How do you react when someone offers you food you want but "shouldn't" have?

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GirlonBliss
GirlonBliss Posts: 38 Member
edited July 2016 in Health and Weight Loss
Do you feel like they're sabotaging your diet? Do you say no and feel guilty? Do you say YES and feel guilty?

For me, I would always give in and tell myself I'd just work it off later. I felt bad to let other people down. You?
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  • Ricksh1000
    Ricksh1000 Posts: 88 Member
    edited July 2016
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    As above for me!

    Must say though when i have declined it felt great :)
  • daniip_la
    daniip_la Posts: 678 Member
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    I generally just say "No, thank you".
  • JustynW
    JustynW Posts: 1 Member
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    Unless it fits in my macros, (which it usually doesnt because im doing ketosis) i decline. Don't need the extra calories wasted when I can save it for a good meal.
  • llbrixon
    llbrixon Posts: 964 Member
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    This is one of my food rules... Automatic no for any foods offered to me.
  • santje00
    santje00 Posts: 95 Member
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    GirlonBliss wrote: »
    Do you feel like they're sabotaging your diet? Do you say no and feel guilty? Do you say YES and feel guilty?

    For me, I would always give in and tell myself I'd just work it off later. I felt bad to let other people down. You?

    I say "no thanks", but often get annoyed and even angry at people having this food around me. I know it sounds silly, but I can get frustrated with people eating something they should not have, since it could jeopardise their health. At other times, I crack and give in. Feeling horrible afterwards of course.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    edited July 2016
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    I just say "damn! i can't today. Maybe next time".

    I make it clear that i'm appreciative and to continue to offer me things in the future. In general there are days i can and cant swing the extra cals.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
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    I say 'look delicious, but no thank you'

    when pressed ' no thank you I don't want any'

    when really pressed I say 'seriously no thank you'

    if they keep going they get a :huh:
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
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    santje00 wrote: »
    GirlonBliss wrote: »
    Do you feel like they're sabotaging your diet? Do you say no and feel guilty? Do you say YES and feel guilty?

    For me, I would always give in and tell myself I'd just work it off later. I felt bad to let other people down. You?

    I say "no thanks", but often get annoyed and even angry at people having this food around me. I know it sounds silly, but I can get frustrated with people eating something they should not have, since it could jeopardise their health. At other times, I crack and give in. Feeling horrible afterwards of course.

    This sounds like an unhealthy attitude, I just hope you are careful.
  • ziggy2006
    ziggy2006 Posts: 255 Member
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    GirlonBliss wrote: »
    Do you feel like they're sabotaging your diet? Do you say no and feel guilty? Do you say YES and feel guilty?

    For me, I would always give in and tell myself I'd just work it off later. I felt bad to let other people down. You?

    Just because you may have a feeling doesn't necessarily mean that your feeling is reality. I think the most powerful question you can ask yourself if it feels like someone is sabotaging your diet is, "Am I sure?" If you don't have convincing evidence that the person is actually trying to sabotage you, then it is probably unwise to jump to that conclusion.

    I don't feel guilty regardless of my decision because I don't use should and shouldn't statements, as they are just a way to set yourself up to feel bad about yourself. Whether or not I accept food offered to me depends on the individual circumstances. My first reaction is usually to refuse, because in my profession, we seem to get offered a lot of empty calories. But sometimes I decide to work the treat into my daily allotment. Whichever decision I make, I take responsibility for it, consider it a learning experience if I am later unhappy with my choice, and move on.

    I don't feel any guilt about either accepting or declining offered food. People don't care about my food choices. If someone is upset by my choices regarding the food I consume, that is on them and not something I can (or would care to even if I could) control.
  • gillie80
    gillie80 Posts: 214 Member
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    rainbowbow wrote: »
    I just say "damn! i can't today. Maybe next time".

    I make it clear that i'm appreciative and to continue to offer me things in the future. In general there are days i can and cant swing the extra cals.

    this, usually with a rueful smile and a look of longing at whatever i'm being offered (usually chocolate cake for birthdays in work)
  • Bluepegasus
    Bluepegasus Posts: 333 Member
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    It depends on whether I actually want it or not. If I do, I either fit it into my calorie allowance, work it off, or not worry about it for one day. A lot of the time it's something I can't actually have anyway (lactose intolerance).
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,360 Member
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    GirlonBliss wrote: »
    Do you feel like they're sabotaging your diet? Do you say no and feel guilty? Do you say YES and feel guilty?

    For me, I would always give in and tell myself I'd just work it off later. I felt bad to let other people down. You?

    I don't think I have ever felt bad or felt like I have let other people down by saying no thank you to their offers of food. Perhaps you need to work on some assertiveness skills.



  • snowflake930
    snowflake930 Posts: 2,188 Member
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    I just say "No thank you". My calories are pretty much planned out for the day. No guilt on either side.
  • dragon_girl26
    dragon_girl26 Posts: 2,187 Member
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    Erfw7471 wrote: »
    I say "no thanks." What I eat or not eat shouldn't affect someone else or let them down or hurt their feelings. If it does then that's their issue & not mine. My issue is doing what's best for my body. I know some people show "love" through food and get offended (my mother is one of them) but again, I'm not going to eat something I don't want just to appease someone else.

    Edited to add: and about the "work it off later" - nope, it's easier physically and less time consuming to say no to a piece of pie than it is to run an hour & a half to burn it off, lol.

    Haha, that last part's especially a good point. Most times I have exercise in the plan anyway, but why add additional if I don't need/want to? Although, for some things I'll just have a day that I'm eating over my deficit, and be done with it.

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