What terms/phrases wind you up about losing weight?

I agree with the OP...."journey".
You're not going anywhere....stop making it more grandiose than it is.

"I'm ordering my wedding dress a couple of sizes smaller to give myself something to aim for".

Just... Look, we all make mistakes. But what is the point of being sapient, social creatures with written and spoken language, if we're not going to communicate and learn from each others' mistakes and resolve to make our own, unique ones? Enough women have spun the "will I get into this dress in time?" wheel and either lost, or 'won' and looked deathly ill on the day.

Can people please stop doing this to themselves? Please?

If you are planning a wedding, look for a design of dress that fits now and could be easily taken in, if necessary. Talk to a seamstress about it. They'll thank you for consulting them before you purchase the damn thing, rather than bringing it in at short notice because it's still too small.

Know it alls wind me up. People that make fun of people that use the "wrong terms", or say the "wrong things".

"Transformation"

"Journey"

Not weight related, but it happens here more often than anywhere else I go: Mothers who refer to themselves as "mommies" or other baby talk names when talking to other adults.

But, to each their own. It's convenient when the words are in the subject line, because then I can just skip those threads.

Ok serious question - what is wrong with transformation or journey?

No phrases bother me. It is however hilarious that so many people are bothered by such trivial things.
One thing that is troublesome is that people have decided to take phrases that had a reasonably accepted & understood definition and make up a completely individualized one so that now the phrase becomes useless and people need to ask what that individuals definition is.

rybo wrote: »

No phrases bother me. It is however hilarious that so many people are bothered by such trivial things.

This.

Ironandwine69 wrote: »

susanp57 wrote: »

I'm a new mommy OR I'm menopausal Or I'm female Or I'm old.

These aren't reasons, they're excuses.

Says who?
Are you the judge of what's a reason and what's an excuse?

Yes. Yes, I am.

Morgaen73 wrote: »

Ok serious question - what is wrong with transformation or journey?

I don't mind people using them (as mentioned in my previous post because I know what people mean by that) but I don't like using them myself.

Transformation implies that my weight loss has transformed my life, that I was miserable and then did the extraordinary deed of losing weight. This has not been my experience, personally. I was happy and an overall alright person but I didn't want to be sick, so I lost weight. I'm not a better person now and there is nothing extraordinary about what I did, just a change in priorities. Thinking of it as a grand accomplishment just feels a bit excessive.

As for journey, I especially avoid that one because it does not support the mindset I'm trying to cultivate. Journey implies an end point, and there is no end point to what I'm doing (at least in the foreseeable future, I have no idea how my priorities will look like 10 years from now). It also implies leaving everything behind and overhauling my whole life, struggling with sweat and tears to overcome adversities. I have not made any grand changes in my life to achieve this and I don't feel like I sacrificed a lot, so the term feels excessive. And most importantly, I'm trying to "normalize" the way I'm currently managing my weight and treat it as a normal part of how I live my life. Adding a halo of grandiosity may amplify how I feel about the whole thing, and if I face difficulties instead of my current "oh well" approach I may be tempted to slip into a "Sisyphus" mindset making everything feel harder than it really is which is not at all how I want to feel about my weight.

I may be over-analyzing, I know, but how I use my words really does affect me precisely because of my over-analytical nature.

when people say, "you got this". Can't stand "journey" either.

Morgaen73 wrote: »

Ok serious question - what is wrong with transformation or journey?

It's not "wrong". The question was what phrases annoy you. I don't need a rational reason to be annoyed by something. I think we all have our pet peeves.

I find "journey" to imply a level of drama and self-importance that makes me gag.

But, then, I'm also annoyed by chipmunks. No reason, they're just little jerks.

tjones0411 wrote: »

rybo wrote: »

No phrases bother me. It is however hilarious that so many people are bothered by such trivial things.

This.

It bothers me that you find this hilarious. :laugh:

gabriellejayde wrote: »

martinemarbella wrote: »

I'm sure this won't go down too well but my personal bete noire is 'my journey'. Makes me cringe!

ME TOO. why is it a JOURNEY?

because they are taking a midnight train to anywhere?

kommodevaran wrote: »

Ironandwine69 wrote: »

kommodevaran wrote: »

Way too many. Trying to lose weight (and loose weight, even), intermittent fasting. Not so much journeys, as tracks, horses and wagons (even bandwagons). The last X pounds, healthy food is expensive, healthy recipes, cheating, confusing CICO with calorie counting, motivation, willpower, foods to make you feel full, healthy snacks. I'm not full of hate, but I'm bitter and enthusiastic - because believing in these kinds of myths and confusion made it impossible for me to reach my goals, and exposing them to daylight made it virtually effortless. I don't want others to go through the same as me, but I can't do anything to stop a person who has made up their mind, and that makes me frustrated. I usually burn out after a few years, so I hope I some day can just roll my eyes

How is IF a myth?

IF is confusion, and the confusion is mythical. IF just not eating all the time, which can be good for adherance for those who prefer it. But lots of people are already not eating all the time, and thriving, without calling it IF. IF is sourrounded with ideas that you burn more fat by not eating, that it makes you live longer, that it is "skipping breakfast", but just skipping breakfast won't have the same effect (you have to call it IF), that certain foods and drinks magically breaks your fast, or not, and that it has any special meaning, which it has not, and that you have to eat a certain number of meals, which you don't.

Yeah, I agree with the nonsense surrounding it in some minds because it's unnecessary baggage. IF works for some people, but not for the reasons that some people say it does.

I just started eating later in the day when I realized that eating earlier turned on my appetite YEARS ago.

I never knew it was a "thing" until I started reading these boards.

I stick with my same working theory for me and don't bother with all the nonsense surrounding it because in my experience with dealing with weight issues for 40 years, every dieting plan tries to sell you on the idea of it having some super special property that makes it superior to all other methods for some reason or another and there are all sorts of magical methods involved in following said plan and all of the that noise surrounding such plans is to obfuscate that they all come down to CI<CO.

duddysdad wrote: »

"I eat 800 calories a day and I am gaining weight. I must be in starvation mode." or "Don't eat below 1200 calories or your body will hold on to everything you eat and gain weight."

ha. same here. as someone who eats below 1200 calories, seeing someone talk about 'starvation mode' (what IS THAT SUPPOSED TO BE?) or tell me I'm going to die or gain weight is a just funny.