Wondering how everyone else feels about getting asked out at the gym?

aub6689
aub6689 Posts: 351 Member
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I've never understood why people ask me out at the gym. Now as much as I'd love to find my swolemate and all.... I don't understand why guys don't try to get to know you or create some sort of friendship or familiarity before diving straight into ask for a date or number.
Am I the only girl who thinks this?
Guys, do girls ask you out at the gym too?
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  • aub6689
    aub6689 Posts: 351 Member
    Bbg340 wrote: »
    I get asked out all the time...the gym, produce stand, dentist, toys r us, Walmart, pediatrician, at work, napping on a park bench, standing at the urinal, etc...so I get it. It's tough being this ridiculously good looking.

    lol.
    sunn_lighter wrote: »
    maybe you could do things to make yourself less approachable, like licking the bench before you sit down, or using your water bottle like a neti pot over the water fountain.
    Oh! You could also just say "meow meow meow" anytime anybody talks to you. Maybe even mutter "meow meow meow' under your breath, as a deterrent to any that may be watching and thinking of approaching you.

    haha, so headphones with metal blaring just aren't enough these days....

    But this isn't just about me cause I know a lot of girls get asked out at the gym, so I am just wondering if some people actually chat beforehand or if everyone gets this, the first time you ever talk to the guy he is asking you out situation...
  • coreyreichle
    coreyreichle Posts: 1,031 Member
    I think it's weird. At the club? Sure. At the gym? Um, I'm sweating, keeping my pace and breathing good, or doing reps. Don't bother me. Walking out of the gym? Ok.
  • kk_inprogress
    kk_inprogress Posts: 3,077 Member
    Bbg340 wrote: »
    I get asked out all the time...the gym, produce stand, dentist, toys r us, Walmart, pediatrician, at work, napping on a park bench, standing at the urinal, etc...so I get it. It's tough being this ridiculously good looking.

    Have you been asked out in the forum yet? Because I don't want to be <that> girl.
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  • jessica22222
    jessica22222 Posts: 374 Member
    I've been out of the dating scene for a long time, but i don't see anything wrong with being asked out in the gym as long as you're attracted to them.
    It's not really easy to make friends in a gym, not much talking. Going out for a coffee you'd get the chance to get to know them.
  • fatfudgery
    fatfudgery Posts: 449 Member
    @kkenseth Hey KK, will you go out with me?
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    :p
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  • kk_inprogress
    kk_inprogress Posts: 3,077 Member
    fatfudgery wrote: »
    @kkenseth Hey KK, will you go out with me?

    Depends. What'd you have in mind?
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    Is the gym a sacred space different from other public places?

    I don't think that being asked out there is any stranger than being asked out anywhere else.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    we get it, you're sooooo ridiculously good looking that guys just can't help but ask you out!!!


    i bet they're all ugly, that's why you're complaining. if they were hot you'd love it.
  • Bundyman
    Bundyman Posts: 41 Member
    Complaining about getting positive attention is like complaining about too much cheese on your pizza. That's crazy!
  • chaney3000
    chaney3000 Posts: 267 Member
    Never been asked out in the gym. Ha, I must be one of the ugly ones. Hahaha
  • aub6689
    aub6689 Posts: 351 Member
    Capt_Apollo wrote: »
    we get it, you're sooooo ridiculously good looking that guys just can't help but ask you out!!!


    i bet they're all ugly, that's why you're complaining. if they were hot you'd love it.

    Haha, no, no, not at all, especially not at the gym, lol.

    It isn't that they are not good looking, I just find it weird to ask out a girl you've never spoken to before...
    Generally, I find it intimidating to agree to go out with a total stranger.
    azulvioleta6 wrote: »
    Is the gym a sacred space different from other public places?

    I don't think that being asked out there is any stranger than being asked out anywhere else.

    I rarely get approached in other public spaces.
  • xLyric
    xLyric Posts: 840 Member
    I've been asked out twice in my life, so I think I'd just assume they were making fun of me, haha.

    I think typically I'd be much more responsive to a conversation first rather than just flat out asking for a number. Maybe not at the gym, though. If I'm running, I don't want a conversation. I guess in that case it would be better to ask for a number to start the conversation in a more convenient place.
  • Meganthedogmom
    Meganthedogmom Posts: 1,639 Member
    Never had the "issue" of being asked out at the gym. So sorry, can't relate to your problem. I also don't personally know anyone who has had this problem.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    aub6689 wrote: »
    Capt_Apollo wrote: »
    we get it, you're sooooo ridiculously good looking that guys just can't help but ask you out!!!


    i bet they're all ugly, that's why you're complaining. if they were hot you'd love it.

    Haha, no, no, not at all, especially not at the gym, lol.

    It isn't that they are not good looking, I just find it weird to ask out a girl you've never spoken to before...
    Generally, I find it intimidating to agree to go out with a total stranger.



    thankfully you got my sarcasm.

    and i've been hit on and straight up asked out at the gym before. they're kinda embarrassed when i tell them i'm married.
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  • annette_15
    annette_15 Posts: 1,657 Member
    I only work out in my apartment gym, but I live in a large complex, so theres quite a lot of guys who work out there. I think three guys have asked for my number, and its always really awkward. I'm married, but dont wear my ring when I go lift for obvious reasons. Idk, I take it as a compliment, but I dont like when it happens
  • playmadcats
    playmadcats Posts: 199 Member
    edited March 2016
    Depends how it's done. At last gym had one guy who I played tennis with ask if I wanted drink a couple of times, no problem as I knew him. However his Dad asked me out couple of days later which was just weird.
    Not as bad as the guy who dropped plate under bench I was using at present gym, reached under and grabbed my thigh to help himself up, then asked if I minded him watching me! That seriously gave me creeps. Never seen him before and hopefully won't again.
    Generally would appreciate a hi a few times walking in and out of the gym or casual conversation before someone asks anything else.

  • KeepingUpWithKari
    KeepingUpWithKari Posts: 287 Member
    Better then being laughed at.
  • gothomson
    gothomson Posts: 215 Member
    Once you hit 54 all that stuff stops being an issue :-) I know that from personal experience :-)
  • katiebean
    katiebean Posts: 110 Member
    It's never happened to me but I think I'd find it quite awkward. And I get what you mean about it being intimidating going out with a total stranger.

    Also,
    Bundyman wrote: »
    Complaining about getting positive attention is like complaining about too much cheese on your pizza. That's crazy!
    This I totally don't agree with.

  • Dumpty393
    Dumpty393 Posts: 127 Member
    Idk...I honestly never asked a girl out at the gym.
  • Dumpty393
    Dumpty393 Posts: 127 Member
    And I'm there almost every single day lol
  • 25brittany25
    25brittany25 Posts: 27 Member
    Hmmm I never get asked out :/ boo now I'm sad. I get free drinks from bars .. but. I never have a regular hard working guy ask me out .. I think I have resting *kitten* face or something . Lol.. crazy because I actually admire when a guy has guts to come up to me ..! But. They never doooo.. take it as a compliment girl . It's silly when females complain about being attractive. Always stay positive ;)
  • aub6689
    aub6689 Posts: 351 Member
    25brittany25 wrote: »
    Hmmm I never get asked out :/ boo now I'm sad. I get free drinks from bars .. but. I never have a regular hard working guy ask me out .. I think I have resting *kitten* face or something . Lol.. crazy because I actually admire when a guy has guts to come up to me ..! But. They never doooo.. take it as a compliment girl . It's silly when females complain about being attractive. Always stay positive ;)

    Haha, you're gorgeous. I don't get free drinks from bars very often. So maybe we attract different types.
    I admire the guts and am never a jerk when asked out, I just was wondering if the norm was to ask out of the blue. I always thought you should build rapport first or maybe I just posted to encourage guys to try and subtly build rapport or familiarity before just going for it? lol
  • 25brittany25
    25brittany25 Posts: 27 Member
    aub6689 wrote: »
    25brittany25 wrote: »
    Hmmm I never get asked out :/ boo now I'm sad. I get free drinks from bars .. but. I never have a regular hard working guy ask me out .. I think I have resting *kitten* face or something . Lol.. crazy because I actually admire when a guy has guts to come up to me ..! But. They never doooo.. take it as a compliment girl . It's silly when females complain about being attractive. Always stay positive ;)

    Haha, you're gorgeous. I don't get free drinks from bars very often. So maybe we attract different types.
    I admire the guts and am never a jerk when asked out, I just was wondering if the norm was to ask out of the blue. I always thought you should build rapport first or maybe I just posted to encourage guys to try and subtly build rapport or familiarity before just going for it? lol

    Probably they just jump into it because they don't want to distract you but they REALLY would like to go out with you so they ask so you don't get disturbed . A males mind is different than a females. They are probably trying to be considerate. Hey its actually a REALLY nice compliment if a guy approaches you sweaty, red faced in a gym LMFAO .

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