What nobody tells you about losing weight

kenyonhaff

kingleahnidas wrote: »

tomteboda wrote: »

kenyonhaff wrote: »

kingleahnidas wrote: »

You will get dizzy and light-headed after standing up too fast. Not as much of you to carry!

Uh if that is happening a lot that is not a sign of health. I would be concerned.

Postural hypotension. Rapid drop in blood pressure. As long as you're not fainting, it's annoying but not really a big health problem. I wear compression socks and increased my salt, that seems to help.

Yes that is what my doctor said. No need to worry.

Good - if that's why. Does losing weight make this more pronounced or something?

titantron40

clothes that doesn't fit you back then still doesn't fit you... coz their too loose now...

LindaGilpin59

That it doesn't get much easier once you have made some progress and that there will be days when you wonder whether it even matters. But then you put on something that used to fit or was too small and find out it is too big and determine to keep going.

keezo1

I started losing weight when i stepped on a scale for the first time in years and it said 318. After losing just over 30 lbs a relative saw my pic on social media and took it upon herself to call me and ask if i have lost weight,i told her yes and we had a little chat about my weightloss. Before she hung up she said i should stop now because i look fine. I WEIGH 289 AT 5 FEET 2,HOW ON EARTH AM I FINE ????. I would say this is what nobody told me but i have seen many people talk about it on here but never thought it would happen to me atleast not this early,well i told her i still have a lot to lose and hung up,she escaped being cussed out or put firmly in her place because she is an older relative but i dare someone else to try it.

ishredder

At least for me there is no maintenance period. I have to continuously "diet".

Geocitiesuser

You realize your own mortality when your veins are popping out and you realize someone can bleed you out with one well placed thumb tack.

HDBKLM

I just wanted to reiterate how inspiring I find this thread. I go through a few pages a day to keep my motivation up. In fact, my home modem is broken so for the past few days I've been cueing up several pages in different browser tabs while out in other people's WIFI so that I don't run out of material when I get home

I empathize with all the people who have commented about how much of this weight loss thing is mental and emotional, though funnily, my brain seems to be the opposite of most. I started reading this thread from the very beginning a few weeks ago and I think I was up to about page 75 before I saw a comment that resembled my situation. While so many have shared how long it has taken for their minds to catch up with their bodies and, for example, not knowing what to do when someone randomly hit on them, etc., I—who have been doing this only a month and have purposely eased into it so have only lost a couple of inches from my waist and nothing anywhere else—found myself making eye contact with a couple of guys while walking down the street last week, and when their expressions didn't register much interest, I remember thinking, 'No no, you're mistaken, I look great!'

Any other future megalomaniacs out there, who are just waiting for their bodies to catch up with their minds, and who have possibly been doing the world a favour by suppressing their giant egos under layers of fat all these years?

LauraInTheWater

There will always be someone who is more attractive than you. There will always be a bathing suit that looks ridiculous on you. There will always be haircuts that make your face look fat.<<<----Or mine because I have ALWAYS had a chubby face no matter what I weighed.

spinnerdell

Yep, I've finally reached my goal weight and think I look pretty darn amazing, but the camera shows I'm still kinda frumpy and dumpy.

gymprincess1234

That you will never be 'done', there's always room for improvement. 'Goal' is not a final destination, but one of the 'stops', you will always find something new you want to change about your body.

tomteboda

kenyonhaff wrote: »

kingleahnidas wrote: »

tomteboda wrote: »

kenyonhaff wrote: »

kingleahnidas wrote: »

You will get dizzy and light-headed after standing up too fast. Not as much of you to carry!

Uh if that is happening a lot that is not a sign of health. I would be concerned.

Postural hypotension. Rapid drop in blood pressure. As long as you're not fainting, it's annoying but not really a big health problem. I wear compression socks and increased my salt, that seems to help.

Yes that is what my doctor said. No need to worry.

Good - if that's why. Does losing weight make this more pronounced or something?

Yes, if your blood pressure drops as a result of weight loss, the effect can be magnified.

My resting blood pressure sits around 100/70 now, when I was at my heaviest it was about 120/80. That plummet when I rise can be over 30 points.

Jezreel12

Geocitiesuser wrote: »

You realize your own mortality when your veins are popping out and you realize someone can bleed you out with one well placed thumb tack.

I have to laugh greatly at this but it's so true ! I have thought the same thing but the way you expressed it was immaculate and perfect Alol

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trialsofliberty

Hi everyone, I'm new to this whole thing.
I found that when I was losing weight, everyone was saying how nice I looked in clothes, even if they didn't reference my weight loss. However, I was losing it in a disordered, unhealthy way, and because I had been oversized by peer standards, no one said anything.
When the weight piled back on again after a bereavement 2 years ago, suddenly everyone was concerned. So one thing I learnt back then was losing weight isn't always indicative of a healthy body and healthy mind.
This time, I hope to be kinder to myself.

Caloriesloser

Also people who don't comment about your weightloss as it's happening feel they have the right to tell you " it's time to stop now" or "your looking skinny".

You actually start enjoying buying clothes and changing rooms feel bigger.

If there's somewhere that has a reflection your going to check yourself out in it.

Your suddenly at the front of every picture and no longer hiding at the back.[/quote]

Desperately waiting for this day!!

Beach0221

You do not have to use the extended seat buckle on the plane.

suzesvelte

Jordan_Demelo77 wrote: »

That you can lose all your friends. I used to party and drink, and do stupid stuff with my friends. Even my good friends who just played sports I left too. In order for me to lose weight and lead a positive life (which I am! ) I had to get rid of all the negative and unsupportive friends I had. After moving on Ive noticed great changes in my life in my career and personal life. Those friends I had have gotten nowhere but backwards.

Yup.
It's OK, I reckon
I lost touch with a lot of boozy friends when I stopped drinking, years ago. Tbh they get rather boring as they get more drunk and more repetitive!!

I am making new friends at the gym and my wife has joined a cycling club which has an active social side too. I am enjoying mixing with people who share an enthusiasm for nutrition and fitness. Tho those cyclists CAN put away some booze their conversations are often more interesting!!

suzesvelte

SafioraLinnea wrote: »

It can get very lonely in healthy lifestyle land when everyone else is satisfied with being fat and lazy. I need healthier friends but I'm not pushy enough to encourage others to do something they aren't ready for. Maybe I need confidence classes. Do they teach confidence somewhere?

Well yes, you can get therapy to help with that. but you might find self-help books a bit cheaper! Anything with a bit of CBT to challenge your old beliefs and shape some new ones.

And join a gym with fun classes. Classes are the best place to connect with new friends. And chatting in the changing rooms. If you go same times each week you will make new friends. Probably.

Lonelybroccoli_2

yesimpson wrote: »

brightresolve wrote: »

How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"

I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...

This winds me up too... Some people genuinely don't seem able to connect that those behaviours are why you look the way you do!

I totally agree on this. Yes. I have to watch what I eat and I have to work out in the rest of my life.
Who have never been overweight will never know nor understand the daily struggle with food addiction. Never. So please don't disrespect my hard work by saying 'Oh just this time, you don't have to watch what you eat.'

Nishiix

~It's not always about what the scale says. Believe in people when they say you may look smaller.
~It takes a mental transition to realize your weight loss, so don't be down on yourself when you think you haven't made any progress.
~Aim for progress, not perfection.
~Enjoy the journey because it never truly ends. You feel happier, healthier and definitely better doing so.

Alidecker

Lonelybroccoli_2 wrote: »

yesimpson wrote: »

brightresolve wrote: »

How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"

I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...

This winds me up too... Some people genuinely don't seem able to connect that those behaviours are why you look the way you do!

I totally agree on this. Yes. I have to watch what I eat and I have to work out in the rest of my life.
Who have never been overweight will never know nor understand the daily struggle with food addiction. Never. So please don't disrespect my hard work by saying 'Oh just this time, you don't have to watch what you eat.'

I get those comments in the beginning. My friends got used to my new lifestyle and now that are fine with it and totally understand now. My two closest friends have never had the struggle with weight that I did and I had to explain that to them some and they were very supportive. I am lucky though, I know lots of people grow apart and lose friends when losing weight.

princess0lexi

it can become a obsession and you start cutting almost everything out and life just is never the same again.

maisiba

How grocery shopping is a different experience now. You're not getting judged for what you buy anymore.

When you stand eg in the aisle with the sweets looking at chocolate, nobody looks weirdly at you anymore. You know that 'perhaps she should be eating that' look you get. Same when you line up your food at the cashier. The other day I had like 5 huge boxes of ice cream (ice cream are the treats I'm including into my diet) and nobody even blinked.

At the same time, I'm not hiding anything in my shopping cart from plain view anymore either (did anyone else hide the "bad stuff" like sweets, cake, etc under veggies, salad, et all because you were a bit embarrassed?).

gymprincess1234

@maisiba I did that! I couldn't even walk in the 'snacks' aisle in big grocery stores, scared I would run into someone I know, only bought junk and fast food in tiny corner stores lol.

My friend who has never struggled with weight was with me in a big grocery store when I bought crisps and chocolate for myself without feeling embarrassed or without feeling the need to hide it under veggies for the first time. I was over the moon, she looked at me weirdly

lbuxx17

I've had dreams that I won't even know myself once I get to my goal weight. Like I look in the mirror and I'm like "who IS that?"
I worry that I'm getting vain - cause yeah I sure cannot pass by a mirror or window w/o checking me out...lol

gamerbabe14

lbuxx17 wrote: »

I've had dreams that I won't even know myself once I get to my goal weight. Like I look in the mirror and I'm like "who IS that?"
I worry that I'm getting vain - cause yeah I sure cannot pass by a mirror or window w/o checking me out...lol

I'm getting hella vain. I hate it. Need to put down the Snapchat.

MsMaeFlowers

31shines wrote: »

How slow it is. I started out thinking I'd lose weight super fast with healthy eating and exercise. Probably due to binge watching biggest loser and extreme weight loss. I thought damn they lose 15 pounds sometimes a week. Not thinking I'm not as big as them and don't work out all day. So the first week when I didn't see 10 pounds I was but the longer I'm at it i realize it's coming off just slow. At the beginning I did a lot of start stop start stop because I was not happy with the scale. "I only lost a pound this week. " some weeks I couldn't believe that. But my clothes were fitting better but the scale wasn't showing. I was always frustrated. Now I'm ok with a pound do I want to lose more sure and I do sometimes but at least the scale is going down and it doesn't define my progress any more.

The biggest loser is so unhealthy you're doing it so much better by going slow and making sustainable changes. Much healthier.

ridiculous59

lbuxx17 wrote: »

I've had dreams that I won't even know myself once I get to my goal weight. Like I look in the mirror and I'm like "who IS that?"
I worry that I'm getting vain - cause yeah I sure cannot pass by a mirror or window w/o checking me out...lol

I used to look in the mirror and wonder who that fat person was looking back at me. I didnt know her at all. This person, the one that weighs 90 pounds less, is the person I once was and who I am again. It's who I'm supposed to be, but I was lost for too many years. But yeh, I do the same thing when I pass a mirror or window lol I just can't get over how normal I look now! Me. Normal.

baylie1114

HDBKLM wrote: »

I just wanted to reiterate how inspiring I find this thread. I go through a few pages a day to keep my motivation up. In fact, my home modem is broken so for the past few days I've been cueing up several pages in different browser tabs while out in other people's WIFI so that I don't run out of material when I get home

I empathize with all the people who have commented about how much of this weight loss thing is mental and emotional, though funnily, my brain seems to be the opposite of most. I started reading this thread from the very beginning a few weeks ago and I think I was up to about page 75 before I saw a comment that resembled my situation. While so many have shared how long it has taken for their minds to catch up with their bodies and, for example, not knowing what to do when someone randomly hit on them, etc., I—who have been doing this only a month and have purposely eased into it so have only lost a couple of inches from my waist and nothing anywhere else—found myself making eye contact with a couple of guys while walking down the street last week, and when their expressions didn't register much interest, I remember thinking, 'No no, you're mistaken, I look great!'

Any other future megalomaniacs out there, who are just waiting for their bodies to catch up with their minds, and who have possibly been doing the world a favour by suppressing their giant egos under layers of fat all these years?

I totally started out this way, too! Lost 10 pounds and felt like a rockstar... and wondered why no one else seemed to notice. haha.... And now that I've lost almost 50, I understand what everyone has been saying. I have a healthy BMI for the first time in my adult life, I've gone from a size 16 to an 8ish, I look cute in my clothes.... and yet, all I see is this flabby mommy tummy that just. won't. go. away. Our brains are strange things.

chaseracer2386

baylie1114 wrote: »

HDBKLM wrote: »

I just wanted to reiterate how inspiring I find this thread. I go through a few pages a day to keep my motivation up. In fact, my home modem is broken so for the past few days I've been cueing up several pages in different browser tabs while out in other people's WIFI so that I don't run out of material when I get home

I empathize with all the people who have commented about how much of this weight loss thing is mental and emotional, though funnily, my brain seems to be the opposite of most. I started reading this thread from the very beginning a few weeks ago and I think I was up to about page 75 before I saw a comment that resembled my situation. While so many have shared how long it has taken for their minds to catch up with their bodies and, for example, not knowing what to do when someone randomly hit on them, etc., I—who have been doing this only a month and have purposely eased into it so have only lost a couple of inches from my waist and nothing anywhere else—found myself making eye contact with a couple of guys while walking down the street last week, and when their expressions didn't register much interest, I remember thinking, 'No no, you're mistaken, I look great!'

Any other future megalomaniacs out there, who are just waiting for their bodies to catch up with their minds, and who have possibly been doing the world a favour by suppressing their giant egos under layers of fat all these years?

I totally started out this way, too! Lost 10 pounds and felt like a rockstar... and wondered why no one else seemed to notice. haha.... And now that I've lost almost 50, I understand what everyone has been saying. I have a healthy BMI for the first time in my adult life, I've gone from a size 16 to an 8ish, I look cute in my clothes.... and yet, all I see is this flabby mommy tummy that just. won't. go. away. Our brains are strange things.

Time for the mommy package.. Thats what I'm gonna do..