Parents on here I need advice, my daughter is seeing a guy way older than her
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What does your wife say about this guy? Does she get an opinion?3
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It's nonsensical to me that you're concerned of some guy, taking legal advantage of your daughter; all the while you yourself her own Father's committing actual crimes against her!4
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Honesty, as an early twenties female, I try to look for men about 10 years older - just a preference.
If he's a scumbag, he was probably one at 25 as well.4 -
abetterme9366 wrote: »You're daughter is a full blown adult. End of story.
That doesn't make a mom stop worrying like every mom does and should. And the other poster is right. If it's under her roof, it's 100% her business. I had to stay with my parents for a brief stint of 6 months between houses and even though I was 28 and a mom with a kid... I followed their rules, their curfew, and paid them rent.
This situation would fully concern me as well. Did you miss the part where her daughter is a VIRGIN at 22 years old?2 -
My 23 yr old cousins married the 37yr old she worked with. 2 kids and 3 years later they're happy as clams.
Not going to be the same happy story for everyone, but happy stories do exist.
There's really nothing you can do about it. Just be supportive. Be there without the "I told you so" if it all falls apart.1 -
WendyLeigh1119 wrote: »abetterme9366 wrote: »You're daughter is a full blown adult. End of story.
That doesn't make a mom stop worrying like every mom does and should. And the other poster is right. If it's under her roof, it's 100% her business. I had to stay with my parents for a brief stint of 6 months between houses and even though I was 28 and a mom with a kid... I followed their rules, their curfew, and paid them rent.
This situation would fully concern me as well. Did you miss the part where her daughter is a VIRGIN at 22 years old?
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hillaryflicka92 wrote: »Honesty, as an early twenties female, I try to look for men about 10 years older - just a preference.
If he's a scumbag, he was probably one at 25 as well.
That's a woman who ain't no fool right there!1 -
PikaJoyJoy wrote: »abetterme9366 wrote: »You're daughter is a full blown adult. End of story.
But as long as she's under my roof it's my business who comes to pick her up from my address
Nope. You are allowed to be weary, you are allowed to have an adult conversation about the relationship with her, but you can't really stop her. No good will come from any other action. It will only create a divide. Your daughter has found someone with which to spend her time, even if nothing comes of it she is learning valuable tools in how to be in an adult relationship, and that deserves your respect.
I'm 8 years older than my wife and the two of use met when we were a little older than your daughter is now. Sometimes the people that you want to spend time with aren't the same age as you.
That said, good luck to you and to her.abetterme9366 wrote: »You're daughter is a full blown adult. End of story.
But as long as she's under my roof it's my business who comes to pick her up from my address
Nope. You are allowed to be weary, you are allowed to have an adult conversation about the relationship with her, but you can't really stop her. No good will come from any other action. It will only create a divide. Your daughter has found someone with which to spend her time, even if nothing comes of it she is learning valuable tools in how to be in an adult relationship, and that deserves your respect.
I'm 8 years older than my wife and the two of use met when we were a little older than your daughter is now. Sometimes the people that you want to spend time with aren't the same age as you.
That said, good luck to you and to her.
That's the thing he's spending time with her for a reason and he's going to end up talking her into the bed room because he doesn't just want to be friends
And as an ADULT, she has EVERY right to make that mistake. It could happen with this guy or a guy closer to her age and guess what? Doesn't make it ANY better or worse. Get over the age thing and come to grips that you're daughter is a grown woman and needs to be able to make her own decisions/mistakes.
My point is I rather her go through things with a guy near her age who's going
That may be what you want but it's not the reality of the situation. Things don't always work out how you want and even if she was with a guy closer to her age it guarantees absolutely nothing. Say she breaks up with this guy and dates someone you want her too and the guy beats her and treats her like crap. Is it automatically better because he's 22?
You need to get over yourself and let your daughter do her thing. If things get serious you'll meet the guy.0 -
So daddy has over parented her entire life to the point that she made it to 22 with very little if any guy experience. And is now upset that he cannot control her life anymore and is still trying.
That is a fast track to having your daughter marry the wrong guy and never talk to you again.
Let her learn her own life lessons, if you are trying to control and live her life then you are even that much more in the wrong.2 -
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I agree 22 is an adult and I don't have a daughter, but if God decides to bless me so...
She's always going to be my little girl, and I'm always going to be Daddy, no matter how old she gets...1 -
abetterme9366 wrote: »I was a VIRGIN at 22 years old as far as my father was concerned. All the way up until I gave birth to my first born. Still nothing my dad could do.
Amen.
Ive never talked about my sexual relationships with guys to my dad - ew.
For all he knows Im a virgin too.3
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