Who should text first after a hookup?

bemyyfriend0918
bemyyfriend0918 Posts: 241 Member
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Just out of curiosity... Does it matter if the guy texts first or the girl? Does it mean the girl isn't interested if she doesn't text first, or vice versa?
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  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    Are we talking about a hookup hookup
  • melmelw03
    melmelw03 Posts: 5,332 Member
    edited September 2016
    Villae81 wrote: »
    melmelw03 wrote: »
    If you did it right, he'll blow your phone up.
    Constantly. :confused:

    Did it right meaning beat it up so good he knocked out and when he woke up no evidence of you being there kinda right?

    I mean, not everyone likes to snuggle afterwards. :lol:
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    edited September 2016
    I'd just text 1st because why wait? I believe that too much responsibility, is being levied at men; to approach/court women. Which leads to unfair amounts, of potential rejection; for them. Why should they always have to be put, in a situation in which; they might be rejected by us & we not at least share half, of that burden ourselves?
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    edited September 2016
    _birdie__ wrote: »
    the one with the lowest self esteem texts first

    don't blow your cover

    I disagree, I have a high self esteem; which means I'd be able to handle the rejection! Therefore there's no risk, in exposing myself; to that potential result!
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    _birdie__ wrote: »
    DeficitDuchess wrote: »
    _birdie__ wrote: »
    the one with the lowest self esteem texts first

    don't blow your cover

    I disagree, I have a high self esteem; which means I'd be able to handle the rejection! Therefore there's no risk, in exposing myself; to that potential result!

    please don't disagree with me i hate that

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  • TestNamePleaseIgnore
    TestNamePleaseIgnore Posts: 295 Member
    2016.
  • Erik8484
    Erik8484 Posts: 458 Member
    If you text first he might think you hooked up with him because you like him that would be a disaster.
  • ClubSilencio
    ClubSilencio Posts: 2,983 Member
    Well, speaking from personal experience................ nah j/k :unamused:
  • Shana67
    Shana67 Posts: 680 Member
    Huh? What? There are rules for this stuff?

    I am so glad my hookups were mostly pre-cell phone. LOL.
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  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Next time you drug him and take his kidney if you want to guarantee to get a text back from him the next day.
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    Don't text him, girl!

    If he's into you he'll text you.

    If it's really driving you crazy you can send one text, but if he doesn't reply or his reply is short like "lol" then drop it.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Sext him...
  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    Why do people think there are rules. Be yourself, and do whatever feels natural. If you want to text, text. If you don't, don't. If whatever you would do naturally causes issues in any way, on to the next one.
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    djeffreys10 wrote: »
    Why do people think there are rules. Be yourself, and do whatever feels natural. If you want to text, text. If you don't, don't. If whatever you would do naturally causes issues in any way, on to the next one.

    Hear, here!
  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    Unfortunately, there are rules though. Men made it like that.

    He should strike first.
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  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    djeffreys10 wrote: »
    No, there are not rules. If you do something the man doesn't like, and he doesn't date you because of it, it's not because you broke an imaginary rule. It's because you are not what he wants. Trying to play along to some bs notion of "rules" is manipulative at best. Be yourself and do what you want. Either he will like you or he won't. Better to find out sooner than later.

    Well he should text/call and state that.
  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    edited September 2016
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    Well he should text/call and state that.

    Yeah, otherwise she might be herself and him not like it then not want to see her. Can't have that. She needs to know that she can only be herself if that's what he is looking for. Otherwise, gotta try to be what he wants.

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  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    djeffreys10 wrote: »
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    Well he should text/call and state that.

    Yeah, otherwise she might be herself and him not like it then not want to see her. Can't have that. She needs to know that she can only be herself if that's what he is looking for. Otherwise, gotta try to be what he wants.

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    hahaha funny. I agree that there shouldn't be a rule or any games played....but the truth is 99% of the time the game is played when you first meet a person. And I NEVER suggested that she should be what he wants...that's why I can't entertain these conversations. Stuff is always added.
  • fitbisi
    fitbisi Posts: 28 Member
    There shouldn't be criteria as to who text first, it's about if you felt the chemistry and you are interested, go ahead, forget pride or the fact that you are a female or a male.

    Also depends on what you text about :)
  • johnnylloyd0618
    johnnylloyd0618 Posts: 303 Member
    dang, if "she" texted me first instead of calling... I probably wouldn't even respond. LOL, a text is so personal after a hook up. Guess I am showing my age but that is just me.
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    johnnylloyd0618 wrote: »
    dang, if "she" texted me first instead of calling... I probably wouldn't even respond. LOL, a text is so personal after a hook up. Guess I am showing my age but that is just me.

    Well I don't desire, to potentially bother someone; if they might be busy!
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