Is that THE ONLY thing he wants from me?

Okay, at the risk of being flamed all the way back to my starting weight I'm going to go ahead an be honest.

First, no matter where you meet be it a bar, church, or at the melon isle in the grocery store, the only reason a guy is going to go through the trouble of reeling you in and buying you a drink (or a melon) is because he finds you attractive. Attractive for either gender is short for "sexually attractive" not the type of attractive we call our moms or puppies. The same goes for a woman. I've never had a woman cross the bar to start a conversation with me, buy me a drink, and join me at my table and not had the opportunity for intercourse. I know lots of folks will instantly argue this point, either trying to prove sexual superiority or just to try to make themselves sound completely disinterested in sex in any way (which is really unattractive ladies). But if your honest, that's the way it is. Either that or he looked like a pay check.

So lets skip all the "he's a creep" type of social posturing and get to the bottom line. You're saying that a good looking, well mannered man with his own home and a good job would like to have sex with you and is not afraid to let you know that. If the roles were reversed and a man were saying that a hot, employed, and well educated woman would like to have sex with him there would only be high fives and his friends finding other rides home that evening.

So is it the only thing he wants, no probably not. If all I wanted from you was sex and I didn't score the first three dates I would have found someone else to want it from. So, while he is a be forward about the naked sheet tangling contest invitations, chances are he is also pursuing you as a person as well. I could be wrong and he may just be caught up in the thrill of the hunt and loose interest once he has bagged and mounted his prey but that's the risk we take every time.

But seriously, in most cases if it were not for sexual attraction, no one would ever get to know the "personality" of the other person that they say they are "really" interested in.

Okay ladies (and boy's that are trying to score points with the ladies) flame away.

I honestly cannot see how you'd be trying to be helpful to the OP saying something like that. Remember that such an answer says more about you than her.

You're absolutely right. I read up on evolutionary psychology studies for fun and I don't sugar-coat *kitten*. Works for some, not all. The first part of the sentence you quoted served as my disclaimer. The problem with women in general is that we errantly believe we are helping one another with self-censorship and being fake. It's anything but altruistic because we do it to make and keep friends. The great thing about online threads is that OP already has 3+ pages of such advice to choose from and she can certainly leave my blip of rather alternative perspective behind if she elects to do so.

Hi Pals!

It was my Birthday weekend and I had a Fantastic time


Quick Update!!!

I sent him a note Thursday night stating how much I enjoyed his company and those things about him i liked so far. I then explained how his frequent references to sex are making me think he is only interested in a physical relationship with me and if so, I'm must move on. I explained tht I actually need to get to know a man, before I take it to that level of intimacy. Also, I suggested we spend time at more neutral places and even invited him out to a movie (my treat). I respectfully declined the invitation to his home for now and made it known that that would be my last communication to him.

He called me that night and the first thing out of his mouth was "I'm so, so sorry if I offended you in anyway". He went on to explain that he had felt such a connection with me from the first night that he got carried away, that the last thing he wanted to do was rush me and he would hold my hand and skip down the block if thats what i wanted.lol. He then said "I don't want to lose my blonde baby over something like that" (i changed my hair color). It was about 10 and i was asleep when he called (i'm an early riser). We said our good-byes and I had a the best nights sleep ever

We had dinner on Friday and although he was leaving to Georgia the next morning... we spend the night talking, laughing and smooching on the beach until the sun came up. One of the best dates of my life.