What nobody tells you about losing weight

Syneea

mazarasltm wrote: »

That you would start looking for health nuts to talk to, since no one is really into health nutrition and fitness as you are. Or talks the same language.

A nice 4000 step post meal brisk walk helps alot after a f' up meal. I would share it with the people around me who say they are struggling with weight, but they are kinda hostile.

Now I'm looking forward to buying new clothes and hidding the fat that I lost it to new people.

Alot of people look at me weird when I walk past them the 4 th time where they were sitting on the front step of the hospital 'resting & digesting'.

Nobody you know is willing to start MFP calorie counting and friend you. I guess they really dont want to know the down and dirty of how your doing it. It would seem natural that someone would say "I want to know what you eat everyday." They dont. Commitment to weightloss is all internal. You gotta want it bad enough and be willing to do what it takes. Its crossing a mental line/ barrier. Maybe they think they are imposing?

OMG this is SO TRUE!! For like a YEAR there my friends were lamenting the fact that they never saw me or I never wanted to hang out... I just didn't have time... Between work, hubby and the kids, my Only spare time was in the gym (where I got the chance to bond with other like minded folks!! Lol), so if they couldn't meet me there, it just wasn't happening.... AND they didn't want to talk fitness and nutrition, my favorite subject!! .... Well believe it or not almost one year later two of my closer girl friends adopted the adage, "if you can't beat them JOIN THEM", and joined my gym!! They LITERALLY said, they GUESS they'll give it a shot since this is the only way they can see me consistently.. And now they are hooked too! Sometimes they talk My ear off (not really, I love it) about weight loss and "what do I think". Lol Life is SO FUNNY!

GaleHawkins

thenananator wrote: »

Sometimes sad to realize how some folks, who had never regarded me in the past, are now making an effort to get to know me or worse yet, I sit on a couple of Non Profit Boards and now, during meetings, suddenly a few in the room are wanting to hear what I have to say.....bothersome commentary about human nature and how we treat people that are different from ourselves. Boo to that!

@thenananator while it is sad it is nothing new. I remember 50+ years ago as a kid the middle of a Saturday afternoon when working in the fields I asked my dad if we could knock off from work and go into town. His reply was, "You sound like a fat man talking."

I got the message what fat people say must not be taken seriously because we did not stop working and go to town that day. I was in no way fat back then.

louann_jude

That people will try to get you to stop losing weight before your ready to. I have had two people tell me already I don't need to lose 'much more'. I have lost 95 pounds. Even with that weight loss I still need to lose 39 more pounds to get to where I am no longer over weight. That is at the high end of a normal weight bmi.

I started this journey to go the distance. Not give up when everyone else thinks I should. I am doing this for me not them.

youdoyou2016

Sp8zmanSpiff wrote: »

I've started bumping into people more. Not actually bumping into them physically, but causing them to change direction. For example, I'm walking in the mall and I see a group of three people walking towards me and I change direction slightly to avoid them, however they also changed direction at the same time, so I change back and they also change back, so I change again, dramatically, to avoid a collision.

The above happened multiple times during a particular week a month ago. I now believe that there exists a sub-concious rating system where people who are further away from the normal body type are expected to move more to avoid collisions. So when I was big, I learned to move and now that I'm smaller I need to move less cause others expect me to move less.

Has anyone else run into this phenomenon?

Good Luck!

I have been experiencing something that's related to what you write here. I have a long train commute in Philadelphia, where we are experiencing a lot of equipment problems and, as a result, significant delays and schedule changes for the last several months. There are hugely significant #s of people -- imagine rush hr, holiday, the Phillies or Eagles are in the play-offs kind of crowds.

I used to do this commute when I was about 90 lbs heavier. (I'm 5'1".) I just got in line and got on board when it was my turn. Then I stopped this commute, lost weight, and am now back at it with a new job.

So, little, quiet, unobtrusive me walking around while I wait or am about to board the train: the crowds part as I approach. It's crazy. I swear I'm not doing anything but queuing up. But a significant % of heavy, overweight people stop and wait for me to get on board. People maneuver out of my way. It's noticeable. But what's also noticeable to me are a few significantly overweight people who exude a kind of aggressiveness in this situation -- like they are NOT going to be pushed aside and literally block others with their bodies -- instead of just getting in line with everyone else.

Also, people come up to me a lot of ask questions about the situation, esp new people taking a train for a first time. And I'm just standing there, headphones in my ears or reading a book. I don't chat to people; I'm pretty quiet overall ... It's not like I'm wearing a sign "Open for business" -- in fact, headphones AND a book are pretty much a "Not open for business" signal. But it doesn't matter. It's so strange the # of people who relate to me like I'm some "authority figure" or can help or they just start talking to me and seem to think I'm friendly or nice. Which I am , but I NEVER got spoken to or interrupted when I was in the 220's. Now, I'm talked to constantly.

I never really thought about people's sizes before in this way but when I started noticing, it's a pretty fascinating thing going on around me.

Osiris275

I seem to have lost all sympathy for people when they complain about sore backs, or knees, hips, joints whatever, when they are obese and not willing to do anything about it. Not even wiling to try to lose weight.

Members of my own family who have seen how I was, how much I've improved even without reaching my goal yet. Drives me mad!

soufauxgirl

Osiris275 wrote: »

I seem to have lost all sympathy for people when they complain about sore backs, or knees, hips, joints whatever, when they are obese and not willing to do anything about it. Not even wiling to try to lose weight.

Members of my own family who have seen how I was, how much I've improved even without reaching my goal yet. Drives me mad!

Yup a low tolerance for others bulldust is what I call it. I have deleted MFP members who constantly complain about things like "oh I am sooo bloated and feel sick after my cheat weekend ive gained 5 pounds waaahhh" ick.

IILikeToMoveItMoveIt

dramaqueen45 wrote: »

No one told me I would have fat dreams!! I have had a dream more than once that I was suddenly back in my size 14 jeans and they were tight on me and everything! I know it comes from the general anxiety in the back of my head that I will gain the 55 pounds back, but it's kind of weird!

I'm the opposite, I have thin dreams. I'm always the weight I was when I modeled. Even the times I dreamed I was a guy, I was still thin.

noctilumina

No one pointed out to me that if you walk to work, walk to the grocery store, walk to your appointments, walk to visit friends...eventually your geriatric 2001 Prius will be so lonely that the auxilliary battery will die and when you finally NEED the car, it will not start for you.

Chele_Belle_

louann_jude wrote: »

That people will try to get you to stop losing weight before your ready to. I have had two people tell me already I don't need to lose 'much more'. I have lost 95 pounds. Even with that weight loss I still need to lose 39 more pounds to get to where I am no longer over weight. That is at the high end of a normal weight bmi.

I started this journey to go the distance. Not give up when everyone else thinks I should. I am doing this for me not them.

I am experiencing this a lot too and still have 12lbs to the top of a healthy bmi. I intend to get lower and stop when I'm comfortable with my body weight (still in the healthy range) but am so tired of hearing "you're getting to scrawny and I'm worried you aren't eating enough." I lift 3x a week and am not even close too scrawny and eat more now than ever, just better things.

sunflowerhippi

finding clothes doesn't get any easier.

jvanessa89

- That people might not notice you've lost weight at first (especially if you have a lot of weight to lose) but YOU will know and it's kind of like your own little secret for awhile
- That sooo much of losing weight is your mindset and determination to succeed no matter what
- You might have people close to you tell you that you shouldn't lose any more weight even when you're still in the "obese" range. just ignore and keep on
- At first when losing weight you might feel frumpy because your clothes hang and you might not realize it at first and might feel frustrated that you look so big still but then you realize it's because the clothes are now too big and YOU are smaller
- That strangers and random people are friendlier, but it could be because of having more confidence and projecting more happiness
- That the people who love you will treat you exactly the same
- That you will actually ENJOY eating healthy and look forward to nutritious meals. Junk food in general has no appeal anymore
- That people will start asking you for advice on losing weight and what to eat etc and it's really weird at first but really amazing to be able to help others!

louann_jude

When you go to try on clothes that it's feels weird not going to the plus size section.

I have also found that my size perception is so off. I will look at a pair of jeans and think they look so small. I try them on and they fit and I am so surprised. Shirts are the hardest for me. I was so use to going to the men's big and tall section that it's so hard for me to accurately judge what I should wear. When I go shopping in a few months I am getting help from a friend to buy 'girly' clothes.

louann_jude

Chele_Belle_ wrote: »

louann_jude wrote: »

That people will try to get you to stop losing weight before your ready to. I have had two people tell me already I don't need to lose 'much more'. I have lost 95 pounds. Even with that weight loss I still need to lose 39 more pounds to get to where I am no longer over weight. That is at the high end of a normal weight bmi.

I started this journey to go the distance. Not give up when everyone else thinks I should. I am doing this for me not them.

I am experiencing this a lot too and still have 12lbs to the top of a healthy bmi. I intend to get lower and stop when I'm comfortable with my body weight (still in the healthy range) but am so tired of hearing "you're getting to scrawny and I'm worried you aren't eating enough." I lift 3x a week and am not even close too scrawny and eat more now than ever, just better things.

I don't think I will try to lose that much more but at least 20-25 pounds. I have been at 145 before and I looked sick. I think I look best between 155 to 165. That is still over weight for my height but I have a larger bone structure and can get a way with a little more weight.

I haven't started lifting yet. I really want to but under doctors order's no lifting. I am hoping to be able to start by the new year. I want to tone up and lift certain area's and from what I have researched lifting will do what I want.

sohifirefly

I know having to buy new clothes has already been mentioned but I had this realization this past weekend

Pro: The shorts I bought 2 months ago are now too loose and baggy

Con: The shorts I bought 2 months ago are now too loose and baggy

smiles4jo

It's so weird to me lately how my brain hasn't caught up to my size.

Last week, I was shopping and picked up a bunch of size medium tops *hoping* they would fit. When I got to the fitting room, nothing looked right and everything seemed frumpy. I couldn't figure out why nothing looked right. The last top I tried on fit just right, so I bought that one. It was only once I got it home and went to cut off be tags that I realized it was a size 6 (started at a 16), which would explain why none of the mediums fit. I went back to the same store today and picked up a bunch of Smalls cause I couldn't believe I actually wore a Small. Turns out every shirt I tried on fit and I actually had to choose which ones I wanted cause I didn't want to break the bank.

I hold up clothes in the store and think there's no way that'll fit and then it actually does!

ladybuggnorris

That, when eating healthy food, I would get so tired of "eating". This morning, at breakfast, I told my husband I didn't know if I could finish because I was tired of chewing. I definitely eat a higher quantity of food now, just with lower calories...and sometimes I just am so tired of eating!

rcktgirl05

I had no idea that just 35 pounds would make such a big difference to my knees. Yesterday I caught myself trotting down the steps. It occurred to me that I could not recall the last time I was able to do that with my knee pain. Going up the stairs used to cause a weird painful popping in the joint. It doesn't hurt really much at all anymore. Amazing.

jvanessa89

I don't know if anyone experienced this but I've been having more dreams or at least remembering my dreams more. I'll be going about my day and something will trigger a memory from a dream I had the night before. I used to always remember my dreams as a kid but when I put on a lot of weight and wasn't eating healthy that stopped. But now that I've lost weight it's changed. Weird

Arizona_C

I feel more alert, mores sensitive, notice little details like the softness of sheets, the fabric of clothes. When it is good I treasure it, but I have had to let go of those who weren't. My cupboards are becoming quite minimalist. I like it.

More sensitive to the skin temperaure as well.

GaleHawkins

This morning I dropped a bar of soap in the shower and actually bent over and picked it up with my hand. After 25 years of using that shower it was the first time I have been able to do that.