What nobody tells you about losing weight
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TeresaMarie2015 wrote: »- That eating healthy, veggies & low fat, lean meats) can mean eating a lot of food - some days I am just tired of eating, and still don't reach my calorie goal.
- Those who have seen me go up and down over the years are not saying anything about my weight loss (and they never say anything about the gains either)
- Working out makes you smaller even when the weight loss is not so great.
- Sometimes your friends need to change to enable your goals (aka no more drinking night out with the girls.)
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Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!36 -
brightresolve wrote: »How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
Yesss!!! I find it so hard to explain this to other people who haven't gone through this all! I also hate when people say "you weren't that big before". Honey, yes I was and we all know it! Don't lie to my face.
Same! When I had a 31 BMI and was thus, by definition, obese, people would tell me that I'm only a little chubby or that I was "fat in all the right places." Ummmm...... NOT. It's true that I have a pear shape (some say I tend to look hourglassy though), but especially now with before and after pictures at hand, I can clearly see that I was pretty big before. When I dropped my first 10 pounds, I had people telling me that I was already fit now and should stop losing weight (????). NO. I was still overweight at that point.
Idk why people are in such denial about others being fat. Sure, I did not want to be called "fat," and I wouldn't call someone fat; that's rude and uncalled for. HOWEVER, I did not, and still will not lie. Lying is not helpful at all. I was indeed noticeably overweight at that period in my life, so people telling me that I wasn't really that big before completely disregards my hard work (40+ lbs down) to getting healthy.5 -
nobody tells you about having a pannus and what the surgery is all about. Nobody tells you about how people instantly become friendlier towards you and actually start "seeing you" and "looking at you" as opposed to completely ignoring you when you're overweight.4
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You will lose some friends who see you as a threat! Just let them go.....
Saddest and HARDEST part for me! Its still a super sore spot and its been over a year now. But if it had been me, and my fat lonely best friend gained a hell of a lot of confidence, met her future husband, and started lapping me during exercise I may have gotten jealous too.
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Boobietrap1337 wrote: »Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!
YES! The same thing happend to me.... in 1 month, i've gained 10 lbs. Then again, i FEEL SO MUCH MORE ENERGETIC NOW! I am able to EAT in moderation, have an ice cream on some days and not be depriving myself of it! Did your trainer explain WHY the weight gain after 3 weeks of being in a deficit?1 -
This is so very true...... I wasn't complimented by theses friends but I was noticing that they started to be cold towards me and I wasn't invited to hang out with them anymore and when I mentioned that to them they try to make me feel likes it was all in my head and that was nuts... later they became hostile towards me so I stopped trying to hang with them...You will lose some friends who see you as a threat! Just let them go.....
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- It takes a very long time for your brain to realise what size you actually are now and alot of tight spots are not so tight anymore.
- Some people will say you have lost enough weight, dont become a stick, your face wont look nice if its skeletal etc even if you are still in the overweight BMI category and clearly not at target weight.
-Shopping is harder because you have too many options.
- You can be the centre of attention at many group gatherings when people are shocked at your weight loss. Just smile and say thank you.
- Some friends do not take no for an answer when you decline unhealthy foods or eat a salad at dinner. They go on and on and on and on that its only one time and somewhat act offended.
- Many people, once they see you, have a natural reaction to say 'oh im so fat, i need to lose weight too, I cant beleive how big I have gotten". When in reality they are still smaller than yourself and probably a bit intimidated.
- You get a regular period within a few months of healthy eating.
- Plane seats aren't as small as you thought they were.
- You can wear super high heels now without them hurting after half an hour.4 -
Thanks everyone for the motivating posts! I have experienced many of these in the past and these are a great reminder for the difficult days ahead!
Best comment from last loss.... holding a can of veggies up to read ingredients and son commenting, "wow, the Mom has muscles"!
Can't wait to get them back!1 -
Shouliveshappy wrote: »Boobietrap1337 wrote: »Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!
YES! The same thing happend to me.... in 1 month, i've gained 10 lbs. Then again, i FEEL SO MUCH MORE ENERGETIC NOW! I am able to EAT in moderation, have an ice cream on some days and not be depriving myself of it! Did your trainer explain WHY the weight gain after 3 weeks of being in a deficit?
At 1200 calories, your body is being deprived of the resources to fuel everyday activities. 1200 is not enough for your days work. It adapted by slowing down your metabolism and conserving what energy it can making you sluggish. This is what people dub "starvation mode".
Now you'be moved to 2400 calories. This is where the good part starts.
Your body is still in starvation mode. The body still thinks you're going to deprive it. It will continue to store the extra calories it can. After a couple of weeks, your body will begin to realise that it has enough energy for day to day and then some. Your have more energy, your metabolism increases all because your body knows it knows it can drop a bit more hard work into those bodily processes. This is when the weight loss begins with a consistant calorie deficit.3 -
This is what I cannot wait for. My wife's best friend has a toilet tucked into a tiny nook and I refuse to poo while there cause there was no room for me to move to be able to wipe!+ You realize you don't need to go into the handicap stall in the bathroom any more to feel like you have enough room. Strange things like that.
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The happy but annoying "can't keep my pants from falling down" problem! lol!0
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Shouliveshappy wrote: »Boobietrap1337 wrote: »Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!
YES! The same thing happend to me.... in 1 month, i've gained 10 lbs. Then again, i FEEL SO MUCH MORE ENERGETIC NOW! I am able to EAT in moderation, have an ice cream on some days and not be depriving myself of it! Did your trainer explain WHY the weight gain after 3 weeks of being in a deficit?
At 1200 calories, your body is being deprived of the resources to fuel everyday activities. 1200 is not enough for your days work. It adapted by slowing down your metabolism and conserving what energy it can making you sluggish. This is what people dub "starvation mode".
Now you'be moved to 2400 calories. This is where the good part starts.
Your body is still in starvation mode. The body still thinks you're going to deprive it. It will continue to store the extra calories it can. After a couple of weeks, your body will begin to realise that it has enough energy for day to day and then some. Your have more energy, your metabolism increases all because your body knows it knows it can drop a bit more hard work into those bodily processes. This is when the weight loss begins with a consistant calorie deficit.
I know you're trying to be helpful and the other things you said certainly have merit. But I beg of you, please please don't perpetuate the myth of starvation mode. It isn't a thing. It isn't real.18 -
Shouliveshappy wrote: »Boobietrap1337 wrote: »Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!
YES! The same thing happend to me.... in 1 month, i've gained 10 lbs. Then again, i FEEL SO MUCH MORE ENERGETIC NOW! I am able to EAT in moderation, have an ice cream on some days and not be depriving myself of it! Did your trainer explain WHY the weight gain after 3 weeks of being in a deficit?
At 1200 calories, your body is being deprived of the resources to fuel everyday activities. 1200 is not enough for your days work. It adapted by slowing down your metabolism and conserving what energy it can making you sluggish. This is what people dub "starvation mode".
Now you'be moved to 2400 calories. This is where the good part starts.
Your body is still in starvation mode. The body still thinks you're going to deprive it. It will continue to store the extra calories it can. After a couple of weeks, your body will begin to realise that it has enough energy for day to day and then some. Your have more energy, your metabolism increases all because your body knows it knows it can drop a bit more hard work into those bodily processes. This is when the weight loss begins with a consistant calorie deficit.
I know you're trying to be helpful and the other things you said certainly have merit. But I beg of you, please please don't perpetuate the myth of starvation mode. It isn't a thing. It isn't real.
Apologies.
The term i should be using is metabolic adaptation.2 -
Get over the word choice if just one person gets "starvation mode" and it saves them from doing it, so what????3
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BikeTourer wrote: »Get over the word choice if just one person gets "starvation mode" and it saves them from doing it, so what????
There are a lot of newbies and "lurkers" who come to the forums to learn. Learning the right information will save them time, frustration, and might help them stick to it.
I wasn't trying to be mean. I was new once. I lurked. I learned. I can't imagine how much harder it would have been if I had gotten the wrong information.7 -
I noticed yesterday how easy it was to stand up and walk. Just effortless. Before it just seemed a bother. It didn't hurt or anything but it took effort.4
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I noticed yesterday how easy it was to stand up and walk. Just effortless. Before it just seemed a bother. It didn't hurt or anything but it took effort.
My wife comments all the time that I don't make sounds when I get up now. Also, she says my walk is completely different now ( I'm trying to emulate Juan Epstein from Welcome Back Kotter. ...)
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That my incredulity towards my losses never seem to see the trend. I lost 2 lbs?! The scale must be broken... My pants are falling off!? My new pants must have stretched out... When will I learn? lol8
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I noticed yesterday how easy it was to stand up and walk. Just effortless. Before it just seemed a bother. It didn't hurt or anything but it took effort.
Being 100+ lbs over weight it is not painfree or effortless, but since losing 45lbs I've noticed that its a hell of a lot easier then it was. And it's getting better every day.iloveclones67 wrote: »I noticed yesterday how easy it was to stand up and walk. Just effortless. Before it just seemed a bother. It didn't hurt or anything but it took effort.
My wife comments all the time that I don't make sounds when I get up now. Also, she says my walk is completely different now ( I'm trying to emulate Juan Epstein from Welcome Back Kotter. ...)
I've had a co-worker point out that my walk is different now too. She said I don't wobble as much
I knew exactly what she meant. 1 -
abbeyjones1994 wrote: »This is a very new one for me...I'm just about at 40 lbs. lost, which is 5 away from my UGW and the lower end of what I want to maintain at.
I've lost most of my weight while away at school (started at the end of July 2014), so now people are just starting to really notice and comment. I never ever thought I'd feel embarrassed to disclose how much I've lost when they ask. In reality, though, having to lose 40 pounds at age 19/20 (and still being okay losing 5 more) is hard for me to accept...like, how did I let things get so out of control in 20 years?
I am 45 with an 11 and14 year old who have never seen me at a healthy weight. You figured it out early. Good for you. Be proud not ashamed3 -
Only been going 5 weeks but already lost 22 lbs (10Kg).
I picked up a 10Kg weight yesterday just to see for myself how much I had lost. Boy did that feel good!
That's awesome and super inspiring! Just getting back into working out and eating healthier which is not going as easily as I thought. What a great idea for "feeling" the difference!
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brightresolve wrote: »How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
I correct them immediately. "I am this weight BECAUSE I watch what I eat and exercise."
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I read people say that weight loss is not linear, especially for women. It's true! The scale doesn't move for me for three weeks, sometimes it increases too. Then one week before my TOM, bam! I am down by 3-4 kgs! It lasts about a week and then steadily increases again. But every time I lose, I reach a new low.7
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I lost my weight from 2012-2013, and have been keeping it off since - about two months ago.. I ran into the guy who lives next door to us, he met us a few times when we first moved in '09 and onwards to '12. He said a few strange things and I just wrote it off as him being forgetful and weird - he ran into my husband and I at the local supermarket (My husband has also lost a significant amount of weight over the same time) and the guy next door introduced himself to my husband saying "I don't know when you guys moved in, I've only spoken to your wife a few times.." I couldn't believe my ears!
So something new, no one told me that people would just never recognise new 'me' based on meeting 'old' me or us as a couple, and that they would then precede to introduce themselves to us and try and make friends with us all over again.3 -
I read people say that weight loss is not linear, especially for women. It's true! The scale doesn't move for me for three weeks, sometimes it increases too. Then one week before my TOM, bam! I am down by 3-4 kgs! It lasts about a week and then steadily increases again. But every time I lose, I reach a new low.
This. That's why I only weigh myself once every 4-6 weeks. Even though I know all about weight fluctuations, I'd go crazy if I weighed myself weekly or worse, daily, and saw that nothing changed.2 -
That when you first start at the gym you'll be sheepish about picking up a weight someone else is hanging around, but 6 months later you'll have no issue dragging a screeching bench through a crowd half way across the gym because you NEED it.
Same goes for people asking how many sets you have left!
first month - "Oh, it's OK you can have it...."
6 months in - "I have 4 sets left with 90 second rests between, but you can rep in if you're wanting to lift the same weight?"
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At 1200 calories, your body is being deprived of the resources to fuel everyday activities. 1200 is not enough for your days work. It adapted by slowing down your metabolism and conserving what energy it can making you sluggish. This is what people dub "starvation mode".
Now you'be moved to 2400 calories. This is where the good part starts.
Your body is still in starvation mode. The body still thinks you're going to deprive it. It will continue to store the extra calories it can. After a couple of weeks, your body will begin to realise that it has enough energy for day to day and then some. Your have more energy, your metabolism increases all because your body knows it knows it can drop a bit more hard work into those bodily processes. This is when the weight loss begins with a consistant calorie deficit.
That makes so much sens !0 -
How doing your laundry changes. You don't have to worry about shrinking something because you will be able to wear it again in a few weeks or so after you lose some more. You also try to shrink a few favorites so you can still wear them.
Also the 3 stages of washing jeans:- Brand new and a little snug so they are cold water, line dry
- Fit perfect but loosen up a little with wear so warm water, line dry
- A bit loose so warm (or hot) water and dry the heck out of them so they tighten up as much as possible
Lastly, going to the pool in a swimsuit for the first time and "knowing" everyone is talking about you and how fat you look. A year later, going to the pool and finding out that others actually ARE talking about you: your dedication to exercise, how much you have lost, and how motivating you are to them.8
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