Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

raymax4 wrote: »

bkhamill wrote: »

raymax4 wrote: »

MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »

bkhamill wrote: »

So maybe I will be the only one to post in this thread today, but I CANNOT let it die! I am so bored at work today! I am pretty sure my boss knows I have nothing to do, but he does not offer me more.

Thanks for keeping the thread alive. I am sorry that you are bored. Your boss annoys me almost as much as my own, but for the opposite reason.
18 months ago, she hired a new employee whom I trained on occupational medicine billing, supposedly to help me so that I could work on other projects. 14 months ago she gave the new employee all of the occ med and put me on even more other projects (opening new clinics, financial analysis, collecting the oldest Accounts Receivable because the research involved in proving that yes, insurer XYZ does owe us more money doesn't bother me). I only back J up when she is out. Except that while I was doing other projects, the A/R for my occ med clinics went up by 700%!!! I was never allowed to help when it would have been easy, but now I have to work mandatory overtime and can't do any other work until it's back to where I had it before or better.

When I ask you, did I become a draft horse to be hitched to the heaviest wagon and used to pull it out the ditch? and if I am in fact being used as a draft horse, why doesn't the boss treat me as well as POF treats her horses?

Where I work if you prove that you can do the job they give you more. There is no barometer for how hard you worked to get it done.

Positive follow up - I told my boss yesterday I was bored and he wants me to learn the job of a co-worker to relieve some of his stress, so yippee, no more boring work days for a while!

Good I would rather look at the time and realize that it's past lunch time then wonder if the clock could move any slower.

rungirl1973 wrote: »

riderfangal wrote: »

Just popping in to keep the thread alive. I got my hair cut today and undecided whether or not I like it. I got about 4 inches cut off and got me some bangs. ..hmmmm

I got my hair all chopped off last month, and now I wish I'd gotten it cut shorter.
Then, over the weekend, after being a blonde for 16-17 years, I colored my hair red. It was time for a change!

It's only hair, it will grow back... Apparently, mine grows an inch per week.

riderfangal wrote: »

Just popping in to keep the thread alive. I got my hair cut today and undecided whether or not I like it. I got about 4 inches cut off and got me some bangs. ..hmmmm

riderfangal wrote: »

pofoster21 wrote: »

riderfangal wrote: »

Just popping in to keep the thread alive. I got my hair cut today and undecided whether or not I like it. I got about 4 inches cut off and got me some bangs. ..hmmmm

Ooh did I miss this pic? Is it in random pictures? I'll have to go look.

Sorry POF. I haven't posted a pic. I have not got around to it. I usually run when I see a camera so posting a picture of myself is akin to getting a tooth pulled

raymax4 wrote: »

Incidentally I got my hair cut too. 6 inches and its still longer than shoulder length. I meant to cut it before summer but never got around to it. Evidently I hadn't cut my hair since February. Boy do I feel light headed.

CosmoTI wrote: »

Feel the need to share/rant and maybe make you all feel better about annoying work colleagues. May get lengthy so I apologise in advance....
Background - There are 3 people in my team. Two of us have worked here for 5+ years and we got a new guy earlier this year. Even though we are more experienced, we are all technically on the same level so have been having some issues with managing him. He doesn't complete work, goes missing for hours etc but we are not in a position to pull him up on this. It all came to a head last Thursday when we had an extremely busy day setting up offices/meeting spaces etc and really needed to all pull together. The new guy kept going missing at the worst times ( went out for lunch for the one hour we had to clear a canteen out of furniture and set up meeting space for 140 staff!) Also threw a tantrum when asked to do anything. Anyway, we'd had enough and when he went home we were talking about him in the office and about how moody he was, how he never updated us on anything, never completed works or showed interest in current projects etc. Well, the next day he came in and was super happy , apologised for the previous day, asked questions about projects, updated outstanding works. Made us a bit paranoid and we were joking that he was spying on us but obviously that would be ridiculous - I mean - who would do that right?
Creepy part for those who don't want to read it all Well - today we found a spy pen on his desk with camera and recoding capabilities. I am freaking out so so much. Why would anyone do that - it's such a massive invasion of privacy. Not to mention a security breach as we are a software company and have strict security rules!!
I need a glass of wine...

CosmoTI wrote: »

MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »

CosmoTI wrote: »

Feel the need to share/rant and maybe make you all feel better about annoying work colleagues. May get lengthy so I apologise in advance....
Background - There are 3 people in my team. Two of us have worked here for 5+ years and we got a new guy earlier this year. Even though we are more experienced, we are all technically on the same level so have been having some issues with managing him. He doesn't complete work, goes missing for hours etc but we are not in a position to pull him up on this. It all came to a head last Thursday when we had an extremely busy day setting up offices/meeting spaces etc and really needed to all pull together. The new guy kept going missing at the worst times ( went out for lunch for the one hour we had to clear a canteen out of furniture and set up meeting space for 140 staff!) Also threw a tantrum when asked to do anything. Anyway, we'd had enough and when he went home we were talking about him in the office and about how moody he was, how he never updated us on anything, never completed works or showed interest in current projects etc. Well, the next day he came in and was super happy , apologised for the previous day, asked questions about projects, updated outstanding works. Made us a bit paranoid and we were joking that he was spying on us but obviously that would be ridiculous - I mean - who would do that right?
Creepy part for those who don't want to read it all Well - today we found a spy pen on his desk with camera and recoding capabilities. I am freaking out so so much. Why would anyone do that - it's such a massive invasion of privacy. Not to mention a security breach as we are a software company and have strict security rules!!
I need a glass of wine...

That is creepy. As I work in a hospital, it would also get someone fired.

I'm hoping the same will apply at my work(although previous experience of hr dealings has not been positive) What concerns me even more than the personal privacy issue is that my team are actually responsible for security on site and for me this is an unacceptable breach. I just have to hope hr back us up. We develop and test software for other companies so the implications if anything was leaked would be massive!

nonoelmo wrote: »

lilaclovebird wrote: »

CosmoTI wrote: »

MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »

CosmoTI wrote: »

Feel the need to share/rant and maybe make you all feel better about annoying work colleagues. May get lengthy so I apologise in advance....
Background - There are 3 people in my team. Two of us have worked here for 5+ years and we got a new guy earlier this year. Even though we are more experienced, we are all technically on the same level so have been having some issues with managing him. He doesn't complete work, goes missing for hours etc but we are not in a position to pull him up on this. It all came to a head last Thursday when we had an extremely busy day setting up offices/meeting spaces etc and really needed to all pull together. The new guy kept going missing at the worst times ( went out for lunch for the one hour we had to clear a canteen out of furniture and set up meeting space for 140 staff!) Also threw a tantrum when asked to do anything. Anyway, we'd had enough and when he went home we were talking about him in the office and about how moody he was, how he never updated us on anything, never completed works or showed interest in current projects etc. Well, the next day he came in and was super happy , apologised for the previous day, asked questions about projects, updated outstanding works. Made us a bit paranoid and we were joking that he was spying on us but obviously that would be ridiculous - I mean - who would do that right?
Creepy part for those who don't want to read it all Well - today we found a spy pen on his desk with camera and recoding capabilities. I am freaking out so so much. Why would anyone do that - it's such a massive invasion of privacy. Not to mention a security breach as we are a software company and have strict security rules!!
I need a glass of wine...

That is creepy. As I work in a hospital, it would also get someone fired.

I'm hoping the same will apply at my work(although previous experience of hr dealings has not been positive) What concerns me even more than the personal privacy issue is that my team are actually responsible for security on site and for me this is an unacceptable breach. I just have to hope hr back us up. We develop and test software for other companies so the implications if anything was leaked would be massive!

If he had just been a good employee/person to begin with he might not have felt the need to 'spy' on his coworkers and what they were saying about him.

He's a terrible spy for another company if he can not properly ingratiate himself with the people he is spying on.
It sounds like he probably did this for more personal reasons but no one likes a person who isn't interested in their work or at least pulling their own weight. He wouldn't have to worry about coworkers speaking poorly about him behind his back if he were a good worker in the first place.
It would be interesting if someone who just has low self esteem simply wanted to know what others thought of them. Although I recently was told what was said at one of the recent officer's meetings and I'm a little put off by it.
It was said that I am 'Bat Sh_t Crazy'. Granted, it was countered with what a dedicated and hard worker I am, but the fact that someone would say that about me still smarts a little.
I've been putting a lot of effort into not over thinking/analyzing it and throwing myself into my work and my workouts instead.

That seems like something a man would say about a woman who either (1) didn't do/say/think exactly what he wanted or expected her to, or (2) who he wanted to seem more logical, rational, and methodical than her. This may absolutely be projecting but this is my experience. I am logical, I have ooodles of scientific training, I remain calm under pressure. However, whenever my ex does something which is objectionable and I object, he immediately describes me as "having a hissy fit" or "freaking out" when, in fact, I am merely calling him out on his bull-smurf and holding him to the items he agreed to in the divorce decree. It is unfortunate, but I have had to backtrack and clear up some issues with my family members who he calls (yes it happens) telling them I am freaking out. I have gotten my dad to at least question my ex and his motives by calming restating the facts and why I object. To me, it is Ex throwing up a smokescreen and taking the attention off of his behaviors. So that is my background.

What I know of you you are hardworking and logical. You may be somewhat unconventional in your thinking about relationships in general, but I quite enjoy your candor and open-mindedness. From what I know of you I don't get the bat-s__t crazy. So why were you told, what did the person telling you this get from it? Do you know who said it? What was the context? Again, without knowing ANYTHING about it it feels like a sexist statement from a man who does not feel he can control you (and he's probably right and it probably bugs him, and to make himself feel better he says that about you.) I think your approach of working hard and working out hard is the best choice for now. Staying calm and not reacting absolutely undermines that description more than anything. If it comes up again, "what a silly thing for old so and so to say, they must be having a bad day" and just move on. HUGS. You are super great!

lilaclovebird wrote: »

nonoelmo wrote: »

lilaclovebird wrote: »

CosmoTI wrote: »

MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »

CosmoTI wrote: »

Feel the need to share/rant and maybe make you all feel better about annoying work colleagues. May get lengthy so I apologise in advance....
Background - There are 3 people in my team. Two of us have worked here for 5+ years and we got a new guy earlier this year. Even though we are more experienced, we are all technically on the same level so have been having some issues with managing him. He doesn't complete work, goes missing for hours etc but we are not in a position to pull him up on this. It all came to a head last Thursday when we had an extremely busy day setting up offices/meeting spaces etc and really needed to all pull together. The new guy kept going missing at the worst times ( went out for lunch for the one hour we had to clear a canteen out of furniture and set up meeting space for 140 staff!) Also threw a tantrum when asked to do anything. Anyway, we'd had enough and when he went home we were talking about him in the office and about how moody he was, how he never updated us on anything, never completed works or showed interest in current projects etc. Well, the next day he came in and was super happy , apologised for the previous day, asked questions about projects, updated outstanding works. Made us a bit paranoid and we were joking that he was spying on us but obviously that would be ridiculous - I mean - who would do that right?
Creepy part for those who don't want to read it all Well - today we found a spy pen on his desk with camera and recoding capabilities. I am freaking out so so much. Why would anyone do that - it's such a massive invasion of privacy. Not to mention a security breach as we are a software company and have strict security rules!!
I need a glass of wine...

That is creepy. As I work in a hospital, it would also get someone fired.

I'm hoping the same will apply at my work(although previous experience of hr dealings has not been positive) What concerns me even more than the personal privacy issue is that my team are actually responsible for security on site and for me this is an unacceptable breach. I just have to hope hr back us up. We develop and test software for other companies so the implications if anything was leaked would be massive!

If he had just been a good employee/person to begin with he might not have felt the need to 'spy' on his coworkers and what they were saying about him.

He's a terrible spy for another company if he can not properly ingratiate himself with the people he is spying on.
It sounds like he probably did this for more personal reasons but no one likes a person who isn't interested in their work or at least pulling their own weight. He wouldn't have to worry about coworkers speaking poorly about him behind his back if he were a good worker in the first place.
It would be interesting if someone who just has low self esteem simply wanted to know what others thought of them. Although I recently was told what was said at one of the recent officer's meetings and I'm a little put off by it.
It was said that I am 'Bat Sh_t Crazy'. Granted, it was countered with what a dedicated and hard worker I am, but the fact that someone would say that about me still smarts a little.
I've been putting a lot of effort into not over thinking/analyzing it and throwing myself into my work and my workouts instead.

That seems like something a man would say about a woman who either (1) didn't do/say/think exactly what he wanted or expected her to, or (2) who he wanted to seem more logical, rational, and methodical than her. This may absolutely be projecting but this is my experience. I am logical, I have ooodles of scientific training, I remain calm under pressure. However, whenever my ex does something which is objectionable and I object, he immediately describes me as "having a hissy fit" or "freaking out" when, in fact, I am merely calling him out on his bull-smurf and holding him to the items he agreed to in the divorce decree. It is unfortunate, but I have had to backtrack and clear up some issues with my family members who he calls (yes it happens) telling them I am freaking out. I have gotten my dad to at least question my ex and his motives by calming restating the facts and why I object. To me, it is Ex throwing up a smokescreen and taking the attention off of his behaviors. So that is my background.

What I know of you you are hardworking and logical. You may be somewhat unconventional in your thinking about relationships in general, but I quite enjoy your candor and open-mindedness. From what I know of you I don't get the bat-s__t crazy. So why were you told, what did the person telling you this get from it? Do you know who said it? What was the context? Again, without knowing ANYTHING about it it feels like a sexist statement from a man who does not feel he can control you (and he's probably right and it probably bugs him, and to make himself feel better he says that about you.) I think your approach of working hard and working out hard is the best choice for now. Staying calm and not reacting absolutely undermines that description more than anything. If it comes up again, "what a silly thing for old so and so to say, they must be having a bad day" and just move on. HUGS. You are super great!

I was told by SSP. It was mentioned in a casual conversation about what people say behind other people's backs that they would not say to their face. He refused to tell me who said it, but told me they wouldn't say it to my face. I asked him if he felt that way and he said that I was 'out of the box, a bit lively at times, and fun.' He's very straight forward and isn't afraid to 'hurt my feelings' so I mostly trust his response. I say 'mostly' because he did just tell me that the person who said it wouldn't say it to my face.

If I had to guess who it was that said it, it would probably be Officer Paige. He does make attempts at 'controlling' me and often fails because I'm 'spunky' according to Officer Ward. I think it largely stems from the fact that he has so little control in his home life, particularly when it comes to the finances, which is something he often complains about. He frequently mentions that I'm a 'young kid' with 'no expenses' because I live with my parents. I have to remind him that I pay rent, my own car payment, insurance, phone bill, groceries, and student loans. Whereas his daughter pays for 1/3rd of her car payment and he pays ALL of the rest of her expenses, despite the fact that she has a job that pays TWICE what I make right now. I've made the comment more than once while he was complaining about this particular topic that his daughter needs to 'grow up.'
I think it's my candor that gets me on most men's dislike list. I'm not going to be soft and submissive because someone else has a weak and easily bruised ego.


'Unconventional' has been used to describe me by a couple of the other guards.

In addition, I seem to have this 'special talent' of being able to put my own foot in my mouth faster than anyone else I know and I can go to extremes in an attempt to correct myself and show my repentance.

CosmoTI wrote: »

Feel the need to share/rant and maybe make you all feel better about annoying work colleagues. May get lengthy so I apologise in advance....
Background - There are 3 people in my team. Two of us have worked here for 5+ years and we got a new guy earlier this year. Even though we are more experienced, we are all technically on the same level so have been having some issues with managing him. He doesn't complete work, goes missing for hours etc but we are not in a position to pull him up on this. It all came to a head last Thursday when we had an extremely busy day setting up offices/meeting spaces etc and really needed to all pull together. The new guy kept going missing at the worst times ( went out for lunch for the one hour we had to clear a canteen out of furniture and set up meeting space for 140 staff!) Also threw a tantrum when asked to do anything. Anyway, we'd had enough and when he went home we were talking about him in the office and about how moody he was, how he never updated us on anything, never completed works or showed interest in current projects etc. Well, the next day he came in and was super happy , apologised for the previous day, asked questions about projects, updated outstanding works. Made us a bit paranoid and we were joking that he was spying on us but obviously that would be ridiculous - I mean - who would do that right?
Creepy part for those who don't want to read it all Well - today we found a spy pen on his desk with camera and recoding capabilities. I am freaking out so so much. Why would anyone do that - it's such a massive invasion of privacy. Not to mention a security breach as we are a software company and have strict security rules!!
I need a glass of wine...

pofoster21 wrote: »

MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »

Happy 240th Birthday to the United States Marines. Semper Fi and thank you.

Yay! Happy Birthday Marines!

AngryViking1970 wrote: »

MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »

Happy 240th Birthday to the United States Marines. Semper Fi and thank you.

Yes, Happy Birthday! My husband is a USMC veteran (retired) and when I wished him a "Happy Birthday, Marine" this morning he just kind of snorted and rolled over. LOL