When someone asks for your 'secret'
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When someone asks I say I eat less and move more. Eyes glazing over in respond is a standard. I especially hate when they persist with asking me questions and I always reply honestly, but they become condescending: "oh you lost weight because you turned vegetarian ". NOPE. "You lost weight because you started exercising". Nope. "It's easier for you, because you're young". Ffffffffcuk you. It's like taking away all my effort and dedication and making it unimportant. I really hate it, I avoid talking about my weightloss now all togheter.6
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The things you learn in these forums...the riddle of steel and liver flukes... I Googled the riddle of steel, hoping that I could guess the answer, thinking I may be able to, as I have taken my share of engineering materials classes. I guess not enough, lol! And the thought of liver flukes (had to Google that, too) and touching slugs is fairly gross!2
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Totally annoying. No one wants to hear CICO and working out.
At work, they'll just keep asking the (still fat) girl who had weight loss surgery about the evils of sugar, carbohydrates, and insulin. And listen intently as she describes Keto, which she never seems to be able to achieve. "I'm off it right now. I'm going to start my period soon and I'm eating chocolate." "I don't know what's wrong with me, I'm just craving all this stuff."
And they'll ask the other (still fat) girl what appetite suppressants are the best.
My eyes hurt from rolling them so much.7 -
I tell them, very straight forward. if you do not move it, you do not lose it..... you sit on the couch all day, and I GO GO GO!, blunt ALWAYS WORKS!3
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Most people just assume that I was starving. A couple of them have asked me straight if I eat nothing/rarely or if I purge whenever I eat. The mother of a classmate I had that was a little chubby started shaming me for eating nothing and her daughter for not being able to do that as well! I told her that I eat normally but less than I used to and it works. When I am out with my mother and people just say that stuff she's defending me because she sees that I still eat normally.
Apparently people don't like the idea that you can eat "junk" and lose weight as long as you cut the calories a bit and add exercise. Obviously, I was not only eating junk, my diet was "healthy" but junk foods weren't excluded.
Oh, and the same people who bullied me when I was a child to lose weight are now telling me that I should gain and that I look anorexic. The woman on my profile picture is me. Nowhere near anorexic I'd say.8 -
People want weight loss to be complicated, but easy. In truth it's simple, but challenging.15
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Most people just assume that I was starving. A couple of them have asked me straight if I eat nothing/rarely or if I purge whenever I eat. The mother of a classmate I had that was a little chubby started shaming me for eating nothing and her daughter for not being able to do that as well! I told her that I eat normally but less than I used to and it works. When I am out with my mother and people just say that stuff she's defending me because she sees that I still eat normally.
Apparently people don't like the idea that you can eat "junk" and lose weight as long as you cut the calories a bit and add exercise. Obviously, I was not only eating junk, my diet was "healthy" but junk foods weren't excluded.
Oh, and the same people who bullied me when I was a child to lose weight are now telling me that I should gain and that I look anorexic. The woman on my profile picture is me. Nowhere near anorexic I'd say.
Some people are just miserable themselves and will always find something to pick at.4 -
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I get asked ALL THE TIME, since I work in the profession. And my answer is always the same: EAT LESS THAN YOU BURN. If they ask how, I tell them to track their calories.
The dumbfounded look and eye roll usually are the responses.
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I get asked ALL THE TIME, since I work in the profession. And my answer is always the same: EAT LESS THAN YOU BURN. If they ask how, I tell them to track their calories.
The dumbfounded look and eye roll usually are the responses.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
It's funny but I finally sold one of my co-workers on the idea, and he's shocked as hell at how fast he's dropping weight. At a start of 275, he's nowhere near the worst "offender" in our cluster of truck drivers, but he's the only one who listened. It's only been about three weeks, and he's clipped 14 pounds (a good amount of water, obviously), and because so much of his weight is visceral fat, it's already resulted in nearly four inches lost from the waist.
He's already thrilled as hell with the results, and has plans in place for increased vigilance as he gets closer to goals. Luckily, he is ex-military, so discipline isn't a problem. He, like so many people, just never paid enough attention to the math.16 -
BruinsGal_91 wrote: »
Doesn't work. You need to fry them quickly while still alive(kinda like boiling a lobster). Otherwise they just crawl around all over the oven.
I use a beer trap to catch my slugs, that way they are premarinated for when I fry them. I found a nice dark stout tastes best.
Instead maybe I'll say I eat one like a raw oyster, which causes a nice purge and kills my hunger during the subsequent 3 day fast. Repeat every Sunday.
Sadly, I'm down over 40 lbs but nobody has yet asked for my secret.3 -
i used to try to explain cico, but had much of the same experiences as others. now i just say that i started paying attention. if asked to elaborate i'll say that what i pay attention to is how many calories i eat in relation to how many calories i burn. then i reach for the wine bottle while people shoot skeptical looks in my direction and one *kitten* will normally tell me that i can't lose weight and drink wine, which, if it was even remotely true would kind of negate the whole way the conversation started. if i'm feeling super snarky i'll tell them that i hula hooped for 18.45 minutes in order to accommodate 8 oz of pinot noir but if we're gonna have to have this conversation again i'll up it to 36 minutes.8
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OMG the cheese! Maybe I just prefer it on a pizza!Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »I had someone tell me that once when I turned down a piece of cheese. Lol then they sought validation from others about how if I couldn't eat that cheese I wasn't living.
Lol.. really? I have cheese every day almost. I just don't want YOUR cheese.
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I bet people will listen if we just refer to it as the CICO Diet and tell them to google it. Once it has a "diet" name attached to it, people think it's the new magic weight loss kick of the year.
On another note, I don't understand why people who ask for the "secret" say it's to hard to log calories or there is something obsessive about it. My own sister tells me she doesn't want to be a "calorie counter". Do we also think that people who run their finances on a budget are "obsessive"? No, we call them financially responsible. So, we should just tell people we are calorically responsible and end it there.18 -
Had it happen in synagogue yesterday. I answered "MFP. I just log what I eat and stick to the calorie limit they give me."
"Did you have to give up bread?"
"Nope"
"Desserts?"
"Nope"
"Anything?"
"Not really. I've had to find out what kinds of foods keep me feeling fuller and enjoy other stuff in moderation but... nothing's actually forbidden."
Cue wide eyes and a promise to check out this site. Only thing that would've been more perfect would've been had she approached me while I was still eating my weekly planned treat of 2 pieces of potato kugel and a piece of sponge cake. (Okay, I'd planned on a frosted cookie instead of the sponge cake, but I can't eat what they don't serve.)11 -
I usually say the secret is COMMITMENT! When you commit to your goal their is no question about who is accountable for attaining the action(s) necessary to achieve that goal! Not what people want to hear though.4
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My husband struggles with the idea that it's as simple as CICO. He's got a bunch of buddies at work who have never been overweight but constantly give him "advice". I definitely want him to lose weight and be healthier but I also almost dread it because when he decides (for the 20th time) that he's going to lose weight he spends a ton of money buying special "diet" foods that he'd never eat normally.
I will tell him that it's just about calories and to just add a few healthier choices in but to eat what he likes only less. He'll nod his head and then the next day come home talking about how his buddy said he needs to be drinking special shakes and cutting out bread.
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I'd say lots of protein, cardio, and CICO. People ask how I can eat whatever I want and stay thin and the answer basically boils down to hard work. I 'earn' it in a sense. It makes me upset when people assume it's just 'metabolism'.0
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When asked I tell em Richard Simmons videos...13
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For me, it's not about the "secret"... I keep getting asked "are you allowed to eat that on your diet?". Sure. I can eat a pizza, drink a beer, whatever. Hell, this very night I ate *5* slices of a *pan* pizza. I choose healthy(er) toppings than I used to. I choose to go light on the cheese. I also ate a very light breakfast and lunch because I knew I wanted to pig out on a thick pizza for dinner. People just don't seem to get the concept of actually thinking about what you put in your mouth and planning your consumption.
On an unrelated note: that's an awesome avatar, @katadx5 -
"Wow you look great, how'd you do it?"
"No junk food, no alcohol, exercise at least an hour a day."
Aaaaaand...they're gone.
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I like to have a little fun with this. I've genuinely said to several people 'Kanye's Workout Plan' and walked out of the room.8
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I'm in the don't discuss your program with outsiders camp. When people asked me what I was doing my answer was "old fashioned diet and exercise" and then I ran away. Less said the better.1
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leialeia79 wrote: »I like to have a little fun with this. I've genuinely said to several people 'Kanye's Workout Plan' and walked out of the room.
I mostly just say "I've been working out a lot" or "you know, move more, eat less," but this one guy wouldn't leave me alone about it and kept saying weird things, so I said "kickboxing!"
I really like your idea, though.1 -
I bet people will listen if we just refer to it as the CICO Diet and tell them to google it. Once it has a "diet" name attached to it, people think it's the new magic weight loss kick of the year.
I like this. I really like this. It goes against absolutely everything that is proper and good, so I think it would work very well.
We need to come up with the CICO plan
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I've had a few people assume that I was starving myself then started telling me that I had lost a lot of weight in a short period of time and they were concerned. It took me two years to lose 2 stone.
Some people expect there to be some magical pill that'll make the weight go away or for it to drop off by itself but they don't want to listen when you tell them about commitment and exercise.4 -
Other than pregnancy/post pregnancy I have always been about the same weight so I don't get asked how to lose.
BUT along similar lines...The comment I get from women all the time is, "you just eat whatever you want and stay thin don't you?" Or "you can eat anything right?" "I wish I had your metabolism." These comments really annoy me. It totally discounts that I workout hard 6 days a week, that I have run marathons, and triathlons, that I read every food label, measure everything I eat.... People would rather believe that I have this magical "fast metabolism" and that I eat 3000 calories a day (not 1200 on the dot).
But like everyone here said, no one wants to hear about working for it.6 -
Along with the eat less exercise more, people hate to hear that I tell myself I'm GOING to do something and then I do it. Someone tells me, " I have no willpower" I say, "You have no willpower because you tell yourself you have no willpower." There goes the eye glaze...2
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People always seem disappointed when I tell them that I just "eat less and move more". Not gonna lie, I enjoy their sad response because they are hoping I'm going to say some miracle diet/pill/procedure/workout. Nope.... just eating less.
In reality it's a lot more. I count macros/calories. I exercise hard. But they don't need to know that bit.0 -
I have to say that I've been that other person, glazing over and preferring to hear about an easy fix that involved following a 'plan' that would get the weight off sooner than was healthy and would mean that I could eat as much as I want. I was told about MFP and looked at it but just couldn't bring myself to bother with counting calories. It was too much effort and I am a busy person. I don't know why one day I decided that I'd give it a go....It took a few days to get into the counting but it worked and still is working. Now I glaze over when a person who clearly is not having long term success with their chosen 'quick fix' tries to sell it to me4
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