My Gf's about to RUIN my thanksgiving!
rnbperfection
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She said she wants to do things different this year, I obliged, so were traveling out of town to spend the holiday with her friends... long story short, they're vegan and making a to-furkey! I can't stand tofu! I dont wanna be rude and bail, I don't wanna show up with turkey in a tupperware, but I dnt know what I'm going to do! What about my macros? What about my gains?? 
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Oh man... how much do you like this gal? Coz unplanned Tofurkey could be a deal breaker...13
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Man, she's awesome, but this upcoming trip is putting a major strain on things.0
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You can do what most vegetarians and vegans do when they're invited to "Family Style" dinners .... Cook something and eat it before you depart. Save some for later if you must.
At the host's residence, eat what tickles your fancy. That way you keep your gal and you still meet your usual feed requirements.16 -
My view concerning this' that, it's just 1 day of several; with her! If your relationship fails due to 1 day, you might've several more; via inconvenience/pain because of becoming single! This situation isn't like, whether 1 of you desires; to have children & the other doesn't because that inconvenience'd be, a lifetime & thus' an understandable, deal breaker!2
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Communication is the key to everything. Talk to your GF.. tell her about your concerns and that you don't like tofu.. Ask her if it's ok by her if you take your own food. That's not rude at all dude.
My brother and his wife are vegan, they usually bring their own food to family gatherings and when they have us over, we bring our food.8 -
Give a turkey a break this Thanksgiving and go for the Tofurkey. You may be impressed by the friend's culinary skills, which I presume you have never tried.
It's one day in a year - what's to lose.4 -
Let's see...."Awesome" girlfriend vs having to work around one meal.....
Dunno, the math looks pretty clear to me.14 -
Communication is the key to everything. Talk to your GF.. tell her about your concerns and that you don't like tofu.. Ask her if it's ok by her if you take your own food. That's not rude at all dude.
My brother and his wife are vegan, they usually bring their own food to family gatherings and when they have us over, we bring our food.
I'd be leery over taking meat to a Vegan table, if they are NOT family. Some vegetarians/vegans cannot tolerate the smell of raw or cooked meat. They might think you rude, thereby misreading you. It's HER friend, make points.
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777Gemma888 wrote: »Communication is the key to everything. Talk to your GF.. tell her about your concerns and that you don't like tofu.. Ask her if it's ok by her if you take your own food. That's not rude at all dude.
My brother and his wife are vegan, they usually bring their own food to family gatherings and when they have us over, we bring our food.
I'd be leery over taking meat to a Vegan table, if they are NOT family. Some vegetarians/vegans cannot tolerate the smell of raw or cooked meat. They might think you rude, thereby misreading you. It's HER friend, make points.
I agree, like religion, veganism's often a belief & isn't just a preference! I babysat, for a Jewish family & knew to never, bring bacon; into their home!9 -
777Gemma888 wrote: »Communication is the key to everything. Talk to your GF.. tell her about your concerns and that you don't like tofu.. Ask her if it's ok by her if you take your own food. That's not rude at all dude.
My brother and his wife are vegan, they usually bring their own food to family gatherings and when they have us over, we bring our food.
I'd be leery over taking meat to a Vegan table, if they are NOT family. Some vegetarians/vegans cannot tolerate the smell of raw or cooked meat. They might think you rude, thereby misreading you. It's HER friend, make points.
Sorry... but the vegans I know aren't that way.. honestly didn't think there where so extreme vegans out there
.. The ones I know usually don't care what other people eat as long as the other people won't give them hard time about their food choices.
So back to OP.. if they're that kind of vegans then talk to your GF before you bring food...
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Protein shakes...
that will go nicely at the vegan table. 1 -
Sorry... but the vegans I know aren't that way.. honestly didn't think there where so extreme vegans out there .. The ones I know usually don't care what other people eat as long as the other people won't give them hard time about their food choices.
So back to OP.. if they're that kind of vegans then talk to your GF before you bring food...
Some are a tad extreme. Triggers varies from scent & sight to their aversions due to religion/culture (DeficitDuchess) or advocacy.
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Most groups have their fringe elements. Vegans are no exception.777Gemma888 wrote: »
Sorry... but the vegans I know aren't that way.. honestly didn't think there where so extreme vegans out there .. The ones I know usually don't care what other people eat as long as the other people won't give them hard time about their food choices.
So back to OP.. if they're that kind of vegans then talk to your GF before you bring food...
Some are a tad extreme. Triggers varies from scent & sight to their aversions due to religion/culture (DeficitDuchess) or advocacy.
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just like when the majority of people have a dinner they often make a vegetarian or vegan dish to accommodate vegan diets. Would it be so wrong to request some meat? some real turkey? to accommodate your diet?
tit for tat
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I know this is just a joke and everything but honestly Thanksgiving isn't about the food, it's about being together and being thankful for what you have. You can cook something later and have a big dinner with all your normal thanksgiving food, just do this to make your girlfriend happy.3
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"Ruin" seems abit extreme, ask for some extra vegan nibbles etc that you can put on your plate,
and I'm sure they would understand if you brought some turkey in a container too.
Her plan this year, means its your turn next year
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Lol well, yeah I guess it would be a bit annoying. But just have the sides and a tiny bit of tofu I guess.0
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perhaps you could claim a 'stomach flu' and stay home, then make a turkey dinner for yourself.
i would be annoyed if somebody arrived with their own 'main course' ... that said i do try and pay attention to needs of people with real food allergies mainly because i have one (shellfish) 0 -
Oh! All I could think about was the turkey, I actually forgot the vegans would probably (hopefully?) be serving the normal sides and deserts as well. OP maybe ask your normal crew to save you a huge chunk of turkey? Hehehehe sorry man I feel for you lol. Tofu on thanksgiving hahahaha
And no, I would not take meat to a vegan's house.1 -
Try a little piece of it to be polite, maybe you can mix it in with something else on the table. Ihope you find something you like! Definitely stop on the way there and have yourself a meal, though.1
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Eat beforehand.
You can claim a soy sensitivity. I have one if I ate tofurkey I'd be incredibly itchy. But don't take meat there...have it before1 -
I'd be upset because Thanksgiving foods holiday is my favorite but, I guess, I could try something different once. I'd secure some leftovers from a trusted source Unless gf unilaterally decides to make vegan TG a family tradition, then it's ruined 1
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Lol well, yeah I guess it would be a bit annoying. But just have the sides and a tiny bit of tofu I guess.
ThisEat beforehand.
You can claim a soy sensitivity. I have one if I ate tofurkey I'd be incredibly itchy. But don't take meat there...have it before
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Id eat the sides to be polite .. Id have turkey afterwards and not necessarily before .. but i wouldn't really worry about a turkey when nobodys eating but you0 -
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the turkey is only the beginning of the issues here. what about the gravy the butter, and at least in my family my grandmother always made green beans with bacon.
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Interesting. If a vegan showed up to your home with tofurkey in a Tupperware it wouldn't be considered rude in the least. Did you know in advance this was a vegan thing? If not, your girlfriend owes you an apology and you should not feel bad about cancelling.3
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Thanksgiving is really about being WITH people, the food is secondary. Why not try the food? If it's terrible, then it's that much easier to stay on your diet!!! Also...WHAT IF THE FOOD IS YUMMY? You'd be missing out, and maybe finding some healthy food to incorporate in your diet.
As with the others, there's the issue here about the relationship compatiblity. I agree that if there's such a difference in lifestyle, you either have to figure out how to adapt or compromise or it simply won't work out long-term.
May I suggest trying to be a little flexible, get a little adventurous, and shift your focus from yourself to your girlfriend? The worst that is going to happen is have lousy food at one meal...so what? You have a lot more to gain by simply showing up, trying something new, and being gracious about it.5 -
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rnbperfection wrote: »Man, she's awesome, but this upcoming trip is putting a major strain on things.
Actually, YOU are putting a strain on things. When you go over to a person's house for Thanksgiving, it won't be the same as at home. That may mean the food is different. You don't have to eat anything you don't want to, but people are not going to necessarily cater to your whims, either.
But as an adult, you know that you can be polite, gracious, and be a good guest no matter how much you hate tofu.1
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