Help! Bridesmaid dress doesn't fit. 2 weeks to go..

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  • mom22dogs
    mom22dogs Posts: 470 Member
    Orphia wrote: »
    Just wear it during the service, then change into something that fits better for the reception.

    It's just a wedding. I got married for $100 to someone I'd known for 2 months on a holiday, and been married 25 years and counting. It's just one day, and no-one but you will remember what you wore to the reception.

    The bride may frown on her changing after the ceremony. I was a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding and we had these long, high-necked sheath dresses with really light weight fabric - I felt like I was wearing a long slip and felt really uncomfortable in it. I asked her if I could change out of it for the reception, and it was a big NO. Bridesmaids usually don't change out of their dresses. You may not have cared, but plenty of people do, and pictures last forever.
  • baconbutt31
    baconbutt31 Posts: 8 Member
    ljpje wrote: »
    My suggestion is to start doing OMAD immediately, go low carb or keto while doing OMAD, and drink only water, mineral water, unsweetened tea, or black coffee throughout the day. Nothing with artificial sweeteners. Don't restrict calories during your one meal. I believe if you do this you will fit comfortably into your dress. Good luck.

    I don't think that's a great idea. It's pretty easy to go over calorie goals if you've been deprived. Especially if you can justify it as "your one meal of the day".
  • amtyrell
    amtyrell Posts: 1,447 Member
    Spanx
  • WendyLeigh1119
    WendyLeigh1119 Posts: 495 Member
    edited June 2017
    every 5lbs down is not a clothing size for everyone. I wear the same size I do now whether Im 10lbs more or less. for some it takes 30+ lbs to lose a size everyone is different

    That's why I said "for me". But the OP didn't say what her weight/size was, so I can only go by my starting at 172lbs in March and being 151lbs now. So if I started as a Size 12 and can now wear a Size 8 loose....I'm just averaging the math. I am nearly 5'7, though so her height is as mystery, too.

    She did say the dress fits and zips up...but is uncomfortable/tight. So even 3 lbs plus some shapewear should solve the problem to get by for the day. A crash diet seems needlessly extreme.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    every 5lbs down is not a clothing size for everyone. I wear the same size I do now whether Im 10lbs more or less. for some it takes 30+ lbs to lose a size everyone is different

    That's why I said "for me". But the OP didn't say what her weight/size was, so I can only go by my starting at 172lbs in March and being 151lbs now. So if I started as a Size 12 and can now wear a Size 8 loose....I'm just averaging the math. I am nearly 5'7, though so her height is as mystery, too.

    She did say the dress fits and zips up...but is uncomfortable/tight. So even 3 lbs plus some shapewear should solve the problem to get by for the day. A crash diet seems needlessly extreme.

    I agree with you on the crash diet thing.
  • karahm78
    karahm78 Posts: 505 Member
    There is shapewear that is stronger than Spanx, not sexy but it can cinch in inches. I would do low carb, drink lots of water, and maybe one of those wraps (NO it isn't permanent it is totally temporary but if it helps at all who cares).

    How far are you honestly/realistic from this fitting?
  • DanniB423
    DanniB423 Posts: 777 Member
    Not the answer you want.... but just have it taken out. The chances of you doing low carb for two straight weeks with preparations, bachelorette parties, and the rehearsal dinner are slim. I'm not being negative .. I just know personally I have an issue with upcoming events and just overall sabotage. If you think you can pull it off with shapewear and sticking to your calories, go for it! There will be nothing worse than the day of and you feel super uncomfortable and self conscious.
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,342 Member
    Perhaps a good dressmaker could insert a panel of similar material?
  • casiobarnes
    casiobarnes Posts: 78 Member
    Are you about to start your period? It's possible that you're bloated and will see modest losses after you're done. Everyone else has given the best advise possible, but I still don't think two weeks is enough time to go from "so tight it may rip" to "I'm able to enjoy myself and eat my meal and dance"...I'm sure it's not what you want to hear, but you should seriously consider getting it altered, or even purchasing a new dress that fits. It's such a yucky feeling to be self-conscious and having to appear in so many photos with a large group of people.

    Story time: My wedding dress didn't fit but not because of weight. It was a 'seconds' that I got for a tremendous discount, because the lining was sewn in crooked/against the bias. Looked wonderful while standing still but as soon as I moved the lining would shift from the top layer of chiffon and everything bunched/fell down (it was strapless). Unfortunately, I let my frugal nature win and spent my wedding day incredibly uncomfortable and self-conscious. Don't make my same mistake!
  • LoMonroe87
    LoMonroe87 Posts: 20 Member
    edited June 2017
    So update lol! I may have not been doing it the healthy way since I got it last fitted but just tried dress on and now it's too big! No happy medium here.

    Tips on if it stays that way how I can take it in more without alters? Safety pins possibly? Etc
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    Why can't you get it taken out
  • JeninBelgium
    JeninBelgium Posts: 804 Member
    honestly pay for alterations but if you really just want to lose the weight I would follow a vegan whole foods diet (so lots and lots and lots of vegetables, fruit, some but not a lot of nuts) and also well fitting shape wear
  • L1zardQueen
    L1zardQueen Posts: 8,753 Member
    Don't use safety pins, they have this horrible habit of looking ugly and like to become unsprung. Get it altered properly.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    LoMonroe87 wrote: »
    So update lol! I may have not been doing it the healthy way since I got it last fitted but just tried dress on and now it's too big! No happy medium here.

    Tips on if it stays that way how I can take it in more without alters? Safety pins possibly? Etc

    How much did you lose in 4 days?
    Where is it too loose?
    I'd say use pins. Padded bra. Belt in a matching color.
    Eat and drink normally.
  • BruinsGal_91
    BruinsGal_91 Posts: 1,400 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    What style of dress is this? It sounds very unforgiving if it can go from too small to too big in a few days...

    Assuming you're not either busting out of it or dealing with it falling off you, I say wear the darn dress and accept that the day isn't about you and part of being a bridesmaid is wearing a funky, slightly ill-fitted dress that you wouldn't normally pick out in order to help make your friend happy on her wedding day.

    Ding ding ding. This for the win!
  • cqbkaju
    cqbkaju Posts: 1,011 Member
    edited June 2017
    Have the dress altered and pay more attention to proper diet and exercise from now on.

    You don't gain or lose so much weight as to make it so your clothes don't fit overnight.
  • BlueSkyShoal
    BlueSkyShoal Posts: 325 Member
    Man, that does sound like an unforgiving dress. What kind of cut is it? Is there a particular part of it that's getting too loose / too tight?
  • jenmarrs429
    jenmarrs429 Posts: 45 Member
    Dress too big? Cheesecake!
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,341 Member
    Holy water weight, Batman....
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    edited June 2017
    mom22dogs wrote: »
    Orphia wrote: »
    Just wear it during the service, then change into something that fits better for the reception.

    It's just a wedding. I got married for $100 to someone I'd known for 2 months on a holiday, and been married 25 years and counting. It's just one day, and no-one but you will remember what you wore to the reception.

    The bride may frown on her changing after the ceremony. I was a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding and we had these long, high-necked sheath dresses with really light weight fabric - I felt like I was wearing a long slip and felt really uncomfortable in it. I asked her if I could change out of it for the reception, and it was a big NO. Bridesmaids usually don't change out of their dresses. You may not have cared, but plenty of people do, and pictures last forever.

    Sheesh, I'm not saying change into a tracksuit and ugg boots, and she's not going to have "Bridesmaid" tattooed on her forehead in the photos.

    Just wear the tight dress in the ceremony, then change into a nice dress suitable for a wedding for the reception, if the bridesmaid dress doesn't have enough material in it to be taken out.
  • tiffaninghs
    tiffaninghs Posts: 200 Member
    LoMonroe87 wrote: »
    Getting it taken out isn't an option right now. Already had it taken in from losing weight prior and now it's too tight. The zipper does go up but barely and feel like if I move at all it may rip. I have 2 weeks to go. I hate crash type diets but any advice or similar stories??

    MASTER CLEANSE!!!!!!!!!
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    Orphia wrote: »
    Just wear it during the service, then change into something that fits better for the reception.

    It's just a wedding. I got married for $100 to someone I'd known for 2 months on a holiday, and been married 25 years and counting. It's just one day, and no-one but you will remember what you wore to the reception.

    u consistently give terrible advice

    Orphia, has been successful in her weight loss and has been a great member of this community. You could learn a lot from her. There is no need to be insulting, just because you disagree with her opinion on this subject.
    LoMonroe87 wrote: »
    Getting it taken out isn't an option right now. Already had it taken in from losing weight prior and now it's too tight. The zipper does go up but barely and feel like if I move at all it may rip. I have 2 weeks to go. I hate crash type diets but any advice or similar stories??

    MASTER CLEANSE!!!!!!!!!

    Horrible idea and can cause some rather unpleasant outcomes. There has been some rather graphic posts of said outcomes. Plus it can risk heath. It's also no longer relevant, if you read the rest of the thread.

    OP, not sure what you've done to go from the dress being too small to now being too big in four days, and probably best that you don't share. I agree with those saying the day is about the bride and groom. No need to harm yourself to get there.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,341 Member
    Orphia wrote: »
    Just wear it during the service, then change into something that fits better for the reception.

    It's just a wedding. I got married for $100 to someone I'd known for 2 months on a holiday, and been married 25 years and counting. It's just one day, and no-one but you will remember what you wore to the reception.

    u consistently give terrible advice

    you are seriously questioning someone else's advice when you just suggested 'master cleanse' ????

    Touche...
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