What nobody tells you about losing weight

Piqueaboo wrote: »

I don't know if anyone else can relate, but the more weight I lose the more I realize how big I was to start with, something I never noticed at the time. Now I look back (old pictures, wearing my old clothes that are far too big now) and am pretty shocked, and very pleased that I made the decision to shed pounds.

I've realized the same. Like yikes! Now I know and I'm not going back. Keeping this healthy lifestyle and being mindful ofy choices

How weirdly fast and also slow things change. It feels like I've been in certain clothes forever. Sure they fit a little differently but they're definitely still wearable and look fine. So plenty of clothes still fit nearly 50lbs later. But I try on the very few things I own that don't fit every week or so and last week I could just barely get this one pair of jeans on and zipped. They were definitely uncomfortable and muffin top like woah. Well flash forward to yesterday and I'm behind on my laundry so I went to wear the jeans figuring with a baggy top I would make it through lunch with my grandma for an hour or so. Turns out they fit just fine. They were a little tight but not enough that I would have bought the size up and no muffin top. So in a week I've apparently completely changed sizes but today I'm wearing yoga pants (no draw string) and a tshirt I've had since the beginning. Go figure.

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Geocitiesuser wrote: »

I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.

Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.

gymprincess1234 wrote: »

Geocitiesuser wrote: »

I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.

Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.

nope, all I've cared about from day one was human affection. I haven't had so much as a hug in literally over two years. Lost 130lbs, still can't get a reply on the personals or get a woman to speak to me if I wore sparklers in my ears... All the confidence in the world (or personality) doesn't matter, if people won't even SPEAK to you if they think there's a non platonic motive. I haven't been on a date in going on 3 years... but this is not the right place for that conversation.

I just know that losing 130lbs has not solved the problem, or even improved it in the slightest. There are lots of guys who claim they lost weight and turned into james bond, I wanted to believe the fairy tail. So I have to find different things in life to entertain me as I live out the rest of my days.... a bitter pill that I'm not happy about.

LauraInTheWater wrote: »

I'm sorry (not sorry) but all I see is someone who is making themselves out to be a victim of life circumstances. No one is obligated to talk to you or interact with you. It is up to you to bring something valuable to a relationship (be it platonic or romantic). You're in charge of your weight and your personality and you can also be in charge of the way people interact with you. This is not a thread about pity this is a thread about irony.

Ironically, since I've gotten healthier/lost weight, I have a low tolerance for people who make themselves out to be victims because personal experience has taught me that you can do pretty much anything if you really want it bad enough.

I get the impression that he is going to have to work on his "game" and personality as hard as he worked on his body to resolve the remaining issues.

I am no where near my goal yet. However what I have learned so far..

- The scale is my friend. not my enemy.
- Nobody tells you how much easier it is to just create your own "diet" instead of following some Hollywood money grab fad filled with buzz words.

That while you're still losing, you have to buy new work out clothes because your WILL fall off when you run... but you won't want to YET because you know it's still going down and you'll be doing it again very soon.

That it's okay if the numbers on the scale don't go down because you can literally feel your body changing and the number on the scale means you've gained muscle in equal measure to losing fat. This too should be celebrated.

Rest days are hard. I took a decently long walk earlier but I'm still about to crawl out of my skin. Too much energy.

LauraInTheWater wrote: »

Geocitiesuser wrote: »

gymprincess1234 wrote: »

Geocitiesuser wrote: »

I suppose I was told but didn't listen. Losing weight won't solve your problems or make people like you unless you are one of the very lucky few. I've been chewing on that bitter pill a lot lately.

Sure, not all of the problems, but it makes life so much easier in all aspects. Maybe you're just concentrating on what's not fixed instead of celebrating the problems that you've overcome? (Like physical abilities, stamina, fitness improves, easier to find clothing, more energy, lower risks of all sorts of illnesses, getting more confident, feeling in control of your body, etc. ) ?
Plus, the only person who has to like you is yourself.

nope, all I've cared about from day one was human affection. I haven't had so much as a hug in literally over two years. Lost 130lbs, still can't get a reply on the personals or get a woman to speak to me if I wore sparklers in my ears... All the confidence in the world (or personality) doesn't matter, if people won't even SPEAK to you if they think there's a non platonic motive. I haven't been on a date in going on 3 years... but this is not the right place for that conversation.

I just know that losing 130lbs has not solved the problem, or even improved it in the slightest. There are lots of guys who claim they lost weight and turned into james bond, I wanted to believe the fairy tail. So I have to find different things in life to entertain me as I live out the rest of my days.... a bitter pill that I'm not happy about.

I'm sorry (not sorry) but all I see is someone who is making themselves out to be a victim of life circumstances. No one is obligated to talk to you or interact with you. It is up to you to bring something valuable to a relationship (be it platonic or romantic). You're in charge of your weight and your personality and you can also be in charge of the way people interact with you. This is not a thread about pity this is a thread about irony.

Ironically, since I've gotten healthier/lost weight, I have a low tolerance for people who make themselves out to be victims because personal experience has taught me that you can do pretty much anything if you really want it bad enough.

Glad someone said it!

zharptichka wrote: »

How weirdly fast and also slow things change. It feels like I've been in certain clothes forever. Sure they fit a little differently but they're definitely still wearable and look fine. So plenty of clothes still fit nearly 50lbs later.

Yeah, a lot of my older stuff is way too baggy now (and I've donated much of it), but there are still a few things that don't look too bad. But I have a comfy pair of yoga pants that I was wearing 60lbs ago (and they must have been stretched out so far they looked like tights - I can't believe I went to work dressed like that!), and although the legs have looked much better for a long time they've only just become loose around the waist. Still not enough to be slipping down, but definitely on the way there now! I'm a little sad because they were so comfortable!