Good-bye MyFitnessPal

Thriceshy

Im done I tried and now there is just weight gain. since 6/25 i have now GAINED eight pounds when I feel that is impossible. I am doing Couch to 5k, half the time I am doing it twice in one day. Saterday is case in point I helped my dad with building a block wall in his backyard. I started this weekend at 280lbs As the day went on my pants were literally falling off my *kitten*. Since there was no way of recording lifting and pushing 82lbs blocks I put it in the MyFitnessPal as walking up stairs. My job was picking up the Block off the pallet putting it on a hand cart then pushing it 100ft to the wall and piffling into place. How do you gain weight doing that I don't know. And you cant say it was three pounds of muscle. And after researching starvation mode is bull I eat more than half my calories to function so my body isn't in starvation mode and Im under most of the time because I am not going to force feed myself just to "eat back" my calories.

So I say this "GOOD-BYE MyFitnessPal" thanks for helping me lose ten pounds of the one-hundred I wanted I am now completely done with dieting it is no use anymore to me I am just going to stay fat

Are you serious? You just joined last month and you're already quitting? That's tragic, it took you longer than that to get heavy, didn't it?

Have your goals changed? Have your hopes and dreams changed? Or do you still want those things?

You lost TEN POUNDS. Ten is amazing, and you're giving up. TEN POUNDS--why would you give up now? That's more than some folks lose in three months!

You say "starvation mode" is BS. I thought so, too, and so I was coming in at 1000+ calories under every day . . . and barely losing weight. I don't eat back ALL my calories, but I shoot for a minimum net of 1200, and guess what? The weight started coming off again. If you're not losing, if you're gaining, why not try that? What on earth do you have to lose by trying it? How could it hurt?

Here's what gets me through the rough spots when I want to give up--I remember that, weight aside, I am eating better, healthier, and smarter than I ever have. My blood sugar is well controlled, and my back hurts so much less than it once did. It's not just about the pounds on the scale, it's about the lifestyle. It's about being healthier. It's about feeling better. And, honestly, you haven't been at it for long enough to see some of those benefits. So do yourself and those that love you a favor and stick with it. You deserve to feel better and be healthier.

Please stick with it!

Kris

RebelBrew

No! Don't give up! Look into Weight Loss Surgery - I recommend the Lap Band System!!! Never give up!

and what is the lap band suppose to help with that you can eat what you want and it doesn't matter its about eating heather and not cheating

HisBeloved65

I totally agree with this. Calling someone a loser is not helpful. I know I would run if someone were saying that to me. This all makes me very sad. This person needs encouragement, tips (some very good ones given) and to say that food is more important to this individual then his child is about as cold hearted and cruel as one can get.

Rebel, I pray that you are able to reach deep down inside and find whatever you need within yourself to keep up this fight. Yes for your daughter, but mostly for you. You deserve to be healthy. It is hard. It is agonizing. It is easy to walk away. I believe you can do this. I believe that we all can but it means digging deep to find what motivates us. You are holding a precious child there.

I hope you can shake off the nasty responses and focus on the ones that are pointing in the right direction.

I believe in you. You can do it if you decide to keep fighting. I'd say that you have had success, sometimes it doesnt look like our expectations but thats part of whats cool on this site is having supportive friends who can sometimes help you see what you might be missing. Throw out the cruelty and the judgement and keep the good stuff.

I have been faithfully following a healthy lifestyle for just over 2 months and have lost 13.4 lbs. much slower then I thought it would be. But it really feels like instead of dropping massive weight, I have actually changed the way I think about food and activity. That is how change happens.

I hope you choose to come back and read this...you are worth this fight.

HaleyAlli

Wow, you gave up after only a couple weeks? That's not cool. No offense, but that's REALLY not cool.

craft338

how many times have all of us started a diet, lost a few pounds, gained a couple back, then get discouraged and give up? how many times have we failed at diets and gained all our weight back plus more? how often have we said "i'll start Monday" and got to Thursday but just slipped back to our old ways because we probably just weren't ready for the lifestyle change.

we've all been where this guy is now. we used to be him. he's just not ready yet. he'll get there eventually, but it has to be his choice. hopefully something will "click" for him one day like it did for all of us who are getting healthy with the help of MFP

i won't say "don't give up" because i know it won't change anyone's mind if it's already made. but when you get over this slump and really do decide to get healthy, MFP will be here to help. it's gonna be a very difficult and long journey and you're gonna need as much support as you can get and MFP is the best thing you'll find out there.

good luck on whatever journey you decide to take.

RebelBrew

maybe I should step back a little for everyone who is telling me I didn't gain the weight in a year. I didn't gain it all but I did gain 50lbs in a year 3 surgeries will do that and at my highest weight I was 314 and yes after a month I'm ready to quit it is not helpful when I watch what I eat exercise now and lose then now gain steadily back. Im not expecting that MyFitnessPal will do it all for me I never said that but when changing diet and beginning exercise and weight comes off and now gain plateaus are that plateaus not gains.

HisBeloved65

I love this!

Rocky: "Ah come on, Adrian, it's true. I was nobody. But that don't matter either, you know? 'Cause I was thinkin', it really don't matter if I lose this fight. It really don't matter if this guy opens my head, either. 'Cause all I wanna do is go the distance. Nobody's ever gone the distance with Creed, and if I can go that distance, you see, and that bell rings and I'm still standin', I'm gonna know for the first time in my life, see, that I weren't just another bum from the neighborhood. "

HisBeloved65

'maybe I should step back a little for everyone who is telling me I didn't gain the weight in a year. I didn't gain it all but I did gain 50lbs in a year 3 surgeries will do that and at my highest weight I was 314 and yes after a month I'm ready to quit it is not helpful when I watch what I eat exercise now and lose then now gain steadily back. Im not expecting that MyFitnessPal will do it all for me I never said that but when changing diet and beginning exercise and weight comes off and now gain plateaus are that plateaus not gains'

I believe you. Surgery and recovery takes a toll. It will pay off if you stick with it. I have been overweight (by anywhere from 60- 90 lbs) for the last 23 years and never have I had success at changing my lifestyle but now its working. Its been slow for me, slower then I thought. I see the scale move and sometimes it goes down a lot of the time it goes up but I am getting in shape, the inches are coming off and that doesnt show on the scale. My body feels better. I feel alive. The weight will come off but I have had to learn to keep moving and make sure I am netting as much as possible 1200 calories.

I know this is your decision to make but I pray that you keep fighting.

SuzieR

maybe I should step back a little for everyone who is telling me I didn't gain the weight in a year. I didn't gain it all but I did gain 50lbs in a year 3 surgeries will do that and at my highest weight I was 314 and yes after a month I'm ready to quit it is not helpful when I watch what I eat exercise now and lose then now gain steadily back. Im not expecting that MyFitnessPal will do it all for me I never said that but when changing diet and beginning exercise and weight comes off and now gain plateaus are that plateaus not gains.

Dude, you are 13lb lighter now than when you joined MFP a few weeks ago!!! That is NOT failure! That is a great start on the road to the new you!! This is not the Biggest Loser where you have constant workouts all day and a controlled diet in a controlled environment. This is real life, where we all have ups and downs, good days and bad, and you have made a great start to a healthier you! Don't throw it all away!

KierstyPants

I also quit things when they get hard. That's why I'm fit and successful in general. Oh wait, that's right...I don't quit things.

AHAHA.

deanadimples

Must have been TOM. Heck I can weigh 6 lbs heavier during that.

MFP is a TOOL to use while YOU lose weight.

Good luck.

colleenm137

You remind me of me a couple of weeks ago. After 2 weeks of paying close attention to what I ate and exercising, I stepped on the scale to discover I'd gained several pounds. I stayed in bed an entire day after that, ready to throw in the towel. I'm fortunate to have a super supportive boyfriend. He told me, "Trust the process. You are exercising and making healthier choices. Give it time. It will happen." Pretty much what a lot of people in this thread are telling you. Don't give up. The process is slow but the results start adding up and when they do you'll feel so good about yourself and you'll be so glad you didn't give up. Really use MFP too. This is my first post, but I read the forum all the time. There is so much useful information and support here. Don't give up and good luck to you.

monkeybuttsmommy

I have been on a plateau for the last 6 weeks! But I am not giving up. Living is just too important and its a better option for me than dying! I am still healthier than when I started! I am toner, happier and I am nicer to my family and to myself. I can walk a flight of stairs without dying at the top from one trip! I can walk with my family at outtings instead of having to sit down every 15 minutes! My endurance and health are 10 times better than when I started. Its not just about weight. Its about being healthier so you can live longer and be happier. Giving up is easy. Its why so many people do it! But think of where you could be one year from now as apposed to where you are now! It is worth it. But you have to WANT it more than taking the easy way out. I hope you don't give up. You're worth the effort. Good luck.

Thriceshy

maybe I should step back a little for everyone who is telling me I didn't gain the weight in a year. I didn't gain it all but I did gain 50lbs in a year 3 surgeries will do that and at my highest weight I was 314 and yes after a month I'm ready to quit it is not helpful when I watch what I eat exercise now and lose then now gain steadily back. Im not expecting that MyFitnessPal will do it all for me I never said that but when changing diet and beginning exercise and weight comes off and now gain plateaus are that plateaus not gains.

Okay, so you gained fifty in a year. So did I. In fact, I gained more than that in six months. I'm not sure I understand your point. You haven't given losing a year--you haven't even given it a month.

Ask yourself what happens if you quit. I know you know the answer to that. What happens is nothing--maybe a little weight gain, 20 lbs or so. Maybe your blood pressure and your A1c creep a little higher. Maybe your left foot aches when you walk or the sciatica starts to really give you grief. And in a year, you look back, and you ask yourself where you might have made it to if you hadn't thrown in the towel at less than a MONTH. How good is that going to feel?

Now, ask yourself what happens if you keep on. If you keep working, if you try to build upon that ten pounds. At the very worst, you only lose a little, but still make important and healthy lifestyle changes. Even if your rate of loss slows to four pounds a month? In a YEAR, that's almost FIFTY POUNDS!

So what do you want to be doing in a year? Walking around fifty pounds lighter, or 20 pounds heavier and hating yourself because you quit?

Get on it, bro. Come on. If this is what you want, then you're already in the right place--just make up your mind that it's what you want and what you're willing to work for in the long term. If being healthier and losing weight isn't what you want, then cancel your account and move on.

Regardless, I wish you luck.

Kris

WinningAt50

Aww!! Sorry to hear that you want to give up. I just want to say.. There will always be reasons to quit things when it's challenging , brings you pain, or you just don't get the results you want quick enough. I use to weigh 356 lbs. I have lost and gained 50lbs 3 times within the past few years. I felt like I was on a roller coaster that would never end. Today, right now, this very moment I am still struggling but I am not going to give up. Today I weight 308lbs . You just need to regroup and search deep inside your heart and decide if you really want to lose this weight. I had to tell myself over and over again that I am not going to let food control my life, I want to live and enjoy my life to the fullest. I don't want to live my life with Food controlling it. You have to take baby steps and forget about that dare scale. Let your feelings be your guide not the scale. So what if you have a bad day, bad week just don't ever quit, don't give it. I don't know you but I know that you can do this because you are crying out for help just like i was. I joined My Finess pal because I have been stuck at 308 for several months and I am still up and down, I get frustrated, mad and some more stuff but I am not going to quit. There are lots of motivational people out here. You just have to chose the ones that have the same types of goals that you have. I would love to be your friend because I think that we could really help each other. I still have about 85 more lbs to go. So please don't focus so much on where you are at and what the scale says. Look at where you are heading and the rewards at the end.. Today I feel wonderful. My workouts are better and food is not controlling me anymore. Please rethink this and I would love to be your friend. Enjoy the holiday and don't be so hard on yourself. We are all in this together and Together we can beat the battle of the Bulge..

mrphil86

I'm usually compassionate and very nice but when I see things like this I have no sympathy.

First of all, it seems like you make no effort on your part to loose the weight. Your diary is not even open so people can see it. A website does not makes the pounds come off. A little bit of exercise at work is not going to help your cause either. If you do not diet right, then what is the point?

Second, this community as a whole has lost a lot of pounds. So for you to dismiss everything we say is just asinine. A lot of things come from experience which obviously you do not have. So, either grow up and put some effort or get out. Last thing this place needs is someone plaguing the mood.

kellyscomeback

I know that you are upset over the weight gain, I see it in your face when you step off the scale (I'm his wife BTW).


You may not be losing the pounds but you are loosing inches. I notice a difference when you take your shirt off and when you asked me for a belt this weekend! Plus I think you have a sensitive metabolism, we don't eat out normally and we did 2 days this three day weekend.

Don't listen to the people putting your down, maybe they are the ones seeking the motivation. I can't make you do anything, but I notice changes in you and so do our families. I will still be cooking light so you can still eat healthy and I hope you still go for runs with F and I. I love you!

SimplyDeLish

Maybe examine your attitude and have some accountability. MFP isn't a diet. It's tools to help you make a healthy lifestyle change.

20 Million pounds lost...MFP works if you do!

Bye...you won't be missed!

chrissym78

wow, that's not cool. I hate when people quit so quickly, kinda offends me actually. I've been at this a LONG time and will press on for the rest of my life.

HisBeloved65

I know that you are upset over the weight gain, I see it in your face when you step off the scale (I'm his wife BTW).


You may not be losing the pounds but you are loosing inches. I notice a difference when you take your shirt off and when you asked me for a belt this weekend! Plus I think you have a sensitive metabolism, we don't eat out normally and we did 2 days this three day weekend.

Don't listen to the people putting your down, maybe they are the ones seeking the motivation. I can't make you do anything, but I notice changes in you and so do our families. I will still be cooking light so you can still eat healthy and I hope you still go for runs with F and I. I love you!

yes! dont listen to people putting you down. baby steps, baby steps. You can do this!

Saruman_w

Quitter! It takes lots of effort and discipline to lose weight. It's going to take time to lose that weight, quit being so damned impatient. Just because you're not seeing any short-term success doesn't mean you're aren't on the right track. If you're eating healthy and exercise you WILL lose weight. Just keep at it and you'll get there. If you give up now, you'll just regret it later unless you want to be fat forever.

HisBeloved65

Maybe examine your attitude and have some accountability. MFP isn't a diet. It's tools to help you make a healthy lifestyle change.

20 Million pounds lost...MFP works if you do!

Bye...you won't be missed!

this is a sad thing to say to someone who is down. no one succeeds under that kind of meanness. so sad.

ljw556

I think that sometimes it can be unhelpful to weigh yourself too often. There are other ways of measuring success. In the past, I have found it most effective to weigh myself once per month. I think it's also good practice to keep a little book in which you can write all the improvements that you see in your life. For instance, I have more zest for life, my heals hurt MUCH less, I can now use the elliptical for 20 minutes - I could only do 2 minutes when I started 3 months ago, I've dropped a dress size etc. It's also a good idea to measure yourself with a tape measure every 2-4 weeks and to measure your body fat %, BMI and hip to waist ratio. You can log these things in MFP and then look at the charts. After a month or so you should be able to see the charts generally dropping. I think the book with the life improvements is one of the most effective tools I use. I also write down the things I think of doing in the future - things that I would never have thought of doing before. You have to try to look at the bigger picture if you want to succeed long term. Good luck.

edit: I'd just like to say that maybe you are not coming at this from the right angle motivation wise either. Maybe you would feel more enthused about living healthily if you were doing things you really enjoy to facilitate that. For instance, I have SO much fun at Zumba, i absolutely love it. Maybe you would find doing something like boxercise more fun than doing heavy lifting on a building site? That way it will feel more like fun than a chore, and you'll want to do it if you lose pounds that week or not. Just for the craic of it.

MichelleF81

My advice take it or leave it - stop wallowing in self pity, man up and grow up pair!!!

With an attitude like that you will stay fat forever. Instead of talking about how hard done to you are and acting like the world owes you something how about reading some of the inspiring stories of members who have worked their *kitten* of to get the body they wanted. Do you think they gave up the first week they had a small gain......errrrrr nope!!

I hope for your own sake that you start fighting for what you want instead of giving up at the first hurdle because you will be a hell of a lot happier and healthier for doing so and it means you might actually get to see your children grow up, have kids of their own and be an active part of that.....but hey it's your call. Do what the hell you want. Good luck to you.

WalkingGirl1985

Okay guys, whats up with all these negitive comments, your P***sing me OFF!! :explode:

YOU are the real losers, not Rebel. Very immature!! I know its not my place, but can not stand when hes being put down like this!!

kayleeblue

Go ahead...quit! So when your daughter grows up and someone says..."what happened to your daddy" She can say.."I wasn't worth it, he gave up on himself,,therefore he gave up on me. He had a heart attack before my 4th birthday." " I sure wish he would have stuck with it..I miss him so much." Makes you want to cry doesn't it? Good! Now get off your *kitten* and take your daughter for a walk! Don't do it for yourself...do it for HER! Sorry...but if I can do it so can you..and I'm doing it not only for myself..but for my boys and my future grandchildren. DON'T GIVE UP! Did I pi$$ you off? Good! Now take your anger out on a workout! Add me if you would like...or are you honestly going to give up. But if you stick with it...don't expect me to be nice all the time...just blunt and honest. Good Luck!

bjohs

I know that you are upset over the weight gain, I see it in your face when you step off the scale (I'm his wife BTW).

You may not be losing the pounds but you are loosing inches. I notice a difference when you take your shirt off and when you asked me for a belt this weekend! Plus I think you have a sensitive metabolism, we don't eat out normally and we did 2 days this three day weekend.

Don't listen to the people putting your down, maybe they are the ones seeking the motivation. I can't make you do anything, but I notice changes in you and so do our families. I will still be cooking light so you can still eat healthy and I hope you still go for runs with F and I. I love you!

^^^ This! What a wonderful wife you have.

harlanJEN

Ok, I"m gonna join in with the others. Geez, what an attitude ! Being fat takes no effort - TRUE. If you want to get healthy - feel better, it does take effort. You will have ups and downs - it isn't easy, but believe me, it isn't impossible.

Quitting and keep doing what you've been doing in the past will certainly NEVER get you to a healthier weight. MyFitnesspal doens't do it FOR you. It's a TOOL. Until you are mentally ready to set your mind to your goal and stay the course - you are probably better off quitting. Quitters never win. In anything.

With all that said --- Good luck !

bjohs

Rebel, if you need extra motivation, read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/bjohs/view/sex-weight-loss-117390. I apologize to your wife in advance, lol!

It may be just the motivation you need! If not, maybe it will just give you a good laugh to help brighten your day.

widmar

I know that you are upset over the weight gain, I see it in your face when you step off the scale (I'm his wife BTW).


You may not be losing the pounds but you are loosing inches. I notice a difference when you take your shirt off and when you asked me for a belt this weekend! Plus I think you have a sensitive metabolism, we don't eat out normally and we did 2 days this three day weekend.

Don't listen to the people putting your down, maybe they are the ones seeking the motivation. I can't make you do anything, but I notice changes in you and so do our families. I will still be cooking light so you can still eat healthy and I hope you still go for runs with F and I. I love you!

This should be your biggest motivation. She is soooo proud of you and there to support you. I wish you all the luck and hope you stick with it. It is not easy.. physically or mentally. Don't listen to the negativity. I believe that your post was a cry for help and support or you would have just quit and not said anything to anyone.
Keep at it!!!!