What nobody tells you about losing weight
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And as for those who choose to say nothing, I guess until you’ve walked a mile in my shoes, then you’ll never understand that sometimes that’s the worst one of all.
Every day is a battle which I know each and every MFP user understands. We are all in this together, and it makes me so happy knowing there are others out there who are also striving to make a change for the better. Congratulations to us all for having the will power to start, the strength to continue, and the courage to share with others xx
I know exactly what you mean. Two of my closest friends have said *absolutely nothing* about my change in shape. I know I can't expect everyone to notice but it's pretty obvious - people who see me every day have commented so surely it should be noticeable to people I only see every month or so. I shouldn't allow other people to make me feel bad but... it hurts!2 -
icemaiden37 wrote: »
I know exactly what you mean. Two of my closest friends have said *absolutely nothing* about my change in shape. I know I can't expect everyone to notice but it's pretty obvious - people who see me every day have commented so surely it should be noticeable to people I only see every month or so. I shouldn't allow other people to make me feel bad but... it hurts!
To icemaiden37, I have had the same experience from both friends and family. I think sometimes it may be jealousy, and sometimes people just don't want to say the wrong thing. But please take heart from knowing that the thousands of people who have read or posted here walk your journey with you. We all support & understand your ups and downs, even if others don't. Hold your head high and strive to achieve your goals, because at the end of the day the only person you need to please is you xx2 -
When i first started losing weight, i dispised logging food and exercise. Seemed so tedious and time consuming.
Now days however, logging for the following day is kinda fun. Especially when you have a variety of foods to pick from. Like a fun online strategy puzzle game, mix and match foods, calories/macros until you have successfully kept everything out of the red.7 -
That you end up with too many hangars as you purge your clothes, lol4
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KareninLux wrote: »That you end up with too many hangars as you purge your clothes, lol
Yes, but dont get rid of those... lol - you will end up replacing them with tons of new clothes as you find you can buy clothes you LIKE instead of those that just happen to FIT.3 -
The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.12
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icemaiden37 wrote: »
And as for those who choose to say nothing, I guess until you’ve walked a mile in my shoes, then you’ll never understand that sometimes that’s the worst one of all.
Every day is a battle which I know each and every MFP user understands. We are all in this together, and it makes me so happy knowing there are others out there who are also striving to make a change for the better. Congratulations to us all for having the will power to start, the strength to continue, and the courage to share with others xx
I know exactly what you mean. Two of my closest friends have said *absolutely nothing* about my change in shape. I know I can't expect everyone to notice but it's pretty obvious - people who see me every day have commented so surely it should be noticeable to people I only see every month or so. I shouldn't allow other people to make me feel bad but... it hurts!
I've lost almost 5 stone in the last couple of years and one of my closest friends hasn't mentioned it to me at all. She can't not have noticed I look completely different. I used to be a (UK) 18 and I'm now a 10.
I think its for a number of reasons
1. Not knowing how to say it without making it sound like i looked terrible beforehand (i mean i know i did but it can be a bit awkward)
2. Those you are closest too probably don't notice the changes as much as those that you don't see as often as we look beyond how they look and just see the person they are
3. Jealousy, maybe not always but in this case i think its partly that I was always the 'fat friend' and now I'm smaller then her (although not by much) and get a lot of attention that she previously got and I don't think she likes it as I think she knew that going out with me in the past would mean that all of the attention was focused on her.
4. She's not into exercise at all so probably doesn't bring it up as its not something she thinks about. Just because I'm slightly obsessed doesn't mean everyone is and as we never talked about it before why would we now?
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icemaiden37 wrote: »
And as for those who choose to say nothing, I guess until you’ve walked a mile in my shoes, then you’ll never understand that sometimes that’s the worst one of all.
Every day is a battle which I know each and every MFP user understands. We are all in this together, and it makes me so happy knowing there are others out there who are also striving to make a change for the better. Congratulations to us all for having the will power to start, the strength to continue, and the courage to share with others xx
I know exactly what you mean. Two of my closest friends have said *absolutely nothing* about my change in shape. I know I can't expect everyone to notice but it's pretty obvious - people who see me every day have commented so surely it should be noticeable to people I only see every month or so. I shouldn't allow other people to make me feel bad but... it hurts!
I've lost almost 5 stone in the last couple of years and one of my closest friends hasn't mentioned it to me at all. She can't not have noticed I look completely different. I used to be a (UK) 18 and I'm now a 10.
I think its for a number of reasons
1. Not knowing how to say it without making it sound like i looked terrible beforehand (i mean i know i did but it can be a bit awkward)
2. Those you are closest too probably don't notice the changes as much as those that you don't see as often as we look beyond how they look and just see the person they are
3. Jealousy, maybe not always but in this case i think its partly that I was always the 'fat friend' and now I'm smaller then her (although not by much) and get a lot of attention that she previously got and I don't think she likes it as I think she knew that going out with me in the past would mean that all of the attention was focused on her.
4. She's not into exercise at all so probably doesn't bring it up as its not something she thinks about. Just because I'm slightly obsessed doesn't mean everyone is and as we never talked about it before why would we now?
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HappyCampr1 wrote: »
And the opposite of this when you reach your final goal and maintain. You're still proud and feeling awesome at your accomplishment and nobody knows. Every new person you meet sees a thin person and doesn't know about your efforts and hard work. Sometimes I want a sign that says I lost 78 pounds!The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.
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The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.
Oh yes. I relate strongly to this one. ...after losing the initial 10-15 lbs and feeling AMAZING only to realize that, well, you're still "fat"8 -
beataparsons wrote: »The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.
Oh yes. I relate strongly to this one. ...after losing the initial 10-15 lbs and feeling AMAZING only to realize that, well, you're still "fat"
This. I lost my first 15 and felt amazing. Then I realized I still have at least 25 to go, and I look exactly the same as I did when I started. Waiting for that pound that actually makes a noticeable difference.6 -
The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.
This for sure. I had to find the right friends/family to tell, because I so wanted to tell someone and most people look at you and you can tell they are thinking "so what, why are you so excited about that" I have the issue with fitness goals and weight loss goals. Ran a mile, no stopping for the first time in years and most people think no big deal...well, to me it was a big deal and I wanted to tell someone. Thankfully I have a couple of friends who get excited for me.
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All the posts about the joys of shopping make me a little sad. I still don't like it, I can shop in any store I want, I don't have to go to the plus size section or special store or anything anymore, I just don't enjoy it. I thought I would, I guess I am just not a shopper.2
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I've chosen to work with a personal trainer and started just before Christmas this year. The other morning while doing one of my exercises, I suddenly realized and told him I am getting definition in my arms. He just smiled and said we were doing good things for me.1
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How you no longer have to worry about sitting in movie seats, booths, or airplane seats.
When I first started, these were big motivators. I didn't want to have to see which side of the booth was the fat side so I could eat out comfortably, I didn't want to have to ask for a seatbelt extension on the airplane, and I didn't want to have to look at the construction of a chair before I decided to risk the potential humiliation of it breaking beneath me.
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Thanks for the responses! Further luck on our journeys
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I, too, cannot believe the difference a few pounds makes in how my clothes fit now that I wear a size 6. I could wear my 22s for a 20# spread, but now if I gain 6# because of a cross-country move, I have to wear a whole new size.
When I was losing weight, I was shocked that by the time I bought enough work clothes to properly fit my size 12 body, I was fitting into 10s. I was even more surprised when I went through 4 dress sizes in 35#, when I previously had to lose 60# to see the same changes on the rack.
Due to the huge cost of clothes, eBay has become my best friend and a little bit of an addiction.
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The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.
This! I have to keep reminding myself that while my current weight loss is a big deal to me (almost 84lbs!) that I am still fat and that I still have a ways to go before I move out of that category.7 -
I didn't know how odd it would be to realize that when I meet new people now (80+ lbs down, 31 lbs to go), they will never know me as obese. We were at an event this past weekend where I met colleagues of my husband that I hadn't met before. It was nice not to stand out as being huge. I felt so much more comfortable socializing. I guess I wasn't before but I didn't realize how much that had changed.6
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Yes. Happier here! I don't cringe when I see a camera.
As of today, I have lost 58 pounds in 6 months, going from a tight 16 to a loose 6! I can move more quickly-even started jogging periodically during my daily walks. I never ever thought I COULD jog....
I too am giving away all my old bigger clothes. In the past, I would box them up for the future. Never smaller than a size 12. Now the 10's and 8's I bought in the past three months are baggy. I'm into that size 6 with room! Again, I never ever thought that was possible. Now I want to stay a size 6! I look way taller than my 5'9" now but that's ok!
MFP and my new friends here has helped me escape from my former fat self! The only problem is that I'm spending too much, just like many of the rest of you are! Clothes shopping is now SO much fun!
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I had to get a link taken out of my watch because it was slamming around on my wrist! Too big....
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workin_onit wrote: »I had to get a link taken out of my watch because it was slamming around on my wrist! Too big....
That happened with me too! It was awesome!0 -
Couchpotato39 wrote: »The difficulty of feeling so proud of yourself as you meet those short term goals, then realizing that to the outside world you are still just a "fat" person.
This! I have to keep reminding myself that while my current weight loss is a big deal to me (almost 84lbs!) that I am still fat and that I still have a ways to go before I move out of that category.
Hang in there and DO celebrate the milestones! I am 1.2 lbs and 3 days away from an intermediate goal of 80 lbs in 9 months! I am working hard to make it and I will celebrate it so much, even if I make it a day late
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I have just started noticing my hand veins and tendons pop out a bit on the top of my hand!3
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Going to a podiatrist who specializes in sports medicine so you can jog without pain on the treadmill. I never thought "sports medicine" would ever be used in a sentence with my name. 13
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triddering wrote: »I have just started noticing my hand veins and tendons pop out a bit on the top of my hand!
This! I have always had small wrists and hands, but in the past week or so I've noticed when I move my fingers it's like the workings of a piano! Never noticed that before. Ever
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That feeling you get when one day you put on your favourite pair of jeans and realise that you can't wear them without a belt.5
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This is from what happened yesterday:
Shopping for bras with your triple/quadruple-D sister is interesting when you're now in kid's bra sizes. She thought it was hilarious that I lost a ton of weight in my chest, and my size is rarely covered by most bra designers (28-30A/B, depending on how it's cut. I ended up shopping in the kid's section at Walmart). It's a PITA finding bras in tiny sizes that aren't designed for a 10 year old or aren't ridiculously padded, but I'm happy that I got 6 bras for less than the cost of one bra at Victoria's secret (even though most of them could be classified as training bras).
Honestly, I'm happy I don't need to worry about securing my chest while jogging.
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This is from what happened yesterday:
Shopping for bras with your triple/quadruple-D sister is interesting when you're now in kid's bra sizes. She thought it was hilarious that I lost a ton of weight in my chest, and my size is rarely covered by most bra designers (28-30A/B, depending on how it's cut. I ended up shopping in the kid's section at Walmart). It's a PITA finding bras in tiny sizes that aren't designed for a 10 year old or aren't ridiculously padded, but I'm happy that I got 6 bras for less than the cost of one bra at Victoria's secret (even though most of them could be classified as training bras).
Honestly, I'm happy I don't need to worry about securing my chest while jogging.
Just finished buying a new sports bra because I've lost another cup size in weight. I can't even go to Victoria's Secret; I've got to go to a specialty store and blow $80 on a 34-H. Just so the treadmills next to me don't fill with young men the minute I start running.
I'm super jealous...
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Angelfire365 wrote: »This is from what happened yesterday:
Shopping for bras with your triple/quadruple-D sister is interesting when you're now in kid's bra sizes. She thought it was hilarious that I lost a ton of weight in my chest, and my size is rarely covered by most bra designers (28-30A/B, depending on how it's cut. I ended up shopping in the kid's section at Walmart). It's a PITA finding bras in tiny sizes that aren't designed for a 10 year old or aren't ridiculously padded, but I'm happy that I got 6 bras for less than the cost of one bra at Victoria's secret (even though most of them could be classified as training bras).
Honestly, I'm happy I don't need to worry about securing my chest while jogging.
Just finished buying a new sports bra because I've lost another cup size in weight. I can't even go to Victoria's Secret; I've got to go to a specialty store and blow $80 on a 34-H. Just so the treadmills next to me don't fill with young men the minute I start running.
I'm super jealous...
I'm right there with you on that one. Lost 100+ pounds and I and still 34-G0
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