur and that is just what you did. I back you up 100%.
Sylvia--WOW! The change in your shoe size is something. I am glad they are checking into what is going on with your DGD. But I am like you and want them to get to it. Do they have anymore scheduled visits with the mom coming up?
Kim--We spending the holidays in a lot of different ways. First I work everyother holiday so that leaves just going home afterwards. We do different things with the kids and DGC, but never all together. Also we have gone and helped serve dinner at the Salvation Army and a church that does meals for the homeless and those who would not have food or any where to go. I agree you do not have to spend time with family that has abused you. Check and see where you can help out and be a Blessings to those who have less then you. One thing I do every year is put up a tree. The year our son passed away I didn't and it just did not feel right. Also I send out lots of cards and to me that is one of the best thing about Christmas is hearing from family and friends we only hear from once a year. You are more then welcome to come spend any holiday with us.
Joyce--Sorry about how things are going. I pray things get better. Why is it when our DH's are not feeling well we feel we must do anything and everything to make them better and they blame us when it doesn't work. Please you take care of you. I agree with these other ladies that you need to get some help or tell Charlie if things don't change he is going to have to go back to the rehab center.
Heather--You are like me, when we went to the store last evening I was going for a Huskers shirt and two bed pillows. Ended up spending over $100. I have to stay out of the stores more often.
Margaret--Hope you find the choir that works for you. You have to find what is comfortable for you and sounds like this lady needs to relize that she is working with adults.
Janetr--Sending prayers for the family that lost their mom. It is never easy rather they have been sick awhile or go quickly.
Mai--How painful. I know several years ago I thought I just had a pimple back there. Went to the doctor and he told me it was a large boil and they had to lance it. I ended up off work a couple weeks and DH had to change the dressing and pack it several times a day. So glad you don't have that. Sorry TMI.
All this talk about Christmas. I love that time of year. The last several years I have made cookies with the DGC that live here and then we go and pass them out at the library or where ever the homeless people are. Since we have so many DGD and now 4 DGGS I am trying to make things for them this year. Most the time I shop all year, but this year just haven't gotten started. But I love the church music and sharing the meaning of the holiday with the kids.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND-NE0 -
Kim, my heart breaks for you and the holiday stress. I have not gotten together with my "family" for 40 years or so. They never invite me and I never invite them. When my son was small it was hard because I had no money for gifts and things, and felt awful about it. We never got gifts from my parents or anything like that, but one year my sister actually bought us a christmas tree. We had nothing to put under it or decorate it with, but it's the thought that counts. We made paper ornaments and streamers out of toilet paper.
When I married my husband my son was grown and off on his own and heavily into drugs and stuff, and was missing most of the time, so holiday time was not fun for any of us. When he married and had kids things were nice for a couple of years, then he got mad at me and I didn't see him or the kids for 6 years. During that time, hubby always tried to plan a trip at holiday time so I wasn't home to dwell on it. Now, my son and the kids have been back in my life for two years and those Christmases were very nice. I dearly love seeing the kids rip open their gifts, and I now have the money to spend on them that I didn't have when my son was younger. And I can use Christmas as an excuse to give them clothes that they desperately need.
Is there a college near you that has international students or students that don't have a place to go? Here there are, and I always thought it would be nice to have some of them come over on the holidays. Even the dining halls are closed Christmas and Thanksgiving days. My husband is not very social and wouldn't go along with it though. Too bad.
A couple of Christmases we spent with his sisters and their husbands in North Carolina. I always felt awkward about that. They were always a little TOO nice to me, because my son was so screwed up. His family is not close either.
I hope you can find a friend to spend the day with. Maybe you could put out a call on your local facebook "Looking for singles to share the holidays with..." or "Singleton Christmas Party" or something like that. There have got to be other people in the same boat. I recently posted that I was looking for somebody to walk with and made a nice friend from that.
Take care.
Sylvia
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Meg, I have been wondering about you! I keep looking at the map and thinking we will get rain in a day or two, but that system has just stalled over the Missouri river! Stay dry!0
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Our Christmas tradition: I was the only one in the family with kids for several years. Everyone wanted to see the kids open their gifts so they would all come to our house. We have a big breakfast after the gift opening. Late in the afternoon we go to my parents for dinner. My mother in law goes also, so we have never had to divide holidays between the two families. We've kept up the tradition even though the kids are now 27 and 24.
Maryann in Michigan
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I'm here and haven't drowned yet despite 6" of rain. Now it needs to dry out. I've been having trouble getting on the site, but thinking of you all daily. meg from soggy omaha
My goodness, that's a lot of rain. Ireland can be soggy, too. That's why we have 'forty shades of green' on the Emerald Isle.
Pip WOW! 2miles, even with a handrail. That's epic!
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So sorry for your loss. May you and the family find the strength to carry you through this trying time. Letting a loved one go is never easy. My heart goes out to them.janetr7476 wrote: »Pip good morning. How did your first night go?
My good friend, ex-daughter in laws Mom, passed this morning. She was diagnosed with aggressive brain tumor about six weeks ago. The family made the decision to take her off of life support last night as there was no brain activity for the last 48 hours. Not an easy decision. Please remember them all in your thots and prayers.
Janetr OKC
Mia Shingles is the pits. I'm with you on the pillow. I seldom find a comfy one at a hotel.
I get you with the taste changing. I no longer like some of the things I used to think I couldn't live without. I even have my salad naked. (No mayo
not no clothes) The flavours are amazing, especially when picked fresh from the garden.
Mary We sometimes do a bran tub with small gifts. It's great fun except for hovering up the shredded paper afterwards.
Irish Terri
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Pip, you are A M A Z I N G, that's all.
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Hi all: Raining here today. I woke up early this morning to go to the bathroom and then went back to bed for a little while. The bed still had a warm spot when I got back in and I felt extremely grateful for comfy blankets and pillows and a warm little cat by my feet. Such luxury!
Pip - You go girl! but don't overdo it.
Christmas has varied from just our immediate family or just my DH and I to big family gatherings. I like both. This year we will have a big group as we just moved to the west coast this summer. My DM (91) will come up with my DSis and DBIL from California. She will stay with us and DSis will stay with my nephew who lives near here. My DB is also planning to come with his family. DGD will be here as this is my son's holiday to have her. I always do some decorating but not as much when it is just DH and I, will probably do much more this year. When my DD was in Denver there were several friends who could not go home for Thanksgiving and they always had an orphan's Thanksgiving. Everyone brought something and they all had a meal together. My aunt always had Christmas brunch at her house, they opened presents and then everyone went to in-laws or wherever for the afternoon. I spent a couple of Christmases there when I was in college because I could not afford to go home.
Janetr - Tegaderm keeps water out, chlorine kills germs. Less chance of infection in the pool than in your hospital room. Wishing you well with the surgery. I am glad I had mine done as I would probably not be horseback riding otherwise.
Joyce - Respite care? You need to take care of yourself. When my DH had bypass surgery he was cranky and anxious and sometimes seriously obnoxious. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise but my horse also got hurt at that time. The hour per day I had to go out to the stable to care for her was my saving grace and he could not argue with the need to do it. It was my time to relax and just be quiet while I worked with her. Besides she appreciated it!!
Healing angels to all who need them and congratulations to those with victories. Sue in WA0 -
********************ALERT TO HORSE FRIENDS in NC********************* I don't remember where everyone is who has a horse but the following recall was issued today.
Murphy Farm Hay and Feed Company of Louisburg North Carolina has initiated a voluntary limited recall of alfalfa hay due to potential Blister Beetle contamination. The product was offered for sale to consumers at the following two retail locations, Murphy Farm Hay and Feed in Louisburg, NC and Jones Farm Hay and Feed in Middlesex, NC.
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Hey peeps,
I slept off and on as u can imagine. It was comfortable when I didn't move, lololol. Pretty successful day today. I walked 2 miles around the track holding the handrail every bit of the way it was a slow pace. Nurse suggested not getting on the treadmill because I'm still drugged up so I didn't. She said probably after 15 minutes of walking find me feel like I need to sit down. She doesn't know about my workout activity. I was able to make it for 73 minutes! Kirby helped me take a shower a bit ago. I tell u guys, he is such a good man, I am Geary eyed as I type this, he is truly a blessing that has come into my life.
After the gym, Went to Starbucks and Cosco usual. Put a load of laundry in. Now it's all about relaxation and pain pill. Mom keeps calling to see how I am doing. She said she is going to make tamales for him and ship them out to us. Kirby (and I) are excited! That is an aLL day thing and I am sure she will have help but at 80, it's not easy.
As a treat to myself, I bought a blt sandwich on Wednesday but I left my cc in my sweater pocket that I leave at work. one of my co-workers offered to bring it home and is also bringing me a bbq plate, how sweet is that!
My spin instructor is due to bring me the spin bike to borrow today sometime. Enough he pecking for right now. Oh and thank u to all for suggesting I crop out my name and stuff off of that X-ray pic!
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Pip- you walked pretty fast! Glad that you are up and about!
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Becca - do you decorate, do the tree and all that? or with the holiday working around the Navy do you just save gifts or not? or? And if no one's home on Christmas day, is that ok with you or ??? Can you tell I am into details LOL
Kim
Well I normally have my tree up by the 2nd week of December. I doubt my older two active Navy sons can get leave after having leave in October this year. Im excited that they are all coming to visit from Oct 9th thru 15th! I might just put the prelit artifical tree up. I still have the youngest home (hes 16 and not in the Navy yet) so we do the presents thing with just us three. Once when it was just the eldest son in, his leave was from the end of December to mid Jan, so our Christmas Day was actually New Years Day. My youngest son was freaked out because Santa wouldn't be coming. I told him Santa has been informed so no worries! Since moving up to Oregon from California (to get husband on the liver transplant list), we see my in-laws on Christmas Day or the day after. Its kind of hectic, but in a good way. Not used to that much hustle and bustle! Currently I have my middle sons Christmas present from last year! Some stories my husband has written, some are published material, so very proud about that. Mostly Sci-Fi stories that were published in a magazine so it he was actually paid for them as well!
Becca
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Just got the news a bit ago that my ex had passed. All in all today was not a good day. Lost two good friends. Feeling heavy hearted.
Janetr OKC0 -
janetr7476 wrote: »Kim - I put a Christmas tree in every room of the house, including kitchen and bathrooms. I LOVE Christmas. Last year I had 19 people. My oldest daughter and her two youngest were here, Jack's three kids and some of the grandkids, my next door neighbors. (Thanksgiving we had 23) Jack and I have spent a few holidays with just the two of us. I don't like it. I'm from a large family and love a large crowd. Jack's kids tend to "get mad" and sometimes stay away for a year or two at a time. Right now they are "mad" at their mom and so are seeing us. Go figure. I just go with the flow. But I decorate and cook even if it is only Jack and I. When I was single I either went to one of my girl's home and the other one would come there too, or I'd go to a sister's house. I'm sorry you are alone. I know how hard that is. (((Hugs)))
Janetr OKC
Wow Janet Im impressed! I have some treasured things but being that my husband has spent many a Christmas's onboard ship, he freaks out if I decorate too much. One year they took 7-up cans and coke cans and stacked them up in a tree formation (kind of sad when you ponder it)....or they drew a tree on their plotting board in CIC. Whatever they could do to not go crazy onboard worked. I bought a tree once and had to carry it home from the base. I had to take a train to get home, so I bought it a ticket so I wouldn't get in trouble for taking anothers persons "space" up.... Christmas trees aren't a big thing in Japan so I always had a crowd of kids every time I turned on the lights...haha...kind of creepy seeing their faces in the dark...ooooga booooga.
I have long sinced stop the endless baking. Its just too expensive for me to do. I do manage a pan of fudge though, and maybe a tube of sugar cookies for my son and I to decorate.
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janetr7476 wrote: »Just got the news a bit ago that my ex had passed. All in all today was not a good day. Lost two good friends. Feeling heavy hearted.
Janetr OKC
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One Christmas when we were still living in a traditional Japanese house (rental) off base, we found out a shipment of Christmas trees were coming in to the Army base near us. We didn't have a car then, so we rode our bikes (I pulled a Burley bike trailer with #1 son in it). The trees were huge and bound up so we bought one and took a couple of bungie cords and strapped it to my husbands back. We all were laughing so hard seeing this tree on him, he looked like he had a rocket strapped on! The pointing we got from people was hysterical and we got the "right of way" all the way home! Sadly no pics of that event.....
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PIP - do what the doctor says
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janetr7476 wrote: »Just got the news a bit ago that my ex had passed. All in all today was not a good day. Lost two good friends. Feeling heavy hearted.
Janetr OKC
So sorry Janet. It's always hard to lose a friend. I will keep both families in my prayers this weekend. You0 -
Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening Ladies,
Barbie, your comments to Kim about the holidays took the words right out of my mouth….or off the ends of my fingers. As we have moved away from family and friends we have certainly changed the way we celebrate the holidays. There are always people around that have no family and no plans that would love an invitation to a holiday dinner or celebration. And yes, it is so different now that I don’t use food as recreation. My periodontist didn’t think much of it (one way or the other) when I got a Waterpik about a year ago but my checkups have been even more positive since then. It now gives instructions on flossing with the water under the gum line. Just FYI.
Katla, first of all, I love the new picture. I can’t wait to see what you decided for the holidays. I would love to take a Christmas cruise but DH is just not into cruising. At our age, Christmas just will never be like it was when we were young and when we had a young child at home. Those were such special times and hold wonderful memories but things have changed. I even have such great memories of gift giving and receiving and what fun that was. At this point there is so little that we want or need so even that has changed. I love the Christmas Eve candlelight services.
Joyce, I guess I am just a selfish type person because I don’t think you should feel bad. You are working your tail off trying to do all you can for him and I think it’s perfectly normal to feel the way you do. We are all human after all. So why do you think he ate when he did? Was it because he knew you weren’t going to baby him at that time or what? The good thing is that he did eat and the BP got better. Remember you have to take care of you to be any good to him, so give yourself a break. You are an angle.
Mindy, glad you got the yard mowed. I know you were not happy with yourself for calling him a looser, but the truth is, that is what he was acting like. Who knows, maybe hearing that is what got him off his butt to do something. You are doing great so give yourself a pat on the back.
Penny, OMG I’m still laughing at your DH saying, “I think you have dialed the wrong number”. So sorry your throat is bad, too. Hope you start improving immediately.
Miriam, glad you at least got one step closer on the apartment paperwork. Crossing fingers now.
Lillian, your gardening helper sounds like so much fun. We worry so much about cleaning house for company but I’ll bet they won’t notice if you don’t get it all done. Just have a good time.
Heather, I just love reading about your food. Also your shopping, like “When I get into that fishmonger I am a devil. ££££££££££ s.”. LOL
MNMargaret, good luck in seeking a new choir. I agree that #1 and 2 should be the most important things. Any new choir will be lucky to have you.
Terri, I love reading about your different holidays. That is one nice thing about the Moose, that anyone can go there alone and not feel alone.
Janetr, sorry about your friend’s Mom passing. Gosh brain tumors can take people out fast or at least the one’s I’ve known of.
Mia, how wonderful that your pillow found its way home!!! Did you call or did the hotel do that on its own?
Katla, I have always loved Christmas sweaters and had quite a collection which I wore during the holidays. This year I’ll be starting from scratch but I’ll manage to get one or two.
CarolNC, I have to say I hate that you and others prefer to do nothing for the holidays. Of course that is your option but even when there are just the two of us, I have a warm feeling about Christmas and always remember the reason for the season.
Irish Terri, your Christmas’s sound wonderful.
Meg, I hope you live on high ground and are staying home. That is a lot of rain.
Pip, so glad to hear that you are doing M A R V E L O U S, as expected. It seems you have it all under control but do please take it easy for a day or two. We love you!
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
DH and I went shopping this morning (well almost noon) and then out to lunch. I came home and started a pot of soup which will be for tomorrow. Tonight is baked chicken, fresh green beans and fresh broccoli. Yeppers, I like green veggies.
Sending the best thoughts to all of you and I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
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Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Janetr - I am so sorry
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Janetr-I'm sorry for your losses. Hugs!
DJ- I think I feel so negatively towards the holidays because there are so many expectations and I can't meet them so I don't try so that I won't fail. Being by myself doesn't help any. I have begun using a portion of both Thanksgiving and Christmas to reflect and meditate, focusing on the good things I have in my life.
I am still struggling with depression but it is not as deep as it was. There are two or three things that weighing so heavily on my mind and it is simply going to take time to process/grieve. I'm trying hard to be patient with myself.
Hope everyone has a good evening!
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Pip, I knew you'd be up and moving immediately
Janetr, so sorry for your multiple losses Mia, shingles is the pits...... glad you got your pillow back..I know how I feel about mine DJ, I've thought about the water pik, thanks for sharing your experience with it, but so far, have stuck with the suggestions of the woman who cleans my teeth.
Joyce, keep taking it one day at a time and be mindful to take care of yourself..we are here for you to vent so you can go back to being loving to Charlie I have enjoyed hearing about all the holiday traditions...we are all so different, yet we are so supportive of each other. Barbie
PS, do you know that you can edit your post for an hour after you post it, so if you want to add, delete, or correct something, you point the cursor at the top right hand corner of you post and a small wheel appears, click on it and the word edit shows up with the number of minutes you still have to edit....click on that and you'll get your post back to make your changes.
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Just as I was ready to drift off to sleep last night, I heard a huge thump and I got up and found Charlie on the floor. Flat on the floor, on his stomach. He said he lost his balance coming back to bed from many of his trips to the bathroom. His blood pressure was OK, no bumps or bruises so we went back to bed. This morning he ate fairly well, blood pressure OK so no worries. So we went to the mall for his normal daily walk he had always done before meningitis. we got 3 short laps in along with his 3 trips to the bathroom. I walked through antique stores while he went to bathroom. Then on the way home he yelled out for me to get his jacket from the back seat and get it quick. I knew what was going on but it was to late. So now I have to find out if my cleaning worked. I used vinegar and dawn and a scrubber and eventually the paper towels came out no color.
The afternoon just got worse. Normal blood pressure became down in the 90's, then 80's and then 70/40. Pretty dizzy. called doctor and this medicine he ordered last night will be doubled for the weekend and we are to give report Monday morning. I would have rather just driven t o the ER. But most of the time he feels OK, just certain times his blood pressure just drops. I know there is a condition that heart rate and blood pressure can plummet when you have a bowel movement or vomit. But that's not the case here. He ate a weird supper but did force it down. 3 tamales with Brooks super hot chili, potato chips and grapes! When he left the rehab center, he was deemed completely capable of caring for himself. Now to go back to the rehab, you have to have a 3 day stay at a hospital. Now that part of it I wouldn't mind it at all.
MnMargaret, I dont know what I would do without my choir and especially the Christmas music. I missed it this past Wednesday night. I do have the practice CD and practice at home.
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I'm home! Trying to catch up with everyone. Y'all posted a lot while I was driving 575 miles!-1
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janetr7476 wrote: »Just got the news a bit ago that my ex had passed. All in all today was not a good day. Lost two good friends. Feeling heavy hearted.
Janetr OKC
I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
Beautiful day today! Here is a little fall color! From my walk today!
Mary from Minnesota0 -
Did 1 hr workout in the pool today. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Kelley Coffee Meyers workout.
Before exercise, I took our aluminum to the Humane Society, after working out I came home and had breakfast. Went to get my bangs trimmed, stopped at Big Lots, took some pics of their Halloween and Christmas decorations to see if Vince is interested. Got him more rye bread. Stopped at the dollar store and got some dark chocolate M&M's, I should have gotten the other bag, they were 50% off. Not sure why they were marked down and another bag of the exact same ones, same expiration date, wasn't marked down. But I did get the marked down bag. Stopped at Burke's Outlet since I was there but they didn't have anything. They very seldom seem to have something. Home and had soup for lunch. It's getting chilly. I was thinking about starting to string the popcorn on the porch for the tree but I think it's actually a bit too cool. Did make up the bed in the backbedroom, decided to put the blanket and winter bedspread on it
Sylvia - so sorry for your pain. Hope those new shoes help
Gayle - I've never heard of that store in NC
Kim - usually I have Christmas Eve here and Jessica and Denise come by. Hope Denise comes this year. I told her that her coming in Sept (before Vince's operation) my biggest fear was that she'd feel that since she came in Sept she didn't have to come in Dec. She promised me she would come so I told her that I'd make it work for her to be here. So far she hasn't said anything about plane reservations or anything. Guess we shall see what happens. Hey, Becca, is your hubby a pastor....lol?????
janetr - chlorine kills bacteria, so if I were you, I wouldn't have any hesitastion about going into a pool with an open wound. Now there isn't chlorine in shower water (at least there shouldn't be) so I can understand why you might not want it. So sorry for the death of your friend. I'm so so sorry about your ex
Joyce - I don't know how you do it. I would probably be crying all the time. Come and vent any time at all that you need to. I for one do NOT think you're selfish at all, you are very very unselfish if anything
Lillian - glad you had help with the gardening
Betty - In a way I'm starting to dread the holidays, too. Especially if Denise isn't going to be here since I know Bryan won't.
Hey, I just had a thought, I'll run it by Vince and Jess. Maybe I can/should invite her friend who just moved here, her friend's hubby, their son and the hubby's mother over? They won't know anyone.
pip - hope you got a good night's sleep. Can you ship the tamales? Isn't there a concern about keeping food at a safe temperature. Of course, your mom may be shipping them in an air cooled truck. What a great coworker you have. And Kirby is something else, that's for sure. So glad for you. You must have amazed the people with your walking stamina.
Mia - glad your pillow was returned to you
terri - Vince has two bowling balls and one that is old that he has at home. Me? I still have my ball from over 30 years ago. It does what I need to have it do, it sometimes knocks down the pins. That makes me happy. There is one guy in our league who has 20 (get that number) balls!
All this talk about christmas Eve and Christmas day dinners now have me thinking -- what's everyone going to serve that is sort-of diet friendly? We usually have only fish for christmas Eve.
Gayle - thanks for posting that about the recall. I got the notice this a.m. and was going to post it, but now I don't have to.
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You are an inspiration Pip! I'd say take it slow and steady....but that went out the window.....!
My thoughts and prayers to all who are suffering physically, mentally and emotionally. This group of women is so strong in supporting one another thru all our different life's trials. We are quite the blessed group here.
Husband went down today with an illness. He is NEVER sick! He was laying on the couch moaning and groaning. I asked him what was up, what hurt, etc... did he need me to get him anything. He replied that he was in "excruciating" pain. I said did that mean we needed to get him in the car and on the way to the medical clinic. He said no. I asked what hurt and he replied his legs. I asked on a scale of 1 to 10 how much it hurt. I expected him to say 10...after all that is the number that belongs at an excruciating level of pain...he said "4"! Honey, that is not "excruciating"! I sent him up to bed. Still sleeping it off....oye vey when men get sick?!
I could go on and on about the topic of holidays....we are Jewish and so have many different holidays but the same problems. When your husband has Aspergers and doesn't get along with his family let alone your own it makes for interesting holiday situations. I totally concur with him that both our extended families are dysfunctional but I do have more of a sense of obligation towards family. I mentioned before about "living on the rim" of the families. For a long time I would take the kids and go to family functions. He would be pissed when we left and more pissed when we returned and the burden of that got to me and the kids after awhile. So we stayed home and had our own family holiday celebrations. I no longer wanted to endure his battles about it and I no longer wanted to attend these events without my husband at my side.
Which brings us to the current situation of being invited to my parent's for this Thanksgiving as all of my siblings, spouses, grandchildren and great grandchildren will be attending. It will be the last big gathering as my parent's are both ill and cannot handle the crowd anymore. We all haven't been together since my dad's 80th birthday party 5 years ago. I knew my husband would say no and he expected I would also. He was angry when I said I should go and wanted to go. The kids would also like to go. And you know what....I gave him 1 day to get over himself and I have become so much stronger in doing this stuff on my own that I don't feel bad about it. He makes his choices, I have learned to respect them and he should reciprocate with that respect.
You ladies here on the board have helped me see that I can do these things on my own (we do everything together) and it is okay and it is something I should do going forward. So I will be attending Thanksgiving with my extended family. It means having to drive long distance on my own which I have never done before, it means leaving my husband home without a turkey day, it means withstanding my "dysfunctional" family for several days but I'm gonna do it!
Husband is moaning upstairs I guess I better check on him....I really do care but when men get "sick" it just laughable sometimes. At least mine is.
Have a great weekend everyone. We are having beautiful fall weather so I long walk is in my weekend!
Cheri NE Ohio
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Meg I could never live in Omaha - too many destructive kinds of weather disturbances! Do you have a row boat just in case?0
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