What nobody tells you about losing weight
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That sitting in the sun would be addictive.
I used to not enjoy it at all due to sweating and feeling my clothes stick to me.
When I get home from work now I go out on the deck and take care of the plants, check the flowers, watch the dog romp and roll and generally just ENJOY the sunshine!31 -
I don't know if anyone else can relate, but the more weight I lose the more I realize how big I was to start with, something I never noticed at the time. Now I look back (old pictures, wearing my old clothes that are far too big now) and am pretty shocked, and very pleased that I made the decision to shed pounds.
I've realized the same. Like yikes! Now I know and I'm not going back. Keeping this healthy lifestyle and being mindful ofy choices12 -
The vanity sizing is crazy for men too. In my new size I wear anything from a M to XL, I'm a 38.5" hip but I have to buy size 34" pants in many stores... It's crazy.
You would think vanity sizing shouldn't affect men's clothes. 34 inches is 34 inches, right? But no, I have to consistently buy pants that are two inches smaller than my actual measurements. I also wear medium shirts when I used to be a large in high school, despite weighing more now.
The only thing I've found that tends to be accurate is cycling clothes, especially stuff from Europe. If the sizing chart says 32 inch waist, they mean a 32 inch waist.
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That sitting in the sun would be addictive.
I used to not enjoy it at all due to sweating and feeling my clothes stick to me.
When I get home from work now I go out on the deck and take care of the plants, check the flowers, watch the dog romp and roll and generally just ENJOY the sunshine!
I so wish that I could do this, I love the sun. Unfortunately I can't as a medication I'm taking has made me so photosensitive that even sun-block has minimal protection
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I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.31
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How weirdly fast and also slow things change. It feels like I've been in certain clothes forever. Sure they fit a little differently but they're definitely still wearable and look fine. So plenty of clothes still fit nearly 50lbs later. But I try on the very few things I own that don't fit every week or so and last week I could just barely get this one pair of jeans on and zipped. They were definitely uncomfortable and muffin top like woah. Well flash forward to yesterday and I'm behind on my laundry so I went to wear the jeans figuring with a baggy top I would make it through lunch with my grandma for an hour or so. Turns out they fit just fine. They were a little tight but not enough that I would have bought the size up and no muffin top. So in a week I've apparently completely changed sizes but today I'm wearing yoga pants (no draw string) and a tshirt I've had since the beginning. Go figure.
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That I'm going to have to change what I wear out and about.
I love logo'd tops, especially my Star Wars*/Superheroes ones. When I was obese, I was ignored. Completely ignored. Now, every time I go out with these tops on, people men have to make comments about them.
I don't like it. I don't make comments about their clothes, what gives them the right to comment on mine? Next time I may have to give them "the look" that quells my children and makes them wither.
* Note: I don't actually like the Star Wars films. I have not watched one all of the way through from beginning to end - I tried to, as my boys wanted me to so that I'd understand what they chatter on about but I fell asleep during every single film. I do, however, like the logo.13 -
Geocitiesuser wrote: »I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.
Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.23 -
zharptichka wrote: »How weirdly fast and also slow things change. It feels like I've been in certain clothes forever. Sure they fit a little differently but they're definitely still wearable and look fine. So plenty of clothes still fit nearly 50lbs later.
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The same! I call those clothes 'fat' cause I associate them with that period of my body, and even though I used to like them, they are not 'me' anymore, so I can't wait when they won't fit anymore and I will happily get rid of them
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gymprincess1234 wrote: »Geocitiesuser wrote: »I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.
Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.
nope, all I've cared about from day one was human affection. I haven't had so much as a hug in literally over two years. Lost 130lbs, still can't get a reply on the personals or get a woman to speak to me if I wore sparklers in my ears... All the confidence in the world (or personality) doesn't matter, if people won't even SPEAK to you if they think there's a non platonic motive. I haven't been on a date in going on 3 years... but this is not the right place for that conversation.
I just know that losing 130lbs has not solved the problem, or even improved it in the slightest. There are lots of guys who claim they lost weight and turned into james bond, I wanted to believe the fairy tail. So I have to find different things in life to entertain me as I live out the rest of my days.... a bitter pill that I'm not happy about.20 -
Geocitiesuser wrote: »gymprincess1234 wrote: »Geocitiesuser wrote: »I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.
Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.
nope, all I've cared about from day one was human affection. I haven't had so much as a hug in literally over two years. Lost 130lbs, still can't get a reply on the personals or get a woman to speak to me if I wore sparklers in my ears... All the confidence in the world (or personality) doesn't matter, if people won't even SPEAK to you if they think there's a non platonic motive. I haven't been on a date in going on 3 years... but this is not the right place for that conversation.
I just know that losing 130lbs has not solved the problem, or even improved it in the slightest. There are lots of guys who claim they lost weight and turned into james bond, I wanted to believe the fairy tail. So I have to find different things in life to entertain me as I live out the rest of my days.... a bitter pill that I'm not happy about.
I'm sorry (not sorry) but all I see is someone who is making themselves out to be a victim of life circumstances. No one is obligated to talk to you or interact with you. It is up to you to bring something valuable to a relationship (be it platonic or romantic). You're in charge of your weight and your personality and you can also be in charge of the way people interact with you. This is not a thread about pity this is a thread about irony.
Ironically, since I've gotten healthier/lost weight, I have a low tolerance for people who make themselves out to be victims because personal experience has taught me that you can do pretty much anything if you really want it bad enough.54 -
LauraInTheWater wrote: »I'm sorry (not sorry) but all I see is someone who is making themselves out to be a victim of life circumstances. No one is obligated to talk to you or interact with you. It is up to you to bring something valuable to a relationship (be it platonic or romantic). You're in charge of your weight and your personality and you can also be in charge of the way people interact with you. This is not a thread about pity this is a thread about irony.
Ironically, since I've gotten healthier/lost weight, I have a low tolerance for people who make themselves out to be victims because personal experience has taught me that you can do pretty much anything if you really want it bad enough.
I get the impression that he is going to have to work on his "game" and personality as hard as he worked on his body to resolve the remaining issues.
I am no where near my goal yet. However what I have learned so far..
- The scale is my friend. not my enemy.
- Nobody tells you how much easier it is to just create your own "diet" instead of following some Hollywood money grab fad filled with buzz words.
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arditarose wrote: »How emotional it can be. Realizing you're almost 30 and you are smaller and weigh less than you did in middle school gets those feels going.
Preach! Haha I'm certain I weigh less now than I did in 6th grade.... scary.
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That while you're still losing, you have to buy new work out clothes because your WILL fall off when you run... but you won't want to YET because you know it's still going down and you'll be doing it again very soon.
That it's okay if the numbers on the scale don't go down because you can literally feel your body changing and the number on the scale means you've gained muscle in equal measure to losing fat. This too should be celebrated.20 -
It is on my list of things to do but in the fall as I tan too easy in summer and they say better with fairer skin2 -
Rest days are hard. I took a decently long walk earlier but I'm still about to crawl out of my skin. Too much energy.17
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zharptichka wrote: »Rest days are hard. I took a decently long walk earlier but I'm still about to crawl out of my skin. Too much energy.
Same here. I ended up cleaning house... not much resting there.4 -
LauraInTheWater wrote: »Geocitiesuser wrote: »gymprincess1234 wrote: »Geocitiesuser wrote: »I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.
Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.
nope, all I've cared about from day one was human affection. I haven't had so much as a hug in literally over two years. Lost 130lbs, still can't get a reply on the personals or get a woman to speak to me if I wore sparklers in my ears... All the confidence in the world (or personality) doesn't matter, if people won't even SPEAK to you if they think there's a non platonic motive. I haven't been on a date in going on 3 years... but this is not the right place for that conversation.
I just know that losing 130lbs has not solved the problem, or even improved it in the slightest. There are lots of guys who claim they lost weight and turned into james bond, I wanted to believe the fairy tail. So I have to find different things in life to entertain me as I live out the rest of my days.... a bitter pill that I'm not happy about.
I'm sorry (not sorry) but all I see is someone who is making themselves out to be a victim of life circumstances. No one is obligated to talk to you or interact with you. It is up to you to bring something valuable to a relationship (be it platonic or romantic). You're in charge of your weight and your personality and you can also be in charge of the way people interact with you. This is not a thread about pity this is a thread about irony.
Ironically, since I've gotten healthier/lost weight, I have a low tolerance for people who make themselves out to be victims because personal experience has taught me that you can do pretty much anything if you really want it bad enough.
Glad someone said it!
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arditarose wrote: »How emotional it can be. Realizing you're almost 30 and you are smaller and weigh less than you did in middle school gets those feels going.
Preach! Haha I'm certain I weigh less now than I did in 6th grade.... scary.
I'm smaller than I've ever been in my life, well lighter than I was since age 11. It's strange mentally - I'm used to being big and strong. Now I'm strong but small. I didn't even realize that I was that big until I to my current weight.6 -
zharptichka wrote: »How weirdly fast and also slow things change. It feels like I've been in certain clothes forever. Sure they fit a little differently but they're definitely still wearable and look fine. So plenty of clothes still fit nearly 50lbs later.
Yeah, a lot of my older stuff is way too baggy now (and I've donated much of it), but there are still a few things that don't look too bad. But I have a comfy pair of yoga pants that I was wearing 60lbs ago (and they must have been stretched out so far they looked like tights - I can't believe I went to work dressed like that!), and although the legs have looked much better for a long time they've only just become loose around the waist. Still not enough to be slipping down, but definitely on the way there now! I'm a little sad because they were so comfortable!7 -
Geocitiesuser wrote: »nope, all I've cared about from day one was human affection. I haven't had so much as a hug in literally over two years. Lost 130lbs, still can't get a reply on the personals or get a woman to speak to me if I wore sparklers in my ears... All the confidence in the world (or personality) doesn't matter, if people won't even SPEAK to you if they think there's a non platonic motive. I haven't been on a date in going on 3 years... but this is not the right place for that conversation.
I just know that losing 130lbs has not solved the problem, or even improved it in the slightest. There are lots of guys who claim they lost weight and turned into james bond, I wanted to believe the fairy tail. So I have to find different things in life to entertain me as I live out the rest of my days.... a bitter pill that I'm not happy about.
This is off topic, but I felt compelled to reply.
Dating is rough. Anyone who says it isn't is a lying liar who lies or is one of those lucky ducks who met their SO at some ridiculously young age before they really got to experience the horrors of dating.
I was once set up on a date with my cousin. Another guy was a snake breeder and had snakes everywhere. And I do mean everywhere. One guy was living with his grandmother and uncle in a one bedroom assisted living facility and for bonus points turned out to be crazy. And not your run of the mill crazy. I mean seriously worried I might end up on a missing poster crazy, but I digress.
Don't let the fact you haven't been out in a while get you down. Enjoy your life. Do the things you enjoy and enjoy this time to yourself. Someone will come along sooner or later when you least expect it.
My closest guy friend went on a very long no date streak (I think somewhere in the realm of 6+ years) before meeting his wife. He got a bit down about it like you and was always bemoaning how he was going to be alone forever, but he was out enjoying his life (taking dancing classes if you would believe it) and he met her there. They were married within the year and adore each other.
*As an aside and on topic, this does illustrate however that losing weight is no magic pill and it doesn't suddenly make everything in life easy or fix all your problems.48 -
Jamaica4god wrote: »zharptichka wrote: »Rest days are hard. I took a decently long walk earlier but I'm still about to crawl out of my skin. Too much energy.
Same here. I ended up cleaning house... not much resting there.
So true! Rest days are hard. Last Saturday I was pacing the house and kept trying to leave for a walk or to do a workout but my sister kept me from doing either which was good because I needed a rest day.
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Madwife2009 wrote: »That sitting in the sun would be addictive.
I used to not enjoy it at all due to sweating and feeling my clothes stick to me.
When I get home from work now I go out on the deck and take care of the plants, check the flowers, watch the dog romp and roll and generally just ENJOY the sunshine!
I so wish that I could do this, I love the sun. Unfortunately I can't as a medication I'm taking has made me so photosensitive that even sun-block has minimal protection
I wanted to click something, but I just can't 'Like' this or find it 'Awesome'. I would be frustrated to bits if my meds kept me in the shade I think. At least the biking is outdoors, even if it is in the driving rain many times!
I'm sending sunny thoughts - does that count??6 -
That sitting in the sun would be addictive.
I used to not enjoy it at all due to sweating and feeling my clothes stick to me.
When I get home from work now I go out on the deck and take care of the plants, check the flowers, watch the dog romp and roll and generally just ENJOY the sunshine!
I've noticed the same thing. I used to wonder how people could stand warm weather, let alone enjoy it. I mean, I still need 1000 spf, but I don't feel that muggy/claustrophobic feeling I used to get in hot temperatures.
My front garden looks all the better for it!
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I wanted to click something, but I just can't 'Like' this or find it 'Awesome'. I would be frustrated to bits if my meds kept me in the shade I think. At least the biking is outdoors, even if it is in the driving rain many times!
I'm sending sunny thoughts - does that count??
@Lucy1752 - you're very sweet, thank you for the sunny thoughts.
It's all very frustrating and is messing up my workouts as I have to get up at stupid o'clock in order to get my bike ride in before the sun gets too high in the sky, else I have to wait until late evening, when the bugs like to bite. I was hitting the gym early, before the crowds but the cycling means more to me than the gym so I'm trying to find an alternative time to go to the gym. I could get up even earlier, I suppose. Plus it's not fair on the children as they like to get out in the sunshine - at least the sunblock on them lasts a while. I have to plan to go to places that will be shady (like walks in wooded areas).
Hmm. Not as bad as some of the other side effects though - the hair loss is a nightmare, I only have to touch my hair for a load more to fall out. But the choice is a life of pain, or these (semi-manageable) side effects. Yeah, I'll take the side effects. I've done the pain bit and would rather not go there if it can be avoided.
Trying to keep cheerful about it, I am sure that it will all be sorted out in the end. I have a good consultant on the case and he's trying to find the right drugs/dose, it just takes a while to sort out as we don't know how I'll react to the treatment. And of course, I have to be different and react in weird ways which throws a spanner in the works and confounds everyone.
I like to be different though
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I agree with the comfort outdoors comments, but hadn't realized it until reading it here. I actually got my garden planted and have pulled some weeds. The heat and the work don't bother me as much, and I actually WANT to be more active, so it's a nice thing to do on a rest day. Didn't expect that!6
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Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.15
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brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
I agree! Here's another resource for finding a properly fitting bra! I have been to Victoria's Secret to get measured, but it turns out I need a size that they don't sell! At least not in stores. They were 3 cup sizes and one band size off! This calculator uses 5 measurements instead of 2. I have much better support now!
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brookielaw wrote: »Hot tip: Ladies- as you lose weight, get measured and re-fitted for bras. Wearing ones that are too big is not only unflattering but can cause medical issues. Today's doctor appointment resulted in antibiotics...and a trip to Victoria's Secret.
Wait what? Antibiotics?? Can you explain? I only ask because all my bras are definitely way too big now, but I don't even wear one unless I'm going to the gym or work (my boobs basically disappeared entirely with weight loss lol)
Is this only an issue for larger chested women?3
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