Longest time spent being single?

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  • bflatimer
    bflatimer Posts: 3 Member
    I was fine living single after my wife passed four years ago, but then my mom passed away from breast cancer two years ago and my dad died of a sudden stroke this December. Even though my parents lived far from me, losing both of them put me in a strang and lonely place. I sometimes wonder if I died if anyone would truly miss me. Wow this is an awful subject who started this thread?
  • strozman
    strozman Posts: 2,622 Member
    Single from late 2014 to present. Sometimes it sucks; most of the time it's fun.
  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    OP, you've got the right idea. I read your profile and it says you only accept friend requests from people who live nearby who would have the intention of meeting you in real life. Smart move that was and it's good you're taking a stand and moving towards what you want. Mix and mingle in real life. Yay for that!

    @newmeadow Oh good, people can read that. I've been 'friends' with more than a few people on here and could just never see what I was getting out of it. Numbers on a website mean absolutely nothing to me, and I can interact with people I don't know on this forum. I'm not a people person but I know at least if I'm going to be friends with someone, it needs to be real.
  • humbled380
    humbled380 Posts: 251 Member
    I went 8 yrs no relationship no date and no sex, I was on a journey to learn who I was , learning how to be me! And thankfully I found myself and realize that I'm me for me , but not me from who I date they don't make me, I will say even though I enjoyed my time of solitude , I do enjoy a good cuddle or holding hands and the kissss
  • Madame_Goldbrick
    Madame_Goldbrick Posts: 73 Member
    I was (extremely) single for 4+yrs. Currently in a new relationship... Kinda forgot a lot about them suck! The grass is brown on both sides of the fence
  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    humbled380 wrote: »
    I do enjoy a good cuddle or holding hands and the kissss

    I completely forgot about that. Human contact is a cloud with a silver lining I guess.
  • ricktorres268
    ricktorres268 Posts: 7 Member
    Been single now about two years, at times its lonely. But I deal with it fine. I see those couple's to all in love, and at times I feel abnormal about it as well. But I also believe the generation we live in has lost the values of love and relationship. Most of the love you see on social media, is just a ripple in time. Here today and gone tomorrow. All for show. People are so quick to rush into a relationship, and now and days get out Just as fast. Me, I'm just waiting for that beautiful angle to show her face to me and make her my queen. No point rushing into anything, just wait for that right one.
  • lisa9805
    lisa9805 Posts: 303 Member
    I have been single for 5yrs now if u count last long term, or 2yrs since I dated anyone.
    Sometimes I miss having someone but I am focused on myself right now so it doesn't bother me as much. Plus I have kids so I'm never really lonely lol
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    William4MVP wrote: »
    nicolethompson0715 wrote: »
    I think a year... and I just broke up with my boyfriend on Friday... forgot what that feels like until now.. ouch

    You make it sound like it's the most depressing thing ever to be single. Pathetic. I love being single.

    She was referring the the pain of breaking up.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    bubbles31282 wrote: »
    I was single for nearly 4 years at one point. Im currently just dating. It seems as though there are not a lot of people looking for a serious relationship these days :neutral:

    I tried a bunch of dating sites over the years and had the best luck finding men interested in serious relationships on OKCupid.
  • piggysmalls333
    piggysmalls333 Posts: 450 Member
    MJFSH wrote: »
    I have been married for 20+ years. seems like married people are thinking singles have most fun and singles are thinking married people have fun. I know most times I envy the fun my single friends have!

    So true! The grass always looks greener. I remind myself every day how lucky I am to be healthy, happy and to have a great husband. But some days it would be nice to feel free and single again able to run off to Vegas at a moments notice lol
  • WeCanLoseItJeff
    WeCanLoseItJeff Posts: 24 Member
    I've been single for 7 years now. I don't "need" to be with someone..but I'd really love to be with someone who cares about me and wants to spend time with me. I miss the romance and doing things together as a couple and having someone in my life who gives me that tingly feeling when I think about her. That being said, I'm ok with being single...I'd just prefer not to be. So...ladies...I'm available for the right woman. :smiley: I just thought I'd toss that out there...just in case.
  • chrissymfred
    chrissymfred Posts: 47 Member
    I was married for twenty years, been single for almost nine years, last date was over five years ago. I am fine with it, I like my time to myself. I am also raising two kids and that is my highest priority, along with my physical and mental health.
    Sometimes I do miss male company, and maybe I'll get out there again someday, but for now I am very happy with my life. I love my freedom.
  • dvis334
    dvis334 Posts: 125 Member
    The longest I've been single was 4 years. Then I met the most beautiful young woman I had ever seen. She was smart, talented, and charming. She played hard to get for 2 months. Finally I got drunk enough to be terrifyingly honest with her about how she made me feel and it actually worked. That was 2 years ago. And we broke up today.
  • dvis334
    dvis334 Posts: 125 Member
    Point is I feel like *kitten* now. Moral of the story: Stay single.
  • whmscll
    whmscll Posts: 2,255 Member
    dvis334 wrote: »
    Point is I feel like *kitten* now. Moral of the story: Stay single.

    Are you kidding? I LOVE being married. I still have my freedom, and my husband and I spend time apart occasionally...like this weekend. The key is finding the right person.
  • moya_bleh
    moya_bleh Posts: 1,375 Member
    Been single (and dateless) for the past three years. My problem is not so much the being single, it's the being single because I'm not good enough for anybody that really gets me down and feel lonely/inferior etc. If I didn't feel ugly and repugnant I'd probably enjoy being single a lot more.
  • lisa9805
    lisa9805 Posts: 303 Member
    moya_bleh wrote: »
    Been single (and dateless) for the past three years. My problem is not so much the being single, it's the being single because I'm not good enough for anybody that really gets me down and feel lonely/inferior etc. If I didn't feel ugly and repugnant I'd probably enjoy being single a lot more.

    You look amazing! I creeped your profile lol You have come so far in your goals. Forget those twits that say your not good looking enough for them. You shouldn't be with someone who only likes you based on your looks. If you lived closer I would def. take you out for drinks :p

  • kitten367
    kitten367 Posts: 3 Member
    Been single for exactly 2 years now no I don't feel alone, long distant relationship w my child father but we are not together and were fine
  • just_silk
    just_silk Posts: 105 Member
    I was single for 4 or 5 years. Never bothered me. Married now and happy in that too. I think the trick is to like your own company and then wait for someone whose company you enjoy just as much. Can't go wrong then.
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  • KeepingUpWithKari
    KeepingUpWithKari Posts: 287 Member
    12 years
  • KeepingUpWithKari
    KeepingUpWithKari Posts: 287 Member
    edited February 2016
    William4MVP wrote: »
    nicolethompson0715 wrote: »
    I think a year... and I just broke up with my boyfriend on Friday... forgot what that feels like until now.. ouch

    You make it sound like it's the most depressing thing ever to be single. Pathetic. I love being single.

    Woah.. sits back for the show!

    Btw, I have to agree with him.. I'd love to be single now! Not to date.. but to be me.. no one telling me what to do, wear, when to be home, who to chill with.

    I miss me.
  • sault_girl
    sault_girl Posts: 219 Member
    I had a few boyfriends in highschool and started dating my husband when we were 18. He's been my best friend for the last 15 years. So I guess I've never really been single as an adult.
  • JoshuaMcAllister
    JoshuaMcAllister Posts: 500 Member
    iLiveLoveFitness wrote: »
    William4MVP wrote: »
    nicolethompson0715 wrote: »
    I think a year... and I just broke up with my boyfriend on Friday... forgot what that feels like until now.. ouch

    You make it sound like it's the most depressing thing ever to be single. Pathetic. I love being single.

    Woah.. sits back for the show!

    Btw, I have to agree with him.. I'd love to be single now! Not to date.. but to be me.. no one telling me what to do, wear, when to be home, who to chill with.

    I miss me.

    You've been dating the wrong guys.

    Myself single 2 and half years, agreed with everyone its not bad, I've enjoyed the "me" time and the odd date. Decided to stay single until, like just_silk, I find someone who I enjoy spending time with as much as I enjoy my free time. Possible introvert but I'd rather be single than with someone who is not the same type of person as I am

  • Noelv1976
    Noelv1976 Posts: 18,948 Member
    The first 15 years of my life.
  • sault_girl
    sault_girl Posts: 219 Member

    iLiveLoveFitness wrote: »

    Btw, I have to agree with him.. I'd love to be single now! Not to date.. but to be me.. no one telling me what to do, wear, when to be home, who to chill with.

    I miss me.

    I'm not single and I still get to enjoy not being told what to do, etc.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    looking4better wrote: »
    I was married for 16 years, and my divorce was just finalized on February 3rd. I can say that while I was technically not single, all that time being married to the wrong person was the longest and loneliest, not to mention the most frustrating, of my life, and I felt very single and alone.


    almost 20 here and feel every word of that ;)


    AskTracyAnnK28 wrote: »
    dated 2 guys (each for about 2 months) and they both ghosted me.

    I am truly sorry. my best friend is a guy that ive known since high school, and HE does that *kitten* and i *kitten* at him EVERY TIME. its just not fair to the other person. you want to break up, fine, say ' hey its over' - dont be an *kitten* about it. and to be honest, he tries to do it with me sometimes, but after 25 years of being friends, i dont let that *kitten* fly ;)
  • finny11122
    finny11122 Posts: 8,436 Member
    Makes no difference . Someone else will not make you happy if you are not happy to begin with. Keep dating until you find a great person. If it takes 5 , 10 , 15 years etc to find that person so be it. When 2 happy great people come together and grow and become more together , that is what it is all about . Don't just settle for the first warm body that comes your way and enter a relationship you know deep down you should not be in. True love is out there you just have to find it no matter how long it takes. The more good choices you make the better your life will be.
  • Rochellenoone12
    Rochellenoone12 Posts: 21 Member
    Sometimes those ppl who are in those loving pictures posted are hiding alot for the camera..no1 relationship is perfect..and sometimes you can be jst as lonely in 1
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