Are u the jealous type

LiftingRiot wrote: »

itsy_bitsy_spider wrote: »

Meaning kwph. Clearly jtegirl is not a dude...

You know what to do now @kwph. Remember what I've taught you.

You're funny too. The whole lot of you, actually. Bring it, I'm not scared.

Eats ice cream.

Why do I get the feeling that @jtegirl1 just put 100% of her 401k into an ice cream portfolio?

csbnga wrote: »

FeraFilia wrote: »

csbnga wrote: »

I didn't want to have to do this, but you've forced my hand.

This looks like the Coldstone menu. I miss Coldstone. I am jealous of people who can go to Coldstone whenever they want.

I hate you a little. My map view has zero within 50 miles.

kwph wrote: »

I'm ready ....I remember everything ya taught me (so nervous) ....Let me practice "Hey ...How's the ice cream? cold?" (No that's just stupid) .."So how about this weather?" (Omg are u serious!) ..."Ummmm I think I'm falling in love" (Wtf abort mission!!)

*fans self, not ready for flirt game this strong*

And my ice-cream ISSSS cold... (How'd he know???)

Louise1491 wrote: »

I knew I shouldn't have come here. Damn you people to hell.

I was thinking it. The special hell.

I had a DQ blizzard yesterday, and I am still jealous of all the ice cream. I love ice cream.

fabcharley wrote: »

I am definitely a jealous type. This is because I am a traditionalist. When I'm in a relationship I'm in it heart and soul and monogamously. So I expect that of the other half. That being said, if I'm a jealous type, but my other half makes me feel like I'm their one and only, there's no reason for me to be jealous then, is there.

But do you like ice cream tho?

Just kidding, just kidding. I get what you're saying

Jealous of the Twix. Not the nerds.

I used to be, then I grew up.

Long post with some arguably weird content ahead.

Nah. I don't really know what (relationship type) jealousy feels like. I know I'm in the severe minority on this one, but I don't enjoy monogamy. Where monogamy offers security and stability for a lot of people, it was kind of like a prison for me. I wanted physical and also deeply emotional relationships with more than one person in my life for as long as I can remember. Learning about polyamory and the fact that monogamy isn't the only way to do relationships completely liberated me.

I can separate love and sex completely (and in fact, usually prefer to do so... sex for me is more like a funtime activity, less about the emotional aspect and intimacy) and I know there are some other people like that. My sex drive can also be really low at times. So historically, I've been fine with people I've been with sleeping with other people, as long as they used protection properly and got tested regularly (which they did). My partner/the person I live with has a sex drive that's quite a bit higher than mine and he has some friends with benefits, who are also friends of mine.

This is probably the only place/time I'll mention it on this forum, because people are absolutely awful about this for seemingly no reason, but I actually have two husbands (thanks to a legal technicality). One of them I live with and we've been together since we were in our teens (about 10 years now), and I guess he's my "primary" in polyam terms. The other is quite a bit older than myself (a single dad) and we've been together 4 years. I live apart from him, but it's better that way because he has this whole life that I don't really fit into, what with having a serious intensive job and having a kid, and me being someone with no motherly qualities who never wanted any part in raising a child.

So... Long story short, no, I don't feel jealousy. If I feel left out at all, usually all I have to do is say that and he'll make sure to spend more time with me and we'll entertain each other and do stuff. Polyamory only works if everyone involved is highly communicative at all times, you have to speak up if you feel upset by something, confused or left behind.

I make no judgement about monogamous people and I actually don't think most people should or could do polyamory. I simply believe people should live according to their own principles and do what makes them feel fulfilled and peaceful. I am a strong believer in living for one's own happiness, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to a happy life. There are as many ways of living a life as there are people in this world. I don't understand why some people get really upset and hostile when I mention I have more than one committed relationship... like they think I'm not playing by society's rules or something. Hey, man, I'm not saying you have to do this or that your relationship is wrong and mine is right, we're just different.

I love my two husbands, but it can be difficult giving two people equal amounts of attention and affection. At one brief point in my life I had three simultaneous partners and that was way too much (not to mention that third was a jealous type who wanted me to ditch the other two, but that's another story for another day).

I get jealous over men..all the food those mofos can eat and still be lean. WTH?!? It's not fair. Everything else is irrelevant.