Do you really only have one "soulmate"?

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  • lennyt91
    lennyt91 Posts: 40 Member
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    My husband believes we're soulmates. I'm not sure if soulmates really exist. I do know we are a great team and we love each other very much.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,523 Member
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    melmelw03 wrote: »
    I believe you can have unromantic soul mates too. Idk, I still have hope to find my romantic one someday. It's probably all just a fairy tale lie we've been told since childhood though.
    Let's go to a Warriors game together. ;)


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  • Thehardmakesitworthit
    Thehardmakesitworthit Posts: 838 Member
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    maeld56 wrote: »
    I met my Soulmate when I was 16, we divorced after 35yrs.
    He is still my Soulmate and I know he feels the same.
    Being with one's Soulmate does not guarantee a life of happiness and bliss.
    We're close friends now but could never live together again.

    This is me ... except we need to divorce but haven't... sooooo sad. But glad to hear how your journey ended as friends... hopeful
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,841 Member
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    Since love is a choice, no there is not just one soulmate in life.
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
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    Timshel_ wrote: »
    Since love is a choice, no there is not just one soulmate in life.

    OMG...I agree with this all the way!
  • BedsideTableKangaroo
    BedsideTableKangaroo Posts: 736 Member
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    Thehardmakesitworthit wrote: »
    maeld56 wrote: »
    I met my Soulmate when I was 16, we divorced after 35yrs.
    He is still my Soulmate and I know he feels the same.
    Being with one's Soulmate does not guarantee a life of happiness and bliss.
    We're close friends now but could never live together again.

    This is me ... except we need to divorce but haven't... sooooo sad. But glad to hear how your journey ended as friends... hopeful

    this same boat...i might be in it.
  • Sara1791
    Sara1791 Posts: 760 Member
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    MalkinMagic71 wrote: »
    when I look at my grandparents who have been married for goodness ..almost 70 years now I see two people who I know were meant to be together. I'm so worried that when one of them does finally pass that the other will go soon after cause they have been together pretty much since they were 18 and they are both in their early 90's now. Those two have a special bond that I think is awesome.

    I don't know if every person out there is meant to have a connection like my grandparents do, but it still makes me smile.

    I think it's possible that long term shared experiences, sticking it out through thick and thin, can build that kind of bond. That kind of depth doesn't necessarily exist in the beginning, but grows with time, joy, and hardship.

    edit: Oxford comma
  • JstTheWayIam
    JstTheWayIam Posts: 6,357 Member
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    I don't believe in soul mates just because everyone changes, you might not even be the same person you were yesterday. We are often fickle and of multiple minds about things and often are just struggling to find ourselves because of all this, let alone our perfect match...

    Also for me personally, love is about struggle, not about finding the perfect match that requires little effort to have a successful relationship with...

    But I do believe in destiny and fate...

    All of time exist at this very moment...
  • Thehardmakesitworthit
    Thehardmakesitworthit Posts: 838 Member
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    MalkinMagic71 wrote: »
    when I look at my grandparents who have been married for goodness ..almost 70 years now I see two people who I know were meant to be together. I'm so worried that when one of them does finally pass that the other will go soon after cause they have been together pretty much since they were 18 and they are both in their early 90's now. Those two have a special bond that I think is awesome.

    I don't know if every person out there is meant to have a connection like my grandparents do, but it still makes me smile.

    This is lovely! My parents, my husband's parents, both sets of our grandparents....alllll of them set the gold standard in longevity of marriages....but I have to wonder if part of that was/is their generational thinking of not over thinking shizza, the partnership, the hard work and the "because its what you are supposed to do"..... I got married way to young because I thought thats "what I was supposed to do".... ugh. Married 33 years this July and my soul cant take another year... boo! But I love that you appreciate their relationship so much.! it really is lovely
  • melmelw03
    melmelw03 Posts: 5,338 Member
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    ninerbuff wrote: »
    melmelw03 wrote: »
    I believe you can have unromantic soul mates too. Idk, I still have hope to find my romantic one someday. It's probably all just a fairy tale lie we've been told since childhood though.
    Let's go to a Warriors game together. ;)


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    Bruh. :angry:
  • LittleHearseDriver
    LittleHearseDriver Posts: 2,677 Member
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    MalkinMagic71 wrote: »
    when I look at my grandparents who have been married for goodness ..almost 70 years now I see two people who I know were meant to be together. I'm so worried that when one of them does finally pass that the other will go soon after cause they have been together pretty much since they were 18 and they are both in their early 90's now. Those two have a special bond that I think is awesome.

    I don't know if every person out there is meant to have a connection like my grandparents do, but it still makes me smile.

    ***Breaks out Kleenex***
  • Kintsugi_Haikyo
    Kintsugi_Haikyo Posts: 361 Member
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    People can, and do, have more than one soulmate.

    The problem is, most people don't recognize when one of their soulmates comes into their life. Many people think "Wow, he/she is beautiful, kind, and loves Chinese food. Hey, I love Chinese food too. We must be soul mates!" So they marry or commit or whatever and wonder why things get dull or bad after a while. It's because both parties were looking at the wrong things in a person to become their soulmate. Most people have a checklist or "know it when I feel it" attitude in finding their soulmate. But, IMHO, it doesn't work like that.

    Also, just because one may get divorced after thinking they found their soulmate, doesn't mean that they found their soulmate and it didn't work out. Sometimes a person thinks they have their soulmate, but were mistaken.

    I personally think a person only knows if they have found their soulmate after years and years.

    To me it's kind of like wondering what life is all about when one is young. You don't really know what life is all about until you can look back on it with experience.

    I would also add, that peoples definition of soulmate may vary. So two people thinking each other are soulmates may not really be soulmates. Why? One person may think that a soulmate is "A" and will have the expectation of their partner being "A." While the other partner thinks that a soulmate is "B" and will have the expectations of their partner being "B." ----

    As an example, John and Sally think they are soulmates. John's idea of a soulmate is A. Sally's idea of a soulmate is B.

    John tries to be his version of a soulmate to Sally by trying to be "A." BUT, Sally is expecting John to be "B" because her idea of a soulmate is "B."

    At the same time, Sally is trying to be "B" for John, but John is expecting her to be "A."

    This may not make a lot of sense but I hope it helps.

  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,492 Member
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    Xo_ChinaDoll_oX wrote: »
    It doesn't even matter when we live in a society where everything and "everyone" is disposable.
    True soul mates help eachother to grow and learn and face themselves. It's never easy but it's always worth it... if you can find someone who loves your scars just as much as everything else... hold on tight :)

    This applies to friendships and romantic partners... imo

    Mad Re5pext.
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
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    Astrology certainly invented this term because of some signs that are compatible than others. It says that there are signs that are more compatible to us (aka soulmates) than the others BUT it doesn't mean that we are destined to marry them. So just because s/he is your soulmate doesn't automatically mean you'll spend the rest of your life with that person. You may be soulmates but you're in different life stages, maturity levels etc. Sometimes your soulmate is a certain person in the past life, a sibling or a platonic friend.
  • LVNF04
    LVNF04 Posts: 2,607 Member
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    Soulmate. I would say that anyone could potentially be your Soulmate. But the key to any relationship is compromise, communication. With that comes trust. And I believe situation in life has to be just right.

    I myself battle with this, because I realize now there so many dynamics that create the basis of a relationship

    Money. One person has it, the other person needs it.
    Friendship. Same hobbies something in common.
    Security. This is different than money. It's loyalty, trust worthiness, faithful.
    Intelligence. Funny, witty, artistic, articulate.
    Sex. This is self explanatory.

    Now, you have to somehow get past a barrage of hurdles,

    Health problems
    Relatives and friends
    Conflicting schedules
    Potential past mental baggage
    Potential financial baggage

    The ability to launch is almost impossible and the competition is only getting younger or richer.

    I say to find a real Soulmate you have to have faith, go in with a open mind, if you like them and they like you then go for it, but don't go in with your heart completely open because it will get crushed if it doesn't work out. But this day and age we have many available sources to find love. For the record sometimes I thought they were the one and they let me down then I find someone else and they let me down. Again and again and again. Then I realized it wasn't there fault. It was mine. The expectations were to great.
  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
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    I do believe in soul mates. But my definition might differ from others. I gather some people think it is paradise all the time or that it is a fairy tale Cinderella story. It's beyond that foo foo ish.

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