What nobody tells you about losing weight
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No one told me how hard it is to finish food I buy and not waste. Especially the treats!
Examples:
Package of Yogurt coated almonds (treat)
Cottage Cheese in quart size
Package of Brookside Dark Chocolate covered (treat)
Convenience oatmeal packets
Bunch of Cilantro
trail mixes (treat)
Box Cereal
Ice cream
It all stays around so much longer now. I MUST plan my meals for the week or I will over shop and waste food.20 -
SiegfriedXXL wrote: »How isolating this journey can be at times. It's probably been said before but I realized it today. My friends and I used to go out a lot and eat and catch up. Huge meals, appetizers, drinks, main course and dessert with a lot of laughter and chatting and fun.
The last few times we've gone, however, I seem to be the damper in the fun with my fish and veggies or my salad with dressing on the side.
Yes I know I can have a cheat meal and eat to maintenance or a bit over, but really, the frequency of these get togethers in the past would've overwhelmed any deficit I managed to scrape together. I can't have three cheat meals in one week after all, at least not easily.
So now, I'm invited less. I found out today that the group plans to go out tonight to a new restaurant that just opened. I'm free tonight but they didn't ask. I found out third hand from one of the spouses.
So yeah, it's tough. Might be time for me to find friends willing to go on a walk or something.
Your friends suck. Find new ones. You're not the problem. If you need to stuff a plate full of nachos in your face in order to be fun, you don't need them. Rock on man40 -
That I would now become one of the people who would get up early on a Saturday morning to go to the farmer's market. Fresh fruits and veggies?! Yes, please. Honey?! Um, duh. Olive oil?! You betcha. I used to hate those people.28
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LauraInTheWater wrote: »That I would now become one of the people who would get up early on a Saturday morning to go to the farmer's market. Fresh fruits and veggies?! Yes, please. Honey?! Um, duh. Olive oil?! You betcha. I used to hate those people.
Don't forget the gigantic farm fresh eggs!11 -
LauraInTheWater wrote: »That I would now become one of the people who would get up early on a Saturday morning to go to the farmer's market. Fresh fruits and veggies?! Yes, please. Honey?! Um, duh. Olive oil?! You betcha. I used to hate those people.
Who.... Who can hate a farmer's market? If course I am from Vermont....8 -
I had no idea that ribs go ALL the way around to your back. I guess they hold everything up. Pretty clever design.
First I discover that arm pits are actual, literal pits. And now this. Seriously, who knew?!61 -
anyone else's nails grow faster? I swear mine are.13
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I feel like my nails and my hair grow faster. I am thinking it is from a more well balanced diet.aerochic42 wrote: »anyone else's nails grow faster? I swear mine are.
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I feel like my nails and my hair grow faster. I am thinking it is from a more well balanced diet.aerochic42 wrote: »anyone else's nails grow faster? I swear mine are.
Not sure if they grow faster. But definitely better and stronger! Plus, my skin is finally clear from chronic eczema rashes - probably from better food and more water.7 -
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Yes! At first my skin was unable to handle all the sweat and new foods and so I went through a little break out phase! But now I have clear skin and no eczema, which used to be a huge problem when I was stressed. But now my body knows I will deal with stress by exercise so it doesn't try to do stuff like that.
this! 8 -
aeshippers wrote: »How much your brain plays tricks with how you look. While getting ready for bed this evening I went into the bathroom only wearing a stretchy cami and opaque tights. I looked in the mirror while removing my make up and was admiring how slim I looked, then when cleaning my teeth I looked in the mirror and was disgusted by how fat I looked. Less than 2 minutes apart (and it's not the first time), what is going on in my head??
Ive been having the exact same problem! I'm the lightest ive been in years and sometimes i feel amazing but then other times i feel huge
i think for me i just know how far i still have to go and now thats all i can concentrate on 9 -
cherrywils wrote: »aeshippers wrote: »How much your brain plays tricks with how you look. While getting ready for bed this evening I went into the bathroom only wearing a stretchy cami and opaque tights. I looked in the mirror while removing my make up and was admiring how slim I looked, then when cleaning my teeth I looked in the mirror and was disgusted by how fat I looked. Less than 2 minutes apart (and it's not the first time), what is going on in my head??
Ive been having the exact same problem! I'm the lightest ive been in years and sometimes i feel amazing but then other times i feel huge i think for me i just know how far i still have to go and now thats all i can concentrate on
Yep, I can understand this. I've gone from a UK size 28/30 to a UK 8/10. That, to my brain, is pretty significant. My face is thinner, I can see that. My feet are thinner, my hands are thinner, my calves have become more shapely and muscular. I can see this. I have visible veins that were previously hidden by copious amounts of fat. My brain knows that I am thinner. Heck, my head is thinner - I know this because my glasses now fall off instead of digging into the sides of my head!
But all I can "see" is how much more I have to lose. To me, my stomach and rear are still huge. I have "bat-wings" (although I can also see that they are smaller). My stomach is clearly going to be the last place that the fat shifts from (I must be an apple shape). But these are the only areas I even think about these days - how long is it going to be before my stomach shrinks? Will I ever get rid of my huge backside? Will my stomach ever be smaller than my boobs?
It's madness. The rational part of me knows it is. But still my thoughts go in weird - and pretty stupid - directions.
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Madwife2009 wrote: »cherrywils wrote: »aeshippers wrote: »How much your brain plays tricks with how you look. While getting ready for bed this evening I went into the bathroom only wearing a stretchy cami and opaque tights. I looked in the mirror while removing my make up and was admiring how slim I looked, then when cleaning my teeth I looked in the mirror and was disgusted by how fat I looked. Less than 2 minutes apart (and it's not the first time), what is going on in my head??
Ive been having the exact same problem! I'm the lightest ive been in years and sometimes i feel amazing but then other times i feel huge i think for me i just know how far i still have to go and now thats all i can concentrate on
Yep, I can understand this. I've gone from a UK size 28/30 to a UK 8/10. That, to my brain, is pretty significant. My face is thinner, I can see that. My feet are thinner, my hands are thinner, my calves have become more shapely and muscular. I can see this. I have visible veins that were previously hidden by copious amounts of fat. My brain knows that I am thinner. Heck, my head is thinner - I know this because my glasses now fall off instead of digging into the sides of my head!
But all I can "see" is how much more I have to lose. To me, my stomach and rear are still huge. I have "bat-wings" (although I can also see that they are smaller). My stomach is clearly going to be the last place that the fat shifts from (I must be an apple shape). But these are the only areas I even think about these days - how long is it going to be before my stomach shrinks? Will I ever get rid of my huge backside? Will my stomach ever be smaller than my boobs?
It's madness. The rational part of me knows it is. But still my thoughts go in weird - and pretty stupid - directions.
Yeah I hear ya. I've obviously changed a ton, but I can't stop staring at how huge my stomach still is, or the weird wobblies on my arms and the weird wibbly side-boob. Doesn't help that my chest keeps shrinking--I think that's where all my recent weight loss has been
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I've lost and gained weight many times over the years, but this is the first time in a very long time I've lost a large amount of weight and it comes after being in various stages of obesity for the last 7-8 years.
Some difficult things:
Even though I'm 15 lbs away from the top of the normal BMI range for my height, I'm mostly okay with how I look. I still have some problem areas (and suspect I always will), but in general I like the way I look. Yes, that's good, but it makes it harder to keep losing. I want to be slimmer and I will be slimmer, but man, sometimes it feels like I'm climbing this mountain in reverse.
I always enjoyed clothes shopping even when I was heavier, but I'm just at a point where buying clothes isn't feasible. When I was bigger if I lost 10 lbs no big deal. As I get smaller, I notice losing 10 lbs makes certain things look sloppy and some things just plain unwearable because it's too big. I'm surviving on a handful of clothing items. I just don't want to buy a bunch of clothes that I will only be able to wear once or twice and won't fit next summer. I have a nice dress I bought last winter to wear on a romantic night out, ended up wearing something else, and now that dress will likely never see the light of day. It'll be much too big this winter.
Getting way more male attention. It's nice in a way I suppose, but I'm in a committed relationship. Not really looking for more male attention and some men can be rude and/or intimidating about it. It also can be embarrassing sometimes for me as I'm rather shy to begin with.
Some great things:
My health markers are improving. I say again, my health markers are improving.
I can only speak for myself, but everyone in my life has been tremendously supportive and understanding. My aunt worries that I'm not eating enough (I assume some of this is from my mother having had an ED) but she isn't particularly rude about it or anything and I know it comes from a place of concern.
I wouldn't call myself physical fit, but I'm able to walk for miles and miles now without getting out of breath. Even walking from the parking lot of Wal-Mart to the store was starting to leave me winded before. Everyday life is easier for me now. I'm not tired all of the time and doing everyday things like tying my shoes are easy.
I have developed a lot of great healthy habits, which is a byproduct of losing weight. I read the nutritional information before eating things, I am leaps and bounds more active, and in general I try to eat a balanced diet, drink plenty of water, and get enough sleep. These were things I didn't care about last year. My health is important to me now and I'm making it a priority.
Lastly, I'm happier. I didn't think I would be and trust me, losing weight is no magic answer to all your problems.
But do you know what it's like to not be able to look at yourself in the mirror because of how big you are? To even be uncomfortable in your desk chair at work because of how big you are? To feel like every time you bought a piece of junk food the cashier was judging you? To be uncomfortable in your own skin?
Yeah, I don't have to deal with those things anymore and I can't lie to you: I'm happier.67 -
I've lost and gained weight many times over the years, but this is the first time in a very long time I've lost a large amount of weight and it comes after being in various stages of obesity for the last 7-8 years.
Some difficult things:
Even though I'm 15 lbs away from the top of the normal BMI range for my height, I'm mostly okay with how I look. I still have some problem areas (and suspect I always will), but in general I like the way I look. Yes, that's good, but it makes it harder to keep losing. I want to be slimmer and I will be slimmer, but man, sometimes it feels like I'm climbing this mountain in reverse.
I always enjoyed clothes shopping even when I was heavier, but I'm just at a point where buying clothes isn't feasible. When I was bigger if I lost 10 lbs no big deal. As I get smaller, I notice losing 10 lbs makes certain things look sloppy and some things just plain unwearable because it's too big. I'm surviving on a handful of clothing items. I just don't want to buy a bunch of clothes that I will only be able to wear once or twice and won't fit next summer. I have a nice dress I bought last winter to wear on a romantic night out, ended up wearing something else, and now that dress will likely never see the light of day. It'll be much too big this winter.
Getting way more male attention. It's nice in a way I suppose, but I'm in a committed relationship. Not really looking for more male attention and some men can be rude and/or intimidating about it. It also can be embarrassing sometimes for me as I'm rather shy to begin with.
Some great things:
My health markers are improving. I say again, my health markers are improving.
I can only speak for myself, but everyone in my life has been tremendously supportive and understanding. My aunt worries that I'm not eating enough (I assume some of this is from my mother having had an ED) but she isn't particularly rude about it or anything and I know it comes from a place of concern.
I wouldn't call myself physical fit, but I'm able to walk for miles and miles now without getting out of breath. Even walking from the parking lot of Wal-Mart to the store was starting to leave me winded before. Everyday life is easier for me now. I'm not tired all of the time and doing everyday things like tying my shoes are easy.
I have developed a lot of great healthy habits, which is a byproduct of losing weight. I read the nutritional information before eating things, I am leaps and bounds more active, and in general I try to eat a balanced diet, drink plenty of water, and get enough sleep. These were things I didn't care about last year. My health is important to me now and I'm making it a priority.
Lastly, I'm happier. I didn't think I would be and trust me, losing weight is no magic answer to all your problems.
But do you know what it's like to not be able to look at yourself in the mirror because of how big you are? To even be uncomfortable in your desk chair at work because of how big you are? To feel like every time you bought a piece of junk food the cashier was judging you? To be uncomfortable in your own skin?
Yeah, I don't have to deal with those things anymore and I can't lie to you: I'm happier.
I'm very proud of you!
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I haunt secondhand/charity/consignment shops and ebay for clothes. I refuse to buy full-priced/new stuff when I'm hoping to lose more weight, but equally I refuse to wear too baggy clothing- that's like punishing myself for losing weight!
The compromise is lots of good quality secondhand things, and I get to feel virtuous for giving money to a small business or charity or person making ends meet with a clear-out.
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the happiness you feel when your pants are now too baggy and you have to hike them up every few steps!11
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That "fitted" clothing is actually meant to fit, and that too big clothing can feel absurdly loose and uncomfortable. Who knew?16
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My uncle didn't recognize me. It's been about a year since I saw him last. I've only lost ~15lbs so I honestly didn't thing I'd changed that much but I guess I was mistaken.12
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2 years and 6 mos in and I really wasn't expecting to (still) be treated like a walking freak show by my family and peers. And that ties into how difficult it's been to accept myself at a lower weight. Obesity was a major part of my identity and sometimes I remember it fondly and wish I could go back, but I respect myself too much to do that.42
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You may lose some friends, and gain new ones! I really am amazed how some of my relationships deteriorated, yet also new people I have met along the way!13
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How painful being thinner can be, having lost some of the fat cushioning.
My elbows hurt, a lot of the time. I have to be so careful not to knock them on door frames 'cos that's agony.
My arms, especially midpoint between wrists and elbow - it's started hurting and it's because I often use that part of my arm to rest on things.
My back, when I'm sat against something. The bones stick into whatever I'm sat against. Ouch. Even when it's something relatively soft.
My clavicle. My bra straps cause it pain.
The list goes on. But you get the picture. My children tell me that I'll get used to it. I haven't yet.
Some posture changes are called for!12 -
Clothes shopping: All of a sudden you realise that fitting most things comes with a draw back. Most fashion is still f*ugly to be honest. Yes I now fit all those cute-on-the-hanger things. But looking good on a hanger still does not mean looking good on a human22
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I'm sorry. New friends have come naturally from new activities for me. For me that's the gym, but it's a small garage gym where I know all the members and we often socialise together. If I was exercising at home, I wouldn't have new friends.
But if I wasn't in this gym, I'd have joined a running group or triathlon group where I expect I'd have a similar outcome.
But if you've a small group of good true friends that's all you need. If you want more you'll need to go out and join something that fits with your new goals/values.8 -
Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...41
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People thinking my wife is having an affair.... was at her tennis match and gave her a hug and kiss after the match was done and all her teammates didn't recognize me (I've lost 70 pounds). After I left they wanted to know who the "new man" she was with59
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The money you save on groceries by not buying junk food. Seriously!19
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No, I know exactly what you mean.LauraInTheWater wrote: »Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...
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