I'm devastated and need help :'(
Finallyfit1976
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Hello everyone,
I'm disappointed and devastated and need help. I'm 41 female 5' 7" and had my 4th baby 2 years ago. I lost 72 pounds before in 2010-2012 ( 235-160) and kept it off for 3 years before I get pregnant again. I gained more than 80 pounds in this pregnancy, I lost already 50 in 2 years now and I went from 258 to 200 and now I'm stuck. My weight fluctuates between 200-205 for over 6 months now. I have tried low carb, counting calories ( 1400/ day) and I workout 5-6 days a week. I do T25 and the Hammer and the chisel. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. My weakest point is the desserts and I'm trying to control it as much as I can but seriously losing this weight is killing me. It seems that I'm losing inches since ever one is telling me that, however, I need to see this on the scale. I will open my food diary to all of you to review and guide me. I will update this post every day if I found responses from you guys. I'm at a point where I think to give up so please help me. Thank you in advance
I'm disappointed and devastated and need help. I'm 41 female 5' 7" and had my 4th baby 2 years ago. I lost 72 pounds before in 2010-2012 ( 235-160) and kept it off for 3 years before I get pregnant again. I gained more than 80 pounds in this pregnancy, I lost already 50 in 2 years now and I went from 258 to 200 and now I'm stuck. My weight fluctuates between 200-205 for over 6 months now. I have tried low carb, counting calories ( 1400/ day) and I workout 5-6 days a week. I do T25 and the Hammer and the chisel. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. My weakest point is the desserts and I'm trying to control it as much as I can but seriously losing this weight is killing me. It seems that I'm losing inches since ever one is telling me that, however, I need to see this on the scale. I will open my food diary to all of you to review and guide me. I will update this post every day if I found responses from you guys. I'm at a point where I think to give up so please help me. Thank you in advance
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Diary is not open.
do you weigh all of your food on a scale? If not, I'm guessing you're eating more than you think you are.13 -
Diary is not open.
do you weigh all of your food on a scale? If not, I'm guessing you're eating more than you think you are.
I just opened it now: smile:
I weigh everything using my kitchen scale, however, I didn't record my food in the past few days. I will get back to record my food here starting tomorrow Wednesday.3 -
Sending you a friend request.2
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Finallyfit1976 wrote: »I weigh everything using my kitchen scale, however, I didn't record my food in the past few days. I will get back to record my food here starting tomorrow Wednesday.
Hmm, I don't think you are. I just found that entry for breakfast on sunday and it's full of "one cup" "one fruit" "one medium". Going further back, there's entries like "one bar" "0.75 cup" etc.10 -
If dessets are the problem, then maybe just leave the room before they're brought out? It might suck to miss out, but it works. Sometimes stuff sucks. If you're the main cook, then tell someone else to do the sweet stuff for you. Put your own health above other people's sweet tooth.4
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Finallyfit1976 wrote: »I weigh everything using my kitchen scale, however, I didn't record my food in the past few days. I will get back to record my food here starting tomorrow Wednesday.
Hmm, I don't think you are. I just found that entry for breakfast on sunday and it's full of "one cup" "one fruit" "one medium". Going further back, there's entries like "one bar" "0.75 cup" etc.
It all depends on the unit that my fitness pal offered me while adding my food. I will try to make it in grams from tomorrow.
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HonestNikki wrote: »If dessets are the problem, then maybe just leave the room before they're brought out? It might suck to miss out, but it works. Sometimes stuff sucks. If you're the main cook, then tell someone else to do the sweet stuff for you. Put your own health above other people's sweet tooth.
Yes, you are right. But I can control this most of the times. The problem is that I don't know what am I doing wrong ? Is it ok to have sweets as long as they are in my calories budget?
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Check with your health insurance to see if a nutritionist is fully covered. I didn't know for years mine was. I think Obama passed something that covers it under most plans. Worth a fiver minute call.2
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sunsweet77 wrote: »Check with your health insurance to see if a nutritionist is fully covered. I didn't know for years mine was. I think Obama passed something that covers it under most plans. Worth a fiver minute call.
I'm in Canada and the nutritionist is not covered by insurance. However, there is one dietician who does and he follows low carb diet. I did that for few months and it worked and then I had this plateau for several months after. In addition, I found that following low carb diet is not my thing any more. I need something to stick with it for the long term and not just for few months.3 -
Finallyfit1976 wrote: »HonestNikki wrote: »If desserts are the problem, then maybe just leave the room before they're brought out? It might suck to miss out, but it works. Sometimes stuff sucks. If you're the main cook, then tell someone else to do the sweet stuff for you. Put your own health above other people's sweet tooth.
Yes, you are right. But I can control this most of the times. The problem is that I don't know what am I doing wrong ? Is it ok to have sweets as long as they are in my calories budget?
For weight alone, it is. Calories in, calories out. Many times sweets have much more milk or butter than people are aware of. It's also surprising how much can be in just a little extra cake frosting. It's safest to stay away, but if you really crave sweets, the best bet for accuracy, I've found is those little prepackaged snacks. It's not that they're any healthier, but you have a better chance of logging your food correctly in this case.11 -
HonestNikki wrote: »Finallyfit1976 wrote: »HonestNikki wrote: »If desserts are the problem, then maybe just leave the room before they're brought out? It might suck to miss out, but it works. Sometimes stuff sucks. If you're the main cook, then tell someone else to do the sweet stuff for you. Put your own health above other people's sweet tooth.
Yes, you are right. But I can control this most of the times. The problem is that I don't know what am I doing wrong ? Is it ok to have sweets as long as they are in my calories budget?
For weight alone, it is. Calories in, calories out. Many times sweets have much more milk or butter than people are aware of. It's also surprising how much can be in just a little extra cake frosting. It's safest to stay away, but if you really crave sweets, the best bet for accuracy, I've found is those little prepackaged snacks. It's not that they're any healthier, but you have a better chance of logging your food correctly in this case.
Yes, I agree with you.
I will do this
Thank you
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You can easily afford to be eating more than 1400 at your stats and with your workout level. You could eat 1600/1700 but only if you track and weigh correctly. What you're doing isn't working and you are bingeing.
Do you track your macros at all?
Seriously, up your intake, have your desert, work hard, track and weigh EVERYTHING and drop the guilt. Try it for one month and see how you go.
Also measurements are just as important as losing on the scales so track those too.8 -
Also meant to add if you make your own desserts you will know exactly what's in it and can work it into your calories. Happy days you can have your cake and eat it!2
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"My weakest point is the desserts and I'm trying to control it as much as I can but seriously losing this weight is killing me."
Losing weight is killing you? Why do you want to lose weight? Reconnecting to your goals, and making sure they are *your* goals and not something you are trying to do for someone else, can help you get past your weakest points. You will see the dessert, and maybe even want some of it, but then you will remember what you want more than dessert and you will pass it up. It will get easier each time.
And maybe instead of trying to "control" eating desserts, you can just go cold turkey for a while. It won't kill you. I promise.7 -
You haven't logged properly in weeks - You don't need to go low carb, but you need to log everything that you eat. Desserts are fine in moderation, but if you don't log, you won't know how much you're eating, and you'll end up eating too much.23
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You haven't logged properly in weeks - You don't need to go low carb, but you need to log everything that you eat. Desserts are fine in moderation, but if you don't log, you won't know how much you're eating, and you'll end up eating too much.
This.
Log all that you eat and drink, even condiments, fruit and veg. Weigh meats, pastas and grains raw, in grams. Weigh everything (even butter, mayo, peanut/nut butter) that isn't a liquid, and only use cups/spoons for liquids.
Type USDA after produce/meat entries to get an accurate calorie count. Double check packaging info against database entries.
Don't log "1/2" banana or "1 piece of bread". If it is a solid or not liquid, weigh it.
Try pre planning by logging a whole day or even a whole week the night before. I prelog several days on Sunday night.9 -
I agree with Francl27 - if you aren't accurately logging all your food, there is no way to know what you're doing.
I would add - don't believe the database on this site, the items are (mostly) user-entered. Check and verify items against the USDA database and use the most accurate means of measurement. If in fact you were eating 1400 calories, you would be losing at a steady rate. On those exercise days, you can eat a couple hundred more for each hour you exercise. Enter your exercise in the "Exercise" page and eat some or most of that amount earned by exercise.
It's not as fast for any of us as we would like, but it does require discipline.2 -
Do at least 2 weeks of accurately logging every day starting today and weighing food instead of eyeballing, every sip bite and condiment, you will see the scales move again. if you can't accurately log it don't have it. If that doesn't work perhaps speak to a medical professional but please try the accurate logging method first so you can rule that out. Good luck. x9
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In certain amounts (not sure the exact amount) sugar will increase my appetite. I went through an ice cream phase and most recently a crunch and munch phase. During those phases I was always over my calories; sometimes a little and sometimes much more.Finallyfit1976 wrote: »...My weakest point is the desserts...
Last week I limited dessert to the weekend and was down 2.6 lbs and had not gone over my calories.
Sugar is killing you in more ways than one.2 -
It seems now that I'm not logging my food intake properly, so I will try to do it right this time. I weighed this morning and will update this post with my daily status, activities and other questions. Thank you all for your support, help, encouragement. You guys are AWESOME3
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2011rocket3touring wrote: »
In certain amounts (not sure the exact amount) sugar will increase my appetite. I went through an ice cream phase and most recently a crunch and munch phase. During those phases I was always over my calories; sometimes a little and sometimes much more.Finallyfit1976 wrote: »...My weakest point is the desserts...
Last week I limited dessert to the weekend and was down 2.6 lbs and had not gone over my calories.
Sugar is killing you in more ways than one.
I totally agree with you. I have tried this several time but now if I want t, I will do it as long as it fits my calorie budget.1 -
Hey, I just thought I would share what works for me. I usually pre-log all my foods. Which both makes my day easier, and allows me eat a couple squares of chocolate each day. I am a stress eater, and I have a huge sweet tooth, but knowing that for "dessert" or in a moment of weakness I can have 3, 6, 9, 15, whatever I have pre-logged, squares of chocolate allows me to not feel like I am punishing myself for trying to be healthier. Sometimes my healthy snack of an apple and peanut butter gets deleted for more chocolate, but that's my call and I keep under my calorie limit
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I just looked at your diary. Your calories for the day are great. However since you're asking, I would cut the high carb high sugar foods. Replace the bagel with perhaps more eggs and a lower-carb fruit like strawberries. I would not have any high sugar fruit like pineapple and do away with potatoes and replace that with a salad with a little bit of dressing, no sugar though, look for sugar and everything you're eating. If you cut out carbs and cut out sugar I have no doubt you will drop weight.
I had a gain this week but I'm reading it might be because I just started a workout routine I hate when I gain it's frustrating.
Good luck!
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You can do it. You've done it before. So have faith in yourself that you can.
It takes accuracy, honesty and patience. Accuracy to take the time to log what you've eating, how much of it, use correct database entries, etc. Honesty (with yourself) to log everything, every day. Including a bite of this, a taste of that, etc. (Or avoiding misc. random bites/tastes.) And patience. A realistic goal is 1-2 pounds a week at most. Its not going to happen overnight, and you'll need weeks (really, months) to see the results you want. Meaning you can't give up.
Set a realistic calorie goal. If you're lightly active, working out occasionally, 200-ish pounds then the suggestion above of 1600-1700 makes sense. PReplan/prelog your day so you know what room you have for treats. Bulk out your meals with lower calorie items like lean meat, veggies. You can eat anything, but higher calorie items (bread, pasta for example) would need to be in smaller increments. As for sweets, plan for small portions of them on a regular basis so you don't feel like you're missing out. And look for lower calorie alternatives as well. Things like frozen grapes in whipped cream can be a good sweet fix for not much calories.0 -
I'm also a 5'7" female who turns 41 next month.
I think pp's have given you some really solid suggestions. Very careful logging is a really important first step. Also see if you can identify if there are specific foods/desserts that tend to lead to craving/binging vs ones that will satisfy you in smaller amounts. 1 -
Fatandsassy224 wrote: »Hey, I just thought I would share what works for me. I usually pre-log all my foods. Which both makes my day easier and allows me to eat a couple squares of chocolate each day. I am a stress eater, and I have a huge sweet tooth, but knowing that for "dessert" or in a moment of weakness I can have 3, 6, 9, 15, whatever I have pre-logged, squares of chocolate allows me to not feel like I am punishing myself for trying to be healthier. Sometimes my healthy snack of an apple and peanut butter gets deleted for more chocolate, but that's my call and I keep under my calorie limit
Thank you for the suggestion, that is very helpful and gives me hope that I can eat whatever I like in moderation without deprivation myself. Have you noticed a significant weight loss with this way of logging?
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I just looked at your diary. Your calories for the day are great. However since you're asking, I would cut the high carb high sugar foods. Replace the bagel with perhaps more eggs and a lower-carb fruit like strawberries. I would not have any high sugar fruit like pineapple and do away with potatoes and replace that with a salad with a little bit of dressing, no sugar though, look for sugar and everything you're eating. If you cut out carbs and cut out sugar I have no doubt you will drop weight.
I had a gain this week but I'm reading it might be because I just started a workout routine I hate when I gain it's frustrating.
Good luck!
Thank you so much for your reply. Yes, you are right, when I looked at my diary at the end of the day yesterday, I found that I had a lot of carbs. that's why today I will try to minimize them as much as I can. Please keep looking at my diary, I appreciate your input. 0 -
macchiatto wrote: »I'm also a 5'7" female who turns 41 next month. I think pp's have given you some really solid suggestions. Very careful logging is a really important first step. Also see if you can identify if there are specific foods/desserts that tend to lead to craving/binging vs ones that will satisfy you in smaller amounts.
Waaaaw, my birthday is next month as well. Yaaay 41. Thank you for your suggestion. But my ultimate favorite dessert is cheese cake, how can I eat this in moderation?????? It seems that it is impossible. Once I eat only one bite I feel like I want to eat the whole cake and I know I can do this. But may be Ineed some dicipline to be able to reach my goal1
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