How to get gf into fitness?
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Hey_Its_That_One_Guy wrote: »
Not enough to blow you0 -
I had a long relationship with guy like you. He asked me to eat better, exercise more, and lose a few pounds "for my health". (Note - I had no health problems.) And I did. He even told me I was "almost perfect" once. I took it as a compliment at the time. It wasn't a compliment.
You might think you're doing her a favor. She might even think you're doing her a favor. You're not.
He's the only ex of mine that I hate, just a bit, because he never made me feel loved for who I was right then. He loved who he thought I could be, or he loved "potential me" more. Loving someone for their potential is loving someone that doesn't exist. Let that idea go.0 -
brillmer87 wrote: »Hey_Its_That_One_Guy wrote: »
Not enough to blow you
Oh snap.0 -
brillmer87 wrote: »Hey_Its_That_One_Guy wrote: »
Not enough to blow you
Why would I need a polar bear to do that when I have you muffin?
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Hey_Its_That_One_Guy wrote: »brillmer87 wrote: »Hey_Its_That_One_Guy wrote: »
Not enough to blow you
Why would I need a polar bear to do that when I have you muffin?
Awwwwww you always know what to say 0 -
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I think you're incredibly selfish and I hope you break up with her because she deserves SO MUCH better...
But for your question I would just invite her to go to the gym with you. My husband will ask me to go with him (not because he thinks I'm fat either) and usually I'll take him up on it. It helps motivate me to go. Maybe she will go. Or you can think of some fun date ideas that are more active, like hiking, bowling or skiing.
But overall I think you should leave her if you aren't happy with her. It's fine to see potential in people but you can't force her to be your version of the perfect girl.
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If you think she's fat now, wait until you get married.0
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her new nickname could be "Squishy"
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I have a new girlfriend. I find her attractive, still I’m a bit disappointed. She is on a chubby side. Not very much but enough. She is squishy, with little tone and not much muscle definition. I see how much hotter she could be if she lose some pounds, tone up, get rid of squashy chubbiness around her pierced belly button, shrink around her mushy thighs and tighten her butt. But I know that I can’t talk with her about it directly because I’ve noticed how bashful she is about those things. So how can I get her into fitness? Any experience?
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livingleanlivingclean wrote: »You should leave her - she deserves someone who can see past her physique and doesn't think that changing her body will make her more attractive.
I don't think so. I see real potential in her. Just need to find a way to realize it...
you don't be with a person for the person who you think they can be. just for who they are now0 -
You could always give her an ultimatum. Get fit out get out. SO when she gets super hot she can dump your sorry butt.0
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Once upon a time, there was a girl. She was cute, smart, funny, and a healthy weight - not super thin, not super muscular, but with nice curves.
She started dating a cute, smart, funny guy, but after about 6 months, he started telling her (mostly after he'd had a few drinks) that he thought she'd be hotter if she were more fit. She was kind of crushed, because she'd thought she was already pretty damned attractive. She really liked this guy, and he had a lot of other redeeming qualities that seemed to balance out this particular quality, but this made her mad. A good way to manage anger is to start working out, and she did. She dropped a few pounds, gained a little more muscle tone, and he STFUed about her weight. But she was still mad. A few years later, when she met a sweet, kind, smart, funny, generous, amazing man who would adore her no matter what her body fat percentage was, she dropped the shallow jack*** like a hot potato, moved on, and lived happily ever after. Well, she's still a little pissed off 15 years later, actually. Nobody should make another person feel like that, especially if they purport to care about them.
Shallow Dillweed went on to have a string of failed relationships and at least one divorce. I... oops, she... hasn't talked to him in a long time, but last she heard, he was still perpetually dissatisfied.
The End.0 -
livingleanlivingclean wrote: »You should leave her - she deserves someone who can see past her physique and doesn't think that changing her body will make her more attractive.
I don't think so. I see real potential in her. Just need to find a way to realize it...
you don't be with a person for the person who you think they can be. just for who they are now
YES!!!! MOYER566 YES!!!!
I dated a jerk like OP years ago didn't know how he felt until one night I asked him what's wrong and he just told me that he thought I was cute but just wasn't what he was used to because he never dated someone my size (I was over 200lbs at that time) well that was the beginning of the end which was fortunate. I moved 1000 miles away a month later (an opportunity came up and I took it) and by the end of that year I met my now husband who accepted me the way I was. Over the past 8 years we've loss a combined 120+lbs. Eat that slice of cake!
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The OP makes me want to get out of fitness. :scans paper for new job:0
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livingleanlivingclean wrote: »You should leave her - she deserves someone who can see past her physique and doesn't think that changing her body will make her more attractive.
I don't think so. I see real potential in her. Just need to find a way to realize it...
you don't be with a person for the person who you think they can be. just for who they are now
YES!!!! MOYER566 YES!!!!
I dated a jerk like OP years ago didn't know how he felt until one night I asked him what's wrong and he just told me that he thought I was cute but just wasn't what he was used to because he never dated someone my size (I was over 200lbs at that time) well that was the beginning of the end which was fortunate. I moved 1000 miles away a month later (an opportunity came up and I took it) and by the end of that year I met my now husband who accepted me the way I was. Over the past 8 years we've loss a combined 120+lbs. Eat that slice of cake!
glad you found happiness
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_incogNEATo_ wrote: »If you think she's fat now, wait until you get married.
Sometimes I have a serious man crush on you @_incogNEATo_0 -
Hey_Its_That_One_Guy wrote: »_incogNEATo_ wrote: »If you think she's fat now, wait until you get married.
Sometimes I have a serious man crush on you @_incogNEATo_ Thanks! 0 -
Quite entertaining read here.0
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I have a new girlfriend. I find her attractive, still I’m a bit disappointed. She is on a chubby side. Not very much but enough. She is squishy, with little tone and not much muscle definition. I see how much hotter she could be if she lose some pounds, tone up, get rid of squashy chubbiness around her pierced belly button, shrink around her mushy thighs and tighten her butt. But I know that I can’t talk with her about it directly because I’ve noticed how bashful she is about those things. So how can I get her into fitness? Any experience?
Sounds like a very deep meaningful relationship based on mutual respect and trust. And I totally believe this is a true story, brah.0 -
livingleanlivingclean wrote: »You should leave her - she deserves someone who can see past her physique and doesn't think that changing her body will make her more attractive.
THIS. Sounds like the only cardio she "needs" is to leave your *kitten*0 -
You know I'd like to see how "fit" OP really is. A lot of guys want their women to look like super models or barbie dolls but they're no freaking prize themselves. That being said, OP is likely a troll but I just wanted to share my 2 cents for the day. 0
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You know I'd like to see how "fit" OP really is. A lot of guys want their women to look like super models or barbie dolls but they're no freaking prize themselves. That being said, OP is likely a troll but I just wanted to share my 2 cents for the day.
your 2 cents became 100 dollars!0 -
Damn, I wish I had a boyfriend who wanted to workout as much as I do and be my motivation
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junelove89 wrote: »Damn, I wish I had a boyfriend who wanted to workout as much as I do and be my motivation
you dont have one?....why hello there.0 -
JeffreyMGiron wrote: »junelove89 wrote: »Damn, I wish I had a boyfriend who wanted to workout as much as I do and be my motivation
you dont have one?....why hello there.
No, I dumped him because he didn't want to workout0 -
junelove89 wrote: »JeffreyMGiron wrote: »junelove89 wrote: »Damn, I wish I had a boyfriend who wanted to workout as much as I do and be my motivation
you dont have one?....why hello there.
No, I dumped him because he didn't want to workout
ha, poor fellow...0 -
Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....
My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?0 -
Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....
My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?
I would actually just ask her one day shes not doing anything and be like "hey lets go workout! i want a partner today" and if she responds angry you can come back, ill give you my address so you can beat me up.0
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