Do you think it's body shaming...
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LOL. I'm female and was actually told to eat a burrito because I ended up a little under weight and I didn't take it as body shaming!
(OK, these people were coming at me more for health reasons but still!)0 -
I think it could be considered body shaming. Some people have a hard time gaining weight no matter what so I'm sure it could be a touchy subject. I just try my best not to comment on someone's weight / size because you never know how it could make them feel. I've been a big girl my whole life and have heard every name in the book so it doesn't bother me now but I also have friends who are super tall and skinny and get defensive about their weight. Just my opinion tho.5
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I sure as heck wouldn't tell someone to eat a salad because they need to lose weight, just as I wouldn't push a donut on someone and insist they need to gain. I trust that they know their bodies better than I. That said, shaming is in the intent, it depends on how they meant it.4
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Two dudes and a dudette. My boss, his girl friend, and their neighbor (who's also a client so I see him once or twice a year).0 -
I've been on the thin side before and honestly comments about (me) needing to eat more or having people bring me food or specially making me food is weird, awkward and uncomfortable.
Definitely felt shame and singled out to the point where I would wear three shirts/sweaters and two pairs of pants for awhile.
I knew I was skinny and I felt disgusting for it.4 -
U look in good shape but u hide half your pic0
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mechell007 wrote: »I sure as heck wouldn't tell someone to eat a salad because they need to lose weight, just as I wouldn't push a donut on someone and insist they need to gain. I trust that they know their bodies better than I. That said, shaming is in the intent, it depends on how they meant it.
It was just a joke. I mean, I do think she's too skinny but I'm fairly certain she'll never find out what I said since nobody who would have read the comment or taken offense even knows her. Which, I know, doesn't make it right.
I just think being called out on this being body shaming was a bit too much.
Actually, I just looked up the definition and I don't think it came anywhere close to body shaming.0 -
I mean, if it was flipped and people said she should lay off the burgers there would be an issue. People care about fat shaming and less about fit shaming.
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Just a joke, don't be so sensitive0
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Since it wasn't said to her face, it can't be body shaming. The most that can be said is it was a little thoughtless - many people don't realize that skinny people might also feel critical of their bodies.1
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I think there's a general culture that's grown over the years where people have learned to be conscious of not shaming big people for their size but "we" find it totally acceptable to crack jokes about skinny people. It's even in small things like that joke you made or when people cheer for Adele cracking jokes at thinner female artists' expense because hey, she's the big girl, she deserves that.
Personally, I don't think that's okay, no matter which way. I wouldn't get super butthurt over it, even if I was in her place and didn't even know who you are. But it's still not a nice thing to say.2 -
Nah. It's just a joke.
But God forbid you tell someone they don't need to eat that. Then it's Spanish Inquisition0 -
I think it depends on who those people are. And how it is said.1
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Were there any positive things said? Or was it just a roast session. Sounds like a roast session. Then again celebrity roasts all contain jokes but atleast that person is there to laugh at em.
My guess is that the people talking about the individual eat all the burgers:)jk0 -
It's hard to know someone's actual intent. Perhaps it was body shaming or maybe they are just concerned about your health. You really can't know unless they said it and then laughed.
All you can do is just shake it off. Don't give anyone the satisfaction of getting to you.0 -
I think some peoaple are too sensitive...0
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I think it's a bit of a rude, judgemental comment, and it isn't actually that funny.
I mean, what are the possibilities?
A ) the slim person being ridiculed is a healthy weight, and Ms Comedian has said that they need to eat more because she doesn't like how they look. So now Ms Comedian looks like a complete prat.
B ) The slim person is an unhealthy weight. Well, why would that be? It's likely due to either physical ill-health (various conditions can cause weight loss) or mental ill-health (e.g. anorexia), and Ms Comedian thinks they're being clever by recommending a cheeseburger. Gosh, I bet they never thought of having an extra meal. That's a load of medics and therapists out of a job then. So now Ms Comedian looks like a complete prat.
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It's a smart remark and I would take a bit of offense to it if I didn't know the person well or knew of their intentions. If I tell someone big not to eat too much, it would be rude too. Friends saying that to each other may be ok but to not know someone and say that is a bit mean.0
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I wouldn't say it's body shaming necessarily, but I will never understand why people can't just mind their own business. Why does it matter to you what she looks like or what she eats or doesn't eat?2
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Body shaming can be on both sides of the spectrum. If we can get upset by someone suggesting that an overweight person, should put down a cheeseburger, then yes, telling someone to eat a cheeseburger can be just as rude. I'm not overly sensitive in general but just because im not offended by certain things doesn't mean I should assume it won't offend someone else. You never know what someone is struggling with internally so its always wise to think before you speak! Plus bulding someone up feels better than tearing someone down!1
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Thanks, guys. Best part of this thread is I'm suddenly british (a prat).
Ok, this is the background of my question.
A female has been linked to a singer so pics of this person have been posted and instagram accounts checked out and stuff like that. This woman was getting hate from fans of the singer and hit back by trolling them. Someone on a website got on her case about it but I said I loved how she was fighting the fans bs back. She's a diet blogger with a book out and fans were leaving bad reviews. She was wearing yoga clothes in one of the pictures of her posted. That's why I commented she should eat a cheeseburger. Her top half just looked so thin! (And I apparently have some jewish mother in me. ) 0 -
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if it is personally attacking the persons body weight, then yes i would consider it body shaming. however if it’s put into something like “wow, you’re so skinny!” then that’s not body shaming, but rather a compliment. you see, telling someone they are skinny can be taken by the person to be cruel, but it’s really not. skinny is the body standard. but since the person had told them to gain weight because of how skinny they were then that is offensive.2
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Wow, I can't believe it's been 4 years since this thread.0
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This thread certainly damaged my inner child.
Four years later and the pain still endures.1
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