Why do we get annoyed by Resolutionists
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I'm pretty new to going to the gym, I started early December. Mostly I've been running on a treadmill doing c25k, going 3 times a week - It's cold outside at the minute, and I don't feel comfortable running outside.
Most people in my gym look at me like I shouldn't be there, I've got a bit of weight on me and I probably look like a resolutionist - I bought proper trainers to support my feet so I'm exercising in old tshirts and scabby jogging bottoms to save money.
I do carry a small towel, I try to have etiquette though I'm not sure what the etiquette is, and I work really hard! It would be nice to get told I'm doing OK! Yesterday at the gym someone smiled at me - that's the first positive interaction I've gotten. Be nice to the newbies, and tell them if they are doing OK / not OK and how they can get better - it might really help someone.
I'm actually glad you posted this. There is this woman I've been seeing at my gym fairly regularly since new years and I can just see on her face how uncomfortable she feels there. She kills it on the elliptical. I have been wanting to say something to her to make her feel more at ease, but don't want to make her uncomfortable or anything. I will say something to her tomorrow
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time2cutnow wrote: »
I'm actually glad you posted this. There is this woman I've been seeing at my gym fairly regularly since new years and I can just see on her face how uncomfortable she feels there. She kills it on the elliptical. I have been wanting to say something to her to make her feel more at ease, but don't want to make her uncomfortable or anything. I will say something to her tomorrow
Use what you wrote here:
"I've seen you here a lot lately - just wanted to say you are killing it on the elliptical! Keep it up!"
I'm like 100% sure that a few words of encouragement would go a long way!0 -
Well, everyone is new at some point.
I joined a gym on 1/25/15 for the first time in my life. I have been there every day since then. I did not join to have to wait around for the piece of equipment I want to use, so I made a conscious effort to join a gym where I was able to go 24/7. I opt to go very early. No problem with access to any of the equipment I want to use. Only a couple of others (all very nice people) share the gym with me. Some days, I am the only one there until I am almost done.
I guess we all have to keep in mind the reason many people have gym memberships, to be/get healthier.0 -
I gotta be honest my irritation with new comers is two fold.
1.) I hate new people. it's change- and I've reached a stage in life where I am protective of what I view as "my safe space"- new people are a physical change and possible threat to "my" safe space.
That is an honest to god emotional reaction- it doesn't matter what you do- or why you are there- or who you are- if you're new- it's a possible threat.
2.) the perceived notion that "new years" is the right time to fix things. I hate that. I hate that with ALL things. If you want to make an effing change- do it when you realize you need a change. waiting is just an excuse and an indicator you aren't really ready. So I don't like a lot of them because to me it's a reflection of your self and how much you don't care to just make the changes- I just don't respect it.
It shouldn't- none of this has anything to do with anyone else- it's not my problem. I get it- I freely admit it's something not relevant to me and I shouldn't have any type of reaction. But that's my reaction.
I don't care that they are taking up space- it has nothing to do with that. but if I'm honest with myself- it's a judgey thing I do and I won't deny I think it... but I keep to myself- because I realize it's none of my god da** business.0 -
It's just annoying because you get into a routine and then all the equipment is taken by people who pump out a few reps and look like they have no idea what they're doing. That said, it can force you out of a stale routine which is a good thing. New people are great, but it is funny to see people that have probably never set foot in a guy walking around with the latest exercise cloths, still with tags on, trying to figure out what to do.0
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It's just annoying because you get into a routine and then all the equipment is taken by people who pump out a few reps and look like they have no idea what they're doing.
That's probably because they don't know what they're doing because they're new.0 -
time2cutnow wrote: »
Agreed. The gym I go to has an etiquette "policy" that is posted on their website, and is explained (and a copy provided) to every new member when they sign their contract. I agree with the rules and think they're a pretty good guide for etiquette for a newbie:Fair enough.
I would say that "gym etiquette" isn't on the new members though. I feel that it is the gym's responsibility that all members know and understand gym etiquette.
* All cell phones must be on silent. Use of cell phones is restricted to the front lobby area!
* Dropping weights and using loud, foul or slanderous language will not be tolerated!
* Food and beverages other than bottled water are not allowed in the workout area.
* Use of alcohol and/or tobacco products is prohibited.
* Ask if you may “work in”, and always let others work in.
* When working in with someone, return the seat and weight to the last user’s setup.
* Wear proper athletic shoes and clothing. Bare feet, socks-only, sandals and work boots are prohibited.
* Towels are required. Wipe off equipment when finished.
* Limit perfume and cologne use.
* Gym bags are not allowed in any workout area.
* Ask for assistance if you do not know how to use equipment.
* Work out at your own fitness level.
* Do not remove weights, benches or equipment from their proper place.
* Collars on weight bars are mandatory!
* Always use a spotter when attempting to lift maximum weight.
* Re-rack weights and return all other accessories to their proper locations.
* Use of chalk is not permitted.
* Misuse of equipment and disregard of this policy will result in immediate expulsion!
I wish my gym would post something like this. Especially the perfume part. I have had to leave the gym with a migraines because some lady wanted to smell like flowers during her workout.
Ya, what some consider perfume is poisonous gas to me.0 -
time2cutnow wrote: »
Agreed. The gym I go to has an etiquette "policy" that is posted on their website, and is explained (and a copy provided) to every new member when they sign their contract. I agree with the rules and think they're a pretty good guide for etiquette for a newbie:Fair enough.
I would say that "gym etiquette" isn't on the new members though. I feel that it is the gym's responsibility that all members know and understand gym etiquette.
* All cell phones must be on silent. Use of cell phones is restricted to the front lobby area!
* Dropping weights and using loud, foul or slanderous language will not be tolerated!
* Food and beverages other than bottled water are not allowed in the workout area.
* Use of alcohol and/or tobacco products is prohibited.
* Ask if you may “work in”, and always let others work in.
* When working in with someone, return the seat and weight to the last user’s setup.
* Wear proper athletic shoes and clothing. Bare feet, socks-only, sandals and work boots are prohibited.
* Towels are required. Wipe off equipment when finished.
* Limit perfume and cologne use.
* Gym bags are not allowed in any workout area.
* Ask for assistance if you do not know how to use equipment.
* Work out at your own fitness level.
* Do not remove weights, benches or equipment from their proper place.
* Collars on weight bars are mandatory!
* Always use a spotter when attempting to lift maximum weight.
* Re-rack weights and return all other accessories to their proper locations.
* Use of chalk is not permitted.
* Misuse of equipment and disregard of this policy will result in immediate expulsion!
I wish my gym would post something like this. Especially the perfume part. I have had to leave the gym with a migraines because some lady wanted to smell like flowers during her workout.
Nice idea, but who's definition of limited perfume do you go by?0 -
Just my opinion, but I would prefer smelling perfume/cologne than BO.0
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I don't hate them, and I encourage them to join in and get fit, but... I mostly swim. And since our gym changed hands (Bally's sold us out) the new owners who will remain nameless but are a large famous national chain, don't care what happens in the pool at all. They have a few rules posted, but they're all hygiene rules, not etiquette rules. (Hygiene is hyper important because they don't clean the pool every day, or even as far as I can tell, once a week).
Newcomers often don't understand that they should 'mark' the lane they want with their towel or water bottle and wait for the swimmer using it to finish. Jump in and stretch out if you want, but don't just assume that someone wants or is able to lane share with you. If I ask you to wait ten minutes, hop in the hot tub and I'll alert you when I'm good to share. Don't just jump in and start swimming.
I have left-side nerve damage, and I WILL run into you, bump you, etc, without even realizing I've done it. Get the HECK OUT OF MY LANE until I'm in cool-down laps at which point I'll invite you to share. Most pools don't allow lane sharing at all. Wish 24 Hour would clue into safety as a swimming issue, but they're more concerned with packing as many clients dollars into the lanes as possible.
4' pool means NO DIVING. There are signs that say "No Diving", Don't dive in, rock the lap swimmers into the lane buoys and then laugh when everyone glares at you. Moron. Or do dive in and hit your head. Cuz then we all get to laugh.
SHOWER! The signs all say SHOWER BEFORE ENTERING POOL AREA! Don't work out, throw on your swim trunks over your filthy sweaty body and then come jump in the pool or the spa. If you do, you are a disgusting pig. OR better yet, you come, go into the sauna, get even sweatier and nastier, then 'spin rinse' in the little cool-down shower, and dive into the pool. "I showered!"... no, ya didn't. You rinsed your shoulders and got your hair wet.
Make-up in the hot tub? Seriously? You do know your sweating that slime into the water, right?
I try to let newcomers know about lane etiquette when it's clear they don't know what's going on, but sometimes, I'll make my flip turn, come around, and there's someone in my lane coming straight at me.
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Packerjohn wrote: »time2cutnow wrote: »
Agreed. The gym I go to has an etiquette "policy" that is posted on their website, and is explained (and a copy provided) to every new member when they sign their contract. I agree with the rules and think they're a pretty good guide for etiquette for a newbie:Fair enough.
I would say that "gym etiquette" isn't on the new members though. I feel that it is the gym's responsibility that all members know and understand gym etiquette.
* All cell phones must be on silent. Use of cell phones is restricted to the front lobby area!
* Dropping weights and using loud, foul or slanderous language will not be tolerated!
* Food and beverages other than bottled water are not allowed in the workout area.
* Use of alcohol and/or tobacco products is prohibited.
* Ask if you may “work in”, and always let others work in.
* When working in with someone, return the seat and weight to the last user’s setup.
* Wear proper athletic shoes and clothing. Bare feet, socks-only, sandals and work boots are prohibited.
* Towels are required. Wipe off equipment when finished.
* Limit perfume and cologne use.
* Gym bags are not allowed in any workout area.
* Ask for assistance if you do not know how to use equipment.
* Work out at your own fitness level.
* Do not remove weights, benches or equipment from their proper place.
* Collars on weight bars are mandatory!
* Always use a spotter when attempting to lift maximum weight.
* Re-rack weights and return all other accessories to their proper locations.
* Use of chalk is not permitted.
* Misuse of equipment and disregard of this policy will result in immediate expulsion!
I wish my gym would post something like this. Especially the perfume part. I have had to leave the gym with a migraines because some lady wanted to smell like flowers during her workout.
Nice idea, but who's definition of limited perfume do you go by?
How about just no perfume.0 -
snowflake930 wrote: »Just my opinion, but I would prefer smelling perfume/cologne than BO.
As much as I hate BO, it doesn't cause me pain, so I will take the BO over the perfume.0 -
snowflake930 wrote: »Just my opinion, but I would prefer smelling perfume/cologne than BO.
Hmm. I'd have to ask which perfume before making that decision.
Besides, I've found it's often the case that the perfume is being used to cover the BO. So I think I'd just rather opt out.0 -
time2cutnow wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »Just my opinion, but I would prefer smelling perfume/cologne than BO.
As much as I hate BO, it doesn't cause me pain, so I will take the BO over the perfume.
why don't people just shower regularly and use deodorant like the rest of us.0 -
Sharkbite2016 wrote: »
Here is why I hate New Years resolutions. Why should I care about having a goal that starts on a specific day that only marks a new calendar year? Waiting until January 1st means protecting bad habits and lowering one's desire to actually work on their goals. If somebody wants to change bad enough or adopt a goal, they can do it on December 31, August 5, whatever the present day is. I am 100 percent into not ever adopting any new years resolutions. I'm not trying to sound like an arrogant and sanctimonious *kitten*. Some people can successfully complete their new years resolutions I feel they don't work for me and I feel that my reasoning for why they don't work is the reason why several people fail at it. It doesn't mean that I haven't tried and failed at New Years resolutions myself or even giving up on goals. I have tried and failed my fair share. But what works for me is working towards a goal when I get that goal. Having small and long term goals and letting New Years Day just be another normal day in goal setting, no different from any other arbitrary day. But more power to those that are helped by the New Years resolutions.
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Here is why I hate New Years resolutions. Why should I care about having a goal that starts on a specific day that only marks a new calendar year? Waiting until January 1st means protecting bad habits and lowering one's desire to actually work on their goals. If somebody wants to change bad enough or adopt a goal, they can do it on December 31, August 5, whatever the present day is. I am 100 percent into not ever adopting any new years resolutions. I'm not trying to sound like an arrogant and sanctimonious *kitten*. Some people can successfully complete their new years resolutions (but) I feel they don't work for me and I feel that my reasoning for why they don't work is the reason why several people fail at it. It doesn't mean that I haven't tried and failed at New Years resolutions myself or even giving up on goals. I have tried and failed my fair share. But what works for me is working towards a goal when I get that goal (work towards new goals). Having short and long term goals and letting New Years Day just be another normal day in goal setting, no different from any other arbitrary day (is what works best for me). But more power to those that are helped by the New Years resolutions.[/quote]
I started July 4th.0 -
I don't care at all about them, or any new members at any time, except when it comes to the showers. There are only two showers in the ladies locker room and I already have to wake up extremely early to get in a work out before work starts. So when extra people randomly show up and wash their hair, shave their whole body, get undressed and then dressed all while in the shower, it can really throw off my routine. I either just skip the first week of January or go to the other, bigger, stinkier gym down town where there is a big communal shower if the stalls end up taken.0
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time2cutnow wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »Just my opinion, but I would prefer smelling perfume/cologne than BO.
As much as I hate BO, it doesn't cause me pain, so I will take the BO over the perfume.
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i do hate Resolutionists! not because they are at the gym on the machines but because it pisses me off that they arent gonna stick to it ( sorry to any of you doing a resolution) but statistically they arent going to. if you were really going to get in shape why would you wait until new years to start? its just a month long thing for about 85% which is what annoys me
I wonder how many more newbies would stick to it if they received encouragement rather than scorn. One of things I love about the running community.....I've never met a runner yet that wasn't happy to see someone new make an effort (then again, we don't have to wait for someone to finish up on a piece of equipment....)
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kshama2001 wrote: »time2cutnow wrote: »snowflake930 wrote: »Just my opinion, but I would prefer smelling perfume/cologne than BO.
As much as I hate BO, it doesn't cause me pain, so I will take the BO over the perfume.
Absolutely.
Yup, I'm in this camp. BO may be gross but perfume is painful. I really wish perfume would just stop being a thing at all.0 -
i do hate Resolutionists! not because they are at the gym on the machines but because it pisses me off that they arent gonna stick to it ( sorry to any of you doing a resolution) but statistically they arent going to. if you were really going to get in shape why would you wait until new years to start? its just a month long thing for about 85% which is what annoys me
So because you don't see them any longer at the time you usually go means they "gave up"? They could be going at a different time of the day. Sometimes I go early in the morning, like 4:30 a.m. Sometimes I'm there around 5:30/6:00. Other times I'm there mid to late afternoon.
And perhaps some people decide to get in shape at the new year because they see the new year as a new beginning. A time to set some new goals for themselves. A lot of people use the new year to reevaluate the one that has passed and set some new/different goals based on what they did or did not achieve the following year.
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mean_and_lean wrote: »i do hate Resolutionists! not because they are at the gym on the machines but because it pisses me off that they arent gonna stick to it ( sorry to any of you doing a resolution) but statistically they arent going to. if you were really going to get in shape why would you wait until new years to start? its just a month long thing for about 85% which is what annoys me
So because you don't see them any longer at the time you usually go means they "gave up"? They could be going at a different time of the day. Sometimes I go early in the morning, like 4:30 a.m. Sometimes I'm there around 5:30/6:00. Other times I'm there mid to late afternoon.
And perhaps some people decide to get in shape at the new year because they see the new year as a new beginning. A time to set some new goals for themselves. A lot of people use the new year to reevaluate the one that has passed and set some new/different goals based on what they did or did not achieve the following year.
I had to chuckle at this a bit.
Mostly I lift at my company's gym but I also have a membership to a commercial gym but I'm rarely there.
I'm sure some of the regular members at the commercial gym think I'm one of the "start and stop" types.0 -
2.) the perceived notion that "new years" is the right time to fix things. I hate that. I hate that with ALL things. If you want to make an effing change- do it when you realize you need a change. waiting is just an excuse and an indicator you aren't really ready. So I don't like a lot of them because to me it's a reflection of your self and how much you don't care to just make the changes- I just don't respect it.
Yeah, agreed. Making a fuss over a New Years Resolution is bad psychology. Self-assessment and correction should be frequent, the more often the better. "Know thyself," and all that.
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mean_and_lean wrote: »i do hate Resolutionists! not because they are at the gym on the machines but because it pisses me off that they arent gonna stick to it ( sorry to any of you doing a resolution) but statistically they arent going to. if you were really going to get in shape why would you wait until new years to start? its just a month long thing for about 85% which is what annoys me
So because you don't see them any longer at the time you usually go means they "gave up"? They could be going at a different time of the day. Sometimes I go early in the morning, like 4:30 a.m. Sometimes I'm there around 5:30/6:00. Other times I'm there mid to late afternoon.
And perhaps some people decide to get in shape at the new year because they see the new year as a new beginning. A time to set some new goals for themselves. A lot of people use the new year to reevaluate the one that has passed and set some new/different goals based on what they did or did not achieve the following year.
Or they realize spring break is in 2.5 months and they think they can get beach ready by then.0 -
I'm pretty new to going to the gym, I started early December. Mostly I've been running on a treadmill doing c25k, going 3 times a week - It's cold outside at the minute, and I don't feel comfortable running outside.
Most people in my gym look at me like I shouldn't be there, I've got a bit of weight on me and I probably look like a resolutionist - I bought proper trainers to support my feet so I'm exercising in old tshirts and scabby jogging bottoms to save money.
I do carry a small towel, I try to have etiquette though I'm not sure what the etiquette is, and I work really hard! It would be nice to get told I'm doing OK! Yesterday at the gym someone smiled at me - that's the first positive interaction I've gotten. Be nice to the newbies, and tell them if they are doing OK / not OK and how they can get better - it might really help someone.
my sentiments exactly. The thing that changes those people from resolutionists to regulars might be the atmosphere itself, and if people aren't a little understanding that everyone starts somewhere, those people might be chased away from a great opportunity to take care of themselves.0 -
odnadevotchka wrote: »I'm pretty new to going to the gym, I started early December. Mostly I've been running on a treadmill doing c25k, going 3 times a week - It's cold outside at the minute, and I don't feel comfortable running outside.
Most people in my gym look at me like I shouldn't be there, I've got a bit of weight on me and I probably look like a resolutionist - I bought proper trainers to support my feet so I'm exercising in old tshirts and scabby jogging bottoms to save money.
I do carry a small towel, I try to have etiquette though I'm not sure what the etiquette is, and I work really hard! It would be nice to get told I'm doing OK! Yesterday at the gym someone smiled at me - that's the first positive interaction I've gotten. Be nice to the newbies, and tell them if they are doing OK / not OK and how they can get better - it might really help someone.
my sentiments exactly. The thing that changes those people from resolutionists to regulars might be the atmosphere itself, and if people aren't a little understanding that everyone starts somewhere, those people might be chased away from a great opportunity to take care of themselves.
^^This is true. Most people are trying to become healthier. A little encouragement and acceptance may make all the difference for some people to keep persevering, and sticking with it or becoming discouraged and giving up. After all, most of us on MFP are here to become healthier and are looking for support from like minded people. Why should it be any different at the gym. No one came out of their mothers womb knowing everything.
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BrianSharpe wrote: »i do hate Resolutionists! not because they are at the gym on the machines but because it pisses me off that they arent gonna stick to it ( sorry to any of you doing a resolution) but statistically they arent going to. if you were really going to get in shape why would you wait until new years to start? its just a month long thing for about 85% which is what annoys me
I wonder how many more newbies would stick to it if they received encouragement rather than scorn. One of things I love about the running community.....I've never met a runner yet that wasn't happy to see someone new make an effort (then again, we don't have to wait for someone to finish up on a piece of equipment....)
This is why I run! No matter how tubby, slow or awkward I am, all the runners I've ever met or ran into (not literally) have been polite and encouraging, or maybe neutral/in their own heads at the worst. Only dealt with rudeness from cyclists and little kids. There is a gym on base I can use and want to so I can get more serious about my lifting (can only do dumbbells at home) but I'm nervous about figuring out where/how the plates get re-racked, silly stuff like that. Maybe someone who's used the gym for years this is all ordinary, but I'd hate to be one of those newbs people are frustrated with. It's not a commercial gym so there's no one to show me around.0 -
blues4miles wrote: »BrianSharpe wrote: »i do hate Resolutionists! not because they are at the gym on the machines but because it pisses me off that they arent gonna stick to it ( sorry to any of you doing a resolution) but statistically they arent going to. if you were really going to get in shape why would you wait until new years to start? its just a month long thing for about 85% which is what annoys me
I wonder how many more newbies would stick to it if they received encouragement rather than scorn. One of things I love about the running community.....I've never met a runner yet that wasn't happy to see someone new make an effort (then again, we don't have to wait for someone to finish up on a piece of equipment....)
This is why I run! No matter how tubby, slow or awkward I am, all the runners I've ever met or ran into (not literally) have been polite and encouraging, or maybe neutral/in their own heads at the worst. Only dealt with rudeness from cyclists and little kids. There is a gym on base I can use and want to so I can get more serious about my lifting (can only do dumbbells at home) but I'm nervous about figuring out where/how the plates get re-racked, silly stuff like that. Maybe someone who's used the gym for years this is all ordinary, but I'd hate to be one of those newbs people are frustrated with. It's not a commercial gym so there's no one to show me around.
Just put the plates back from where you get them and wipe down the equipment when you're done.0 -
I feel more sorry and concern for them as many come into the gym unprepared to maximize their time in a productive and beneficial manner.
When I see a anyone for the first time come in and preacher curl then head over confused to the elliptical, I just want to run up to them and give a big hug and scream "you need programming! Programming!!!!"0 -
Nice idea, but who's definition of limited perfume do you go by? [/quote]
How about not marinating in it. If you leave the room and I can still smell you.....it is too much!
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I have been going to my work gym for years but mostly doing aerobic exercise and classes. They just started a new year new you program where I am learning about weight lifting and loving it. I was always a bit intimated by the weight room, would use the machines but didn't know proper form for free weights. Well I am learning and really enjoying it. I look like a newbie, but I am not or you could say I am...not sure. Yes I have been given some smirks but I will ask someone for help if I have a question and that seems to break the ice and people are more than happy to help.
So newbies...ask for help most will be happy to help. And those that are regulars....some will stay and some will go..but those of us that stay..help us if you see us using bad form. We don't want to get hurt or do something wrong.0
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