Issues with SO

nesa98
nesa98 Posts: 108 Member
edited November 14 in Chit-Chat
Does anyone on here have a significant other that just brings them down with everything that you try to do to better yourself?? I mean .. like you try to lose weight and all they do is damn near force feed you crappy food or make you so depressed that you binge eat to no end??? Just wondering
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  • melmelw03
    melmelw03 Posts: 5,332 Member
    No one can control what I shovel into my mouth except me. I always thought that was a weird concept.
  • angelxsss
    angelxsss Posts: 2,402 Member
    Drop 'em
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Are you married?

    Kids?
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    melmelw03 wrote: »
    No one can control what I shovel into my mouth except me. I always thought that was a weird concept.

    Totally this. You can't force feed me anything. I'm grown. I eat what I want.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    edited January 2017
    If I did I would be getting a new one.. Sorry you are going through an SO that is a SOB..

    Since I do not have any details about you or your relationship, just eff em, ignore and do your own thing despite what they or any other human being on the planet thinks or says. or ditch and replace.
  • zebulonap
    zebulonap Posts: 4 Member
    I'm sorry you're going through this. I would say it is something typical of someone with insecurity or low self-esteem. He or she sabotages your diet so they feel better about their own issues. I don't know if he or she is overweight but there are some issues that may need addressing. If it continues or gets worse and you want to continue in the relationship, I would recommend seeing a licensed counselor. Good luck!
  • phoenix74162
    phoenix74162 Posts: 130 Member
    Sucks, talk to them about it. Communication is so important . If that doesn't work... move on! Best of luck and we are here to support you!
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    My ex was a downer. We're divorced.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,340 Member
    What's keeping you in the relationship?
  • ClubSilencio
    ClubSilencio Posts: 2,983 Member
    PlaydohPants wrote: »
    DTMF

    Damn... that man fine???



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  • Karb_Kween
    Karb_Kween Posts: 2,681 Member
    edited January 2017
    Yeah I don't eat what I don't want to

    I do make D fatty with my cooking... I call it "feeding him like a king." I want my man to eat well
  • nesa98
    nesa98 Posts: 108 Member
    Yes... married with 4 kids ... it's getting to the point of me wanting to ditch him but he's very manipulative and will use the kids against me... it sucks
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  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    nesa98 wrote: »
    Yes... married with 4 kids ... it's getting to the point of me wanting to ditch him but he's very manipulative and will use the kids against me... it sucks

    Use reverse physiology, against him instead!
  • phoenix74162
    phoenix74162 Posts: 130 Member
    Sorry to hear that, we are all here for support or to vent. Anything we can do
  • Karb_Kween
    Karb_Kween Posts: 2,681 Member
    DeficitDuchess wrote: »
    nesa98 wrote: »
    Yes... married with 4 kids ... it's getting to the point of me wanting to ditch him but he's very manipulative and will use the kids against me... it sucks

    Use reverse physiology, against him instead!

    What's reverse psychology against a manipulitive controlling assdick?
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  • nesa98
    nesa98 Posts: 108 Member
    happilymegan wrote: »
    Sounds like he's trying to hinder you. Does he have an insecurity issues?

    I honestly believe he does ... no friends ... no nothing ... he has taken me away from all of mine plus my family ... hates me on social media, hates that I'm not up his *kitten* 24/7 ... if I'm in the bathroom he comes to check on me... if I'm helping our daughter with hw he checks up on me... like wtf am I doing that's so wrong? Nothing ... I'm a housewife with bad ptsd
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    Karb_Kween wrote: »
    DeficitDuchess wrote: »
    nesa98 wrote: »
    Yes... married with 4 kids ... it's getting to the point of me wanting to ditch him but he's very manipulative and will use the kids against me... it sucks

    Use reverse physiology, against him instead!

    What's reverse psychology against a manipulitive controlling assdick?

    When people react the opposite way, in which they expect/desire you to; they either don't bother and/or change, how they; treat you!
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    nesa98 wrote: »
    Yes... married with 4 kids ... it's getting to the point of me wanting to ditch him but he's very manipulative and will use the kids against me... it sucks

    sorry to hear that.

    if there was an easy answer, you would have figured it out by now.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    Stand up for yourself! You are in control of you and people that try to control you shouldn't be in your life.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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  • Karb_Kween
    Karb_Kween Posts: 2,681 Member
    DeficitDuchess wrote: »
    Karb_Kween wrote: »
    DeficitDuchess wrote: »
    nesa98 wrote: »
    Yes... married with 4 kids ... it's getting to the point of me wanting to ditch him but he's very manipulative and will use the kids against me... it sucks

    Use reverse physiology, against him instead!

    What's reverse psychology against a manipulitive controlling assdick?

    When people react the opposite way, in which they expect/desire you to; they either don't bother and/or change, how they; treat you!

    I'm mostly D on what I want so that wouldn't work for me ha
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  • nesa98
    nesa98 Posts: 108 Member
    Thanks everyone :)
  • ShaleSelkies
    ShaleSelkies Posts: 251 Member
    edited January 2017
    Children or not, unless talking really changes things completely and permanently I think you should try and find support to get out of the relationship, and get as much custody of the kids as you can too. Whatever he says it's far less healthy or safe for them to have to grow up with that kind of influence and it's not good for you either.

    I do know it can be hard though, but there seem to be plenty of people here to support you if you need it and I wish you the best of luck.
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    nesa98 wrote: »
    happilymegan wrote: »
    Sounds like he's trying to hinder you. Does he have an insecurity issues?

    I honestly believe he does ... no friends ... no nothing ... he has taken me away from all of mine plus my family ... hates me on social media, hates that I'm not up his *kitten* 24/7 ... if I'm in the bathroom he comes to check on me... if I'm helping our daughter with hw he checks up on me... like wtf am I doing that's so wrong? Nothing ... I'm a housewife with bad ptsd

    Just curious, do you actually answer him when he does these things?
  • km8907
    km8907 Posts: 3,861 Member
    I'd give advice but I'd probably be yelled at for not being married so I couldn't possibly be qualified to give advice.
  • WatchJoshLift
    WatchJoshLift Posts: 520 Member
    edited January 2017
    Before I started MFP in 2012, I use to eat nothing but junk food. My wife on the other hand ate healthy. I never forced her to eat the way I did and I was always impressed by her willpower to avoid the fried, fatty foods. She also never forced me to eat healthy. None of us fully knows your situation, but maybe have a heart to heart with your SO. Let him know EXACTLY how you feel. Remember, guys are not good at catching hints or reading in between the lines.
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