Good-bye MyFitnessPal

So you quit after a week? You're just looking for an excuse to stay fat. Period. We've all had ups and downs here, but stuck with it. In all likelihood, you are dehydrated and your body is storing water to make up for it. Working like that CAN cause weight gain, and to run away so quickly is just cowardly....

I have to agree with this. Your profile says you just joined last month. You should at least stick it out for 3 months to see what kind of results you get after trying for more than a week. It's difficult, but so many people here have done it!

He just boosted his self esteem, he's trying one and fitting in clothes that he hasn't worn in a very long time! I'm getting a modeling show in my living room

Also thanks to everyone who made supportive comments for RB, he really does appreciate it. OK, back to the "Look at What I can Fit into Now" modelling show.

Thats what I'm talking about! With NSV's like that who needs a scale. You're Rockin it Rebal and doing together with your wife makes it so much better. My wife (hootsmamma) is my biggest supporter and keeps me focused.
You guys enjoy your day and don't feel bad about modeling, I put Vikki through that constantly, she is such a sport about it too. :-)

You know what.... it won't work until you are ready. You haven't hit rock bottom yet. When you are REALLY ready, we'll be here.

People are just using this as an excuse to be generally nasty. It's funny, this is supposed to be a 'support' site but people here and just being completely rude. Maybe if you made him feel accepted, showed him how supportive and nice it can be, how much help he could get then he would reconsider leaving.

Would YOU stay somewhere people spoke to you the way some here have? Regardless of whether he said he was leaving or not, it may have been a cry for help.

Or maybe you're wrong. Maybe people aren't looking for an excuse to be nasty at all. Maybe they're hoping to inspire this man to work for his own betterment and health. Maybe they're hoping to push him to see the progress he's made and the mistake it would be for him to give up now.

Maybe people aren't any nastier or more rude than you've been in your own post. Maybe you're not giving people the benefit of the doubt.

There are myriad different approaches to negative, self-defeating posts, and I think every one of them serves a purpose. Tough love is at least as important as touchy-feely approaches. And not a one of us is in a position to know which approach works best with whom.

Nobody's response to this sort of thing is going to make everyone happy.

Some folks were offended by the original post, and that's understandable. When you have literally worked your behind off for a year or more, it's pretty danged irritating to have someone shout that they give up after three weeks. Like that three weeks even begins to compare to what others here have put into this battle. Three weeks is a great start, but it's hardly a substantial, life-changing ordeal. It's a START, and to hear someone yell that those three weeks somehow constitute a sincere and dedicated effort? Some folks struggle with that.

Some folks were horrified and demolished by the idea of this poor person throwing in the towel on his own life and health. It's inconceivable to some folks that someone would give up that early on something this important.

Some folks hoped that they might in some way shock the OP into seeing how self destructive his choice was.

Some folks rushed to cosset and coax, and sometimes that is exactly the right response. Some folks need the pat, the hand hold, the gentle nudge.

Still others felt manipulated. Felt like he was just looking for an excuse to stop trying, like all he really wanted was to inspire a huge sympathetic response and throw his hands up, saying, "See? I tried!" They likely feel he could have found a better, less negative, more honest way to drum up support.

There's no condemnation here because I think all of the responses TO HIM (though not necessarily to each other) were appropriate, given the posts he gave us.

When all is said and done, it's all about personal perception and individual style. I think it's unfortunate that you view those whose style differs from yours in such an unflattering and unfair light. If calling someone to the carpet for proclaiming that he's giving up on his health and his quest after three weeks is a bad thing, I'm not sure just how much good we can do here. Sometimes frank honesty is the only way to get people to see through their own fables and delusions. And sometimes that stings.

Good thing we have both blunt truth-tellers and huggers here, isn't it? It truly does take all kinds to make things work.

Kris

You don't want to quit. You want people to give you reasons to stay. If you really wanted to quit, you would just stop coming to this site without making an announcement.

You have lots of reason not to give up.

agreed

so you built a block wall.......? how did you do it? one block at a time you say? hmm, interesting.

Hi Please don't give up.It really does take time.But you really can do it.Like Jillian Michaels says you have to fight for it and on the beginning of the Reebok video they are running up stairs(not taking the elevator)It says you just have to know.Hard work will be rewarded.And I promise you.It will be.Hang in there.You can do it.You never fail untill you quit trying.:flowerforyou:

You muscles are protecting themselves with fluid so you will be heavier for a couple days

Listen, I know this is frustrating, but I looked back at your diary all the way to June24th. I saw several skipped meals, loads of processed food and extremely high sodium levels. All those are things that will sabotage a "diet". MFP is just a tool to help you structure and monitor yourself. YOU have to do the work and all the exercise in the world won't help if you don't get the diet under control. The skipped meals and high sodium alone are enough to confuse your body and make it hold onto every calorie that comes it way. You need to relearn your way of eating, not diet. Dieting is only temporary.

ummm, then you weren't ready for myfitnesspal or anything else for that matter. you took the time to fill out your profile, and I love your goals/inspirations, you do know the weight I've lost started in Feb., it's been almost 6 months and I'm down only 35pounds {which some would say is good} but naturally I could be further alone. during these 6months I've had to deal w/ weeks a weight-gain, stress, binge-eating, sickness, family deaths, etc. . . It not only takes time, but a mindset that no matter the crap that happens {it's called life} you have to re-group, and re-focus. motivation has to come from inside you, every now and again, you'll get it from someone else, or something else, or and event, but it's up to you. even though you said it, you don't really want to be fat, no one who is truly overweight wants to be fat. i'd like to say that you can do this, but it seems like you need time and a better outlook on life before you can take this journey by the horns.

People are just using this as an excuse to be generally nasty. It's funny, this is supposed to be a 'support' site but people here and just being completely rude. Maybe if you made him feel accepted, showed him how supportive and nice it can be, how much help he could get then he would reconsider leaving.

Would YOU stay somewhere people spoke to you the way some here have? Regardless of whether he said he was leaving or not, it may have been a cry for help.

I AGREE!!!!

wow...dont give up! i mean look at me...i still have a TON of weight to go and you dont see me giving up...


I have to edit my post! i just went to your profle and looked at your diet for the last few days...and all i have to say is, what did you expect? no fruits, no veggies, no whole grains...just meat, meat and meat and junk...way too much SODIUM too..

i still dont think you should quit, but you should really re-evaluate your diet plan, just cause it says you can have 2000 calories, it does mean that it can be from fatty and salty foods and if you are under you are still good.. you need to make healthier choices and i know that it will work for you. especially if you do all the exercise you claim to do...

Losing ten pounds in a little more than a week seems like a big deal to me, and I am not really sure what you're looking for. Myfitness pal just tracks--the rest is on you. If you're over eating, you're going to gain. Sometimes, it' mostly diet that affects your weight--exercise keeps your healthy and assists in weight loss.

YES!

This whole thread is so sad. And I don't know what's more sad, someone crying out for help and wanting to give up...or everyone bashing him for it. :sad:

I was 191 pounds at my heaviest, and I was also 5'2" tall at the time so it made me look even bigger being so short. I remember trying to lose weight and being obsessive about the scale, and I also remember being in tears after seeing either no change or a gain during certain weeks even though I was eating how I should have and exercising 4-5 times a week at the gym. I wanted to give up as well. In fact, I DID give up at one point because I felt like it just wasn't working. But, when I gave up, I gained even MORE weight and was more depressed. So I went back on the whole "giving up" thing and started again...

I learned to not be so obsessive with the scale. It was hard at first, REALLY HARD, because I was one of those ones that wanted to weigh-in once a week or even more than that. I cut it down to the first of every month. And with about 4 weeks in between weigh-ins, I really saw a huge difference every time I stepped on the scale. In the meantime during the month, I knew that I was doing some good because my clothes were getting looser. So I knew that something good was happening. I also went to the doctor 2 months after I started working out and eating better, and I found out that my cholesterol was down from 201 to 179.

By stretching out your time frame of when to weigh-in, you start to notice these little successes even more. Remember, that when you are losing weight, even though we really want to see the number on the scale go down, what's really important is how we feel. And by weighing ourselves all the time, we are making ourselves feel miserable! By not letting that get to us, we are able to feel the power of those small successes, like, "I can wear this pair of jeans which is a whole 2 inches smaller in the waist line than my other jeans!"

But don't ever give up on yourself. You have to ignore all the negative people, and it's really sad when they are the very ones on a website like this which is supposed to be your place of refuge where we support each other and hide the hurt caused by people outside this website. If you keep going, stay diligent with your nutrition, and keep on working out, you will get to where you want to be. And heck, if you are not careful, you will go beyond your goals!

It takes time honey; I go through phases of extreme workout & still gain some, but the feeling of working out is still good. Please DO NOT give up