What terms/phrases wind you up about losing weight?

tjones0411 wrote: »

Chef_Barbell wrote: »

tjones0411 wrote: »

rybo wrote: »

No phrases bother me. It is however hilarious that so many people are bothered by such trivial things.

This.

It bothers me that you find this hilarious. :laugh:

Awesome. The fact remains that I'm a proponent of "you do you". It truly gets you worked up when someone says/does something different than you? Really? So yeah, it's trivial and unimportant. I'll say the same thing I say to my kids when they get into being all judgy - worry about yourself.

Lol I don't think participating in a thread of levity equates to personal world crisis. It's all good fun.

The only thing that has made me feel stabby while on this "journey" to "transformation" is when my BF told me that I shouldn't lift heavy weights because I will become bulky, and then proceeded to tell me that I should lift smaller weights more. When I explained to him that I don't have the correct genes to get hella bulky on my own, he continued to insist that I should work out like Jackie Chan because he's so "toned" and who doesn't want to be "toned"?

The funeral was beautiful, and he will be sorely missed.

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TmacMMM wrote: »

Morgaen73 wrote: »

Ok serious question - what is wrong with transformation or journey?

Fair question. They sound like someone's been watching too much reality TV. They apply drama where it isn't warranted. People get so breathless about this stuff, when steady habits are what bring long-term success.

b]Transformation is OK if someone else says it, but when someone says it about themselves, it's just too much.[/b

amusedmonkey wrote: »

Morgaen73 wrote: »

Ok serious question - what is wrong with transformation or journey?

I don't mind people using them (as mentioned in my previous post because I know what people mean by that) but I don't like using them myself.

Transformation implies that my weight loss has transformed my life, that I was miserable and then did the extraordinary deed of losing weight. This has not been my experience, personally. I was happy and an overall alright person but I didn't want to be sick, so I lost weight. I'm not a better person now and there is nothing extraordinary about what I did, just a change in priorities. Thinking of it as a grand accomplishment just feels a bit excessive.

As for journey, I especially avoid that one because it does not support the mindset I'm trying to cultivate. Journey implies an end point, and there is no end point to what I'm doing (at least in the foreseeable future, I have no idea how my priorities will look like 10 years from now). It also implies leaving everything behind and overhauling my whole life, struggling with sweat and tears to overcome adversities. I have not made any grand changes in my life to achieve this and I don't feel like I sacrificed a lot, so the term feels excessive. And most importantly, I'm trying to "normalize" the way I'm currently managing my weight and treat it as a normal part of how I live my life. Adding a halo of grandiosity may amplify how I feel about the whole thing, and if I face difficulties instead of my current "oh well" approach I may be tempted to slip into a "Sisyphus" mindset making everything feel harder than it really is which is not at all how I want to feel about my weight.

I may be over-analyzing, I know, but how I use my words really does affect me precisely because of my over-analytical nature.

It is personal then? I don't know you and therefore I cant comment on how you experience it, however, you may be selling yourself short. In my case your description does seem to fit. I was very unhappy, not just with my general self-image but with the aches and pains caused by my weight. I am much happier now.

As for the extraordinary part, the word literally means out of the ordinary. Therefore in a world where obesity is on the increase, losing weight and keeping it off would in fact seem out of the ordinary. I had the attitude of "oh I did nothing special really" but as I watched my friends get fatter and fatter and I had to struggle at work and socially to say no to very VERY tempting food in a society food is marketed as bringing happiness, I realised that losing 62kg is in fact no ordinary act and that I should be proud of what I did. If that makes me full of myself and arrogant then I am happy to be those things.

So i guess what I'm saying is just because it was no biggie to one person does not mean it wasn't a huge effort for another person and to say that the use of the term by someone else in relation to themselves winds you up or feels "excessive" is disrespectful the efforts made by other people.

While you have every right to be annoyed at just about any irrational thing you want to be annoyed about, you have no right to make me feel bad about a word that accurately describes what I have done.

I have every right to say that I transformed not just my body but my life to and of that winds you up, then you need to work on your own issues. Some mental transformation may be required.

*The use of the word "you" is no reference in any specific individual.

"Bad" foods.

I work out a lot and have a lot of muscle (without the BodPod or Dexa scan) they just "know," therefore a high BMI doesn't apply to me. Very few of us are people at the level of fitness to whom this applies.

Telling someone's who's plateaued or gained weight that since they've been exercising and eating in a deficit that they've gained weight due to building muscle in a few weeks. (Or when this is an observation about one's self.)

The myth that any one WOE will cure disease, heal the sick, make people fly, or do anything but help them lose weight (which in itself often comes with improved health benefits--but it's due to the weight loss, not the magic of the diet components).

• With my WOE, I can eat as many calories as I want and still lose weight. CICO is a myth.

Demonizing a food or food group.

I need to eat more to lose.

Starvation mode.

The "Biggest Loser" study applies to all of us who have lost/are losing weight. Geez, people! READ the study, even the authors said right IN the study the results could not be generalized to the rest of the population!

Whew! That felt good--THANKS!

"Journey" (and I hate it in all its new-agey context: "Weight loss journey" "bullet journal journey" "wellness journey" "spiritual journey."

If you are not physically moving someplace, I do not want to hear it called a freaking "journey."

Another multi-context new-age meaningless jargon word: "Tone."
"I want to get toned."
"That herb will tone your liver."
"this concoction will tone your skin."
"These pills will tone your uterus."

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO STOP STOP NO. If you use any of those phrases my brain puts your voice on hold. Its a sign that you're a believer in sympathetic magic rather than actual truth.

Lets add "Cleanse" in there, too, in all its glory. Liver cleanses, gut cleanses, facial cleanses.

"Thrive." That's it. Just Thrive. Maybe I spend too much time on Facebook.

And I guess "Premium Nutrition" goes right along with that.

God the one that really gets me is "carbs make you fat" ugh! False over eating makes you fat.

masaku_88 wrote: »

God the one that really gets me is "carbs make you fat" ugh! False over eating makes you fat.

someone literally just posted this in another thread I was reading and I am actually triggered by it. I wish this forum had down votes so i could click that button about 100 times.

How has no-one mentioned "I've plateaued for 2 weeks" seriously I'm new to trying to lose weight and it even bugs me when I see the word plateau in a title sorry

Juicing, smoothie cleanses.
IF/ OMAD people with superiority complexes. Some people like or do better with multiple meals, or need them for medical reasons. Sorry, personal stuff there.
"But I have kids and a family". Great! Better reasons.
"I'm not motivated/lack support". Fake it til you make it.
"Its too hard/ too much work/ too much change"
Everything you want in life takes a degree of work so why is this different?

I thought you were on a diet?
Why are you eating that?!
You can't have that, aren't you trying to lose weight?
We can go to a different restaurant that has salads, since you are on a diet.

The list goes ON and ON! I also agree with MANY others here as well.

Magical health cures being ascribed to any particular diet. I don't care how you chose to eat, but don't try to sell me on the idea that eating keto is going to cure all that ails me and the rest of the world (just an example, no keto eaters were harmed in the making of this post).

The main thing that gets my hackles up is when someone tried to say their weightloss method is the only way, it's not, please don't tell me what to do I will most likely do the opposite.

The rest mentioned on this thread just make me sad as having realised it doesn't need to be complicated, foods do not need to be demonised and cleanses/ detoxes are too much like torture and pointless, I wish others would realise it too.

As for lose vs loose that does irritate and English is my second language.

Protein powder, detox, cleanse, flush, toxins, thigh gap, spot reduce, keto, paleo, Jillian Michaels.
And, kind of meanly, "loose weight." If it's loose, tie it down!