What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Having that problem now......very overweight friend is massively jealous of my weight loss....gets pissed at my new food and drink choices and is always passive agressive about how i look....im still the same person there's just less of me.5
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This is a great post! I remember reading some of it in March when I started my path to healthy hoping to have these issues....53 lbs down (and more to go) and love having some of these issues. I cannot get over my mind set of shopping for clothes- having shopped in the plus or Woman's section for so many years, I feel like I'm an intruder and out of place in regular size sections. Not to mention how overwhelmed I was with the amount and selection of clothes! Holy cow! I left with nothing the first day because I didn't know where to start! Getting easier!7
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If they order it for THEM it's really tempting and kind of demoralizing to me. But then they say, "But we're not dieting"
"No, you are on a diet--the 'I often eat more food than I need' diet."
If somebody eats the same way on a regular basis, then that is their diet. What they really mean to say is, "But, we don't want to think about or change our diet."
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Yesterday my boss threatened my job.
No one told me how hard it was going to be to feel the feelings, but only eat the food.10 -
Yesterday my boss threatened my job.
No one told me how hard it was going to be to feel the feelings, but only eat the food.
As an outsider, look at how you've handled that negative situation at work and managed to summon the strength to create a positive reaction. I hope your work matter sorts itself out (it's a tough position to be in) but whenever you have any self doubt just think of what you achieved yesterday! ❤
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How everybody thinks they own your body if you ever mention that you are losing weight. They start giving you advice, telling you what to eat, how much to exercise, what weight you should aim for... and they absolutely CANNOT believe when you tell them you are not on "a diet", you are just more careful about what you eat and you write it all down! I can see their doubts; like 'you've never been slim why do you think you'll ever be'5
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That when you get less back fat you get sore points on your back from some of the yoga moves, however thick your mat is.
I also recently got asked by a colleague how I lost the weight and when I said with calorie counting she said oh I could never do that it sounds like so much effort. It didn't surprise me and i actually chuckled inside because i have read on here so often that that is the usual response.2 -
What shocked me the most has been the scowls I get from some co-workers who say they want to lose weight but don't try to. And the comments that they make about my weight loss - you're too skinny now, you look sick, why are you still working out, etc. It's eye opening to see how un-supportive people can be when you actually make positive changes in your life.
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I hate when ppl say " ok u can stop now, u too skinny" or "well Damn how much do u want to lose , u need to stop" or when u don't want to eat something " you can give yourself a break & eat this". Hell I'll eat what I want when I want..... U just want to say SHUT UP!!! Lol
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crazygooselady wrote: »What no one tells you, and I didn't go looking for, is that you should err on the side of overestimating your calories,(while staying under goal,) and underestimating your exercise for best results. Took me a long time to realise that I was doing it backwards. When I finally had that face palm moment, I started consistently taking off the weight.
I'm so glad that someone else has also made this observation. I have been doing this recently to lose those last few kilos & maintain, and its definitely working. Not sure why I didn't think of it sooner!
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No one told me how some people would actually resent you for doing what they think they can't do.
And that they would resent you for not taking their dieting/exercising advice.
I've lost 43 pounds and you've been 'trying' for over a year. Excuse me while I keep doing what works for me.4 -
I notice since I've been a yo-yo obese person for all of my adult life that people walk on egg shells about my weight and say nothing about it but I'm sure they think I'm going to fall off again or quit again or they just aren't sure what to say. It's weird. I post my miles on my Facebook every few days and only my mother in law and a few long time friends ever comment on it or like it....crickets from all 125 others and I'm on day 94. Thanks "friends".
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I went from 214 lbs to 180 lbs and just am stuck for about a month now. It's almost like I hit a wall.. so re thinking everything, I started over on here. I am starting at 183 lbs and not 214 lbs anymore. My goal is 165 lbs. So I think my what no one tells you about weight loss is the bumps in the road you will face! It's not just reaching your goal...it's the long journey it's going to take! It may be easy, it may not be. I am on the it's not easy journey!
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How some insecure friends start to avoid you because you've always been ''the fat friend'' and now you're ''magically'' skinny.
Same here. Some of my friends have tried to eat better and make better choices, but they get irritated and stop. Then, of course it is my fault. How?? Not sure. Guess it's time to make new friends
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As I loose weight, old emotions and hurts surface. I have eaten to push down those things.7
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I ran a race the other day. My daughter took a picture. Nobody told me that I was going to be able to see muscles. They STILL haven't mentioned the 40 pounds OR the muscles the picture shows. It's like if they don't say it, then it ain't true. But it is. I'm losing weight, defining muscle, becoming the me that I was always meant to be. And while everyone is staying silent on the outside, on the inside I'm screaming how proud of myself I am, and LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!!
No one really mentions anything like that to me either, but thats what we have MFP for! To celebrate all of those things with each other Hope your race went awesome! 1 -
S_Evanson613 wrote: »I ran a race the other day. My daughter took a picture. Nobody told me that I was going to be able to see muscles. They STILL haven't mentioned the 40 pounds OR the muscles the picture shows. It's like if they don't say it, then it ain't true. But it is. I'm losing weight, defining muscle, becoming the me that I was always meant to be. And while everyone is staying silent on the outside, on the inside I'm screaming how proud of myself I am, and LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!!
No one really mentions anything like that to me either, but thats what we have MFP for! To celebrate all of those things with each other Hope your race went awesome!
Someone I have known for years came up to me at the gym today and said "I wasnt sure if I should say anything,but you look great-how much weight have you lost?". I happily told them,but it made me wonder..are some people just afraid to say anything for fear of being offensive?9 -
How... you can't stop thinking about it even when you get to goal.
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The pic that shows the muscles on my legs...that NO ONE mentions. This is the pic that shows me RUNNING...both feet off the ground running...that's one of my granddaughters, we are racing!
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You've lost weight on purpose right?.........I suppose it's just a little less tactless than "you're sick right?"2
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S_Evanson613 wrote: »I ran a race the other day. My daughter took a picture. Nobody told me that I was going to be able to see muscles. They STILL haven't mentioned the 40 pounds OR the muscles the picture shows. It's like if they don't say it, then it ain't true. But it is. I'm losing weight, defining muscle, becoming the me that I was always meant to be. And while everyone is staying silent on the outside, on the inside I'm screaming how proud of myself I am, and LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!!
No one really mentions anything like that to me either, but thats what we have MFP for! To celebrate all of those things with each other Hope your race went awesome!
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The pic that shows the muscles on my legs...that NO ONE mentions. This is the pic that shows me RUNNING...both feet off the ground running...that's one of my granddaughters, we are racing!
Dang, you do have some muscles. And it looks like your granddaughter is having to run to keep up. My daughter can WALK to keep up with me when I run. It's pathetic.4 -
How falling off the wagon even a bit can scare you into getting back on track. I gained back 3lbs but when I looked in the mirror it looks like 10. It's enough to get me back to the get to, lol.7
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Getting used to compliments on appearance or new clothes. It feels good & different.1
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I went from 214 lbs to 180 lbs and just am stuck for about a month now. It's almost like I hit a wall.. so re thinking everything, I started over on here. I am starting at 183 lbs and not 214 lbs anymore. My goal is 165 lbs. So I think my what no one tells you about weight loss is the bumps in the road you will face! It's not just reaching your goal...it's the long journey it's going to take! It may be easy, it may not be. I am on the it's not easy journey!
I did the same thing and still the same now for 2 months I started at 157 now 138 hit my platue so I'm regrouping started a whole new workout and hoping to shock my body into loosing again cause that's what you have to do. I was on a routine and I'm changing food as well good luck0 -
The pic that shows the muscles on my legs...that NO ONE mentions. This is the pic that shows me RUNNING...both feet off the ground running...that's one of my granddaughters, we are racing!
!!! I can see your muscles !!! People are so mean (and jealous) sometimes.
You look great :-)))1 -
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I read all the new posts every day and they are so encouraging, keep up the hard work 2
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The going down in shoe size is what's surprised me.
I don't know why I believed this person, but back before Google was particularly good at finding quick answers, I asked her if you could lose enough weight to drop shoe sizes and she acted like I was a moron and said no. At the time it rather crushed my dreams because I really wanted Japanese-made shoes and the company didn't make Western sizes.
I am back to being an 8-8.5 depending on style/brand now. Hadn't bought an 8.5 in years until today!4 -
S_Evanson613 wrote: »I ran a race the other day. My daughter took a picture. Nobody told me that I was going to be able to see muscles. They STILL haven't mentioned the 40 pounds OR the muscles the picture shows. It's like if they don't say it, then it ain't true. But it is. I'm losing weight, defining muscle, becoming the me that I was always meant to be. And while everyone is staying silent on the outside, on the inside I'm screaming how proud of myself I am, and LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!!
No one really mentions anything like that to me either, but thats what we have MFP for! To celebrate all of those things with each other Hope your race went awesome!
Someone I have known for years came up to me at the gym today and said "I wasnt sure if I should say anything,but you look great-how much weight have you lost?". I happily told them,but it made me wonder..are some people just afraid to say anything for fear of being offensive?
I talked to one of the guys I work with about this. He said something to me after about 45 pounds. He is someone I felt OK asking, so I said "Did you just notice?" He said "NO, but talking about a woman's weight is hard for a man to approach, I don't want you to think I am saying you were fat before, but there is no way not to notice that you have lost weight now" He didn't want to offend me.
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I went from 214 lbs to 180 lbs and just am stuck for about a month now. It's almost like I hit a wall.. so re thinking everything, I started over on here. I am starting at 183 lbs and not 214 lbs anymore. My goal is 165 lbs. So I think my what no one tells you about weight loss is the bumps in the road you will face! It's not just reaching your goal...it's the long journey it's going to take! It may be easy, it may not be. I am on the it's not easy journey!
I recently had to reevaluate my goals too after hitting my half-way point. It was liberating and gave me a big boost of motivation to keep going. No one told me that weightloss would require some strategic skills in order to succeed. When I view it as a "game", it doesn't seem so overwhelming. It's also pretty great because my prize is a healthy body and mind.7
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