Date decided I was too fat after getting naked
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That's awful!! I'm so sorry he said those things and acted on them. People can be so so cruel BUT it sounds like you dodged a major bullet. Keep your head up high and keep doing YOU and what makes you happy!1
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I have been with the same man for 20 years - he loved me thin, pregnant, chubby, obese, and fit
He thought I was gorgeous thin, pregnant, chubby, obese and fit
He would never take one body part and make a deal out it
Yes! It's great when you're with someone that loves you no matter what size you are. My "hottie" husband has loved me through many sizes.
I can't even tell you how many times people have assumed that I didn't meet my husband until after I lost 140 pounds. When I tell them I was fat when we met and at my heaviest, about 275 pounds, when he proposed to me, people are shocked because, you know, no one could possibly find a fat girl attractive or marriage material.
If someone doesn't want to be with you because of your size, find someone else.
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Ugh, what a gross jerk. Sorry you had to deal with that, but just think how much better it is to be you than to be Mr. Forever Alone Because He's A Douchenozzle.0
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WAS HE SERIOUS!?!?!
Good Riddens!!!!
This dude better be looking like BRAD MF PITT, in his younger days to be saying something like that to you.... No where was that helpful.
Forget that WEAK JERK. Keep doing what you're doing and don't look back.
Seriously ignore his rude comments and his dumb opinion, you will find someone who loves you for you and doesn't criticize your body parts, he needs to grow up and learn some manners, what a jerk.1 -
Sounds like he has an over developed since of entitlement. AKA *kitten*.2
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You guys are kitten amazing! Thank you for helping
I do think my shape is pretty noticeable in clothes, lol. I'm not sure why it was a surprise. It's not like I Ursula-hulk out my clothes.4 -
Sounds like he should limit himself to paying for kitten. He could peruse the wares carefully and choose his favorite style up front with no strings attached. That way, he'll refrain from hurting real women's feelings. And more importantly, he'll eventually secure for himself an oozing case of herpes so he'll be limited to romantic exchanges of the professional variety for the rest of his life.
A close friend of mine was once an escort, and she's a real woman with real feelings too.
And she certainly deserves better than a creep like this!5 -
That is so horrible. Honestly any guy who could be falling in love with someone and have it all undone by something stupid like having some extra weight in a spot isn't worth it. I know it isn't losing the guy that you are talking about here but that he basically pointed out how you already feel but what a freaking jerky. I met my husband on eharmony and I was terrified when I met him that he would think I was too fat and decide I wasn't worth it even though we had been talking and liked each other. I'm so glad to have found someone who makes me feel like I am beautiful (and I am much bigger than you I bet). I hope you find that and no one ever makes you feel the way this one jerky did.0
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He was showing you he couldnt handle your beauty by tearing you down to make himself feel okay.
Have pity on the creature. It is hard for ugly souls to roam the earth. They act out bc they are small minded, deformed and have deminished capacity.
Thank goodness his human cloaking spell began to wear off. You got lucky there.
IMHO (and having first hand experience with this as well) I believe we are supposed to learn from this type of encounter and let it help drive us towards the bigger prize and our goals❤️
Now!! That being said. Girl you are killing me. Be confident. strut your stuff! Be the queen you are. Your lack of self esteem and self love may be like a continual siren for ars clown. You attract what you feel you deserve (deep down)
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Run.
Do not walk away....SPRINT from this loser.
If the whole package doesn't attract him, you will drive yourself crazy trying to become what Mr. Perfect thinks he needs.
He is a dude who will damage you.
Run.1 -
This is so obviously HIS ISSUE. You deserve better, and don't let his issue define you!0
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People are attracted to different things, and physically I think they can usually make that determination pretty quickly. If he isn't attracted to 'fat' women, and you were in fact fat, that would be quickly noted and no second or third date. You didn't suddenly become enormous when you took off your shirt, unless you're packing some uberspanx under there.
Something else is probably going on there, and you probably don't want to stick around to find out what it is. There are decent men out there who will support you, appreciate all parts of you, find you physically attractive, and treat you appropriately - and they will also break things off appropriately without making verbal pro-and-con lists while you stand completely vulnerable in front of them. (That's some weird behavior right there. Seriously.)0 -
I agree with everyone who says you are better off with out this guy. This is not the type of person I would miss in my forever. Feel blessed that you get to move on sooner rather than later!0
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What a jerk. He doesn't deserve to see you naked.0
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I just asked my hubby as a man what would make him criticise a woman about her body when shes naked and ready for fun.......he laughed and said the old line "how do you turn a man on......turn up" he said no man EVER says that....and then mentioned he could have been a bit limp and needed to take the attention about the fact his little soldier wouldn't stand to attention.1
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Just out of curiosity - how, exactly, did the breakup occur? When, exactly, did he come forth with the revelation that he didn't like your weight/physique?0
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Unfortunately attraction is mainly a visual thing. Otherwise we would all be in love with Mother Theresa and Gandhi. Admit it. You want to be with a Brad Pitt more than a Jack Black. HOW he informed you of this was grossly disrespectful. You are lucky that it ended when it did.
Also, I don't understand all of the references to female body parts as insults. My breasts, vagina, etc are highly exceptional. Arent' yours?0 -
What a wanker!!!!!!
I would've smacked him on principle!!! You don't speak to people like that!!!
His mother should be very proud!!!!
Complete *kitten*!0 -
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People are going to go for what they want. The best thing to do is try to get as much info of what they are interested in as possible from the jump. More talking leads to less situations happening such has this. If they don't like what they see and it cannot go any further than what is being shown they can kick rocks, his loss! Plenty of options out there and you possess beyond the required features to carry on... NEXT!1
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