Working Out and Marriage

My husband doesn't workout or eat healthfully, thinks it's silly I do and hates when men hit on me.
I'd like if he did and I suggest always we walk places instead of driving he just has no interest in an active lifestyle and tries to impede mine. Luckily he works a lot so I have lots of time for exercise and doing sports I like.
I guess this thread is about getting in shape and then cheating on a spouse. It certainly gets old though hearing from your spouse when you leave to go do something "are you going off to meet so and so?". But I wouldn't cheat just because I have gotten into shape and feel good about myself. It is, though, nice to hear when someone acknowledges my hard work I've put into making even little puny arm muscles rather than hearing I'm too vain and I'm silly for caring about things like that

mskessler89 wrote: »

JessicaMcB wrote: »

Honestly this exact scenario is why I'm glad I married such a good man. I was a beached whale for about 5 of the last 8 years we've been together, meanwhile my husband is a very handsome man- he absolutely could have done better. But he stood by me and never pushed me on it.

When I started this journey in February he started with me (I think mostly to support me since he's since abandoned ship ) and never made me feel weird about us working out together. Now 74lbs later he watches the kids at night when I go out to run. Our fitness goals are not the same and that doesn't matter to me. He's gotten a little insecure once or twice recently because men are blatantly checking me out in front of him and our kids but its not an issue because we both know we're in our marriage for the long haul.

As a random aside I don't get who finds all this opposite sex "attention" appealing. I HATE random dudes approaching me. Who thinks, "Yes lets hit on the woman with the wedding ring and the three kids with her. Obviously she's looking for companionship." -_- lol

I'm very happy and emotionally satisfied in my marriage, and I get uncomfortable when men hit on me. I'm put in a situation where I have to be on my guard in case they don't take no for an answer, and in some instances I've felt very unsafe. I walk from my office to Subway for lunch sometimes, and I've had cars turn around and follow me while catcalling. However, in my previous relationship, I thrived on that kind of attention. I was either ignored or berated by my boyfriend, so random dudes hitting on me made me feel a little less crappy about myself.

I agree with this. Why do some men think it's ok to hit on a woman infront of her kids? I once had some dude in a store tell his daughter to play with my kids so he could talk to me (as if I should be delighted at the opportunity). Creep.
I do think that if you are not attracted to your partner at all you owe it to them to discuss it or if it's something that can't be worked on you should leave. Because no one deserves to be tied to someone who finds them physically unappealing. I know two women who openly say they find their husbands vile and refuse to have sex with them but won't divorce them because of $ (they don't work and know they would have to get a job if they divorce him) In those cases I actually wouldn't blame their husband for finding someone else.