Judgemental People
Avalonis
Posts: 1,540 Member
There seems to be a pattern on MFP. People are getting all offended about things people are saying. It doesn't have to be even aimed at anyone in particular, it only has to be something that could be construed as "judging" someone.
So here's what I have to say about that.
Grow some freaking thick skin. Do you really think that people in real life aren't judging others? Judging happens. It's basic human nature. Everyone seems to think that its always a bad thing, but you know what?
When it comes to weight loss, I disagree. Look at what other people are doing that is not good for them, and learn from it! People are so worried about hurting other peoples feelings, they won't be honest and say the truth.
So here's the truth - Judge me. If I am doing something but for my health, CALL ME ON IT. Don't say "Oh it's ok, its fine you just ate a cheeseburger for the 6th straight day in a row"
I wanna hear things like "Put down the damn burgers and get your *kitten* to a gym!"
Lets see some honesty people. And when you get honest advice, realize that they aren't giving you this advice to hurt your feelings or be mean. The advice is just to try to help. If you disagree with it.... don't follow it! You don't need to get personally offended and snap at people.
The vast vast vast majority of people on here are on here to change themselves and to help others change. Not hurt your feelings. So start with the idea that they are TRYING TO HELP YOU.
Advice is just that. Advice. You don't have to listen to it if you don't think it's good advice. Even if someone has a personal problem with you, why would you get all offended about a troll on the internet? It doesn't affect your real life!
Thicken up your skin. Seriously, if you can't take a little bit of controversy on the internet, how the hell do you function in real life? Do you live in a bubble where no one can hurt your feelings?
Stop the drama, people. This isn't highschool.
So here's what I have to say about that.
Grow some freaking thick skin. Do you really think that people in real life aren't judging others? Judging happens. It's basic human nature. Everyone seems to think that its always a bad thing, but you know what?
When it comes to weight loss, I disagree. Look at what other people are doing that is not good for them, and learn from it! People are so worried about hurting other peoples feelings, they won't be honest and say the truth.
So here's the truth - Judge me. If I am doing something but for my health, CALL ME ON IT. Don't say "Oh it's ok, its fine you just ate a cheeseburger for the 6th straight day in a row"
I wanna hear things like "Put down the damn burgers and get your *kitten* to a gym!"
Lets see some honesty people. And when you get honest advice, realize that they aren't giving you this advice to hurt your feelings or be mean. The advice is just to try to help. If you disagree with it.... don't follow it! You don't need to get personally offended and snap at people.
The vast vast vast majority of people on here are on here to change themselves and to help others change. Not hurt your feelings. So start with the idea that they are TRYING TO HELP YOU.
Advice is just that. Advice. You don't have to listen to it if you don't think it's good advice. Even if someone has a personal problem with you, why would you get all offended about a troll on the internet? It doesn't affect your real life!
Thicken up your skin. Seriously, if you can't take a little bit of controversy on the internet, how the hell do you function in real life? Do you live in a bubble where no one can hurt your feelings?
Stop the drama, people. This isn't highschool.
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Stop the drama, people. This isn't highschool.
....and let the drama begin!!!0 -
AMEN!!!0
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This post hurts my feelings. *runs off to tell a grown up*0
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*Like*
It's why we're all here, right?!0 -
I believe you have a good point. I don't think we should judge each other, but encourage and support - and if that means YELLING, then so be it!! Sometimes, we all need someone in our face asking us what the heck are we doing???? Thanks for just getting it out in the open. Take care.0
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This post hurts my feelings. *runs off to tell a grown up*
Too funny!!0 -
This post hurts my feelings. *runs off to tell a grown up*
LMAO!! :laugh:0 -
This post hurts my feelings. *runs off to tell a grown up*
LOL!0 -
Seriously - a lack of people calling me on my **** is how I packed on 50 pounds in ONE YEAR. If someone would have told me to step away from the burrito a few times my thighs wouldn't look like sacks of cottage cheese.
Judgey Wudgey was a Bear... *roar*0 -
Its human nature to judge...and everyone is entitled to there own opinion!!!!0
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THANK YOU!!!! However, I don't know how many times I've experienced backlash because I've said something that not everyone agrees with. People on here also don't understand that it's MY opinion... I'll even state it's MINE and I DON'T want to offend someone. Even coming from a good place, people try to make it into something it's not. This website is called My Fitness PAL. It's meant for support and encouragement. If you don't agree with what someone posted, correct it in a nice way or don't say anything at all.0
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Um, if this isn't a place that will let me eat cheeseburgers 6 days in a row and tell me it's okay when I complain that I don't lose weight...
WHY AM I HERE?! You people are all so mean and I'm taking my ball and I'm going home!
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I can't decide is i am hurt, loved or just lost.
But smile everyone
Don;t take yourelves and life to serious
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How Dare you! LOL :laugh: :laugh:
Well on the lighter note I'm true and honest with my opinions and if people disagree then so be it. I'm here to encourage and uplift others when they need it, and yes everyone judges to include myself so no one is perfect. :drinker:0 -
There's a HUGE difference between HONESTY and RUDENESS!0
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Judgey Wudgey was a Bear... *roar*
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I agree with you 110%!!!!! There are too many people in this world that are growing up to be *****'s. Why do you think the world is so ****ed up? You have to "politically correct" when you talk to people now. I'm sick and tired of it.0
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There's a HUGE difference between HONESTY and RUDENESS!
honest is real.
Rudeness is a perceived thing based on YOUR thoughts of their Honesty0 -
I do appreciate the blunt remarks I get from certain people on here. Keeps my butt going
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There's a HUGE difference between HONESTY and RUDENESS!
Some people see both as one and the same. The difference is in the intent. If it was intended to hurt someones feelings, it's rude. If it was intended to help, its honestly (or at least honest as far as the speaker thinks)0 -
There's a HUGE difference between HONESTY and RUDENESS!
honest is real.
Rudeness is a perceived thing based on YOUR thoughts of their Honesty
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Advice is just that. Advice. You don't have to listen to it if you don't think it's good advice. Even if someone has a personal problem with you, why would you get all offended about a troll on the internet? It doesn't affect your real life!
Thicken up your skin. Seriously, if you can't take a little bit of controversy on the internet, how the hell do you function in real life? Do you live in a bubble where no one can hurt your feelings?
Best advice on here!0 -
This post hurts my feelings. *runs off to tell a grown up*
This is what my daughters' used to say to me when one of my other daughters "hurt her feelings!" Better than beating her up like my sister used to do when we were kids! Ha ha!!!!
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I agree, but it's not good when people are just being hurtful. I've seen some pretty sh!tty insults and cruel name calling here. There's constructive tough love, and then there's detrimental discouragement.
Great post though, friend. I've never been a fan of political correctness.0 -
Agree with the OP.
As long as someone isn't saying something just to be a douche, I would rather someone say what's on their mind. I'd rather know who it really is I'm talking to, than someone being fake because they think that's what I want.0 -
Bravo!
I'm working on the oversensitivity bit. :blushing:0 -
I dunno - I am gonna whine to my favorite grown-up (THAT was BRILLIANT hahahahahaha) about the obnoxious people who decide without even SEEING or KNOWING me that I have some weird sick dysmorphic psycho-dramatically HORRIBLE mind-body disorder & I need to be hospitalized because I "think" I have FAT on my 100 lb body: LISTEN YOU NASTY-@$$e$: I LIVE WITH THIS BODY, YOU do not. If I say there is FAT on it, there is FAT on it!!!! JEEZ!!! And FURTHERMORE - I LOVE this little body and want it to be as spectacular as it is capable of being - this is what is known as HEALTHY motivation, for G!d's sake!!! :explode:
OK.
Now I feel better after venting.
Thank you SUPPORTIVE people for being who you are!!! (I am saying this in my most ladylike polite voice).0 -
If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it at all!:bigsmile:0
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