If my fiance brings home one more package of Oreo's, I might go full-rage.
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OP, count your blessings. When I consider the outrages visited upon me by my family of dependents and moochers, I laugh at your petty annoyances.8
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nrodriguez32730 wrote: »I love my darling partner, but he doesn't get it. He's fit, trim, can eat whatever he wants, and has a sweet tooth that would make Willy Wonka cringe. I'll say this up front, because this could absolutely be an unfair request that I've made of him: I've asked him to stop bringing home sweets (i.e cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc.) in order to help support my need to change my eating habits. He graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful. That being said, I keep finding family-size packages of Double Stuffed Oreos in our pantry. I jokingly told him to find a better hiding spot, thinking that it's probably not too fair to make him suffer the loss of junk food with me, but I'm telling you - the jealousy I have around his ability to eat whatever he wants and not gain weight is making me silently rage! I'm currently doing Whole30, and in the beginning stages of detox/sugar withdrawal, and I swear it's making me go into "Beast Mode." Endy ranty rant here to confront cookie package with kitchen knife, a la Inigo Montoya - "...prepare to die."
You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...16 -
My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!9 -
haha! I understand!1
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SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
Haha, I bow at greatness of your wife's superpower!3 -
nrodriguez32730 wrote: »I love my darling partner, but he doesn't get it. He's fit, trim, can eat whatever he wants, and has a sweet tooth that would make Willy Wonka cringe. I'll say this up front, because this could absolutely be an unfair request that I've made of him: I've asked him to stop bringing home sweets (i.e cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc.) in order to help support my need to change my eating habits. He graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful. That being said, I keep finding family-size packages of Double Stuffed Oreos in our pantry. I jokingly told him to find a better hiding spot, thinking that it's probably not too fair to make him suffer the loss of junk food with me, but I'm telling you - the jealousy I have around his ability to eat whatever he wants and not gain weight is making me silently rage! I'm currently doing Whole30, and in the beginning stages of detox/sugar withdrawal, and I swear it's making me go into "Beast Mode." Endy ranty rant here to confront cookie package with kitchen knife, a la Inigo Montoya - "...prepare to die."
You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...
I second this. It comes down to decision: you decided to lose weight. There's a whole world of temptation out there, but you decided, and good for you. Your partner's food choices, as long as he isn't taunting you with the sweet stuff, have nothing to do with yours.
That being said, please find some safe alternatives as soon as you can, because a long-term denial of desires (e.g., chocolate) can be a real mind screw. I'm not familiar with Whole30, but can you eat fruit? One piece of dark chocolate, maybe?5 -
nrodriguez32730 wrote: »SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
Haha, I bow at greatness of your wife's superpower!
I wouldn't call it a superpower - its all about goals and desire and motivation. I've been working my way slowly through a bag of mini-ghiradelli chocolates for about a month now - I have 1-2 pieces depending on what I can fit into my macros for the day; I do the same with gummy bears or other candy7 -
Not to generalize but I have just about always dated men that can eat whatever they want and all my female friends and I have to eat a certain way to not gain weight. Some things have helped in the past. I have an extra drawer that I tell myself to never open... perfect for treats. I like to have a candy dish for guests and stock it with my least favorite candies. I make healthier versions of treats for myself (and whoever wants them) to avoid a sweet tooth meltdown.
I dont know what all you can have with a whole 30 diet but there has to be something sweet you can have.2 -
nrodriguez32730 wrote: »I love my darling partner, but he doesn't get it. He's fit, trim, can eat whatever he wants, and has a sweet tooth that would make Willy Wonka cringe. I'll say this up front, because this could absolutely be an unfair request that I've made of him: I've asked him to stop bringing home sweets (i.e cookies, cakes, pies, candy, etc.) in order to help support my need to change my eating habits. He graciously goes to the farmers market with me, spends time exercising with me, and overall is very wonderful. That being said, I keep finding family-size packages of Double Stuffed Oreos in our pantry. I jokingly told him to find a better hiding spot, thinking that it's probably not too fair to make him suffer the loss of junk food with me, but I'm telling you - the jealousy I have around his ability to eat whatever he wants and not gain weight is making me silently rage! I'm currently doing Whole30, and in the beginning stages of detox/sugar withdrawal, and I swear it's making me go into "Beast Mode." Endy ranty rant here to confront cookie package with kitchen knife, a la Inigo Montoya - "...prepare to die."
You are correct it is unfair...
If you want to not eat oreos oh I don't know be an adult and say no I won't eat that????
and btw you can eat whatever you want in moderate quantities just like your husband and not gain weight...
I don't get why our partners need to change for us...esp if you won't change for him, because apparently you aren't willing to not eat his oreos...after all they are his...
It's not about 'being an adult', it's about knowing your vices and doing your best to avoid them. Some people are better at resisting than others. It's a fact that people can stick to their meal plans better when they rid their shelves of the junk.
She never said she's expecting him to change; she just said she wishes he'd hide treats better so she won't find them and be tempted.8 -
I try to talk myself down. I look up the calories. I try to contract with myself not to eat it and find a healthy or healthier alternative. For me, icecream is really tough to refuse but I try to make a frozen fruit and milk smoothie. Frozen smoothies are very enjoyable for me and not nearly the calories as icecream. I notice sometimes I am just hungry and really just need an extra meal. Other times, I feel like a sugar addict and remove myself from the situation entirely. It has gotten bettersteelaxitute2127 wrote: »Ugh, see, I'm the one with the huge sweet tooth. And also the one who's trying to lose more weight. My partner can care less about sweets and is more into savory food. I love savory food too, but put a delicious donut or cookie in front of me and I'm screwed! lol The beast comes out in me too when I don't have sugar in a certain amount of time. How do you guys abstain?
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That being said, please find some safe alternatives as soon as you can, because a long-term denial of desires (e.g., chocolate) can be a real mind screw. I'm not familiar with Whole30, but can you eat fruit? One piece of dark chocolate, maybe?
Absolutely - I love fruit and veggies, and there is some dark chocolate that I can (and do have) on occasion. I've actually been somewhat successful in not eating his treats, and there have been wonderful suggestions in the comments that will make some of these unwanted cravings even easier to manage. I just noticed myself having emotions to my dietary structure versus his. He's read my original post, which we've both had a laugh at, because it really is such a visceral reaction to such a silly thing, like a cookie. :-)1 -
VintageFeline wrote: »steelaxitute2127 wrote: »Ugh, see, I'm the one with the huge sweet tooth. And also the one who's trying to lose more weight. My partner can care less about sweets and is more into savory food. I love savory food too, but put a delicious donut or cookie in front of me and I'm screwed! lol The beast comes out in me too when I don't have sugar in a certain amount of time. How do you guys abstain?
Short answer, I don't. I mean, I don't eat as much as I used to because calories but I just had two Squiggles (cookies). Because delicious.
If moderation is the problem then all of the advice about separate cupboards etc is solid.
You couldn't pay me to do Whole 30 unless I was trying to figure out what might be giving me digestive issues (I don't have any so don't need to do an elimination diet) because I would 100% inhale my fridge at some point along the line.
agree with this - Whole30 was never supposed to be a diet in the way people treat it - but rather a method to eliminate foods that might be causing health issues. I had a friend who just completed 30 days of it - found out a couple of issues (daily and grains) - but at the same time, her blood work also had some negative changes3 -
MichelleLaree13 wrote: »steelaxitute2127 wrote: »I try to talk myself down. I look up the calories. I try to contract with myself not to eat it and find a healthy or healthier alternative. For me, icecream is really tough to refuse but I try to make a frozen fruit and milk smoothie. Frozen smoothies are very enjoyable for me and not nearly the calories as icecream. I notice sometimes I am just hungry and really just need an extra meal. Other times, I feel like a sugar addict and remove myself from the situation entirely. It has gotten better
I saw this recipe the other day for "Nicecream" which looked delicious!
http://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2016/08/22/banana-ice-cream-healthy/0 -
Things that work in our house:
Hubs has an office in the basement I rarely go into. He will buy junk and keep it there. Or, he can reach the top of our kitchen cabinets, and I can't. In the last house where the cabinets went all the way up the ceiling he had a top shelf in one of them, or in this house he will just put stuff on top of the cabinet. Sometimes he picks stuff out while we are grocery shopping and I just make him put it away somewhere right when we get home. Other times he just buys stuff while he is out and I truthfully have no idea what he has up there. Out of sight is out of mind for me, so it works well for us. He is also pretty darn good at being sneaky and grabbing his treats while I am distracted and takes them to his office to eat. Just ask him to help you out, he probably will. My husband found it fairly entertaining at first to try to figure out how to eat his treats on the sly without my catching him.5 -
Dump him. Find a semi fat dude that watches what he eats. They are the best, I've heard10
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Had a similar discussion/issue with my wife. Most having to do with chips and almonds. I tried a couple of things:
1. I bought single serving bags of both chips and almonds and requested she not buy others.
2. Asked that she just not leave them out on the counter if she isn't eating them
3. When asked what I wanted from the store, requested "no chips" every week for several in a row.
4. Threatened to just toss them if they are open and laying on the counter.
It took awhile, but for the most part they show up less frequently and are generally put away. Also, she is trying a little harder on her weight as well, so that helps.
The single serving thing seemed to work pretty well - you need to go to Sams or Costco and get a huge box of them. You will need to keep buying them as well. It gets old.2 -
SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.0 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »Dump him. Find a semi fat dude that watches what he eats. They are the best, I've heard
Hahahaha. Awesome. Now that you mention it, I think he has a work buddy like that. I should ask him to hook it up. :-)1 -
Honestly, cakes/cookies/pies/donuts don't even phase me any more because I know I can enjoy something else that will actually fill me up. I don't care what's in the house, I'm probably not gonna eat it.
Because of my new found need to eat healthier/lighter/less and I cook dinner (and meals on weekends), I've impacted my BF's diet big time. He could afford to lose 10-15lbs himself, but refuses to "Count Calories".
I actually welcome him getting "treats" for himself because I know that if it was up to him, we'd eat pizza, spaghetti/meat sauce or tacos EVERY NIGHT. And sometimes I feel guilty that I don't make those things as much as I once had. Now we are eating much more salad, veggies and much less pasta/bread. Not because it's "bad" but because I have a hard time not eating a ton of it. I feel fuller and more satisfied on lean meats, veggies and grains/potatoes, so that's what I make.
Secretly, I'm hoping that the way I cook at home may have an impact on his weight as well, but I do know he doesn't have much willpower at work. Donuts/pie/cake/cookies everywhere and he doesn't say no very often.
Now, we were at Smashburger (who know has their calorie counts on their menus) the other day for lunch and he ordered Grilled Chicken over Crispy Chicken because it has less calories. And he commented on the fact that the calorie counts at Buffalo Wild Wings are WAY more than he ever thought they'd be. I think my calorie counting MAY be rubbing off in small ways.5 -
Tacklewasher wrote: »SweatsOnSunday wrote: »My wife has the unnatural ability to just eat 2 Oreos, or 3 squares of a Hershey's bar, or 1 part of a Twix, and then slowly make her way through the remainder over the course of days. On Sunday morning, I found a single Pop-Tart in cling wrap in a cabinet that I really didn't think we ever used.
I feel your pain!
My wife is the same. Annoys the hell out of me.
It's funny because I go through phases where I find this inner amazing woman who can do this, and it's fantastic when I have her on my side. Then I turn back into a tazmanian devil who must put everything appealing in her mouth for a while. I don't really get it. Being a woman is difficult 6
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