I have a gym crush he's caucasian and I'm mix ! Help!
porcelain_dj
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Ok so I have a hug crush on this guy that goes to my gym. I workout 4 days a week and 3 out of the 4 day I'm there he is also there. When I go to the gym I'm extremely focused and he is too. It all started about a month and a half ago. I was working out with one of my co workers . We were just chit chatting about how to build muscle in my problem areas when my crush (not at the time) walked by. My co worker stated to me that my crush use to be extremely skinned and now he is just godly lol like a Greek god !!! He's about 6'3 ,caucasian ,blonde hair , blue eyes and slim built. Ever since that day I started to notice him more and more. About a week and a half after that I was working out my triceps. I looked in the mirror to make sure my form was correct and then I saw him looking at me in the same mirror but then he quickly turned his head . Ever since then I can feel him looking at me and when I decided to look back he looks away. I'm extremely shy to say anything and when I hype my self to say something I chicken out big time . In my gym there's a private room with punching bags , ropes and TRX equipment. I was working out on one of the stands and I had my head phones in just jamming. He came over and point basically asking if I was done and I just waved it off like yea I'm done. Big mistake ... That was like my chance but I never took off my headphones. But lately for the last week I've notice him workout closer and closer to me. I don't know if I'm over thinking that he might be interested because I'm so interested in him. Should I say anything to him? I don't know if he is even attracted to me . I'm a very pretty woman inside and out but I'm mix with Peruvian , Jamaican and Native American and I'm on the browner side. I'm curvy built 36-27-43 . I started at 179 now I'm 159 !!!! So I don't know if he is interested in another race . I'm down with the swirl life lol( interracial dating) but I never been hit on by a white guy before. And I am so scared of rejection because I never put myself in the position to be rejected. So what should I do!!!! I need help!!!! Serious answers please!!
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Where are you? I'm in Canada (caucasian )and I wouldn't have even thought about the mixed / interracial difference. Here there is such a mix of everyone from every ethnicity from an early age that it's not even a thing. Some people have blue eyes, some have brown, some skin is darker, some people are taller.
Speak up, or you'll always wonder. Good luck, though I'm sure you don't need it.0 -
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I'd like to think that we're a modernized enough society where this really shouldn't be a factor.
Just talk to the guy.0 -
I have nothing to offer other than I just love a good romance story!!! *claps hands in excitement for you*0
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@If he's checking you out, I'd say there's a good chance he's interested. Talk to him. Humor is a good place to start. While you're jamming out, maybe stop and ask if he likes New Kids On The Block, too? (or something silly like that to make him smile and catch him off guard, a bit. Idk, I'm old and unattractive so I have always had to find ways to initiate conversation with women. You are beautiful. I'm sure it will go fine.
Lol I may just do that and thank you. And don't down yourself there's other ways to be attractive other than our outer shell
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arkowalyshyn wrote: »Where are you? I'm in Canada (caucasian )and I wouldn't have even thought about the mixed / interracial difference. Here there is such a mix of everyone from every ethnicity from an early age that it's not even a thing. Some people have blue eyes, some have brown, some skin is darker, some people are taller.
Speak up, or you'll always wonder. Good luck, though I'm sure you don't need it.
I live in north east Florida . But the city I live in you do not see a lot of interracial couples. I guess I'm super nervous because I never been approached by other races only black men. And thank you0 -
pookie1983 wrote: »I have nothing to offer other than I just love a good romance story!!! *claps hands in excitement for you*
Lol me too!!! I've been reading all of these type of threads and one I get to the end there's like no ending whether the girl finally got the "balls" to say something and what happened after ... I'll definitely keep you posted ☺️0 -
devilwhiterose wrote: »I'd like to think that we're a modernized enough society where this really shouldn't be a factor.
Just talk to the guy.
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its 2015 just talk to him that shouldn't even be a thought in your mind as far as color your a pretty girl have some confidence.0
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porcelain_dj wrote: »@If he's checking you out, I'd say there's a good chance he's interested. Talk to him. Humor is a good place to start. While you're jamming out, maybe stop and ask if he likes New Kids On The Block, too? (or something silly like
Well, I am fortunate to have a wonderful and beautiful woman who loves me for me, so I'm good! Good luck and keep us posted!!porcelain_dj wrote: »@If he's checking you out, I'd say there's a good chance he's interested. Talk to him. Humor is a good place to start. While you're jamming out, maybe stop and ask if he likes New Kids On The Block, too? (or something silly like that to make him smile and catch him off guard, a bit. Idk, I'm old and unattractive so I have always had to find ways to initiate conversation with women. You are beautiful. I'm sure it will go fine.
Lol I may just do that and thank you. And don't down yourself there's other ways to be attractive other than our outer shell
Well, I am fortunate to have a wonderful and beautiful woman who loves me for me, so I'm good! Good luck and keep us posted!!
☺️☺️☺️ that's wonderful!!!! I know she's a lucky lady !!! Hopefully I'll get enough guts to approach him ! (Fingers crossed)0 -
hannibalholt89 wrote: »its 2015 just talk to him that shouldn't even be a thought in your mind as far as color your a pretty girl have some confidence.
Yes it may be 2015 but people still dislike the fact of interracial dating. And some ppl just don't find other races attractive or there scared of what ppl may think . Me ... I don't care what so ever what ppl think . I'm me ! Lol It's not that I don't have confidence. I just don't want to make myself look like a fool. I neeeeeever approach a guy. So I don't even know how to approach him specially at a gym ! Now if it was at a bar that's a different story. I'll be a little easier since ppl at bars are there to have a good time and you will always meet someone new at a bar but in a gym ..... Idk it just feels weird . But thank you for your opinion I appreciate it☺️0 -
Both move to Mass... so many interracial couples here and NO ONE gets bothered.. just saying for those down south who say the North is so bad... ah no. Other than that...ask him to go have a smoothie after the workout...just do it!0
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Well, if you never approach a guy instead of at a bar, I'd say that reduces your prospects by half. If you never tried something new that makes you feel a little awkward or weird, you'd have to reject most the workout machines at the gym. Look at this as an opportunity to practice something new.
My daughter is in an "interracial" marriage. She stares down the fools. ("Interracial" is offensive in itself. We're all the same race).
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HawleyGriffin wrote: »I think it all depends what percentage of Peruvian you are.
Just kidding. You are hot and he is totally interested!!!
Lmbo!! Thank you!!!0 -
porcelain_dj wrote: »hannibalholt89 wrote: »its 2015 just talk to him that shouldn't even be a thought in your mind as far as color your a pretty girl have some confidence.
Yes it may be 2015 but people still dislike the fact of interracial dating. And some ppl just don't find other races attractive or there scared of what ppl may think . Me ... I don't care what so ever what ppl think . I'm me ! Lol It's not that I don't have confidence. I just don't want to make myself look like a fool. I neeeeeever approach a guy. So I don't even know how to approach him specially at a gym ! Now if it was at a bar that's a different story. I'll be a little easier since ppl at bars are there to have a good time and you will always meet someone new at a bar but in a gym ..... Idk it just feels weird . But thank you for your opinion I appreciate it☺️
yes I get it trust me I am into women of all races, so I have passed up a lot of possible opportunities because I felt there may be an issue due to skin tone and what not. If he is showing some type of interest then just approach him when there is down time and introduce yourself. As a man i can say that is VERY attractive to us because its rare women have the guts to do that. You don't have to go all the way in and ask if he has a gf or anything just plant the seed introduce yourself that will let him know you took the first step now how he reacts will let you know if he is into you.0 -
porcelain_dj wrote: »Ok so I have a hug crush on this guy that goes to my gym. I workout 4 days a week and 3 out of the 4 day I'm there he is also there. When I go to the gym I'm extremely focused and he is too. It all started about a month and a half ago. I was working out with one of my co workers . We were just chit chatting about how to build muscle in my problem areas when my crush (not at the time) walked by. My co worker stated to me that my crush use to be extremely skinned and now he is just godly lol like a Greek god !!! He's about 6'3 ,caucasian ,blonde hair , blue eyes and slim built. Ever since that day I started to notice him more and more. About a week and a half after that I was working out my triceps. I looked in the mirror to make sure my form was correct and then I saw him looking at me in the same mirror but then he quickly turned his head . Ever since then I can feel him looking at me and when I decided to look back he looks away. I'm extremely shy to say anything and when I hype my self to say something I chicken out big time . In my gym there's a private room with punching bags , ropes and TRX equipment. I was working out on one of the stands and I had my head phones in just jamming. He came over and point basically asking if I was done and I just waved it off like yea I'm done. Big mistake ... That was like my chance but I never took off my headphones. But lately for the last week I've notice him workout closer and closer to me. I don't know if I'm over thinking that he might be interested because I'm so interested in him. Should I say anything to him? I don't know if he is even attracted to me . I'm a very pretty woman inside and out but I'm mix with Peruvian , Jamaican and Native American and I'm on the browner side. I'm curvy built 36-27-43 . I started at 179 now I'm 159 !!!! So I don't know if he is interested in another race . I'm down with the swirl life lol( interracial dating) but I never been hit on by a white guy before. And I am so scared of rejection because I never put myself in the position to be rejected. So what should I do!!!! I need help!!!! Serious answers please!!
More squats, lunges, and deadlifts.
He's apparently into fit girls, which you are.0 -
First of all you are a beautiful girl.. second yes you are overthinking it. Just talk to him and have a casual conversation. Good luck0
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ScorpionQwean wrote: »Both move to Mass... so many interracial couples here and NO ONE gets bothered.. just saying for those down south who say the North is so bad... ah no. Other than that...ask him to go have a smoothie after the workout...just do it!
"Hey, I really like you but don't think we can be together here. Let's move to Massachusetts because a stranger on the internet said it's allowed there."0 -
_incogNEATo_ wrote: »ScorpionQwean wrote: »Both move to Mass... so many interracial couples here and NO ONE gets bothered.. just saying for those down south who say the North is so bad... ah no. Other than that...ask him to go have a smoothie after the workout...just do it!
"Hey, I really like you but don't think we can be together here. Let's move to Massachusetts because a stranger on the internet said it's allowed there."
Um... are u really taking that seriously? Like who the F would move? Ugh... stay incogNEATO bc ur answer was just dumb....0 -
CasperNaegle wrote: »First of all you are a beautiful girl.. second yes you are overthinking it. Just talk to him and have a casual conversation. Good luck
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ScorpionQwean wrote: »Both move to Mass... so many interracial couples here and NO ONE gets bothered.. just saying for those down south who say the North is so bad... ah no. Other than that...ask him to go have a smoothie after the workout...just do it!
Yes , down south is totally different than up north. The only thing with asking him for a smoothie after is that i work out at 9:30 pm
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I have nothing to add.. Other than you're really attractive.. Say something to the guy " hey how's it going?"0
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ScorpionQwean wrote: »_incogNEATo_ wrote: »ScorpionQwean wrote: »Both move to Mass... so many interracial couples here and NO ONE gets bothered.. just saying for those down south who say the North is so bad... ah no. Other than that...ask him to go have a smoothie after the workout...just do it!
"Hey, I really like you but don't think we can be together here. Let's move to Massachusetts because a stranger on the internet said it's allowed there."
Um... are u really taking that seriously? Like who the F would move? Ugh... stay incogNEATO bc ur answer was just dumb....
What answer are you talking about? I basically paraphrased what you told her. So..
I read the bolded part like this by the way:
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Isn't Netflix and Chill a thing. I know you're down south, but consider Hulu and Chill to get down with this.
*Not affiliated with Netflix, Hulu, Disney–ABC Television Group, Fox Broadcasting Company, or NBC Universal Television Group.0 -
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As a white male southerner, I'd say if you really like him, say something to him. Start a conversation. See if it leads somewhere. If it's somebody you'd feel interested in and that you "missed out" if you didn't give it a go, then do it.
But as it sits now YOU are the one being biased for the questions you are asking and not giving him a chance.
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Down south? Is this the 50's? Is it still Friday?
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As a white male southerner, I'd say if you really like him, say something to him. Start a conversation. See if it leads somewhere. If it's somebody you'd feel interested in and that you "missed out" if you didn't give it a go, then do it.
But as it sits now YOU are the one being biased for the questions you are asking and not giving him a chance.
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He used to be skinned?
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