What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Rewards I give myself for reaching mini goals have gone from things like going to movies and getting pedicures to things like signing up for 5Ks and going on hiking trips. I enjoy being more active.43
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This is a really great thread! Lots to look forward to. Only about 20 pounds in, with about 50 more to go.11
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cakegoddess1 wrote: »Being ACTUALLY handicapped, I get really annoyed when large girls take the handicapped stall. It's NOY for you...it's for us who really need it. Please...a little respect.
No disrespect, but being overweight IS a handicap. Sure, the difference is obesity can be reversed, but if you don't fit in the small stalls, why not wait patiently like all the other ladies.29 -
Sorry, what I meant to say was if they don't fit in the small stalls, let them use the handicap, and just be patient...they would much rather fit in the smaller ones!14
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Here's a funny one. How I'd get so faster at mentally calculating percentages, as a result of trying to log small portions of foods!18
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dramaqueen45 wrote: »You get tired of the attention you get from people that you don't see on a daily basis, because they notice the dramatic weight loss. Those you see daily don't say as much, or they'll say "you seem to be losing weight- are you?". Those that you only see every few weeks just gush over how much you've lost and how thin you've become. It gets tiring and nice once they stop.
I really wish someone would notice my weight loss. No one says anything to me and I know they are probably trying to be polite, but some recognition that my hard work is actually visible would be nice. It makes me think I still look the same.22 -
In no particular order... except for the one I saved for last.
- That no matter how well you think you've prepared for it, you will often still be rendered speechless when the backhanded compliment or outright rude statement comes flying out of someone's mouth.
- That when eating healthy foods instead of junk, just how much damn food you actually have to eat to reach your daily caloric intake goal.
- That the sincere compliments will come from the LEAST expected places/people.
- You never know where the successful trigger to make life changes will come from.
- That canned vegetables (which I grew up on, and hated) and fresh vegetables are NOT the same!
- Lastly. The number of people who bash Keto and those on it.
Well, excuse TF out of those of us who, after often a lifetime of struggling with our weight, have found something that makes sense and works for us. Heaven forbid that success causes us to get excited about it. Are you really so damn miserable in your own lives that you can't simply be happy for you're own success, if not someone else's, that you have to put down the way they are seeking to achieve THEIR goals? For those who choose to regularly and voluntarily bash Keto...you're right, it is NOT for everybody. Not everyone has the discipline and dedication required to see it through. But, all of that aside I still wish you the best in achieving all of your goals REGARDLESS of which path you've chosen to take....even if you can't see fit to be decent enough to wish others the same.35 -
GemstoneofHeart wrote: »dramaqueen45 wrote: »You get tired of the attention you get from people that you don't see on a daily basis, because they notice the dramatic weight loss. Those you see daily don't say as much, or they'll say "you seem to be losing weight- are you?". Those that you only see every few weeks just gush over how much you've lost and how thin you've become. It gets tiring and nice once they stop.
I really wish someone would notice my weight loss. No one says anything to me and I know they are probably trying to be polite, but some recognition that my hard work is actually visible would be nice. It makes me think I still look the same.
@GemstoneofHeart it is hard for guys to notice and make a positive remarks and it sound right. Wow you have lost a ton of weight! etc may be heard so we just do not say anything. There is a lady in know well and I was sure she had lost weight. She is more like a daughter in that I am older than her mother. She has made positive remarks about my health recovery due to changing my WOE over the past three years. When talking recently she said she had lost 40 pounds.
Keep up your weight loss and measuring so you know and just keep on trucking. Being a dense guy it really is hard to tell weight loss has happened when ladies keep buying clothes that fit their new weight. When they wear something that is way too large is a clue to me. Seldom do ladies go buy new clothes that are 2 sizes too large.
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Stalls: Who cares which stalls someone else uses? They may have a colostomy bag or medical apparatus. Or just want somewhere to put their purse where they can get into it. Whichever way, it's none of my business, I'm sure!35
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This got really negative all of a sudden...can we get back to how awesome it is to be skinny, regardless of any of our other differences?
How about...
No one ever told me that my husband would tell me he missed my jiggly butt, and I would say "too bad". I loved my old booty at one point but I have to say I love my new one even more, because I worked for it!35 -
BabyBear76 wrote: »When people ask how I lost so much weight so I tell them through nutrition and exercise. They then ask "no, seriously, what are you taking?". So I then detail my eating and exercise plan and still they insist I must have had surgery or am on some sort of magic pills. It's frustrating.
I just say "powerlifting." People think that is so hard that it must be why I lost. Even though it was 100% calorie counting.14 -
Biggest surprise is how little of a change losing 50 lbs has made physically for me compared to the mental changes. I went in on a lark with a "let's see what transpires, what's the worst that can happen?" outlook. The vast majority of the changes have gone on between the ears and in my heart. This has been really good for my sense of self, which will have long-lasting benefits whatever weight I am down the road.42
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I've lost about 55 lbs so far, and about 30 more to go to reach my goal....
I've found that I've become more vain, I constantly check out my reflection and ask my husband "does this look okay" with every outfit I put on. When I was at my starting weight, I used clothes to cover up my body so that no one would look at it, now I want them to show off my body. I feel like a bad person, being so vain.
I have to try everything on every time I buy new clothes. I used to be able to just look at something and know if it would fit, now I have no idea what size I will be on any given day.
No one tells you how to respond to the comment "Wow, you've lost weight!", I find that I usually say something stupid like "Yeah.... I have, thanks for noticing". (If anyone has a recommendation on what to say to that comment, please let me know ) 19 -
Morganbennett1 wrote: »
No one tells you how to respond to the comment "Wow, you've lost weight!", I find that I usually say something stupid like "Yeah.... I have, thanks for noticing". (If anyone has a recommendation on what to say to that comment, please let me know )
I like your response! So much kinder and gentler than my own impulsive snarky "Duh, ya think???"
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Morganbennett1 wrote: »I've lost about 55 lbs so far, and about 30 more to go to reach my goal....
I've found that I've become more vain, I constantly check out my reflection and ask my husband "does this look okay" with every outfit I put on. When I was at my starting weight, I used clothes to cover up my body so that no one would look at it, now I want them to show off my body. I feel like a bad person, being so vain.
I have to try everything on every time I buy new clothes. I used to be able to just look at something and know if it would fit, now I have no idea what size I will be on any given day.
No one tells you how to respond to the comment "Wow, you've lost weight!", I find that I usually say something stupid like "Yeah.... I have, thanks for noticing". (If anyone has a recommendation on what to say to that comment, please let me know )
I respond much like you. I hear "You are losing weight aren't you?" My response is "Yes, thank you." If the person wants to know what I am doing I tell them I am active and watching what I eat. I may say that I use an app if it's another semi-techie person.
I do not talk about my diet and exercise unless is is part of a regular conversation. You know like "Publix has prepared spinach salad on sale," or "Yes it did rain late last night. I almost got caught it it on my walk." Unless someone wants to talk about it.
No reason to be snarky.13 -
Sthsidirish wrote: »In no particular order... except for the one I saved for last.
- That no matter how well you think you've prepared for it, you will often still be rendered speechless when the backhanded compliment or outright rude statement comes flying out of someone's mouth.
- That when eating healthy foods instead of junk, just how much damn food you actually have to eat to reach your daily caloric intake goal.
- That the sincere compliments will come from the LEAST expected places/people.
- You never know where the successful trigger to make life changes will come from.
- That canned vegetables (which I grew up on, and hated) and fresh vegetables are NOT the same!
- Lastly. The number of people who bash Keto and those on it.
Well, excuse TF out of those of us who, after often a lifetime of struggling with our weight, have found something that makes sense and works for us. Heaven forbid that success causes us to get excited about it. Are you really so damn miserable in your own lives that you can't simply be happy for you're own success, if not someone else's, that you have to put down the way they are seeking to achieve THEIR goals? For those who choose to regularly and voluntarily bash Keto...you're right, it is NOT for everybody. Not everyone has the discipline and dedication required to see it through. But, all of that aside I still wish you the best in achieving all of your goals REGARDLESS of which path you've chosen to take....even if you can't see fit to be decent enough to wish others the same.
I agree wholeheartedly with your last point! There's a fairly large clan on here that are all "it's calories in and calories out and nothing else matters"! Complete hogwash! For a lot of people macros absolutely matter! If I eat a lot of carbs, I cannot lose weight, period! I've tried! Some people are more carb resistant than others. Do what works for you and the naysayers can go to hell!
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I love being able to wear normal sizes, but I'm now so overwhelmed with all of the clothing and style options, that I have no idea how to dress myself.
I cannot find a comfortable sleeping position. Or standing position. There is hardly any padding left, I guess lol.11 -
I love being able to wear normal sizes, but I'm now so overwhelmed with all of the clothing and style options, that I have no idea how to dress myself.
I cannot find a comfortable sleeping position. Or standing position. There is hardly any padding left, I guess lol.
So true!!!! Especially the mattress part. Turns out all my old fat was a cushion on an uncomfortable mattress.
I also have issues with clothes. It's hard when your mind still has the "fat girl" mentally but you're not. Normal sized clothes tend to be less concealing overall. A lot of spaghetti straps and body con stuff.
If you're having trouble finding what suits you. Go ask a stranger: go to a clothing store that carries the type of style you like (hip, conservative, punk, edgy, whatever) and ask for help from one of the employees. They have no idea you lost weight, so they'll pick stuff that looks good on your current body. They'll also pick out more appropriate sizes (this was a problem with me for a while - I would wear stuff too big and it didn't look right).10 -
That you'll be running to the bathroom. A lot. And that it takes a WHILE for results to be noticeable when you're coming down from a high weight, so you need to be patient.13
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I love being able to wear normal sizes, but I'm now so overwhelmed with all of the clothing and style options, that I have no idea how to dress myself.
I cannot find a comfortable sleeping position. Or standing position. There is hardly any padding left, I guess lol.
@ekd23 I had to come up with a mattress pad and for the oak kitchen chairs. After going keto has resolved most of my joint and muscle pain my net comfort level has improved in my case but I do not just plop down hard anymore. I had both hips replaced Aug 1991 so and without all the fat I get reminded of that fact on sitting for very long. 5 -
Morganbennett1 wrote: »I've lost about 55 lbs so far, and about 30 more to go to reach my goal....
I've found that I've become more vain, I constantly check out my reflection and ask my husband "does this look okay" with every outfit I put on. When I was at my starting weight, I used clothes to cover up my body so that no one would look at it, now I want them to show off my body. I feel like a bad person, being so vain.
I have to try everything on every time I buy new clothes. I used to be able to just look at something and know if it would fit, now I have no idea what size I will be on any given day.
No one tells you how to respond to the comment "Wow, you've lost weight!", I find that I usually say something stupid like "Yeah.... I have, thanks for noticing". (If anyone has a recommendation on what to say to that comment, please let me know )
I always smile, say thank you and say it's something I'm really proud of. I don't know if it's a French thing, but people are really nice about it and encouraging. They don't ask questions, they just remark that they noticed it, or that I am "beautiful" and I say thank you because it makes me happy.22 -
The bone thing has been mentioned before but I notice it all the time now! My ribs, hips, elbows, tailbone, wrists, and shoulder blades hurt. Even if I use a mattress topper, am sitting on a super squishy couch, or use two yoga mats instead of one. The weird thing is that I still have a lot of fat, but I guess losing those 95 pounds made a big difference. I might have to start wearing a suit of bubble wrap.18
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By the way, I stay positive despite not getting compliments on my weight because I remember that people didn't comment when I was gaining weight, so I should respect that they wouldn't comment if I'm losing weight. I'd rather people comment on my activities than my body at this point.41
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Indeed, and we certainly also tell/fool ourselves into believing other people won't notice our weight gain while we're on the way up because we've worn slimming colours, stripes, etc. Is it so unlikely that we create enough ambiguity in people's minds about how we look that they might not notice until the quantity of loss is beyond a certain threshold?18
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kingleahnidas wrote: »The bone thing has been mentioned before but I notice it all the time now! My ribs, hips, elbows, tailbone, wrists, and shoulder blades hurt. Even if I use a mattress topper, am sitting on a super squishy couch, or use two yoga mats instead of one. The weird thing is that I still have a lot of fat, but I guess losing those 95 pounds made a big difference. I might have to start wearing a suit of bubble wrap.
I noticed this a while ago. Its only gotten more noticeable as I've lost more. I've sort of learned how to sit and lay more comfortably though. It really reminds me that we were never met to be so inactive.12 -
I can't eat as much as I used to (totally not even complaining there) I used to eat pasta like it was going out of style.. now I can barely finish a portion, I also make it way less often than I used to and turn to lean meats/ veggies for meal prep.14
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There are places that I wish I could inject fat into and I can only hope and pray I don't lose any more weight from.21
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Probably duplicates of someone (since there are 205 pages of responses), but nobody ever told me:
-That once I'd dropped 35 pounds I would start to agree with my coworkers who insisted it was cold in our office
-That, contrary to popular belief, my bust would not shrink when I lost weight (but it increased a cup size for every 10 pounds I gained back - but that's a different story)
-How competitive I'd get with myself to reach that next goal
-How good it felt to shop for US size 10 shorts, considering I graduated high school in clothes from Lane Bryant (approx. US size 16)
-That I would get less male attention after dropping the weight than I did when I was heavier (depending on your perspective and/or where that attention was coming from, this could actually be a positive thing)8
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