Valentine's Day chocolate if she's overweight?

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  • jandw122912
    jandw122912 Posts: 66 Member
    I love chocolate and still eat some most days! I would suggest individually wrapped/fun size chocolates so she only has to eat one or two pieces at a time. I had a 37 calorie dark chocolate dove heart today that was fabulous!
  • Mapalicious
    Mapalicious Posts: 412 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    I would ask. "Hey, are you eating chocolate these days or not?"

    Last year on my birthday I took the day off work. I heard my husband ask my daughter if she wanted a donut. A few minutes later, keys in hand, he said "I'm going to Dunkin' Donuts. I'll be back in a few minutes." Hooray, birthday donut! Right? Nope. He came back with donuts for him and her, that's it. He assumed I wouldn't want one because of the calories. I assumed he would know that I wouldn't care about calories on my birthday. We were both wrong.

    It's so hard to support someone losing weight, I'd imagine! I hope he split his doughtnut with you ;)
  • Q_Is_Poison
    Q_Is_Poison Posts: 203 Member
    No way. Chocolate can start a binge. Get her a gorgeous fruit basket. Harry and David has to die for pears. No Chocolate!
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    edited February 2016
    If she is trying but struggling to lose weight.. I'd stick with flowers and maybe a cute date. Take her skating perhaps! No need to even bring up chocolates. They're less standard a Valentine's gift than people think IMO.

    I don't think it's like calling her fat without the words. Personally it shows that you care and are supportive. But I'm also not inclined to take offence at things like that so it really depends how sensitive she is. Have you given her chocolates every single other year? Would it seem amiss to her?
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    Get her just a few REALLY expensive, nice chocolates in a fancy box. That way it's still a decadent, thoughtful gift, but it's not too much of a dieting setback.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    edited February 2016
    auddii wrote: »
    cross2bear wrote: »
    What about a chocolate diamond?!

    http://levian.com/chocolatediamond/

    Yes, the perfect celebration of a fake holiday is the gift of an inflated market based on the deaths of children.

    *nailed it*

    Woah!.gifWoah calm down there, crazyface.
  • KellieTru
    KellieTru Posts: 285 Member
    I'd be thrilled if hubby gets me a small box of expensive/handcrafted chocolate. It's something I wouldn't normally buy for myself and we could share it after dinner :)
    Geez. Now I want chocolate lol.
  • cindyangotti
    cindyangotti Posts: 294 Member
    I would say no to the chocolate. Get something else like a cute stuffed animal with the flowers. Or jewelry. I am always relieved when my boyfriend doesn't give me chocolate.
  • acorsaut89
    acorsaut89 Posts: 1,147 Member
    auddii wrote: »
    cross2bear wrote: »
    What about a chocolate diamond?!

    http://levian.com/chocolatediamond/

    Yes, the perfect celebration of a fake holiday is the gift of an inflated market based on the deaths of children.

    *nailed it*

    Woah!.gifWoah calm down there, crazyface.

    Ha ha ha my thoughts exactly. Pretty sure the original post about a chocolate diamond wasn't meant to be taken seriously . . . or even if it was, let's all just be happy :)
  • ManiacalLaugh
    ManiacalLaugh Posts: 1,048 Member
    There are lots of suggestions, but I don't see my preference:

    Two or three, decadent, rich chocolate truffles. Sure, they're going to have a few more calories than you average Hershey's Kiss, but you only buy a couple/few of them. It gives her the chocolate fix in a way she might not get to enjoy that often (i.e. fancy), and it doesn't bust her diet.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    I would ask. "Hey, are you eating chocolate these days or not?"

    Last year on my birthday I took the day off work. I heard my husband ask my daughter if she wanted a donut. A few minutes later, keys in hand, he said "I'm going to Dunkin' Donuts. I'll be back in a few minutes." Hooray, birthday donut! Right? Nope. He came back with donuts for him and her, that's it. He assumed I wouldn't want one because of the calories. I assumed he would know that I wouldn't care about calories on my birthday. We were both wrong.

    this is the adult solution.
  • Q_Is_Poison
    Q_Is_Poison Posts: 203 Member
    I like the jewelry suggestion. Real gold, no fakes!
  • crypsyx
    crypsyx Posts: 858 Member
    edited February 2016
    If my husband stopped buying chocolate, I'd be offended because that's telling me that he doesn't think that I have the willpower to moderate my chocolate intake, which I do. edit: that said, i told him i didn't want chocolate, but tickets for us to go see Deadpool.
  • fishshark
    fishshark Posts: 1,886 Member
    i appriciate anything my husband does, am not picky, will take whatever it is and be thankful. If its chocolate then il make it work just like i make cupcakes, cheesecakes, and donuts.
  • Lasmartchika
    Lasmartchika Posts: 3,440 Member
    Give me the chocolate!!

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  • charlotteah06
    charlotteah06 Posts: 8 Member
    I passed on the chocolate and flowers and asked for a Pandora charm instead. I prefer something i can keep
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    I expect chocolates . not the small box either. I want the large box with a large variety. I also expect that the chocolate is only for me and nobody else will eat any until I have eaten all the best ones out of the box first.
  • BrownieKitty12345
    BrownieKitty12345 Posts: 149 Member
    Why don't you just ask her?
  • fishshark
    fishshark Posts: 1,886 Member
    thorsmom01 wrote: »
    I expect chocolates . not the small box either. I want the large box with a large variety. I also expect that the chocolate is only for me and nobody else will eat any until I have eaten all the best ones out of the box first.

    hahah you can have the orange creams when im done with the good stuff
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,224 Member
    Last year I got Lego. The year before, Nerf guns.
  • _lyndseybrooke_
    _lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,561 Member
    I honestly wouldn't mind my husband asking me whether or not I wanted chocolate for Valentines Day. We typically don't get each other anything because I find it to be a pointless non-holiday and the chocolate in those heart-shaped boxes aren't even worthy of being fit into my macros, let alone going over my macros. There's only like two or three in there that I even like. One year he randomly got me a little bag of Hershey kisses with almonds, which I was obsessed with at the time. That's more like it.

    But usually I'd rather get nothing, or something that's not edible. If I want chocolate, I'll go out and get chocolate that I actually like. Oh, and jewelry? Nope - luckily for my husband, I couldn't care less about jewelry or diamonds.
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    edited February 2016
    Ask her! Honestly, I don't mind chocolate while I'm cutting weight, I'll just have a couple every day and fit it in.

    However, if she's really struggling and/or finds it hard to not eat a lot at once, or binge, it might not be as such a good idea.

    Ask her! It won't ruin the surprise, she won't be mad. Just say something like "Hey, would you be ok with chocolate related stuff at the moment, or would you prefer other stuff?" Don't make it out as if you're suggesting she should refrain from chocolate, or be on a diet, just ask. Then everyone is happy.

    ETA: If you really must make it a 100% surprise with no hints or asking, a small bag of gift chocolates, alongside another main present not food related will I'm sure work wonders.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    I guess perhaps a small box of chocolates will work. I just don't want to be the person to prompt her to go on a chocolate binge eating frenzy.
  • ElizabethOakes2
    ElizabethOakes2 Posts: 1,038 Member
    Diamonds. Rubies are nice, too. Emeralds work. Pretty much anything 14k gold is appropriate, too, unless she's an only-silver kinda girl. ;)
    Seriously, though, a romantic walk (not sure where you are, but waterfronts are always nice), footrubs by candlelight, etc.
    In our house, Valentines day often turns into 'practical purchase' presents. One year, I got a vacuum cleaner (dang, I love that Hoover). Year before last, a new washing machine. I made him a heart-shaped pizza one year, and I think we went to see a romantic movie... no, wait, Jason Statham playing a hitman isn't romantic, is it? I get so confused...
  • CassidyScaglione
    CassidyScaglione Posts: 673 Member
    Um... ask?
    "Do you want chocolate this valentines, or should i get you something else."
    Its not like us girls don't know valentines day is coming.... I can show you 7 years of facebook posts that prove i know how to count down from 14. :p
  • sunfastrose
    sunfastrose Posts: 543 Member
    Another vote for ask.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    Another vote for ask.

    I *hate* being asked what I want. I'm not particularly hard to shop for. Plus I love surprises.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Last year I got Lego. The year before, Nerf guns.

    Haha my kind of present.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    Go with the flowers...the worst move would be chocolate Slim Fast bars.
  • ElJefeChief
    ElJefeChief Posts: 650 Member
    Last year I got the GF a Groupon for a massage. She works hard and I felt like she needed to pamper herself.