What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Finding clothes that fit you.
When you have to tighten that belt.
Former-tight Tees are now oversized tees
Compliments
Not being bloated aaallllll the time
Feeling happy and mentally lighter
Wearing shorts and feeling good.
Not being called pregnant..
Not being bullied by jerks
Having More self confidence
being yourself without feeling constrained
Flexing those muscles
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archishaganguly23 wrote: »Not being bullied by jerks
But you do get hit on by jerks instead. Neither is preferable . . . people should just keep their comments to themselves.
I've been practicing my "wither and die" look (the one that wilts my children) so that the next complete jerk stranger who comments on my appearance gets the full benefit. Kittens!
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I also didn't realize how incredibly vanity sized everything is. I've just reached a healthy BMI recently (ie I'm still in my mid/high 140s with 5'5" and not that thin yet) and already wearing size M max and increasingly size S... which feels not "right". What sizes do actually thin people wear then? ...
Another thing I didn't expect... that your body type or form is actually different than you expect. I used to think I had more of an hourglass figure (not extreme but if clothes were too wide, they were normally too wide around the waist) but that's actually not the case. I have sort of narrow hips... who knew?
I think the same thing! I recently got to below my lowest ever adult weight (5'4", 125-128 lbs, never been below 135) and I'm wearing 2s and the occasional 0 in my normal stores (i.e., stores for 20-30 somethings, not teens). A 0 dress at another store was actually too big! Whaaaat? I mean, there are tons of women slimmer than I am, especially on the bottom. Where do slim women my age shop, bc I need to find that store! (And I just shook my fist at Costco the other day--their smallest size in one brand of capris was a 4...read 6/8).
I always thought I had wid hips too--nope, just fat hips. The downside is hips are slim now but thigh saddlebags are still there and look proportionally bigger
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brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
Wait what? Antibiotics?? Can you explain? I only ask because all my bras are definitely way too big now, but I don't even wear one unless I'm going to the gym or work (my boobs basically disappeared entirely with weight loss lol)
Is this only an issue for larger chested women?
The men may want to skip this one---TMI ahead:
I don't know if it is only an issue for larger chested women but I had noticed some pain in one of my nipples, and it lasted for at least a week. They both also looked unusual (swollen) but I just chalked it up to bodily changes (I have lost more than 1/2 of my body weight), potential TOM coming, etc. My kid is pushing 2 and I haven't breast fed/pumped in a good year plus and the supply has long dried up. In checking for a lump, mass, etc. a disgusting colored goo came out. I went to the GYN and he diagnosed it as cellulitis (although TBH there are other potential common infections for a woman my age that it could also be, but the treatment would be the same. Since my MD comes from Dr. Google or WebMD I am going to trust him on this). I asked how that could happen (I do practice good hygeine) and he told me that it was caused by the girls rubbing against my bras, which were obviously too big. My situation may be unusual/extreme but the too big bras in question were only 2 sizes off in the band and I believe one cup size. I didn't fill it out properly though and there was plenty of room for rubbing/chafing.
I hear you on the boobs disappearing. I went from a 48 G or H to a 34 long.
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That if you're a drinker, you should quit. For so many reasons. Big ones: 1) The same amount affects you more when you're smaller. 2) It's sooooo much easier to lose weight when you don't drink. 3) Hangovers make working out that much harder.24
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brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
I agree! Here's another resource for finding a properly fitting bra! I have been to Victoria's Secret to get measured, but it turns out I need a size that they don't sell! At least not in stores. They were 3 cup sizes and one band size off! This calculator uses 5 measurements instead of 2. I have much better support now!
http://www.brasizecalculator.tk
Thanks for this site! I'm going to get my hubby to help me measure, and see if I can find a better-fitting bra cheaply somewhere. (I'm not done losing yet and really don't have money to spare for clothing, but I only have one bra now that sort-of fits and isn't too uncomfortable so I need to do something!)
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts? Seriously, they droop SO much more than they used to when they were big! At least my shoulders and back don't hurt quite so much from carrying all that weight, but I'm still uncomfortable and have the added bonus of feeling old and ugly now too.
P.S. @brookielaw Thanks for sharing your experience - it never occurred to me that an ill-fitting bra could cause that kind of problem!7 -
brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
I agree! Here's another resource for finding a properly fitting bra! I have been to Victoria's Secret to get measured, but it turns out I need a size that they don't sell! At least not in stores. They were 3 cup sizes and one band size off! This calculator uses 5 measurements instead of 2. I have much better support now!
http://www.brasizecalculator.tk
Thanks for this site! I'm going to get my hubby to help me measure, and see if I can find a better-fitting bra cheaply somewhere. (I'm not done losing yet and really don't have money to spare for clothing, but I only have one bra now that sort-of fits and isn't too uncomfortable so I need to do something!)
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts? Seriously, they droop SO much more than they used to when they were big! At least my shoulders and back don't hurt quite so much from carrying all that weight, but I'm still uncomfortable and have the added bonus of feeling old and ugly now too.
P.S. @brookielaw Thanks for sharing your experience - it never occurred to me that an ill-fitting bra could cause that kind of problem!
Sports bras! All day, everyday.12 -
brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
I agree! Here's another resource for finding a properly fitting bra! I have been to Victoria's Secret to get measured, but it turns out I need a size that they don't sell! At least not in stores. They were 3 cup sizes and one band size off! This calculator uses 5 measurements instead of 2. I have much better support now!
http://www.brasizecalculator.tk
Thanks for this site! I'm going to get my hubby to help me measure, and see if I can find a better-fitting bra cheaply somewhere. (I'm not done losing yet and really don't have money to spare for clothing, but I only have one bra now that sort-of fits and isn't too uncomfortable so I need to do something!)
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts? Seriously, they droop SO much more than they used to when they were big! At least my shoulders and back don't hurt quite so much from carrying all that weight, but I'm still uncomfortable and have the added bonus of feeling old and ugly now too.
P.S. @brookielaw Thanks for sharing your experience - it never occurred to me that an ill-fitting bra could cause that kind of problem!
Whatever is well-fitted and supportive. The girls just need some support, and all too often it comes down to improperly sized bra or picking one that isn't up to the task.
Even "deflated" boobs look awesome if you put them in a pretty, supportive over-the-shoulder-boulder-holder. And yes, they exist.6 -
@SueSueDio -- I have a fairly minimalist outlook on clothes, so I have one style of daily-wear bra.
Bali, Live It Up, in black. I've worn that model for years, all through my weight loss and before. Supportive, not push-up. Natural shaping. No padding.
https://www.amazon.com/Bali-Womens-3353-Seamless-Underwire/dp/B000MX60PE?th=1&psc=12 -
brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
I agree! Here's another resource for finding a properly fitting bra! I have been to Victoria's Secret to get measured, but it turns out I need a size that they don't sell! At least not in stores. They were 3 cup sizes and one band size off! This calculator uses 5 measurements instead of 2. I have much better support now!
http://www.brasizecalculator.tk
Thanks for this site! I'm going to get my hubby to help me measure, and see if I can find a better-fitting bra cheaply somewhere. (I'm not done losing yet and really don't have money to spare for clothing, but I only have one bra now that sort-of fits and isn't too uncomfortable so I need to do something!)
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts? Seriously, they droop SO much more than they used to when they were big! At least my shoulders and back don't hurt quite so much from carrying all that weight, but I'm still uncomfortable and have the added bonus of feeling old and ugly now too.
P.S. @brookielaw Thanks for sharing your experience - it never occurred to me that an ill-fitting bra could cause that kind of problem!
Seriously snorted and about spit out my water over here
between losing weight and having just weaned the baby...YES. The girls are in such sorry state at the moment. Hahahaha! 4 -
I feel ya saggy boob girlies! I now do extra push ups working out, wear sports bra to sleep, exfoliate the skin and pray lol11
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Thanks for the suggestions, ladies, I'll keep them in mind!Thanks for this site! I'm going to get my hubby to help me measure, and see if I can find a better-fitting bra cheaply somewhere. (I'm not done losing yet and really don't have money to spare for clothing, but I only have one bra now that sort-of fits and isn't too uncomfortable so I need to do something!)
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts? Seriously, they droop SO much more than they used to when they were big! At least my shoulders and back don't hurt quite so much from carrying all that weight, but I'm still uncomfortable and have the added bonus of feeling old and ugly now too.
P.S. @brookielaw Thanks for sharing your experience - it never occurred to me that an ill-fitting bra could cause that kind of problem!
Seriously snorted and about spit out my water over here between losing weight and having just weaned the baby...YES. The girls are in such sorry state at the moment. Hahahaha!
Heh... sorry!
I don't even have the baby excuse... my son's all growed up now! My boobs have been giving in to gravity for years now, but because they were still big I didn't think they looked so bad. Now, they just look awful to me. I've never considered cosmetic surgery before, but I really think at the moment that if money was no object I might well have a boob job when I was done losing!
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Arm pits are actual, literal pits.
Who knew?!33 -
youdoyou2016 wrote: »Arm pits are actual, literal pits.
Who knew?!
Yes! I realised this recently. So much harder to shave now!12 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »That I'm going to have to change what I wear out and about.
I love logo'd tops, especially my Star Wars*/Superheroes ones. When I was obese, I was ignored. Completely ignored. Now, every time I go out with these tops on, people men have to make comments about them.
I don't like it. I don't make comments about their clothes, what gives them the right to comment on mine? Next time I may have to give them "the look" that quells my children and makes them wither.
* Note: I don't actually like the Star Wars films. I have not watched one all of the way through from beginning to end - I tried to, as my boys wanted me to so that I'd understand what they chatter on about but I fell asleep during every single film. I do, however, like the logo.
This made me smile because I purchased my husband a number of classic logo tees this past Christmas (Star Wars, Jurassic Park, Pink Floyd, etc). He gets comments from random men ALL THE TIME about those shirts. He is 48 and has never had a unknown man say anything to him about his clothes until these shirts. Apparently classic logo t-shirts are noteworthy to a fair number of men.8 -
^RE: Logo shirts. We (me & male partner) stopped wearing them because of the unwanted attention. It was getting ridiculous!
Which isn't to say women don't get chatted up constantly in public--it's just that logos of popular properties apparently trigger the "I must share my enthusiasm with you" response in a lot of people.11 -
It can get very lonely in healthy lifestyle land when everyone else is satisfied with being fat and lazy. I need healthier friends but I'm not pushy enough to encourage others to do something they aren't ready for. Maybe I need confidence classes. Do they teach confidence somewhere?13
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SafioraLinnea wrote: »It can get very lonely in healthy lifestyle land when everyone else is satisfied with being fat and lazy. I need healthier friends but I'm not pushy enough to encourage others to do something they aren't ready for. Maybe I need confidence classes. Do they teach confidence somewhere?
I don't think it's going to help your loneliness at all if you encourage others to lose weight when they aren't ready. Lol. But I totally agree about the loneliness. I feel like people take it personally when I eat healthy around them all the time, and they judge me for their belief that I'm judging them (which I'm not-if you want to be fat, be fat). But then I remember how lonely it was being the girl who went back to the desserts table for seconds and thirds. That was pretty lonely too, and I felt pretty judged then. I guess I would rather be confident, healthy, and lonely than insecure, unhealthy, and lonely. **shrug**27 -
SafioraLinnea wrote: »It can get very lonely in healthy lifestyle land when everyone else is satisfied with being fat and lazy. I need healthier friends but I'm not pushy enough to encourage others to do something they aren't ready for. Maybe I need confidence classes. Do they teach confidence somewhere?
Or new friends? It sounds harsh but that's what I ended up doing.7 -
Thanks for the suggestions, ladies, I'll keep them in mind!Thanks for this site! I'm going to get my hubby to help me measure, and see if I can find a better-fitting bra cheaply somewhere. (I'm not done losing yet and really don't have money to spare for clothing, but I only have one bra now that sort-of fits and isn't too uncomfortable so I need to do something!)
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts? Seriously, they droop SO much more than they used to when they were big! At least my shoulders and back don't hurt quite so much from carrying all that weight, but I'm still uncomfortable and have the added bonus of feeling old and ugly now too.
P.S. @brookielaw Thanks for sharing your experience - it never occurred to me that an ill-fitting bra could cause that kind of problem!
Seriously snorted and about spit out my water over here between losing weight and having just weaned the baby...YES. The girls are in such sorry state at the moment. Hahahaha!
Heh... sorry!
I don't even have the baby excuse... my son's all growed up now! My boobs have been giving in to gravity for years now, but because they were still big I didn't think they looked so bad. Now, they just look awful to me. I've never considered cosmetic surgery before, but I really think at the moment that if money was no object I might well have a boob job when I was done losing!
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SafioraLinnea wrote: »It can get very lonely in healthy lifestyle land when everyone else is satisfied with being fat and lazy. I need healthier friends but I'm not pushy enough to encourage others to do something they aren't ready for. Maybe I need confidence classes. Do they teach confidence somewhere?
There is no simple way to be "confident", but it's a positive attitude with actions to back it up.
Confidence is that you are resolute that you're on the right track. You know better than to be lazy and fat, and will not allow other's behavior to make YOU make poor health choices. So don't.
Having a smart plan helps lead to confidence and self-assurance. I have a spouse that isn't exercising and isn't eating smart portions of food. And I have friends that do the same. My plan to deal with these people?
* Make sure I stick to my eating plan, and not theirs. Eating more doesn't make them like me more, show love, or anything like that. And most of the time they don't notice. And honestly, they have been encouraging even if they haven't made the same choices as me.
* If a friend asks how I lost weight, I tell them. If a friend wants encouragement I am all over that! But it's not my job to "spread the faith". It's not that I don't care, it's that unsolicited advice is rarely followed.
Healthy boundaries are important. Food does NOT directly mean love. I don't have to eat to show affection. I don't have to eat to fit in, be social, or be valued. I don't have to tell others what to do. I love them as they are, and accept them as they are right now. I can be different and make different choices and still be friends.30 -
People think you're sick.9
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work_on_it wrote: »People think you're sick.
yes. I had a friend ask me if I was sick. He thought is was cancer or something. Awful.3 -
kenyonhaff wrote: »SafioraLinnea wrote: »It can get very lonely in healthy lifestyle land when everyone else is satisfied with being fat and lazy. I need healthier friends but I'm not pushy enough to encourage others to do something they aren't ready for. Maybe I need confidence classes. Do they teach confidence somewhere?
There is no simple way to be "confident", but it's a positive attitude with actions to back it up.
Confidence is that you are resolute that you're on the right track. You know better than to be lazy and fat, and will not allow other's behavior to make YOU make poor health choices. So don't.
Having a smart plan helps lead to confidence and self-assurance. I have a spouse that isn't exercising and isn't eating smart portions of food. And I have friends that do the same. My plan to deal with these people?
* Make sure I stick to my eating plan, and not theirs. Eating more doesn't make them like me more, show love, or anything like that. And most of the time they don't notice. And honestly, they have been encouraging even if they haven't made the same choices as me.
* If a friend asks how I lost weight, I tell them. If a friend wants encouragement I am all over that! But it's not my job to "spread the faith". It's not that I don't care, it's that unsolicited advice is rarely followed.
Healthy boundaries are important. Food does NOT directly mean love. I don't have to eat to show affection. I don't have to eat to fit in, be social, or be valued. I don't have to tell others what to do. I love them as they are, and accept them as they are right now. I can be different and make different choices and still be friends.
I love what you said and how you broke it down ! Thank you
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That my necklaces hang entirely differently! Wish I knew how much my neck has gone down!7
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brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
So. Much. This. I literally had a lightbulb moment a week ago as I dragged my VERY grumpy self to Victoria Secret to pick out a new bra, something that would resemble some sort of *right fit*. I *knew* I had to be either a size X or size Y & VERY begrudgingly let them size me. Turns out I was wayyyy off. I burst into laughter & ended up buying two bras. Haven't been able to shut up about the whole experience for a week. I'm sure my (female) colleagues/friends/restaurant patrons at neighbouring table are *thrilled* to hear about correct bra sizing.
Srsly tho - antibiotics?!? That sounds scary. Hope all is well.6 -
A question for any of you ladies who've suffered the "deflated boob" issue that I have (they haven't so much "shrunk" as taken on the appearance of a balloon with half the air let out of it...) - what style of bra have you found is best to help hold up the sagging funbags that used to be your breasts?
Yay, I get to continue talking about my Victoria Secret adventure!
They basically brought in every model that fit my requirements & I ended up choosing one that I wouldn't have picked out for myself in a million years: Perfect Coverage, Body by Victoria. No padding, super comfy, great deal when on sale. Looked biiiig (in the cup) when they brought it in but when I tried it on it was a perfect fit. The older I get, the more I scrap everything else for comfort.
https://www.victoriassecret.com/sale/bras-semi-annual-sale/perfect-coverage-bra-body-by-victoria?ProductID=336259&CatalogueType=OLS2 -
@SueSueDio I am a HUGE fan of Panache bras (the Tango II in particular), and Berlei (for sports bras). They make my poor, sad breasts look awesome and super-sexy, and they're comfortable. I shop at herroom.com0
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brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
I literally had just got home from being fitted then read this. After losing 26kg (58lbs) my bras were sitting all funny. I've gone from a 16D (38D) to a 12F (34F). Without being fitted, I'd still be wearing the completely wrong size and probably replaced them at the wrong size as well
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